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[Starfish1]

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Good Morning, dear ladies, and thanks for the warm welcome back. I just posted in the nest that my dtr has forgiven me for the state she apparently found me in day before yesterday and I am so relieved. Now it's time to move forward. I hate al and this terrible disease, with a passion!
Today is a busy one for me with lots of normal weekend chores, income tax returns and wedding plans on top of it all. I will take it minute by minute and check in as often as i can. Thanks again for all your love and support. Have a great day, everyone :l

[j-vo]

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Morning!

Slept like a baby for most of the night. So nice to wake up with a clear head. And DH and I already started our weekend tasks last night, which is a first on a Friday night. I feel ahead of the game for once.

SL, I can dish out advice, now if I take it myself on the overthinking, that would be a miracle.

Jane, how are you this morning? We're in the same time zone. I hope you're feeling better after releasing that and getting it off your chest. You are brave and to be where you are now, you are a success story in my eyes. A hero for saving your sister, even though you can't control what she did following the operation, you did what you had to do to save her. You have nothing on your conscience so remember to be good to yourself.:l

Myluck, what a wonderful night you and DH had! Thank you for sharing that. Isn't it a confidence booster when you know you're sober and not looking like the people that are slowly losing control. You were in control the whole evening, and I'm sure you looked beautiful.

Pav, "How you approach life and the cards you're dealt is what makes you the person you are." So true. How I've approached life in the past is not the way I want to continue. I think I've always tried to give love to others, care for others, accomplish things professionally, but now it's time to take some for me. I couldn't do that while drinking. We are all unique, but more same than different. When I think back to my special education days, that's one thing they always stressed..."Special needs children are more like us than not." People need to see past their physical differences and look to see what's inside.

Ava, so glad you're having a well-deserved vacation. And the story of your brother is heart-breaking, but so glad you've healed from that. :h

Star, so glad your daughter has forgiven you. I know that was one of my biggest regrets when DS would see me in the state he did. Wow, nothing tops that guilt. Good luck with wedding preparations.

R4L, great plan. Do you bike on trails, in parks, residential areas? That's on my list..to buy a bike. My sister, DH, and gf all have one and I think this is the year I get more adventurous with my exercise.

LC, you're sounding great today! I was hoping for some leftovers from your party for my 7 day party, as i don't cook!

NS, I didn't see the clip you put on from the Today Show. Gonna look back and see where i missed that.

To all you beautiful ladies, have a great day!

[j-vo]

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NS, just watched the segment on Today Show. When they showed the women that were having one glass of wine on the play date, then walking home, I thought, "how many had one before the play date, and how many will go home and have another. It's true. With society and the demands on women or the demands we put on ourselves is too much to handle. I don't want it all if it means loss of control. What do we let go in our lives so that we don't get to this point? Where do we draw the line so that we don't lose control? How do we say, "No" to others when they ask us to do 'one more thing.' Why do we have to go out and prove we can be the one who has it all and does it all?

[NoSugar]

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The part in the segment where the woman featured says she is no longer invited to the play dates at which the moms drink was really sad. When I was at that stage of my life, drinking was not an issue for me or my friends. I feel very fearful for the young women who are heading into this trap of socially accepted and encouraged daytime drinking while children are in their care. For many of them it just is the beginning of a lot of heartaches and regret. I hope the publicity on a popular show like The Today Show helps some of them really see themselves and seek help.

I worked out early today -- used to be I would do that but spend the whole class thinking "Ok, NoSugar, today is really the day that you aren't going to drink ever again. There is no wine in the house and it is ridiculous for you to eat so well and exercise regularly and then ruin everything every evening by drinking. You are clearly a very disciplined person so you just need to put that into action here. It wouldn't be that big of a deal. It is not that you drink that much but you drink every night. And sometimes too much. There is no reason for that. You aren't addicted, you are stupidly choosing to do this every day but today is the last day for sure so next Saturday you are going to feel good working out and not averting your eyes from everyone and feeling nauseous and unmotivated. Ok so no buying any wine today... Quit being stupid. Just quit."

There is no way to get much out of a class when you feel like crap and all you're thinking about is what an undisciplined mess you are. I was just going through the motions of exercise -- really, of life -- and wasn't really engaged. When your life seems to be focused on one thing that you hate, it's hard not to hate yourself.

