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I have spent the whole day cooking an amazing spread of vegan food!! Dottie!! It makes me feel GOOD... so, I promise you will all love it! and there is ice cream for dessert...

R4L, good to have you here-- I have always loved reading your posts , seeing this funny great dane (?) avatar. Nice that you've joined this group of crazy ladies!!

NS, thank you so much for the beautiful banner-- so much I want to accomplish and live up to. Did you pull it all together or is that what appeared when you googled Lifechange. perfect.. Yes, and How are YOU??

j-vo, I am as happy as can be to read your page long posts, questioning, finding answers.. I was worried for 2 seconds that you might disappear-- but then I reminded myself of your inner strength. You bring so much to all of us here. It's so nice to accompany on your new journey..

Nar, I didn't see the video you posted.. i don't know what everyone is talking about.. will look further back. You sound good. You are at least one step ahead of that nagging voice--thank you for being a pillar of strength!!:h

Jane, what can I say?? you and I have sooo much in common, whether you want to believe it or not!! My BF is an intelligent man, but, damn, is he easy to fool!!
Like you and Pav said ( not in any way TMI, Pav!!) it takes a lot of work to learn to live with our significant others without al. I know my BF misses our days of wine on the balcony, and that makes me insecure, cause I think, yeah, maybe he'll find another- a really nice girl to share a bottle of wine in summer.. AND I don't take care of my roots, as many of you might know if you read the army thread! I mean, what does he have??
:H

SL, so farking nice to hear of the possibility of new love. and of you loving yourself again.
Makes my heart sing to hear such things..

LB. I send you so much love-- to home pedicures, gardens full full of fat, ripe veggies, and laughter..

I have a day planned with my eldest tomorrow-- going to an exhibition, having lunch.
I am realising how unprepared I am to have a daughter approaching 13. PLEASE, if anyone has any really good reading material-- let me know.
I am really afraid of this time.. like I've written to poor NS in detail, because of my time as a young woman, I am scared to death of what she is about to encounter. I guess this should be a wonderful time and I want to be able to pull back and support her.

xxoxo to all of you.

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AVA!!you are in my mind so much of the time, that we are as one! so know that even if I don't write to you personally, you are in my mind and in my soul!! Do I remind you of a Rod Stewart song?? :H

[scottish lass]

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Yeah LC - so happy for you!!!
I have a 15yo and a 13yo and can feel how you are feeling - the world is a scary place, and they have so much to face. I do think I tend to over-think things and see zebras where there are just horses - I have to remind myself to slow and enjoy this special time as it won't be too long until they are really spreading their wings...
Really not thinking of new love, but at least starting to open my heart to the notion - I just love how the possibilty is making me feel better about myself - OMG, there are a lot of strange folks out there - I won't last long on Match.com - but it is an interesting month to check things out:H
Pav - my eldest is still giving me heartache with her grades - not getting any improvement. Spring break week after next, The oldest is off to Washington with her middle school teacher and a group of middle schoolers - she will be only high schooler, but they didn't do the trip last two years, I will have some one on one time with the youngest. I am taking Mon and Fri off (work T, W and Th) so should be fun. Youngest goes to Washington in June - no wonder I have no money! Are you on break?
Hi and TFIF LB, Jane, J-vo, RFL, NS, Nar, DB (everyone is so good about mentioning everyone - and I love seeing a comment to me - I am so bad at this)

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SL, just saw in the roll call that you broke your old record with 43 days!! Good on you girl-- so happy to celebrate with you!!:l:l

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Jane, I wish I had more to offer you than a cyber hug but for now I guess that will have to do :l.

That is a hard story about what seems to have been mostly a hard relationship. I hope you find a way to make peace with everything that happened and let it go. You'll always remember but you don't have to live with the anger and regret that you feel now. I wish you would put that guilt down. It isn't yours. You've clearly carried enough burdens for your sister and there is no reason to carry that one, too.

I hope just writing that out for us to read helped reduce some of the pressure you feel. You are a brave woman to share your story.

Love, NS

[Starfish1]

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Hi ladies, I'm back in the game. Day 1....last Day 1 EVER, damnit!
Jane :l

[scottish lass]

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Star - hi, welcome back.....
Jane - oh my, have you had help with your feelings? I am no expert, but it seems you are owning a lot of what your sister should own...forgive me if I am wrong...you need to heal yourself my friend...just because you are of blood, it does not mean anything more than that - you are not responsible for what she is or has done.
I work with organ donors, so am well versed in the world of transplant. It still did not stop me drinking or killing my liver....

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I just sent you a PM, Star. We want you back here Loaming along with us :l. NS

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SL, You've made it to new territory - Congratulations! How are you feeling about that? People have different reactions to reaching a goal such as

I'm done.
or
I'm worried about what to do next.
or
I'm confident about the next step.
or
???

I know you aren't Done but I'm not sure how you're feeling about the upcoming days and weeks.
Please speak up if you're at all worried because people here can (and want!) to help you :hug:.

xx NS

[Dottie Belle]

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Jane thanks for sharing your story...I have nothing to add but a hug too...((jane))
Star good work on day 1 and keep the AF days going..you can do this!!!!
Got my hair done today, a little shorter and back to my favorite color of red..I was a redhead as a kid but as I got older it turned ugly and gray so now I have it done every 6 weeks or so..and I stopped on the way home and treated myself to a pedicure...it was great with the massage and lotion....just wonderful and a day to indulge myself..about time!!

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Jane, your posts don't bring me down - they make me marvel at your strength and resilience (and make me feel like a bit of a stress-weenie :H). You are a testament to what humans can endure and still prevail. I'm glad we are friends.

Here is an interesting segment on NBC re: moms and alcohol: http://www.nbcnews.com/id/36090945?l...onfig=26185044

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Running4life;1644770 wrote: Now I need to keep taking it. That is the other challenge.
AL keeps convincing me that I should let it wear off. I don't really need it and can moderate.
Holy Cow, the games our minds can play on us when we are addicted.

Hey, R4L, I had an idea. If you take the AB in the morning (when Rational R4L is in charge), maybe you could develop a routine of PMing a friend or posting on here that the pill is down the hatch -- kind of an extra layer of commitment. It might help keep Wily and Addicted R4L from sneaking in and seizing control of any decision making. And if your friend doesn't hear from you or there is no post here, maybe getting a response encouraging you to TTDP (take the damn pill!) will be just what you need.

Have a great, AF weekend! NS

[scottish lass]

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NS - I feel strange - I feel really good, and strong - better than ever! I am waiting for the to fall, as this almost feels too good, but I will keep this feeling.
I feel as if I can do this now....something has clicked, something is working - trying not to overthink it.....

Master cleanse Jane - more info please? I am still over on the sugar...

[j-vo]

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Quickie for me...post that is!

Jane, we are here for you. It is extremely therapeutic to write things out and let it go. Maybe print out what you wrote, then burn it. It's a way to let it go, because like SL and NS said, it's not yours, it's your sister's.:l Let it out and let it go.

SL, keep living in the present moment. Don't freak yourself out by overthinking anything right now. You're doing so well, and I'm following you!

Dot, what an awesome day you had! Jealous!

Hi LB!

Got a mammo today. Squash, smash, ouch!!!!:upset: Going to Best Buy and few other stores now.

Missing you Ava!

Nar, my star, I need to hear from you!

[j-vo]

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:lHI Star! Welcome back. I'm right with you. Day 5 here, but this is it. This is the beginning of the rest of our healthy lives. Are you with us on this ride?