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[scottish lass]

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Long day - just had to check in to say so very well done to LB - I have dreams about a year...I just can't imagine it, and there you are.
Sorry you have felt a bit blue today, hope it is a passing thing - I have not read terribly well, just a quick skim thru, so if I missed something .....sorry...I wanted to say how much your note to me last night helped....in a huge way, it was what I needed to hear. I might be pushing too much, it is her life, not mine....
Happy BD eve Nar

[Pavati]

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Hi, Everyone:

I have a quick check in, too, as it is after 9:00 and I am just finishing the dishes - been going strong since 6 this morning.

Lil B - CONGRATULATIONS on one year. You are a true inspiration. I'm so excited, I'm going to post on your party thread, too. You DO have so much on your plate - it must be so hard to see your DH suffer like that, knowing you can't really help him until he helps himself. Stay strong, my friend, and I hope you treat yourself in honor of this great milestone. The beach with the dogs? That hotel that takes pets?

Is it Nar's birthday today? I'm so confused... If so, Happy Birthday! Your posts are so upbeat and optimistic - I love your refreshing perspective. Thanks for hanging around and celebrating with us.

Ava - Hope you feel better. NS - Wet socks? I do remember that conversation, but I thought everyone was kidding. Don't they just get to be COLD wet socks in a matter of seconds? And what about your sheets? I need a diagram.

Terrible allergies - make me feel sick even if I'm not. Actually, makes me feel like I've been drinking a bit as my eyes are itchy and heavy, and I don't sleep as well. Oh well, that's life.

Sleep well everyone.

xo
Pav

[narilly]

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Just to be clear, I am still in my 40's until midnight!

Pav, we almost had a cross post again. Thanks for the early birthday wishes. Jane too.

J-Vo, hope you feel better soon. They say there are ebbs and flows in recovery. I guess you are ebbing.

Lil B, glad you are feeling a bit better.
Ava, thanks for the birthday wishes. It's funny you still haven't unpacked. I unpack as soon as I get home because I hate waking up to a full suitcase. I drive everyone in my family crazy because I am so anal about it.

Well girls, I looking forward to a sober 50th. SL, I remember you saying you wish you had one. I will have one for both of us.
Tomorrow I am walking to work, having sushi for lunch, taking a squash lesson after work, walking to moms to have curry and then home. I plan to go to bed sober by 10pm. How awesome is that? It's supposed to go to +12c tomorrow too.
Nice!

Well, goodnight!

[available]

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Pav, im still iffy about the wet socks too especially since i already feel like crap. dr says its a virus so no antibiotics, Dot can i have some of yours please? I am not getting better and did buy antibiotics in thailand as you dont need a script so will see how i feel tomorrow though i can feel it going to my chest and last year i was sick with bronchial pneumonia and dont want that again. Mind you i was still soldiering on drinking through it, so proud of that NOT. I am feeling like i was when i was hungover daily and its soooooooo not a good feeling. Thanks for your kind words on my thread, you are awesome yourself lady.

SL teenagers are hard especially girls but they all seem to turn out alright in the end. My eldest (27 now nearly) got pregnant at 18 to a guy she had met a few times and i gave her the option but definitely told her that it was her child, her responsibility but i would support her. took her to counselling etc, did the right things and she had an abortion in the end. Held it against me forever, seemed like it, but we now talk about it and it was the right decision at the time as hard as it was. I am not a believer in abortions at all and only she could make that decision with my guidance.

Nar it is your 50th here. People were wishing me happy birthday the day before and im like "im still in my 40's damn you". It feels good to be sober on a birthday enjoy it.

Well nearly up to season 5 of breaking bad and Jvo you are right, i am now addicted. Can you tell me if that doco "anonymous people" was worth the hire? I seen that it grabbed an award yesterday.

Where are you Mr G? Thought you were stalking us lasses!

xx

[Running4life]

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Hi Ladies:
Just doing a quick check in. I am super tired as I hardly slept last night. Was at a meeting until late and then a bit buzzed so I read for a while. Fell asleep but kept waking up.
I attended a work celebration tonight with lots of wine but didn't touch a drop and didn't care.
Enjoyed the evening and I don't have to worry about what I said to whom tomorrow.
Sending Hugs,
R4L

[giraffe1234]

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Narilly happy birthday and welcome to the 50s club!
Hope you have a wonderful day and a year filled with love and many blessings.
xx

[j-vo]

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:bday7::goodtime::yourespecial:Nar, Happy 50th Birthday!!!!! Have a wonderful day with sushi, squash, and going to bed sober!! Next February is my 50th and I know it'll be sober for me, too.

