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[Guitarista]

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narilly;1659699 wrote:

Yes, G, there are some things that you don't know about me.

And me. Did i ever mention that i was once offered a job as a male escort in Europe? I did consider it at the time as i was out of money, but chose busking with my guitar instead. A wiser option in the end. I was going to call myself Bruce from Orstraya.

Great going on your AF time. Have a fab weekend y'all.

[scottish lass]

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Hmmm G, knew you were special - glad you stick to the guitar thou!
Nar - about this rash then :H
Poor doggie! That can't feel good
Pav - when is your presentation? On a Saturday? Sure you will be just great, will be cheering you on!
Feeling lazy today - have things that need to get done, so will need to get going soon, but it is incredibly rare that I ever have a day with an alarm to get me up in the morning - of course the stupid cats woke me way too early today! They always seem to know! Grrr!
See you later - off to get another cup of tea

[little beagle]

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:H

[j-vo]

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Hi Loamers and Moamers!

I slept for 12 hours last night, and wow, needed it. Was a great trip, gonna repost my post from my journal after I'm done doing an Ava-gazette-like post here.

Ava, thanks for the sloppy kiss and hug! The wetter the better. Nar taught me that!! Glad your bloody wog is leaving you! I hope that you get to take that course. I would say you could probably teach it! That's so sweet about your mum!

SL, glad you got away from the grocery store in time and sound much better. We don't sell al in any grocery stores or any stores except for State Stores here. That never made it any harder for me to buy it, though. Strategic planning was my thing. I read the article you posted, and thanks for that! I love encouraging stories like that.

Nar, hope your doggie feels better. What did the vet say? As far as your friend's response, I wouldn't read into it too much. I know that people probably thought that of me as well, no, I'm sure, and I'm fine with that now. We've learned our limitations and we're doing something about it, and that's what's important. Thanks for being right "behind" me. Makes things so much more fun!

NS, no booze in our stores. Just state stores.

DB, thanks! Can't wait to hear how our grade-school reunion went.

Pav, what topic are you presenting? Good luck! My girlfriend wants me to try hot yoga this summer. She goes a lot and swears by it. I think I may give it a shot.

LB, how are you? How's hubby doing these days? How's your garden coming along? That's on my list of adventures. I love fresh veggies and herbs, especially basil. I usually have a basil plant and that's it.
I'll be picking your brain when that time comes.

Jane, that was such a great post, and thank you. I loved this quote of yours..."Each individual win is a group win." I'm gonna add that to my signature! That's so great! I love it! And forgetting about al is huge progress!

G-man a.k.a. Bruce of Ostraya, a.k.a. Moamer, thanks for your congrats! Glad to have you poppin in here!

Ok, that's my Ava-Gazette-like post. Have a great day Loamers and Moamers!

[j-vo]

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Here's my post from journal:

Got back from a trip with our 8th grade class last night. It was amazing. I've been on this trip several times, but this year, I felt a difference that I want to share.

When you have to tour and walk for three straight days, you need energy. Not that I'm fit right now, but I had such a great mental energy to do this that I've never had in the past. I was interested in the sites so much more, had a bounce in my steps, and tiredness didn't hit at unwanted times.

Not only did the sites thrill me, but being with the people was such a blessing. From our 14 year olds to the adult chaperones, the ability to appreciate them was like never before. My tolerance, love, and appreciation for others is growing, and, WOW, what a great feeling that is. I'm able to see the beauty in those around me, laugh a true and real laugh with others, empathize with those that need it, and encourage when needed. This trip has made me appreciate those in my life so much more.

It seems as though alcohol numbed my senses when I wasn't even under the influence, and now, every sense seems to be heightened and stronger. Colors are prettier. Sound, touch, and smells are more acute. Tastebuds are sensitive and just eating pizza tastes great to me.

So, the longer I am away from alcohol, the better I'm feeling with myself, with others, and with my surroundings. It's really worth it, so much more than I've ever dreamed possible.

[scottish lass]

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Yeah j-vo! How wonderful! I love these turning moments - they are so great to read - I am so happy for you:goodjob:
I do think it is the only way to win, is to acknowldge our successes - we have worked out we are all our own worst enemy, and failure is easier to realise than success - but everyone is starting to discuss sober successes, and it is just great!

[NoSugar]

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Glad everything went so well, J-vo. I came across this today and thought of you - students really can be hilarious:
Here Are 25 Kids That Gave Absolutely Brilliant Answers On Their Tests. These Are Hysterically Genius. | True Activist
My husband I were laughing out loud over some of them.

Happy Mother's Day to all mothers and those who nurture others, as so many people here do every day!

