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[little beagle]

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Giraffe I agree. I read A LOT. Its my nightly soother before falling asleep. I read on my kindle ap, but it helps my brain turn off. I did order some books. Real books. Wow. It's been a couple of years since I read a real book. The last time was during our last hurricane when electricity was off for a couple of days.
I have to work today. Put me in a bad mood, but I am just going to look forward to that Tuesday off instead of feeling sorry for myself.
Well have a great day ladies.

[j-vo]

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After we delivered the produce to a friend's house, we went to a bar as it was an old friend's 50th. I had a non-al beer, chatted for awhile, and then we left. There was a band that didn't start until 10:00. I wish these bands would start a little earlier. I would have been into the music, as that would be another focus instead of just people drinking. This is the first time I'd gone out to a bar on a friday night in a long time. I've not been smoking either, so the smoke and the site of people doing shots and drinking, getting ready for a band was not an environment that I was thrilled about. But I know I can do that for a short period of time, to chat like I did for a little while. Most bars around here don't allow smoking, and it makes it much nicer.

LB, kickboxing! Cool. When will you start? I need a real book. I've downloaded on my ipad, but it's just not the same sitting with a good book in hand. Look how you turn around a bad mood so quickly, LB. Damn! You're good!

Nar, you sounded tired last night. I hope you have a great day today. How many of you are there?

Giraffe, re-reading, re-watching...yeah, not anymore!

Have a great Saturday all! Gonna go and chop up veggies and fruits for the walk tomorrow. Then DS has a 4 p.m. play-off game.:l

[scottish lass]

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Quick check (on phone!!) - just have to say hi before hitting the road - pretty sure there will be very little temptation this weekend, always is for me in a hotel but don't have much anxiety!
Good to see great long newsy posts, maybe one day I will chock everyone (and myself) with a long one!
Bought an outfit yesterday - first time in about 5 yrs! Worked out that I really need to care for me a bit more! I have (HAVE) to lose some weight and then do some things to help with a better self image! Ready to move to stage two
I also love reading - only books though - have a kindle (girls hand me down after one upgraded) that is gathering dust. Spend my wine money on paperbacks, and read in bed now I am sober nearly every night!
See you all sometime

[j-vo]

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SL,
I'm ready for stage two also, to take care of my physical self. Actually, we already are physically caring for ourselves, by not taking in the poison to ruin our liver function and all of the other organs that we can't live without! But a new outfit is not a want, it's a need.

LB,
When do you begin your kickboxing class? How was your day at work? Now you get off Tuesday!!!!!

Jane, waiting for the story!

Acadia, join us here. Love to have you checkin in with us daily.

Nar, how did your day go? Hope to hear from you later.

Hi NS!

Hi Ava!

[daisy45]

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Wow Jane - that was some load to get off your chest! Hope you feel better!
You will be rewarded in Heaven! Lol

[Pavati]

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Hi,

Jane - I will read that post later as I only have time for a drive by right now. I'm glad you got whatever that is off your chest, and glad you locked that closet door, although sometimes, when necessary, FYSS can sneak out of locked doors...

Wanted to pipe in with CONGRATULATIONS to Giraffe! 200 is such a huge number - way to go!!!

Off to a party I don't want to go to, but I am afraid of becoming a recluse. I'll stop by and leave early. My bbq ended up just being one other couple, the wife doesn't drink much so it was all ok.

I recommend the Bubble Hour called "How to talk to your Family and Friends About Recovery." Struck a few nerves with me on my walk today - cried a couple of times...

I hope I have time to read back better when I get home in a couple of hours.

So very happy I have you ladies on this journey with me. I'm thinking we might have to meet up eventually...

xo
Pav

[Dottie Belle]

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I posted this on the steppers too but wanted the extra support here too.
OK I need some strength sent my way.
I am getting ready to sell the house I grew up in. Third hardest thing I have ever had to do.
1) bury my mother
2) put my dad in an Alzheimer's facility
3) sell the home I grew up in...way too many memories....makes me so sad but it is time...
I did NOT deal well with numbers 1 & 2 so I just need a little extra support to make it..
Going back tomorrow to clean some and take inventory of what else needs to be done to get it sale ready. Have to call contractor on Monday for some of the other stuff. Not major but things I dont want dh to do. I know this is necessary but DAMN hard too...

