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[narilly]

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Well, ladies I am in bed now and tired, of course.

Hubby is being cranky because he hates his job. I used to drink so I didn't have to deal with him. He normally isn't moody but when he hates his job he really brings it home. Well, I am not going to drink so I just have to deal with him. At least hockey play offs are on to distract him.

So glad to be sober.

Xo goodnight

Ava, have a great day!

[scottish lass]

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Evening all - home late and not much time to read, I will have a lot of reading to do when I have some time!
J-vo, read your post - think you have mentioned her before. I am a believer in what goes around comes around - and karma is a bitch! I hope that this all comes out in the wash!
Pat - I have watched folks making goals for a while, and really wanted to be like them - seems it is maybe happening. I am sure it will happen for you too and I look forward to cheering you when you get to 90!
Nar - sorry hubby is being a bear!
Good to see so many checking in here again, it got a little quiet a wee while back!
Good night my loaming friends - so looking forward to celebrating 100 with you!

[Pavati]

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Hi, Gals:

Stuck on my phone so short post. Wanted to say HIP HIP HOORAY to SL. So darn proud of 90 days. You're an amazing woman, mom and loamer. So happy to be here with you.

J-Vo - wtf with fc. I agree w Ann that the high road is the place to be. Sometimes it doesn't feel like it. That's why we coin certain fecking terms here.

Can't stand this phone posting! Night all.

Xo
Pav

[Pavati]

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Hi, Gals:

Stuck on my phone so short post. Wanted to say HIP HIP HOORAY to SL. So darn proud of 90 days. You're an amazing woman, mom and loamer. So happy to be here with you.

J-Vo - wtf with fc. I agree w Ann that the high road is the place to be. Sometimes it doesn't feel like it. That's why we coin certain fecking terms here.

Can't stand this phone posting! Night all.

Xo
Pav

[Pavati]

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Hi, Gals:

Stuck on my phone so short post. Wanted to say HIP HIP HOORAY to SL. So darn proud of 90 days. You're an amazing woman, mom and loamer. So happy to be here with you.

J-Vo - wtf with fc. I agree w Ann that the high road is the place to be. Sometimes it doesn't feel like it. That's why we coin certain fecking terms here.

Can't stand this phone posting! Night all.

Xo
Pav

[little beagle]

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Morning ladies. J-vo I hope your day is good. :l
SL when I first started with MWO I didn't have a specific goal in mind. I do now. Forever. I just love my new life and ability to see things through sober eyes. No hangovers, unless you count sugar and they are gone now too.
I look forward to the 100 day celebration too.
Narilly I am grateful for hockey for you.
Good to hear from you Pav.

[Kailey]

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Good morning! Congratulations, SL! What a huge milestone! Thanks for leading the way for those of us just starting out.

J-vo, I hope your co-worker is a no-show today. I'm certain your principal has her number. What a pain.

I made it another day, again by the skin of my teeth. I really have to give this all of my attention for a while, my mind just wants to fight me every step of the way at this point.

I had to laugh yesterday. I was a presenter at a conference and after my session the organizers gave me a thank you note and.... a bottle of wine! I couldn't believe it. I threw it in a trash bin on my drive home. I should have given it to a co-worker, but I didn't want to deal with it since my they all know I'm a wine drinker. Easier at this point just to toss it. Not to long from know I hope I'll have better skills... either to just refuse it in the first place, or be comfortable giving it away. For now, I'm just happy that I didn't drink it.

I feel the weekend creeping up on me, a three day one at that! I'm going to have to stick very close for a while. You all may get sick of hearing from me, but my plan is to post, post, post. I have to stay on track. I really feel like it's now or never. And I can't settle for never.

[NoSugar]

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Great job pitching the gift, Kailey! For all those occasions where a bottle of wine seems the appropriate gift, I've switched to giving high-end bottles of balsamic vinegar and olive oil. Now I just wish that is what others would start giving me ! I'm reluctant to pass on wine anymore in case someone has a hidden problem like I did.

Weekends (especially holiday weekends) often are pretty slow around here. If you need motivation, just pick any old page in the Newbies Nest and start reading - the characters change but the problems and solutions pretty much stay the same.

[narilly]

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SL, a hundred days is right around the corner. How amazing is that? I know I will be getting to 100 days too, we are amazing. I remember just a few months ago you posting and saying how wonderful it would be to have a glass of wine. You have come so far. We are so lucky.

Kailey, way to go! Throw out that bottle! NS, that is a GREAT idea, buying high end balsamic vinegar and olive oil instead of wine. I am definitely going to do that. Wow, you are the maker of Great ideas girlie

J-Vo, let us know how your day goes with FC..... You are a way better person than her.

Pav, yes, typing on a phone sucks. I can hardly wait for my 'mini pad' Haha! My kids will be mortified when I call it that!

