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[narilly]

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Ya, Lil B, what kind of camping is that? J-Vo, that made me laugh.

Welcome Rahul! The more the merrier.

Gals, I can hardly stay awake so I will sign off and post tomorrow.

Xo

[roxane]

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my post about children and suchlike was not a criticism. i fully understand why you write about what you all do. im not saying you shouldnt. who am i to do that?

was trying to explain why i dont respond in any meaningful way. i cant relate. i have no experience of which you write. including white collar work.

so i gave you a chocolate cake in compensation for my lack of posts here. sorry NS!

hello rahul!

[j-vo]

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Roxy,
You don't have to buy us chocolates because you feel you're not contributing. But we won't pass it up... Everyone has different situations here. How our lives progressed to get to this site, what we do, how we feel, our different personalities. That's what makes hanging out with this group so wonderful. If we were all the same, that would be quite boring imho! I love that you're here and would love to get to know Roxy. For starters, you've got the sexiest name! My two gf's don't have children, but that doesn't make us hang out any less. I love them. My sister's job is cleaning houses, and guess what? She's my very favorite person in this whole world! We're so close, not because of what we do, but because we love each other. She listens to me bitch about the kids at school and that's all I need sometimes is an ear. So, Roxy, if you think you don't have anything to contribute, you are wrong. Your life is as important as any of our lives here, and we wanna hear you, help you, and hang out with you. xxxooo

[j-vo]

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Lil B, Sorry about SD.:l

[j-vo]

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:l:hAnd, Roxy, we're all more 'like' each other than not. We're all here for the same reasons and striving towards the same goal.

[little beagle]

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Thank you J-vo. She is in deep this time I fear. But I know what NOT to do.
Narilly the Louisiana wilderness is full of those creatures. And great big Boars. Almost like African Safari. No boredom. Challenging. Plus we camped at the dear cleaning shed that is slightly civilized. They tend to stay away from those areas.
Well have a good day all.

[NoSugar]

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little beagle;1657874 wrote: She is in deep this time I fear. But I know what NOT to do.
It must be so hard to see someone struggle with something so similar to what you are now successfully managing. It feels like "If I can do it, she can do it" to me. There is a thread that SoberSoul started for people who have had so many day 1s on MWO. When I read there I just wish so much that I was persuasive enough to go in there and type just the right thing to make all of them understand that an AF life is right there waiting for them and it is totally 100% in their power to make that choice right now and be done with the exhausting, soul-destroying cycle of starting over, over and over again. I feel that way about people I don't really even know so it must really be tough with someone you love. Hugs to you, LB :l.

roxane;1657807 wrote: ...was trying to explain why i dont respond in any meaningful way. i cant relate. i have no experience of which you write. including white collar work.
Any response has meaning, Roxy. A response means that we have been seen and heard - that we're not just typing into the ether or that what we write has no value. I just posted on the thread I mentioned above how much it matters to be recognized. People have mentioned how much it means to them when a post is directed at them. Some here are excellent at mentioning everyone. I don't manage that but I hope I address everyone over the course of several posts. At least I try to. It is part of human nature to want to be part of a group and to be recognized - a response (positive or negative) at least gives us reassurance that we're not alone. Plus, as others have said, we'd love to know more about the Real Roxy .

j-vo;1657749 wrote:

Work, then shopping for some fat clothes for DC trip...

I already nagged you about this in a PM last night J-vo but I'm doing it again here because I think this is so important. We have got to stop beating ourselves up about this. For those of us (and I know that includes you and me :l), the perfectionism that contributed to our alcohol problems is at the root of so many body image problems, too. I'm not saying not to be the healthiest person you can be (I try not to go on and on about that too much here but I'm sure you all know my take on diet, exercise, and health) but the way we think about ourselves matter so much. Just like we can change our thinking about AL, we can change the way we view ourselves, also.