[NoSugar]

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jane27;1659570 wrote:
The first sign that it was getting easier was a day when I forgot the magnitude of I AM QUITTING DRINKING. In fact I forgot to remember that I had quit at all. At first it was nice and felt like someone had taken rocks out of the knapsack I was carrying, then I became alarmed (sleeping on the job? What the hell are you thinking?). But it really was just a fleeting thing, thankfully. Somehow it felt more appropriate and comfortable to be carrying around a knapsack filled with boulders because it made me feel more chained to the goal.

This is exactly why it is important to stay connected, in my opinion, Jane. Honestly, I don't feel like I've even picked up my own backpack in a good long while. But what I've been trying to do is help others carry theirs. It isn't hard to do, it's rewarding, and it reminds me of the weight that will be on me again if I make the wrong choice.

[narilly]

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J-Vo, I am happy for you too! Isn't that awesome! Isn't it great when we can actually appreciate the world for what it is instead of trying to dull it out all the time.
That is the best!
hey and thanks for the post.

Hey NS, I laughed so hard at those test answers. Oh, that was good. I mean, I REALLY laughed!

My dog seems to be getting better slowly. I think it will take another day. We decided not go to the vet because she started coming around. I am sure she will be fine.

Being with AL, the longer the better, I agree. I made up my mind not to drink again and it feels great. I don't see why I ever would.
BUT like you say NS we have to stay connected to help ourselves by helping others. Reminding ourselves about that wrong choice is Huge for sure.

xo

[j-vo]

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NS, just read the 25 brilliant answers and LOL'd really loud. So funny. I'd give them points for being extremely clever. It's funny how the literal brain vs. abstract brain work. So many kids aren't ready for the abstract, but we keep pushing them into it. It's more like memorization and knowledge-level based because their brains aren't ready yet. Thanks for that!

[available]

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hi loamers and mr g and rahul

NS what a chuckle that was. Liam has a new girlfriend or lady friend as he likes to call it and she is just lovely. i actually cleaned out some boxes and found liams lonnnnnng file on his supsensions and counsellors (was going from pre school) and boy i laughed. I showed his girlfriend and lots of old pictures and stories and what a laugh that was. Its hard to remember the struggles i faced daily with a child with ADHD and ODD and as i tell him he was certainly "special" but has grown up into a gorgeous man. He always asks me why i did what i did and the simple answer is because i love him. Those answers reminded me of what liam put in some of his. i really should look on how to put pics on here again.

Nar, at the end of the day we are alcoholics and what we did in the past is in the past. I have to laugh now or else i would just cry and no point in crying over spilt drink, now we dont drink that is. Funny how you cant remember your porn day, i have that with half the men i slept with, god what was their name again? Still not coming back to me! Your dog will be fine, my kids have gotten my budgie stoned and dog and cat and themselves. Still doing it to themselves, just not the animals anymore.

LB i am eternally grateful that i gave up drinking and have a relationship again with my mum before she died. I remember Lav telling me that we only have one mum and she missed hers daily, that stuck with me even if i never thought it was possible while i was drinking. So for what i have now with her, i will never touch a drop of al again. How is the fam going?

Jane, sex whats sex? Not drinking has made me not go out randomly picking up men to satisfy what i never got so damn that non drinking! Im pickier now lol, thus the reason i have not had any. I dont think of drinking much anymore thank god and i feel that i have something to give back which makes me feel pretty farking good. Sure i have some days, very few, where i would like a drink but i know now i can never have one again and that does not stress the bejesus out of me. I have nothing to prove to anyone now as i am a non drinker and if anyone brings up me past i just say "yep that was me", WAS being the operative word. I dont count days anymore although i look at the date/time calculator and i was 160 days a few days ago. 200 is my next big one to celebrate although on 1st June when i am 6 months af i am giving away the fags. god help the world is all i will say as i have been smoking since i was 14 so i have to put on my big girl pants and just do it!

Mr G, now how do you know it was a wiser option, you could have been wined and dined and paid for it, become a millionaire and yep busking it was! I do love a good busker!

SL i have never heard of the shingles vaccine, may have to look into that. i have had chicken pox twice and i did hear shingles could be a thing to get. Hope not by the sounds of it, glad you are sounding better.

Jvo, you sound as if you had a ball of a time and everything is in a different colour sober, like technicolour, not grey or black and white. I totally enjoyed my holiday sober, a new experience and one i will definitely be hitting the repeat button on. Your garden sounds like mine. I have rosemary and thats it, i do have bulbs that i buy every year to plant and they stay in their packet. I cant understand why they dont plant themselves.