I was really into the class today and very motivated but did reflect some on how it used to be. I think I did that sort of in preparation b/c tonight I'll be at a BoozeFest and will not be able to arrive late or leave early. I'm not worried about the drinking per se but about the boredom. Like you said MyLuck, it isn't all that fun to watch or try to converse with people you don't know very well who have been drinking for awhile. I want to go to the event with the positive changes in my life fresh in my mind. There is no way I'm going back.

xx, NS

[ToMyHealth]

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NS - boy, do I identify with what you wrote here! Both the working out not feeling the greatest and the promise early in the day to turn that around, and the going places if you're not drinking. I have been amazed sometimes how much fun I do have at events not drinking. It's kind of like, huh? Really? Why should that be surprising.

I had events both Wed and Thurs night. Wed night I had 2 drinks, felt fine on Thurs. Thurs night was a stand up reception with Open Bar where you didn't even have to physically go to the bar; a waiter just kept watching your glass. Had 1 glass chardonnay, told waiter 2X I was fine while holding it empty, finally he snatched it out of my hand and said it was really bothering him I had an empty glass and came back with it full to the rim. More was poured at dinner. Now here was my thinking process yesterday. Feel free to pick it apart. Another wasted day. I am not going to have these wasted days anymore where I don't get anything done but watch tv. Should I make it my Day 1? No. Why? Because you do want to restart your running program tomorrow and if you don't drink you will not sleep all night. So I had 2 drinks, stayed away from any wine, slept fine, and just finished a weights workout and 2 mile run/walk. Just 50 min but I'll be playing golf this afternoon also.

Tried seeing the video you posted but it's already down. Or at least my PC wouldn't let me in. Your 2nd paragraph really, really resonates with me. Note my tagline.

TMH

[NoSugar]

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Hi, TMH

I can't really get a read on whether you want to be AF or not so I don't want to come on too strong to you if you don't.

However, if you do, I think you'll need to buckle down and get through the nights of not sleeping. I doubt that the worst of it will last a couple weeks. It sounds like you operate most of the time at about 75% with some days better and some days worse. If you could put up with a 50% operating capacity for awhile due to the lack of sleep, your reward could be the beginning of an AF life where most days are in the 90s with some moments of 100% living .

I truly believe your tagline and actually, once things are in place, I find a disciplined life very comfortable. I've made my choices now with no regrets and don't feel like I'm missing out on anything.

I hope you give it a try but in case I'm still reading your wrong, I'll be quiet now .

[j-vo]

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NS, this 'boredom' issue doesn't come along too often. I know you don't like these kinds of gatherings, and for a good reason. But if you remember that it's not too often that you need to be there, then maybe it'll be more bearable. I can't imagine you would ever find it difficult to express your thoughts in conversation to anyone, and not saying you do, but I for one, would love to hang out and talk with you at any party!

TMH,
I can see that living a healthy lifestyle is so important to you. If you are trying to moderate, can you choose which nights will be your drinking nights and all other nights are off limits?

[NoSugar]

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j-vo;1645291 wrote: I can't imagine you would ever find it difficult to express your thoughts in conversation to anyone, and not saying you do, but I for one, would love to hang out and talk with you at any party!

Thanks, J, and not to sound like a total jerk, but I'm not the one I find boring :H:H:H!
I would love it if this evening were going to be spent with all of you in person, or even online :hug:.

Hey, do you see my Pencil by my name? I just became a subscriber. I'm going now to start a thread. This place is like Public Radio. People who use it need to support it so that others can be introduced for free and not have to pay until they see how much it enriches their lives. Hope some of you can join me. xx, NS

[j-vo]

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Jane,
You're on the right path. And thank you for that movie synopsis. You certainly did well in telling the plot as I visualized easily. And what a great message. Thank you!

[j-vo]

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lol, NS!

And will look into that!

[lifechange]

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Hi ladies!
It's way past my bed time!:H Had a wonderful nap this afternoon so I expect I'll be able to stay up till at least 10:30!

