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[j-vo]

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SL, I'm glad your divorce will be finalized. What great timing for you to gain sobriety along with freedom to really begin that new chapter. How have the girls dealt with the split? I know one thing is for sure; they've got a loving and caring mom. Now take care of yourself so you get better!

Marylou and SL, it is amazing how much we let go and didn't bother to take preventative care. My thoughts were "why the hell should I go to my annual if I don't care what happens to me and" and..."I've probably messed up my body so much already, what's the use?" Yep, my thoughts. So glad I care now. And glad you're taking care of yourselves, too.

Just started watching a new show called Black Box. It's really good. It's about this women who is a neuroscientist and has bi-polar. I'm hooked after two shows.

Have a great night ladies.

[NoSugar]

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Oh, SL, I have had shingles twice and truly can feel your pain! You're a nurse and so know that it is nothing to mess with but don't be overly tough - if it starts migrating, be sure you get help so you don't get any eye involvement! I found that wearing a really tight shirt (I bought a boys' cotton tee shirt) kept anything from brushing against me and triggering the pain. I'm so glad you are going to be able to move ahead with your divorce - limbo is so uncomfortable!

Jane, I hope your husband got a good medical report today and you have a good action plan to get him back to good health.

Hope all Loamers and Lurkers are ready for a great AF weekend!

[scottish lass]

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lost post!!!!
NS - that is a great idea - I have been wearing loose clothes to pull away, did not thing of tight to stop rubbing!! My MD has me on an anti-viral already in hope to stop the spread, she is unhappy that I waited so long, but ....well, that's just me.
ML - it feels funny to be sad about something I want/need so much...thanks for understanding.
The joy about this 'home' is there is usually someone who has been there, done that - and survived!
My girls found it tough - still do, but understand. I left him Halloween (appropriate)2010 so it has been a while. I think they are still struggling, and some of the bad grades are part of that - but they would be struggling more if I had not have left - we would be in cardboard boxes under the closest bridge
J-vo, my joining here was part of my finding myself, and now it seems to all be coming together....both joiurneys have taken too long, but hopefully results will be worth it
On next weeks list to get my eyes checked - I know they have changed, and I need new glasses for sure - more $$$$$
I was just letting Jane know, after getting back from Drs, first people I wanted to "talk" to were you guys, such relationships are being built here - I think it was Pav the other night who wanted to get together for coffee....:thanks::thanks:for being here.....

[available]

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hello loamers

Well i am feeling better, i think but that changes hour by hour.

SL sorry to hear about your shingles, i have heard they are painful buggers so take care of yourself. Congrats on your divorce and now you can move on. I am still married even though separated for 7 years and ex is engaged to my ex best friend. He has already been married twice so doesnt want to go there again. I am not paying for it and dont have plans to marry ever again so suits me just fine and if i die he is not the type to take what i dont really ahve anyways.

NS are you back now? Hope you had a wonderful work/holiday and enjoyed the sun. It is getting cooler here, yesterday was freezing which was a bit of a shock but today is beautiful so washing on line.

Jvo i will have to look at that tv series. I think it was Nar that was watching "Mom" and i started to watch it and thought no i cant do that and now i love it. have downloaded the whole 22 episodes.

How is hubs going Jane?

Its funny how everyone now is going to the drs etc. I am going to make an appt for a mammogram and pap smear when i feel better. The joys of getting older but thats life and we are alive to tell the tale.

Well today i am dragging my sorry arse to my daughters best friends baby shower so i will be spending the day with my girls. I have become depressed being sick for two weeks and have been off work for a month. I mean i love my four walls and i had so much planned when i returned from thailand but ended up in bed or at the drs so i think today will be good for me.

I am also doing some typing for a doctor while his secretary is on holidays so i have four reports to type, blah to that but i need the money.

Glad everyone is doing so well and love to all. xxxxx

[narilly]

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Sweet ladies,
I am having a bunch of girl friends over today and have been super busy preparing for that. its amazing all the energy I have to do this because I am not drinking AL!
I made a bunch of great Mocktails and my neighbor is not drinking (she used to be my drinking buddy).
I did have AL thoughts today and pushed them away. Its amazing how they sneak in. OMG, I thought "oh, it wasn't that bad" I know this is something that is very common with people in recovery.

