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[Pavati]

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Hi, Everyone:

Sorry if I made you worry with the PAWS article.

J-vo it seems many people's drinking slips are all around 3 - 6 months in, and if you read the article you can see that is when PAWS is supposed to start. For me the knowledge of it is freeing - you can feel like that and work through it with the knowledge of what it is and the understanding that it will go away. I think I said this already, but when I was 18 I started getting panic attacks, and when I went to see a psychiatrist he read me the description of a panic attack out of the DSM. It was so great to hear that what I was feeling was so common that it was described in a book. NS said she started feeling blah around 90 days (or four month?) - could have been PAWS. I'm sorry if I worried you (and you, too, SL) with the post - it was meant to bring comfort. ANYWAY - congratulations on your LAST first week ever. :l

WAY TO GO JANE! 90 is amazing. Doesn't it feel great??

Nar - I'm glad you left the porn industry to do something decent. Good to hear from you and good to hear that you're doing well.

TMH - SL had some great advice. I think most moderation sites say that you should go 30 days without alcohol to get a good perspective on your use, and if that is hard it might be a message you should listen to. Actually, I know most moderation sites say that, because all of my Internet searching until now has been with the sole purpose of becoming a moderate drinker. Oops. Too late. I hope you find peace, whatever you choose.

R4L - Only 50K? Slacker! :H I'm glad you feel so good.

All you other loamers - good night. I am hitting the hay.

xo
Pav

Just x posted, Nar!

[roxane]

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i found the articles useful pav. forewarned is foreknowledge (or summat like that)

[j-vo]

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Pav,
No need to be sorry. You're right about knowledge being freeing. And for me, it is too, except in one area which is anxiety. I can see how that article would be very good for most people, because they will realize that it's not a unique condition they're going through and that it's quite normal. It's almost a relief, like this is a temporary thing and I'm gonna be ok. You were right to post that as it is a good piece of recovery to understand. I'm not going to worry about it though!!! I'm going to live in the present, and when I start acting crazier than I already am, I'm gonna think, "oh, I'm normal! This is a part of recovery, and I'll be fine." I guess thinking, too, that my emotions will be even more all over the place when they already are worries me. But then again, I have so much more peace of mind, and I'm grateful for that. So, Pav, no worries!

LB, you are actively working through everything. You are an inspiration my friend. Your home meetings, practice communicating, it's all so wonderful to hear and the communication is something that needs to be practiced. First couples need to be aware of the lack of good comm. skills. Oh, something DH and I have to work on. Thank you for this reminder!

[j-vo]

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Ican,
So glad you're going to hang out with us!

[NoSugar]

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This doesn't specifically relate to our mission of living AF but it does speak to how I'd like to live in general:


Focus on quality

There is only so much quantity you can add to any aspect of your life. Yet there is no limit to the level of quality you can attain.

Instead of doing something more and more, consider doing it better and better. Instead of increasing the quantity of what you consume or experience, consider raising the level of quality.

Live richly rather than ravenously. Focus not on how much you have but rather on how well you make meaningful use of it.

Let go of the wearisome need to have more and more. Embrace, enjoy and nurture your ability to give deeper meaning to what you already have.

Even the little things can bring great joy. Even the small moments can make a big difference.

Each moment is an opportunity to raise the level of quality in your life. Focus on quality, today and every day, and there is no limit to the richness you can experience.

? Ralph Marston


Read more at The Daily Motivator - Focus on quality

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Thanks for posting that NS. I am going to remember that.
J-vo I alwas act crazy. I am not really sure, but I just think it's part of the package. Seriously, anxiety is almost paralizing. I haf issues with it. After reading Allen Carr's book, I realized that anxiety is a survival mechanism and now days I tell myself that feeling anxious in difficult situations is perfectly normal. Then I just relax into the feeling, let it sweep over me. I tell myself, ok, that's enough and I really start feeling better. It is so much worse when I try and fight it.

[lifechange]

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Hello Lovely Ladies,

I am TIRED today and have terrible PMS so I am in a fairly foul mood.
And not wanting to pass it on, I just want to give a big :l to Roxy and say that I hope you will be a lot more present around here!! and you, too, Ican!:h How did it end up going the other night with dinner at yours??

Ava, I was sad to read about your brother--a heartbreaking story, this alcoholism if it isn't taken under control. Good to hear you are enjoying your time with the mumsy-- keep us posted.