Jane, Jane, Jane, poor driving record, oh well, at least there is not DUI. That would really be crappy.

Allright, back to work. Big meeting now.

Oh, feeling Great today. Happy to be clean and sober! (I took a bath last night )

[j-vo]

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Well, I know you'll think I'm crazy, but I prayed for FC this morning on my way to work. Prayed that she get help for her bullying and attention seeking issues. But I also asked for strength for myself. Anyhow, I saw her today and was able to look her in the eye, as I'm not afraid of her and my anger sort of fizzled into being sad and tired right now. I posted this in the nest:

Feeling a little down and out of sorts today. Something happened yesterday that blindsided me, and it was an act of betrayal, although "throwing me under the bus" might be a better way to explain it. So I've gone about handling it way differently than I ever would have. Yes, this is new to me.

Before going AF, my initial reaction would have been to lose my mind, scream, probably punch a wall or someone (no, not a person or a wall) but cry. Then I would have marched right to the source, lost it on that person, and then to another person to defend myself and probably said things about the person that I would have regretted. After playing lunatic for a few hours, I would have stopped to buy wine or vodka, and drank myself silly. I would have gotten up today for work and felt like crap from the hangover, and even more crap for the way I immaturely acted the day before. No, I would not have gotten anything solved, and would have felt physically and emotionally a wreck. As it was, I took the news of what I found out first calmly, then I started to get angry, then I started to cry. Not for too long, though. I talked this out with a close girlfriend at work, and I told her to keep me from doing anything stupid. I promised her I would call her first if I wanted to email my boss, or worse, approach her - I didn't want to do either. That helped me. Then I told my story to loamers and they were able to give me feedback. So today, I'm not angry anymore, just really tired. I guess it's still on my mind and I'm tired of thinking about it. But just wanted to say, I didn't drink at that thing, person, or situation. If I would have done that, it would not have solved anything! I was able to use the tools I learned here for another different life situation. We can apply any of these great ideas to other areas of our lives. We just have to "do" it.

Kailey, you're doing exactly what you need to be doing. You could have regifted that bottle for a friend's birthday or saved it for a x-mas gift. I think SL had several bottles of wine that she received in the mail each month. Not sure what she did with them but I remember her talking about it. Over the weekend, it will be slow here, as NS said, but lots to read here, the toolbox, and I think Pav mentioned some good blogs - "Unpickeled, Stick a fork in me, I'm Done," and so many others you can connect to from there. There are also documentaries if you look on youtube and search alc documentaries, and then the Bubble Hour. Whatever you do, come here first, call someone, or skype!

Have a great day ladies.

[j-vo]

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Jane,
She's not very well-liked here. She's extremely loud, a know-it-all, and not a team player. She bullies the kids - the weak and defenseless, and basically has great ideas but never follows through on anything. So that's her in a nutshell.

[NoSugar]

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Hey, J-vo. Feeling down after a day of big emotional turmoil + handling it differently than you used to + having to go right back into that environment the next day seems pretty normal to me. Encounters like that are just exhausting and you did such an awesome job responding in a different (and better ) way. Go, you!

[scottish lass]

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Quick jump in - had a resiliency course today (in the middle of audit - very appropriate!) - but this poem was shared and it made me think of our journey!!:l:l
I think I am walking around my hole, on the way to finding a different street - lord knows I fell down the hole many times - even when I knew it was there!!:H

There's a Hole in My Sidewalk
"I walk down the street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I fall in.
I am lost... I am helpless.
It isn't my fault.
It takes forever to find a way out.

I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I pretend I don't see it.
I fall in again.
I can't believe I am in the same place.
But, it isn't my fault.
It still takes me a long time to get out.

I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I see it is there.
I still fall in. It's a habit.
My eyes are open.
I know where I am.
It is my fault. I get out immediately.

walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I walk around it.

I walk down another street.?
― Portia Nelson, There's a Hole in My Sidewalk: The Romance of Self-Discovery

[narilly]

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J-Vo, so great how you handled that differently and that you feel good about it and good about yourself. That is Real accomplishment.

Hey SL, I LOVE that poem! It is such a good analogy. That is exactly what this whole AL thing is like. Wow, thanks for posting that!

Let's keep walking around that hole.

its absoloutely nutters here at work. Always a crisis when we are working on a project.
xo

[scottish lass]

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J-vo, my monthly wine subscription that was gift from one of my team is sitting in the garage - I have given two bottles away and have 10 left! I smile at them every so often, stick my tongue out and feel proud, but could not have done that a while ago. It was a Christmas gift that broke my first quit! So Kailey, throwing it out is good move!
Jane - sorry she is still in your mind today! Not worthy of your energy my dear:l