Anyway, I don't have time to read all the posts today but I just wanted to touch base and say HI!

xo

[little beagle]

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SL sorry for the shingles.
It's good to hear everyone feeling strong today.
Have a great night all.

[Dottie Belle]

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Hi ladies,
Great Friday. Gym, Costco and visited my dad. Going to buy some veggie plants tomorrow. I love growing my own and they taste so much better. I had no idea until I ate my own...I am going to build a tent thingy so I can extend my growing season. I will get dh to help...he has to be good for something...;-))

[Pavati]

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Hi, All:

Another late one for me.

MARYLOU! Congratulations! I was a bit down around 100 days - I tried to track down the posts, but I couldn't find them too quickly. Read about PAWS as it may explain some of it, and also life has ups and downs - even without alcohol. Now we're learning to work through feelings instead of going around them. Difficult at first, but I do think it is getting easier.

NS - Thanks for those links - I like reading other people's takes on life.

Jane, glad DH is taking better care of himself - must be a relief!

Dot - I wish I had the gardening bug as I love fresh veg. I'll have to live with farmers markets (of which there are many in CA) for now.

SL - Shingles?! That is supposed to be very painful. So sorry. Hope you feel better soon.

Nar - sounds like a fun party - what kind of mocktails did you make?

J-Vo - Yep, and more yep. I think a lot of us could have written that...

LB - Hope you're well and happy Friday - I know you were particularly looking forward to this one.

Giraffe! Hi!

Roxy - how are you doing? I like your little pearls of wisdom!

Ava - How are you healing? I hope you're feeling better!

We were supposed to go to a fundraiser tonight, but both DH and I were Friday tired, so we skipped it. I ate too much pizza and we watched The Internship with the kids (oy, a painful movie). A great night, but of course I can't help but feel guilty that we didn't go. Oh, well.

OK, heading to the bathroom to look in the mirror and tell myself how beautiful I am! :cheering:

xo
Pav

[j-vo]

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Pav, I have no idea what you look like, but I know for sure, "You're Beautiful!"

SL, the positive results are already happening. I see them firsthand, or second through your words.

Ava, I'm gonna look up "Mom." That's about the mom who is an alcoholic? Where did you download the episodes from? Glad you're feeling better and enjoy the outing with your daughters.

Nar, your energy is so strong! I hope your evening was great! Good for you for kicking those al thoughts to the curb!

Hi LB! How are you lil lady!

Jane, I really am enjoying the Black Box. She's a great actress. And don't over-analyze too much, although it's the only way we can move forward and make necessary changes.

Dot, your garden sounds great. I'll be hitting the farmer's markets with Pav. Gardening someday...

Have a great day Lovely Loamers!

[narilly]

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Hi Sweet ladies,
Well my get together went well last night, I made Mocktails
1. Elderberry Syrup from Ikea
Soda water
Mint
blackberries- float on top
Just figure out the syrup amount depending on how sweet you like it.
2. Grapefruit cocktail - with fake sugar
club soda
3. plain water with cut up lemons and mint

My friends drank about 4 bottles of wine between 5 of them. I know I would have been right in there and would have drank at least 1 bottle. I am grateful I did not drink.
I had some AL thoughts, which always surprize me. I can be so strong and then all of a sudden these drinking thoughts come into my head.
My rational brain has to kick them out but the AL brain can be pretty strong. Holy crap that scares me!

[narilly]

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I didn't want to make my post too long so I am doing two.

NS, thank you on your post on forgiveness. You have such great ideas and have helped me so much, I am so grateful for your presence.

SL, Shingles? OH that sucks!! You know, I was in nursing once in my early 20's and I know how stressful that job is. Great advice on the tight shirt from NS.
Its good that this divorce has gone through finally, now you can move on but that sucks too!
I thought of you this morning when I woke up because I felt great but there was no picture to look at? I guess I will have to buy one for my side of the bed.