I bought a couple comfortable dresses for my trip last week because when I tried them on, the pants I had planned to wear were too tight in the waist. I don't want to wear something all day that constantly reminds me of something that I consider "bad", gives me negative thoughts about myself, and is physically uncomfortable. But if I had told you about that, you wouldn't have said, hey NS, you'd better go buy some fat clothes for your trip. Right? So please don't talk to my friend J-vo like that either. We need to treat ourselves like we treat one another. (By the way, I don't have this down-pat; just like with AL, I'm talking to myself as well as to any of you who struggle with this).

So there's a lot to do and we're starting our summer league which will be three games Monday and Wednesday nights, then two games at another school on Sunday nights. All May and June and I'm running the concession stand, buying all the food, candy, ,drinks, and taking care of the money for that. Shit. Isn't it ironic that I had a concession stand phobia for years, and I went and volunteered for this! WTH? So need to go to all the meetings and plan with the board of the league. Bring it on bitches!!!!! This job goes throughout the summer with the basketball camps and into next school year's season. Oh, I have nothing else to do...

Only a person who knows deep in her heart she is going to be sober would sign on for all of this! It sounds like you've flipped that switch to the "non-drinker" position J-vo. Isn't it a relief??

xx, NS

[j-vo]

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NS

[NoSugar]

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So... to be healthy and be comfortable in your body, you need to lose weight. Those are more based on facts than on a negative opinion. I think if you look at it that way, you're much more likely to have success when you are ready to tackle this challenge because you won't be bombarding yourself with all the negative self-talk. Sure, it would be easier and you'd feel better if you hadn't gained the weight in the first place. But that's not where you are right now. It is as futile as it is for me when I get so down on myself for having started drinking too much when I was more than old enough to know better or not to having gotten control of things when I first realized I had a problem rather than waiting for it to spiral totally out of control. It is so easy to get in that self-defeating loop of regret that essentially paralyzes us. It isn't easy by any means but for all of this it makes sense to recognize where we are right now and make a plan to move forward towards the us we want to be.

I hope you send me a picture of you in your CCC outfit .

[Rahulthesweet]

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Hello Ladies,

Whatever you cook here ... cook well and make sure it makes us all sober ....

Jane : Germany is treating me quote well see my post on "Life is about choice "

No sugar : Who is Mr G ?

Paviti : How about "Recovery is our ongoing mission ?"

Jvo : thanks...

[Marylou123]

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Hi Ladies,

Quick check in. All is well on day 104. I am not feeling as blue as I was several days ago -- all you comments were so well received and on the mark! Thank you.

I also realized I had stopped reading the affirmations/meditations I had been reading and, once back into it, my crazy, jumbled up thoughts seemed to calm. More likely, I calmed, and put everything back into perspective. So happy and glad to be sober!

I bought a Fit Bit Zip and have set a goal of 10,000 steps per day. It's really amazing how quickly they add up! Does anyone here have a Fit Bit product who might like to be friends on the Fit Bit dashboard? Walking is a great way for me to pass time, get some exercise and pump up the endorphins even if only a 15 minute walk.

I hope everyone is doing well. Jane - I empathize with the dental work. I've put a few dentists' kids through college with all the work I've had done. But...grateful to still have all my teeth (except one implant.)


Have a great night/day all.

Love you.

[NoSugar]

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Hi, Rahul

Glad you returned . I was referring to Guitarista in my earlier post. In your thread I commented that your writing is very poetic. I ran across this video of an adolescent presenting some of his work: http://www.buzzfeed.com/abagg/this-i...ill-give-you-g

[NoSugar]

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X-post, MaryLou. I'm glad you are feeling better. Have fun with your FitBit!

[Dottie Belle]

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marylou I have a fitbit and would love more company on the dashboard.

[j-vo]

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Hi Rahul! Hope your trip is going well.

Hi Marylou, what's fit bit zip?

I can't remember if I mentioned that I bought a bike on here or facebook. Well, I bought a bike! Going to go on different trails, parks with my sis, aunt, DH, gf. Looking forward to enjoying the outdoors while getting some cardio in. LB, outdoors on a manmade trail, not in the wilderness!

I'm leaving for Washington DC tomorrow morning. We'll leave after homeroom, stop in for lunch, and probably get there by about 3 or 4. So I'll be a bit busy the next three days. Hope to check in!

Have a great night.