NS, good on you for getting to the morning exercise class-- I always find that my day goes so much better if I get in there and just do it. Otherwise I spend half the day trying to decide whether or not I really want to. Got a good tip once and it helps me-- as soon as I'm out of bed, while making my coffee, I get into my workout clothes. Get's me in the mooood! Looking forward to hearing how the gathering tonight goes. I also wish it could be the group of us meeting up. Where would a good meeting place for us be?

j-vo! your spirits sound high! I will cook for your party tomorrow-- just healthy finger foods. Jane, what can you have on your master cleanse besides salt water? gag! And we'll have some nice fruity smoothie/mocktails to have Ava there in spirit. Or maybe she'll just show up-- never know with her, do we?

hi TMH! good to see you here--

Myluck, meant to congratulate you and your husband on your accomplishment yesterday. You said you stopped drinking on the same day? Really good for the two of you!

So, not much to report here. My eldest got into a great series of books and can't stop reading--My little one (9) went on a 3 day trip to the seaside with a friend of hers + Grandparents, about 3.5 hours away from here. She called me yesterday, early evening, sobbing so hard she couldn't talk. She wanted to come home or for me to fetch her. I'd known she was insecure about going, but really wanted to try. We talked for a long time and I told her she should call me in the morning and I could come up today if necessary (they are returning tom. a.m.). Today she was better, but still shaky-- but didn't think I needed to come. They had a lot of activities planned today and she didn't call tonight so everything must have been fine. It broke my heart to hear her so distressed last night and to not be able to help her.
Tomorrow will all be back to normal-- a snuggly day planned.

Hope you are all well and having a happy sober Saturday..

[scottish lass]

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Afternoon all - not on call this weekend, YEAH! Sun is out, still a little chilly. Did my Saturday walk when girls were at the ranch - feels good, now trying to work out what has to get done this weekend.
Pav - like you I was worried about being discovered, then I got so much relief from sharing some things that little by little things are being shared here - if someone knows me, they could work out who I am from what I have written, and I have also worried about that, but have chosen to share because I feel so good when I have done so, and it is helping me to heal, so just a risk I have to take.
LC - sorry about your daughter, that hurts but in the long run it will be great.
NS - I had wondered in the past what the pencil means - I wonder if it is ok to sign up now, or if the promised changes come, we will need to re-register? (see RJ's April post)
Star, so happy about your daughter:l
OK - off to get things done, still not sure what but know that I have to!

[scottish lass]

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a friend sent this - bit long....but using Ava's allotment

seemed pertinent after recent discussions...

A young lady confidently walked around the room while leading and explaining stress management to an audience with a raised glass of water. Everyone knew she was going to ask the ultimate question, 'half empty or half full?'... She fooled them all .... "How heavy is this glass of water?" she inquired with a smile. Answers called out ranged from 8 oz. to 20 oz.

She replied, "The absolute weight doesn't matter. It depends on how long I hold it. If I hold it for a minute, that's not a problem. If I hold it for an hour, I'll have an ache in my right arm.

If I hold it for a day, you'll have to call an ambulance. In each case it's the same weight, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes." She continued, "and that's the way it is with stress. If we carry our burdens all the time, sooner or later, as the burden becomes increasingly heavy, we won't be able to carry on."

"As with the glass of water, you have to put it down for a while and rest before holding it again. When we're refreshed, we can carry on with the burden - holding stress longer and better each time practiced. So, as early in the evening as you can, put all your burdens down. Don't carry them through the evening and into the night... Pick them up tomorrow.

1 * Accept the fact that some days you're the pigeon, and some days you're the statue!

2 * Always keep your words soft and sweet, just in case you have to eat them.

3 * Always read stuff that will make you look good if you die in the middle of it.

4 * Drive carefully... It's not only cars that can be recalled by their Maker.

5 * If you can't be kind, at least have the decency to be vague.

6 * If you lend someone $20 and never see that person again, it was probably worth it.

7 * It may be that your sole purpose in life is simply to serve as a warning to others.

8 * Never buy a car you can't push.

9 * Never put both feet in your mouth at the same time, because then you won't have a leg to stand on.

10 * Nobody cares if you can't dance well. Just get up and dance.

11 * Since it's the early worm that gets eaten by the bird, sleep late.

12 * The second mouse gets the cheese.

13 * When everything's coming your way, you're in the wrong lane.

14 * Birthdays are good for you. The more you have, the longer you live.

