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Nar, honey, it's called an iPad Mini, not a mini pad...:H That's what my aunt calls it, too. I'm like, "No, Aunt, it's not like a pantyliner, it's technology!"

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:hitme:My apologies, Nar, you did say mini Ipad!!!! Close enough, girlfriend!

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Kailey;1663128 wrote:
I just have to say how happy I am at the moment. I've got to remember this. Two hours ago I was ready to give up. I had a fairly miserable hour, but then once I realized that I was going to make it...pure joy! I'll trade that for a boozy evening and all the misery it brings with it any time!
Being able to think it through to the inevitable bad outcome of drinking is a good tool to help you not succumb but this one of being able to see how happy you'll be when you stick to your plan might be even more powerful. Every morning one of my first thoughts is how glad I am not to have drunk anything the night before.

j-vo;1663133 wrote: Nar, honey, it's called an iPad Mini, not a mini pad...:H That's what my aunt calls it, too. I'm like, "No, Aunt, it's not like a pantyliner, it's technology!"

I will never be able to not think of this every time I see one of those! Crack me up!

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Me too NS. The first thing I do is be grateful I don't have a hangover. That feeling doesn't go away for me.
Good to see you Patrice. Glad you are with us.
SL glad you made it through that audit today. I hope tomorrow goes smoothly.
Kailey this place is my number one tool for staying sober AND sane. I come here for support on both fronts. Glad you used it the same way. Keep going. :goodjob:
Thank you J-vo. You are going to make it. This is your New Life. I am so happy for you.

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J-Vo, now I am going to call it my mini pad for sure! Haha! I love that
You crack me up.
NS, we will have to call it that.

Patrice, so glad to hear from you. Stick with us and kick some AL butt! We are learning So much from each other on how to stay sober. It is amazing.

Kailey, way to go girl! It is awesome to go to bed sober and not have nasty wine mouth every time you wake up.
Daisy, glad to hear from you too.

Hey Rox! How are you?

Ava, I hope you are doing well. When I went to Edmonton I told my cousin all about you girls and how supportive you are. She really cracked up when I told her about Farquad. What a great name!

Pav, love you girl. Wonder if we are cross posting?

They have a new topic on The Bubble Hour about ego and Drinking. It is pretty interesting. Check it out.

Goodnight sweet ladies!

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Hi, Everyone. Busy and inspirational day here on the thread.

The talk about mini pads reminded me of this http://youtu.be/M7ln00zr_Jc[/video]]Mad TV skit that came out when the iPad first did (and we all thought it was an awful name). Good for a laugh - and there have been a few around here today.

PATRICE! So happy you're back. Stick close - maybe you're closer to the ground floor??

Kailey - you worked MWO the way it is supposed to work - check in BEFORE you drink. People have different things that work for them, but one thing that worked for me was short term goals. The first was 30 days - I knew I could do anything for 30 days, and that took the daily negotiations off the table for me (of course, I had a very bad weekend to also help give me motivation).

LB - Love what you wrote, and J-Vo thanks for sharing. Where is that thread? I'm going to go read - I do like what Pinecone has to say in general...

Nar - I notice that about people more, too. Who needs to fill a glass, who looks like they're worried about not having more. I've been so grateful to find the Bubble Hour - I just realized that Jean is the author of one of my favorite blogs, UnPickled. Check that out, too, if you want something to read.

SL - Audit sounds awful - like that feeling you describe when seeing them pull out a new file... Hope it is over soon. How are your shingles? I hope you stick close here through all the crap - I can't wait to celebrate 100 days with you!

Jane - any news on the A1 front? All is quiet?

Running off to bed. Smooches to all those I didn't mention above. So cool to read through this thread today - inspiration, struggles, emotions - LIFE. Ava - I replied to you in the nest. Extra hugs for you today.

xo
Pav

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Hey loamers, fucked day for me to be honest and i posted on the NN first due to giving them some inspiration that it is a daily choice to not drink and one that we alone have to make. I am okay, i am not great but i am okay. This is where i would like your husband please Pav for a cuddle and a cry so if you could send him over that would be wonderful.

Pat i am so happy to have you back and anytime you want to chat i am here. Daisy and Kailey, you go girls and being accountable is what counts. I came on mwo this afternoon at work as it was a close call but i know what i have to do now and i am not going to fail. f

Well today was a test of my resolve and determination in not drinking. It started as i was walking out the door with my son saying i owed him money as he paid a bill which was his and my other sons to pay. Not a great start to the day, next i forgot my reading glasses and since i am on the computer all day, not a great start to the day. Work was just frantic from 8am onwards and blind as a bat Ava was starting to get stressed, that was in between the arguing with my son via text. I got to the stage where i was so upset and stressed that i told him not to talk to me when i got home, i could not handle it today. That al brain was starting to tell me that a bottle of wine would be a great stress relief, go on have that bottle, you deserve it, you have had the worst day in a long time, so just do it, go on, it wont hurt. Ava was starting to think, oh fuck it, why not, cant get any worse. No Ava wont drink but Ava will buy a bottle and sit and look at it and tell her son that this is what he is driving her to do. Logical? I think not! Put the blame on someone else, i think not. If Ava drank it was due to Ava giving in, it was her choice to drink and no one elses. I have learnt that months ago the blame would totally be on my shoulders.