Well today is mothers day and i am taking all the kids over to kieras for a few hours. I tried to finish her scarf and stayed up till 2.30am knitting but nope and i made a mistake, damn and bugger but not unpicking it now. I am looking forward to spending the day with the fam. God forbid i get a present but i dont care, i will have my 4 lovelies with me and thats a great mothers day.

so happy mothers day if it is that over your way. xxxxx

[little beagle]

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For me it is so wonderful to come here and have so much positive reinforcement for not drinking.
J-vo seeing the world in technicolor again, Ava reconnecting with her mother. SL feeling better from the shingles and not drinking to numb the pain.
Jane your posts are so insightful.
NS always seems to have just the information I need to help either myself or someone close to me in a momentary crisis. The relationship info was spot on for a conversation eith my daughter yesterday.
Narilly cheers me up with her visusl pics. Love the hairstylist.
Roxy with her determination.
G-man. I now have a whole new mental image of you.
Pav and Ava. You two are like a team of determination. It is inspiring to me.
Thank you people. I am hanging in there. Had a rough week, but I have hopes that we will turn the point here in my family now. SD is in detox and is getting professional help and part of that seems to include family help. I am determined to make the most of it and get as much out of it as possible.
Have a great night all.

[available]

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So glad to hear LB that sd is getting outside help, we can only do so much. i remember many years ago my daughter was going through a stage (eating disorder, break up issues with me and my ex) and she wanted to see a counsellor and my thought was "my god my drinking will be bought up" so i did not take her. I still feel so bad about that one but she is now seeing a counsellor and doesnt want me to go and i WANT to. oh shit and damn, missed the boat. When liam came home with his ice/crack addition i insisted he go to counselling or else he was out as if he did not help himself with me helping also then we could not do it alone, oh and i was still drinking but i think at that stage i was ready to admit defeat with al but took me another 8 months to do it.

I am sending you hugs lovely lady, keep strong, you are an inspiration to me. xxxx

[little beagle]

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Brilliant answers. :H:H

[Pavati]

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Wow - I feel like I missed a day hanging out with you all, so much going on...

I read through quickly, but here's what I gathered:

Nar was hooked on drugs and doesn't remember her days as a porn star; NS and Jane are related and are going backpacking together; G's real name is Bruce and he was an escort in Europe. About right?

I started to make more jokes, but there was a lot of serious stuff here.

LB - it is wonderful that SD is in rehab - I'm sure it must have been hard. She is so lucky to have to to help out. I know you have done a lot of reading and research on families with addiction - I hope you always remember to take care of yourself first so you have the strength to do all else you do.

So sorry about your dog, Nar. Does your son at least feel sorry for him? That would be a hard conversation with the vet! I totally understand about your feelings. I had my 40th birthday party and many of the toasts referenced me as the party girl - a lot was in good fun, but I was left wondering if that was all people would remember me by.

J-Vo! I missed saying congratulations on your 40. You sound so much more clear and convinced this time. I totally understand about the clarity - I have been noticing that more and more. I remember one conversation I was having with my mom and suddenly I felt like someone had cleaned my glasses (and I don't wear any). Everything felt clear and crisp. Your trip sounds wonderful.

Ava - Awesome about Liam - it is good to hear those stories of the kids who made it through and out the other side. I understand that crack is a hard drug to stay off of - it seems like you both will be able to help each other as needed down the road.

SL - Sorry about the grocery store. I hate when those challenges come. After the conference today we all went to an outdoor bar - live music, beer, warm sun - I had a moment of really wanting a beer, but it passed quickly. We hung out for a while, but I was in an anxious and pissy mood when I got home. I have come to the conclusion that even though I didn't feel like I wanted a drink, I was internalizing the struggle some. Again, I got over that part quickly - just wondering what you all think...

NS - Those links were funny. I think some about how you carry a lot of backpacks - I think that of all of us here we know the least about you. I know you are private, so I don't mean personal stuff, but I hope that you will let us help you with your backpack when you feel tired.

Jane - I agree - each individual win IS a group win. That was a great sentiment. As for sex? I am with you - so much better sober. I had come to believe that getting a buzz was the only way I could feel confident and "in the mood," but it turns out that sparkling clarity helps in that regard, too.

G - you happened by on a spicy day. So happy to have a MOAMer join our cause. I hope you are doing well. If you feel like drinking, we have a deal here that we'll come post here first. Maybe you can commit to that with us? We are on a mission for everyone to stay sober.

Dot - Have a great time with your friends! I'm sure, with 45 pounds gone and all your time at the gym, you'll be the stunner of the group.

The presentation went well - had a great time at the conference. I am very tired and will need another weekend after this one.

Off on a long hike with my sister in the morning and lunch at the beach with the family for mother's day tomorrow. I hope all you mothers and non-mothers have wonderful Sundays!

xo
Pav