Funny stuff with our porno star! I'm sure you just did artsy erotic work right, Nar?? Where in Europe is your daughter headed to? Is it a class trip or something with friends? How exciting! Sounds like you've raised a strong girl--

Thanks for the post, NS-- The quality of life IS what's important. The little things. I just watched an interesting/inspiring clip about a guy called Slomo who worked his life away for years as a doctor until he discovered his true passion-- roller blading. I'll see if I can figure out how to attach it. I wish I had the guts to do what I want.!

Hugs and love to all of you here today--

[lifechange]

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here is the nytimes slomo video, if anyone has an extra 16 minutes!!

Slomo - Video - NYTimes.com

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Ahhh lovely loamers

Well i really dont want to tell you how much of a lovely time i am having and the massages are just divine and the food is divine and the weather is horrible. i am not into humidity but well when one is in............. the breakfasts are filling and fattening and the pool is great. Not much shopping to be done over in phuket as it is three times the price than bangkok and during the day it is way too hot to walk very far, kind of wears the old girl out, me that is!

Nar well well well, our very own porn star. What was your stage name? lol. When i read that i had to re read and so proud of you for getting it out in the open. Even i have not done that! You gave me a hearty chuckle for the morning Nar.

LB and LC yes it was very sad, at the time i think i was more angry that he did not help himself but now realising years later i do understand how hard and difficult the addiction is and how you dont feel you can ever escape it. He escaped it at the end of the day by dying which is very sad but we cant change the past.

Everyone is sounding happy and made it through the weekend. I had two lovely af cocktails with dinner and mum had an al one. I had oysters and put some chilli on one of them, did not know it was chilli and took a mouthful. The only drink on the table was mums and boy was it a close call as my mouth was on fire but i nearly instinctively took her glass. I am super aware of al on this trip which has its benefits for sure. So another day af and i cant tell you how great it is. i cant imagine how i felt two years ago to wake up hungover with this humidity, no wonder i did not want to do anything.

love and hugs to you all my lovelies.

rox glad to see you back and in full swing. Ican welcome and glad you can join us. RFL god you remind me of the tortoise and the hare and i would so be the tortoise, no wonder you are tired!

Jvo, Pav, NS, Giraffe and Humble (where is Humble), love you guys and i was going to say cant wait to be home but god yes i can. xxxx

[j-vo]

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LB, yes, some anxiety is healthy to have, but too much is detrimental to one's health. I've fallen at the other end of the spectrum with this, but it's not too late to help myself, as I know anything's possible at this point.

NS, thanks for that post. Ralph's a smart guy!

LB, sorry you're feeling PMSsy, but it never lasts, right? Hang in there.

Ava, dear, so glad you're enjoying your af vacation!! I love oysters, clams, mussels, and anything that swims in the ocean...mostly.

[j-vo]

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As soon as you subscribe, it should be next to your name, Jane.

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I want a "like" button Jane lol

yes Jvo i am like you i love all things that swim in the ocean, especially nice, cute men!

[narilly]

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Life, I am going to check that out. I already looked up Slomo to read about it. Ya, my previous career was pretty crazy...ha ha!

Ava, glad you are enjoying your trip. We don't have hardly any humidity here it is SO dry. When I have to deal with humidity I find it difficult just like you babes!
Those massages sound so good. I love that!

LB, PMS sucks, I get that.

J-Vo, keep breathing sista Glad you are feeling good right now.

Well, back to work! I work in the oil industry in case anyone was confused

By the way, I am ALWAYS grateful to be UN hungover on Monday. I have spent so many Mondays hungover. That feeling was so gross, I hated it and hated myself.
Not today or EVER again will I feel like that on Monday morning.

Love y'all!

[NoSugar]

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Jane, You get it right away so I think you might need to go back in and try again. If you also can't get into the subscriber section, it means something didn't work.

I mean, this pencil is really about the most valuable thing a person can have :H !

I don't think there are a whole slew of benefits to being a subscriber but it just makes me feel better to support things I believe in. For awhile I could barely listen to NPR because I had let my public radio membership lapse .

I know I'm a goody-goody about all of this but it is like when your town loses local shops to big box stores -- you just don't know what you've got til its gone!

xx NS

[NoSugar]

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jane27;1645951 wrote: jvo- I subscribed, got an email, and I got no pencil.

Hmmm... then go into the subscriber section and there is a place to contact the moderators (of this website not of alcohol ) directly. Tell them you want the dang pencil!!