Ava, hope you're feeling better today. I had a feeling it was a virus and no antibiotics would help. Just let it run its course and do the wet feet thing. Drink lots of liquids. I'm sure I don't have to tell you what kinds of liquids!

Moss, what a wonderful thing, talking to your ex and having a healing conversation!!! That warmed my heart, and I'm so happy for you. This is another great example of when we take Al out of the equation, how our relationships are so much better!!!

So, took off today, and glad i did. I used to take off after having too much to drink. Yes, NS, that was almost a monthly true "sick" day. I like this kind of day off much better. And I was thinking about my newfound peace of mind, happiness (not over the top woo! hoo! happy, more like contented). How I'm feeling is all new to me. It's a feeling of really liking myself, maybe loving myself. I've been in so many situations over the past few weeks where I normally would have been a wreck due to my anxiety. Not so. I feel comfortable, relaxed, and a sense of peace, able to enjoy conversation, or sit in a meeting and offer my ideas without feeling like "why did I say that? or that was stupid." I'm grateful for everyday. And the little things, I'm grateful for. I was reading in the NN about gratitude, a conversation and Ava made great points as well as NS:

NS:

I know I suggest being grateful in my posts sometimes and hadn't ever meant to be glib but I can now see how it might sound sometimes. I don't think we can simply decide to be grateful but we can make the effort to become grateful. And once you recognize and are thankful for the changes in your life, it is so much easier not to be tempted to give all that up -- you'll have way too much to lose.

Ava:

I make an effort daily to think of the positives in my life now that i never had when i was drinking. They may be little things like saying hello to my next door neighbour, which i would never have done before hungover to bigger positives like fixing the relationship with my mother. Everyday i think of a positive that i have achieved in that 24 hours being sober.

Good stuff ladies. :h

[j-vo]

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Hope you feel better soon Dottie!

[ToMyHealth]

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May I interject here on the wet socks issue. I'm not sure where the "wet" part of it came in, but have often used the technique of Vicks on soles of feet, then wear dry socks to bed. That seems to help stop coughing anyway. Just my 2 cents.

Skim your thread often. Some good positive vibes. Someday.

TMH

[little beagle]

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I agree that relationships are so much better without the al in them. Al makes me go away and this uncaring, angry person comes into my place. I truly am not me.
Mossrose I am glad to see you. Thank you. I learn something every day.
I have been thinking about moderation. No, not for me! I believe that's what hubby's problem is. He keeps saying if I can just make it 1, 2 3, 6 months. Well that leaves room for negotiations with your addictive voice. If 3 months, why not 2? If 2 months, why not 1.......until why not NOW. Firmly closing that door is really the only option to beating addiction.
And getting support. Someone or preferably several someones you can go to in a crisis.
Just putting these things down because that's where we are at here. Really getting to the heart of it. It's hard work. He is working on it now. Really this time.
I shared my celebration thread last night. He is starting to see why the support is necessary. I KNOW I couldn't do this without help. I see thst he can't do it without help either.
J-vo please have a great mental health day.
Narilly HAPPY BIRTHDAY LADY. Enjoy your special day.
And yes I plan to do somrthing special this weekend. Hoping for a trip to the river.
Ava I am thinking about you and wet socks in bed. I still laugh, but if it works?

[narilly]

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Giraffe, Pav, J-Vo, Lil B, Ava, NS, Jane, Everyone, THANK YOU for the Birthday wishes. I really appreciate it. I love my Girlfriends that I have on MWO. I feel really blessed to know you all and I think we share a special closeness because of this AL demon we all have to deal with.
I think of you daily and its like you are here with me. Even when I go to Costco and squeeze the Austrialian Black Licorice I think of Ava. I listen to BubbleHour and think of NS and the talks remind me of all of you. I told my hubby I was going to buy a nice picture to put beside my bed and that reminded me of SL.
Being grateful not to drink and taking it off the table, thanks Pav.
Jane- the mixed marriage, I think of you often when issues come up and MIL issues come up.
J-Vo, so many times I think of you. The accountability of my drinking and really being honest about it just like you. Being a good teacher and appreciating a good teacher.
Lil B, the struggle and moderation does not work.
Giraffe, Mary, Roxy, Life, TMH, Moss, all of you...so many things remind me of you beautiful ladies and I really thank you for making me accountable for my sobriety and joining me on this journey.