[available]

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Dot its is hard to move on but a necessary part of life. Remember those memories, you can never lose them and a house is a house until you make it a home and that is the hardest part to let go of. Someone else will make memories in that house and hopefully they will make it their home for many years to come. I dont really know what to say Dot but be strong.

Jane my read on things is that everyone is enabling A1 and he is just cruising through life without a worry in the world. When it comes crashing down is when the real worry begins! Let hubs deal with it as best he can and be there to support him. Hubs is a big boy and just like when you gave up al, you were still doing everything and getting on as best you could. Hubs has an medical condition but so did you with being an alcoholic. Big difference on support levels i bet!. We can only do so much to help and be there and when they abuse that then, i for one, back off and say "fuck you", make your own way, you know where i am. I am a big one for respect and i only give respect when it is given back to me.

Liam still has anger issues from his ice addiction and takes it out on me, i try and be patient for so long until i ask him not to speak and treat me the way he is. He always retaliates with "i am not being horrible, you are pushing me to be that way". I just tell him i am here to support him and if he does not like the way i treat him he knows where the door is and dont let it hit him on the way out. He thinks about his actions and apologises eventually. I refuse to enable his behaviour now, sometimes it is hard to not give in but at the end of the day I am not making Liam a better person and responsible by enabling him to act like he does.

I hope i havent offended you Jane and i know how hard it is with step children also, they are jealous of you, you can never ever do anything right, so if you cant do anything right, dont do anything at all. they change their opinions eventually and we cant always get on with everyone even if they are family.

Ps: 5 to 10 guys gees she must be good at blow jobs is all i will say. Not my forte! ha ha, even when i was drinking

[available]

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liam was a compulsive liar and still can be but god you can pick him a mile away, always have done. his counsellor gave him a challenge of telling the truth for a week and see how it went. funny but he himself picked up on the lies and would say them then say, oh i lied just then mum. its ingrained behaviour for attention but its not good attention that they get in return. god he is 25 but well worth all the time and effort i have put in over his 25 years.

now if only we could put an old head on young shoulders! And you can only do so much, you cant change his parents and you can only do so much but you are enabling his behaviour also. give him love, dont give him money until he earns it. Two little words but so hard to say would be NO.

Well i am off to the drs again, getting quite attached to my dr lol.

[available]

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tough love is also as good and god it is harder than giving normal love. Everyone deserves love at the end of the day.

[available]

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i love you girl but you need to be strong and if tough love is what it takes then do it and if hubs does not like it then let him deal with it and step up to the plate.
xx

[little beagle]

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Jane we could be twins. That such different circumstances produce such similar results. The lying, the immature behavior. The total lack of respect. The sense of entitlement. And the ANGER, We are really on the same page in this book.
Thank you Ava. I carefully read your replies.
J-vo I am going to check on that class Monday. Watching the people punch on those punching bags in the window looks appealing. That's what I feel like doing.
Actually I am feeling pretty good tonight. Hubby and I actually had a talk and made some decisions tonight. Hopefully he can do what is necessary if called upon to do so.
Today was beautiful and yes J-vo I DO get to be off Tuesday, until we do our evening job. It's the sleeping in when I am the only one home that I enjoy. So relaxing.
Dottie I am sorry you have to sell your house. If I can help you get through a tough moment, I would be happy to.
Pav have fun at the party. Your bbq sounds relaxing.

[Kailey]

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Good morning. I am determined to get back on track and start racking up the AF days. I know that posting every day is a powerful tool, so even though I'm rather tongue tied at the moment, I'm putting this out there as a starting point. I'm done drinking. The decision is made I won't let it occupy any more of my time. All that brain chatter figuring out when I can drink, what I can drink , how much I will drink.... a waste of time. I don't drink. Period. I respect all of you on this thread and hope to find a home here. Daisy, I am so excited to see you doing so well. I'm going to grab on your coat tails!

[giraffe1234]

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Jane, thank you for the good wishes and congrats - much appreciated.
I read through your long post with great interest. My word, that young man needs to learn that there are consequences, and the sooner the better - for himself and everybody else around him.
Wish I could give you sound and wise advice, but I know that you are in very difficult position, as you are not the biological parent. Whatever you do that is good & right, kind & generous gets overlooked, but the moment you try to lay down some basic rules and expect decent & considerate behaviour from him, you are made out to be the ogre.
Thinking of you Jane, I suspect his behaviour and actions will catch up with him sooner than he thinks - just hang in there. Good luck!

[giraffe1234]

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Kailey, way to go girl!