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[narilly]

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J-Vo, Avail, NS,SL, G, Humble, Dottie,Everyone,
Have a Merry Christmas!!
I woke up feeling great today, no hangover, yay!
My turkey is brining, beets and sweet potatoes ready. Now to put my cinnamon buns in the oven. So many times I would be too drunk to make them on Christmas Eve. Not this year though!
Love you ladies,

[HumbleRider]

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Merry Christmas, let's see if this works...if not I will delete. Oh shoot, it didn't work, was trying to post a Christmas photo. How the heck? I think Londoner posted a JPEG at the newbies nest a while back, so I know it can be done....

[Eloise]

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hey- day over here in Europe & doing just fine.
Happy Holidays to all!!

[scottish lass]

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Merry Christmas to all Ladies on a Mission.
Turkey well brined, out of oven and resting - everything else is finishing and then it will be eating time.
Just myself and two girls - off on our mini holiday tomorrow (boxing day)
Weather wonderful, happy here and AF.

For those who have a Traders Joes nearby I got a bottle of AF spakling chardonnay grape juice - it has a popping cork and is lovely - having a glass or two whilst cooking and have it on the list for NY eve!

I truly feel blessed today - in spite of everything else, which is pretty special!

[available]

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MAE now we have all finally HAD christmas.

I was supposed to go and see my daughter today but we had a argument. She is the married one who chose to spend xmas with his family. Yes that hurt but not my choice anymore she is married. I was supposed to go over today with the kids and one said he was not coming and she said she was upset and disappointed. I pointed out to her that i was hurt and disappointed that she did not come over xmas eve/christmas but i did not say anything. Well it has now escalated to every damn thing i have ever done to her in her life and well guys i am just not strong enough to deal with this shit atm. She said she expects this from me and i dont visit blah blah blah. I live 45mins away and her in laws live 5mins away. I drive for over ten hours a week plus to get to work and i am tired at the end of the week. Not good enough, i am not good enough anymore. I hate crying but im not strong enough for this so i will let it go for now.

Sorry for the rant especially on your xmas day but it is always nice to get it out of our system. I think some house cleaning is on the cards to get rid of the anger and hurt.

I hope you all got some lovely pressies and have the best sober christmas.

Today I will not drink.

[Dottie Belle]

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Available hang in there...we will survive the family BS....I am glad this holiday is over and I am going to do next year differently...maybe take a trip somewhere and not worry whether his kids call or not..bleh...

[NoSugar]

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Ava,

That hurts so much, doesn't it? It is hard to share our children when they get married. I used to jokingly tell mine that I hoped they married orphans.

It is wonderful that you aren't considering a drink as a "solution" to this. We know it wouldn't help. My experience has been that as the years married passes, things settle down for our kids and what happened here for you lessens.

xx- NS

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I might joint you dot, we could all meet somewhere and enjoy each others company without the crap involved. I am not a xmas person anyways as my mother has ruined it so many times but i do put in an effort. Apparently i bought and had seafood to spite my daughter. I have not a spiteful bone in my body.

NS he has a big family, like 240 of them and we are very small like my 4 kids and me and my mum when she doesnt spit the dummy which she duly did again. If it passes it passes if it doesnt then it is ultimately her decision to prioritise what she wants in life. They bought a house 5 mins from his parents place and i live 45 mins away. I am just sad and hurt. There is so much i could say but i dont want to hurt her with words that cant be taken back even if they are the truth.

So today i will clean the house and drink coffee and look at Dots recipes for my juicer and have a nice quiet peaceful day. The good thing is that fleeting thought of having a wine passed in a millisecond and remembering I AM doing this for my children and myself keeps me going. She may hurt and piss me off but she wont make me drink.

Tell me what you all got for chrissy please! I love getting stuff that I want and cant afford during the year.

[Dottie Belle]

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I will buy myself something expensive shortly since dh cant manage to buy me anything...or get a dam card.....I have no clue what is up with him....

[available]

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Oh Dot feeling for you. My ex used to fling me $20 and tell me to go and buy something, as if! I told my boys they were getting whatever they got me which is normally nothing but my girls organised for them to put in and thus the juicer. Maybe it is a man thing, who knows.

[scottish lass]

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Turkey done, so checking back in here.
Av and Dot - is there actually a perfect Christmas? I have tried to make the concious effort to make the most of this day for myself - I am not thinking of what is not right, not good etc. I have plenty that could completely ruin this day for me, but I have chosen to make the most of what I have and ignore what I don't have.....
I am having a fabulous Christmas - not at all what I dream of, or what I would chose if I was queen for the day - but it is what I have and I am blown if I am going to let ANYone ruin it - especially my ex, and he will also not ruin the girls Christmas even though he came very close to it - he will not win!
I am sober, I am warm, my tummy is full - and I won't need to write very many thank you notes :H
I am lucky in comparison to so many and for that I am very grateful.
Love and Hugs to everyone....:l:h:l:h

[Eloise]

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checking in- our Christmas was very quiet, but that is a good thing I believe.
read a bit of another quitting alcohol book last night- last night was mostly about being grateful and making the best of your new life.
i have A LOT to be grateful for. will elaborate later, off to walk the dog. she loves her early morning walks and so do i. no gym routine until the week-end, so can't jip the doggie!
good luck today ladies!!

[Pavati]

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Quick check in - almost midnight here and off to bed after an exhausting but fun-filled couple of days with family and LOTS of food.

SL - have a great time in SF with your girls. I'm glad you feel so great. We went skating in Union Square yesterday - lovely time (if a bit crowded!)

Eloise - you sound great as well.

I don't have the energy to answer everyone tonight, but I concur that I am grateful for you wonderful Ladies (and G) on a Mission for helping me not only stay sober but also to stay grateful rather than feeling deprived. This is going to be a roller coaster of a journey, but I am belted in and feeling strong with your support. Happy happy, everyone. Good night from the end of my 24th day sober.

[NoSugar]

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Good MAE all,

Hope everyone woke up with a clear head and happy heart after an AF Christmas . It is so good to hear of your success Pav, El, SL, Ava, and DB.

Ava, you wouldn't want my presents right now - I received many SmartWool items because it is cold here and I am always chilly. I bet many of you would like this, though - a massage gift certificate!

Reading all the comments about gratitude made me wonder if that is a key difference between being sober and simply not drinking - one is just not doing something and the other is a state of being. Maybe true sobriety is our mission and the way to get there is not to drink.

Hope everyone checks in with a story of success but please come on back and start again if Christmas didn't go as well as you wanted. Maybe some adjustments will be needed but that is ok - the only thing that makes this impossible is not trying.

:h NS

[j-vo]

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Morning Ladies,

You all sound wonderful, happy, and sober!!! Yay! Me too. Had a good two days, filled with family. Some crazy moments with family, but who doesn't have that "one" family member who either instigates or is just plain crazy.

Yesterday, my aunt, boyfriend and two second cousins came over for dinner. My aunt and second cousin were talking about my other aunt's 60th birthday. That was one of my most mortifying moments as I had a blackout, and passed out in the bathroom. OMG. Just thinking about it makes my stomach turn. My cousin said, "You didn't know where you were." I agreed. I said I never want to be that way again, ever. Just a good reminder of why alcohol is poisonous to me.

Five hour road trip to see parents and other sister and family today. Will be away for a few days, but will check in. Have a good day ladies.