WE are Awesome! Thank You for helping me to spend my 50th Birthday SOBER!!! Yay!

[Pavati]

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Hi, all:

Nar - that post brought a little tear to my eye. SO happy for you to have a sober 50th birthday, and so glad to be on this journey with you.

I am on my way out to meet some good friends for dinner - they are the two who I came clean with first back in Jan (after DH and my friend who told me about MWO). So excited to see them, but I am exhausted. Thank goodness tomorrow is Friday!

There are some returnees in the Newbies Nest, describing the trip back to daily drinking from "I think I can moderate." The end sounds so awful to me - it makes me so uncomfortable to think about drinking again right now. Phew. And, NS, I am enjoying it - seat belt on, but I'm watching the scenery.

I might be able to check in when I get home, but maybe not. If not, I'll check in tomorrow. Hope everyone is having good days/evenings.

xo
Pav

[scottish lass]

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Gosh - first time I have managed to check in today - and I wanted to wish Nar Happy 50th hours ago!! Did not forget you, and you celebrating for me as well:H I am so happy you are doing this, I think it is a big step! Happy Birthday - and enjoy your picture of me by your bed.....oops, re-read, and a picture like mine, not of me - oh well! Should have guessed when it said nice:H
Ava - thank you for sharing about your daughter - you are all making me feel stronger about this, and I will be the best mother (and father) that I can be, and that is all I can do - and at least I am trying to do it sober, that should help don't ya think!

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Nar what a lovely post to us on your 50th. In my thoughts were all about me and my next drink and bugger everyone else, i love that change about myself now. You enjoy your day sober.

Pav god forbid thinking about the moderating route. I still think i could just have one and that is it and not drink till the next time but the next time would come up way too quick for me. I cant get my head around drinking when sick at the moment, god how could i have done that. I feel like crap now, how the hell did i throw drinking in to the equation. But that was my life, it is not my life now.

SL teenage girls hate you, end of story lol. It was just horrible, horrible, horrible. Yelling, screaming, i knew nothing, they knew it all. Once they hit 20 that was it, i had my girls back and they are a total joy in my life. Were before but i wanted to beat them to death!

LB i think we all have that thought of not drinking for a few months and then we will be fine but we are not fine, we are addicted to that drug and when we are totally honest with ourselves that we are addicts then its easier to move forward and accept. I hope he gets there with your help. Me personally, well you would scare me to stop ha ha. Oh i didnt do the wet socks, i hate wet feet. That is so nice you shared your celebration thread with hubs, i am in the process of sharing my story with my children on my thread so they fully understand the battle of my addiction and how it would never have been possible to stay sober without mwo and especially my loamers.

Today is another bed day, i am over being sick. chatted to mum this morning and she is going to go to the ED at the hospital as it is a public holiday here and nothing open. Makes me wish she was closer to me. This wog has hit her hard but she is older. As she said to me "she wants to get to the hospital before all the drunks do" as it is a drinking day in Aus for all of the fallen soldiers. Drinking from dawn till dusk. I had to laugh at what she said. Tye cooked last night and i think used every pot and dish in the house but i just now appreciate the food and not the mess. Back to work Monday, life begins again!

Love you girls and hi to the ladies not posting. Where are you LC?

xx

[little beagle]

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Pav hope you had a great dinner.
Narilly I am so excited you had a wonderful, sober Birthday. What a great memory.
SL honestly all you can do is your best with lots of love. I too was mother and father.
Jane a beautiful poem. We are all standing strong. Helping one another. Thanks.
Ava I think the vics on the feet sounds like trying. I am hoping your mother feels better soon too. That's sad and funny at the same time. Getting to dr before all the drinkers.
Have a good one all.