Jane, You do really sound great. I am so glad you are here. Enjoy your hike. I wish I could go for one but it is snowing like crazy outside and we had a huge dump of snow last night- like A FOOT of snow. What is going on with our weather? Actually there is usually one huge dump of snow in May but the weather this year in general has sucked.
I am glad your hubby is doing so well. Oh, and your mom sounds like a piece of work. So sorry you went through that. xo Love you beautiful Jane.

Mary - 100 DAYS!! I think it is 101 today, anyway, that is awesome!

Pav, I posted the Mocktail recipes above, and they are pretty good I must say. You are lucky to have all those farmers markets in Cali. You and Dottie are lucky. I went to one here today and got a bunch of fresh produce, we have to use indoor greenhouses but at least we can have fresh food that way.
Pav, you are beautiful in case you didn't know.

Rox, you sound well honey. Its good to hear you pop in.

J-Vo, I have to check out Black Box. That sounds interesting. Good on you that you are going to the Dr. I find that I don't go to the Dr. enough myself. I don't know why but I just feel like I can't be bothered. I am really healthy but ya, a girl needs to get a pap, etc once in a while. Hate that!
Girl, you sound great by the way.

Ava, I hope you get back to your normal self soon. I am worried about you. This flu that you caught is brutal!

Giraffe- neck hug from me.
Humble- how are you honey? Drop in.
Acadia- I miss you girl.

Anyway, I am home and unhungover. Still going strong on my 21st day. This is just the beginning....

[Dottie Belle]

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Had a wonderful day. Bought some veggie plants for my garden. I want to get them in the ground tomorrow because they are predicting rain. I have tomatoes, basil, oregano, cucumbers, peppers and one other that is not coming to mind. I make pasta sauce from the tomatoes and it is very good. We freeze it so we have it all winter. I may need to get another raised bed as I might have overbought...but that is OK I will give the extras to the local food pantry if we cant eat them.
Life is good.

[j-vo]

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Nar, so glad your girl's night went well! I'm not surprised that you had Al thoughts, as the Al was being drunk right in front of you, and you were preparing for a night that you would normally have drunk the poison. But the fact that you had the thoughts is fine, and what's important is that you didn't succumb to it. Good for you dear girl. We will not be able to avoid these situations where it's around us. But you prepared the mocktails, which btw, sound really yummy. And you enjoyed friends. So I'd say that's a great night. 21 days and moving on. When I had Easter with 22 people, most of the adults drank wine, beer, or vodka. It didn't bother me but I sure was aware of it. Maybe a little tug, but that tug was just that. It didn't drag me down, make me feel deprived. So let's keep that thought in the right place. Just a thought.

Dot, you sound great and your veggies are gonna be sooooo good. Homemade pasta sauce with fresh tomatoes. Oh, sounds great. My DH makes homemade sauce and I love it. But he doesn't use the fresh jarred tomatoes. I bet it's a huge difference. I think my taste buds are getting more sensitive to good foods. Everything tastes better.

Jane, forgot to mention that I'm happy to hear your DH is doing well! I bet that's a huge relief to you.

Ava, I know you're going back to work tomorrow after your month-long and well deserved break. Ease in slowly, dear friend.

[j-vo]

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Nar, FFS!!!! It's spring, not winter! One foot of snow? No bare legs for you today.

[scottish lass]

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Hi all, busy day - girls in horse show (three ribbons to prove it), so they are happy.
I am worn out - now I know that I actually have something wrong, I feel pretty low - and yup very tempted. Found an old AF beer that I am drinking now to pretend. Pain is tiring, and I hate taking meds, MD offered me something strong, but I have said no - really don't wantto go there.
As to divorce - it is not final, just filed - have 6 months to wait and hope judge approves of it - but closer than I have been before - my goal was to have completed by end of 2014 and it now seems a reality - I know I will need you guys end of Oct.
Happy to see all here and doing well, I am going to be the downer for a little while - hopefully not too long....
Nar - love the idea of the elderberry drink - but Ikea for dirnks??? Do you know if you can get it anywhere else? I am not close enough to go to a huge furniture store for a bottle of syrup:H
Sorry no energy to speak to everyone - forgive me....see you later