Then out of all the shit a patients mother offered me her glasses (not script) and i gratefully accepted as i had work coming out my ears. That act of kindness made me feel so much better, that lovely lady, when she was ready to leave with her son told me to keep them and she would pick them up tomorrow. I just wanted to cry.

Oh next a patient came for an assessment, he went to the toilet in the city on Monday and came out with no memory, none, doesnt know his age, did not know his name, does not know where he lives and says he was born in 1971. If he was, he has had a really really hard life (he is late 60's). This man broke down and cried in anger and frustration so i went and sat with him and gave him a cuddle and i just thought "my life's problems are nothing compared to this mans".

In waffling on, i am saying to you newbies that nothing is worth having a drink for as there is always something good that you can find other than al. I knew today that al would not solve my problems but i let my anger, stress and frustration get to me until these beautiful souls showed me that I am okay. I do want a drink tonight but i posted on here earlier and i am here now and tomorrow is the start of another day in my sober life. I had so many people to drink AT today but i also had so many reasons not to drink.

Sorry for waffling and keep strong everyone

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Thanks for the welcome back
Ava, sounds like a trying day, fantastic that those acts of kindness from you and towards you made the diff!!! You are doing so well

Xx

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Its good to have you back. Just stay in the nest and we can have our nightly convo's for everyone to wake up to.

I have to do well, god how could i face this mob if i drank ha ha. They keep me accountable which is what i need.

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I just really need to get back into the swing of things,as you know starting on day 1 is no fun but that's where it starts..
I really think I need to make my sobriety my primary focus now, something I didn't do before. I tried to live the same life just sans booze and I really needed to put more effort in...
I haven't reached any rock bottom the last few months just steady soul destroying drinking

What has really helped me in the last few weeks to make the decision is by reading this thread and reading how much you all are blossoming and changing and learning new life skills to deal with having an af life... It has made me remember I also started on this thread in January and it's nearly June!,

I'm really grateful to be back in the fold
Take care
Patrice
Yes Ava looking forward to those night time chats in our zone,

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I didnt hit a rock bottom either just like you it was a steady progression into where i didnt want to live or be.

It hasnt been easy for most of us to get to this stage but its certainly been amusing to say the least. Its a group effort and we are so here for you and everyone else.

God i never want to do a day 1 again, yet i did not even think of that aspect today so thanks Pat. That thought totally does not do it for me, or the day 2, 3,4,5, etc etc. The good thing is it gets better.

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I love waking up to a conversation to read! For that reason and many others, I'm so glad you're back, Pat!

This does need to be your #1 priority, I think. For months I did my job, met minimum family responsibilities, and worked on not drinking. I didn't take on extra responsibilities or challenges. I didn't do "fun" things unless I wanted to. I didn't even exercise until it felt like the thing to do. Actually, I was pretty much of a hermit.

You emerge from all of that with time and then are able to handle and want to do so much more than you have in years! So be patient with yourself, and kind. Treat yourself the way you would treat your son if he had been sick for a long time.

Ava, way to show us how it's done! You're the best :l.

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Quick check in. I will read back. Have a Great day ladies.

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90 days for Scottish Lass!



Congratulations on 90 days of living life your way, SL!

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Happy 90 SL!!!! Wow! So proud of you and happy to be on this journey with you. Hope all goes well today with the audit!

Ava, I'm so impressed with your strength. You didn't drink AT anyone or AT anything. And wow, random acts of kindness are blessings. That was so sweet of that woman to loan her glasses to you. And how you helped that guy. Giving is what it's all about.

Pav, that thread in in Just Starting Out. It's a good read! I'll check out the link you just posted on Ipads.

Pat, someone just said to me, I'm gonna make this my new "hobby." Yep, I hobby that you can incorporate every single day, learn, give, and it's quite addicting. Then again, I'd become addicted to just about anything on this earth, but I'm glad I'm addicted to you girls.

Today is my doctor's appt. I go once every three months. I'm excited to go today as I'm going to discuss going off one of my meds. This thrills me to death. I'm so ready, as I don't have anymore heart palpitations and anxiety has decreased lots. So another great reason to stay away from Al. Forever!

Have a great day ladies.