16 * Some mistakes are too much fun to make only once.

17 * We could learn a lot from crayons. Some are sharp, some are pretty and some are dull. Some have weird names and all are different colors, but they all have to live in the same box.

18 * A truly happy person is one who can enjoy the scenery on a detour.

19 * Have an awesome day and know that someone has thought about you today.

AND MOST IMPORTANTLY

20 *Save the earth..... It's the only planet with chocolate!

[Dottie Belle]

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NS what do u get for subscribing?

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morning loamers, sitting outside on our little verandah (well its on the ground floor so not sure what to call it), mum still asleep, so some me time. im hanging for a cuppa but so not waking her up. just got eaten alive by mossies so had to find the repellent, dont want dengue fever at all or the other one!

oh no shes awake but she has made me a cuppa. i could get used to this and not making breakfast and not making dinner, oh i dont do i!

NS my love you can never shut up and this is why we are here to give our advice and opinions or we would be a mighty boring bunch of loamers.

Jane my brother died at 46, he was in and out of trouble from 14/15, ended up in court, parents always went to court and mum and dad just yelled at each other telling each other how much they hated each other. Great for young kids i must say. he kept on getting into trouble, attention maybe? Left home and worked on and off, never held an apprenticeship or a job that he got or others got for him. Started hanging out at clubs and drinking more and more. He did have a daughter but was not a good father at all, al was more important. had girlfriends that i think thought could save him and didnt/couldnt. started to hit them for i dont know what reason, that made me mad, so very mad and i was forever trying to get these women to leave him. He lived with us but i had a young family, money went missing that i could not afford, did not pay his rent, i would have to find him at the club to get it before he spent it, drank my ex's home made beer before it was even ready. so many things, so many things. he ended up saying horrible things to my niece, his daughter about me and i cut the communication but always kept in contact with his girlfriend. He was drinking 10 cartons of beer a week (24 in a carton) and at least 4 litres of cask wine a day. In the latter stages of his addiction he did give up smoking and then went to rehab. When he came out of rehab he became delirious and slightly demented, they put him in hospital and found his liver was shutting down and his other organs. he went into a coma and never came out. I wanted him to apolgise to me for hurting his only sister but he never came out and who knows if he would have said he was sorry. My mother had not spoken to him for 10 years as he lived with them also and lied, stole, abused her and her husband. He rang up drunk so many times blaming the world but never him. when he died i was sad but not sad as a sister should have been that lost a brother. He tore the family upside down, inside out. I was drinking but not as much as when i gave up and all i wanted to do was make it to 46, stupid reason but i thought if i did i did not have a drinking problem like he did. I made it and kept drinking. I now realise that maybe i could have helped him get into rehab and i did talk about his drinking problem with him but he always said "sis i am okay". I now after all these years feel sad and miss him but we cant change the past. My father who had little contact with him and none with me wanted to donate his liver, my opinion was "why werent you there as a father when he needed you, wanted you". He was like he was because of my parents, wanting their love, never getting it till he gave up, even on me. Sad but true and it does feel good to talk about him. I am sure he is proud of me and i wish he was here to tell me.

LC your poor girl but there will come a time when you wont get a phone call and be wondering what she is doing all weekend. appreciate the tears and hey you would have been totally sober to drive and get her. They turn into dr jekyll and mr hyde when they hit the puberty stage but damn i so love my girls now they are older. wanted to kill them when they knew everything and i knew nothing.

Jvo glad you have plans for the weekend, makes it go so much quicker and you are sounding so positive lady. keep it up. what are you doing with the ab?

I always wondered what the pen was beside the avatar. I will definitely join, love the way someone suggests something and then there are pens everywhere.

Well nap already planned and breaky soon and second cup of coffee down and checked in here and with my kids and i cant say how much i am enjoying relaxing and doing nothiing. Maddison is enjoying her break with mia and is not fretting at all so that is a huge relief, mia keeps sending me pics on how happy she is. Life is so good and i am grateful for being sober and you girls for helping me be here. I just think of all the extra money i have to shop instead of buying al and hiding it so mum does not see and thinks i am only having a couple also.

god i hope this hasnt been a "me" post, sorry if it has.

Glad you are all doing fine and dandy, love you all to bits. xxx