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[j-vo]

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Nar,
First of all, congratulations to you and your son on his graduation!!!! What a big and emotional day for you! Oh, I have to confess...I think dreadlocks on young kids is a cool look. I hope he keeps them for awhile. And as far as DH, have you discussed your thoughts with therapist? I think this would be a really good topic to bring up either with you and DH or just you first. I know you have to be hurting and a bit apprehensive in regards to the situation, but it's not fair to you that you should have these feelings of insecurities when he's cranky. And these aren't just little insecurities. Hugs to you dear, and I hope you have a wonderful day.:l:h

Daisy, how did the dinner go? Or is it tonight? I can't remember!!! Hope you're doing well. Your building days, dear and that's so awesome.

Kailey, how are you today?

Acadia, what's happening dear?

Patrice, how is it going?

LB, anger that doesn't last as long is a huge improvement. Yep. We're going places dear friend.

Pav, thanks so much for that essay, and NS for providing the whole essay. I'm going to take more time to read it, as I think it's powerful and one that needs to be read slowly, bit by bit, and reflected upon while reading. I love learning so much through you ladies. And Pav, your son will get through these difficulties, and don't blame it on the fact that you work. I heard a tiny bit of guilt in your post. With two great role models, kids will still have difficulties, as that is the nature of life. It's our job to support them as they go through them and you're doing just that. We are our children's cheerleaders and mentors, and they have unbelievable strength and resilience. What I know is that every kid is different and that each child reaches a milestone when he/she is ready. Most do it within a certain range of time, but then there are outliers and they need a little extra time. Some need a little more support. And it's all ok. :l

Jane, how are you?

Have a great day ladies.

[scottish lass]

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Narilly - so sorry reading this post - hate sticking my nose in as I really don't know what I am talking about - but it seems that this still really hurts you - have you done anything to be able to move thru it? If it keeps coming up and causing pain it seems there maybe more work to do? You can't let him have the power to make you feel like this...you deserve more - and maybe he does too now it is 4 years ago?
Jane - my eyes are getting worse - eye appt is on my to do list....
Government has left the building - my dept is in the clear now I have to catch up on all the work I missed this week!
3 day weekend, and beginning of suummer here - I am on call all weekend, so likely on my computer a fair bit - please commit to checking in if feeling at all wobbly, we can all get thru these challenges, we just need to acknowledge the challenges!
TGIF Dear Loamers!
Today I feel Happy:l

[NoSugar]

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Jane, I thought of you today when I woke up and sleepily said to my husband, I wish I had a Coff of Cuppie :H!

[daisy45]

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J-vo, it is Saturday night.....just going to go down for a couple of hours - will stuff my face before I go and bring a couple of diet cokes with me.....
I think I have the backdrop finished - going to lay it out in a gym tomorrow to get a good look......it is bigger than my kitcen!

[Pavati]

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Hi, all:

Nar - congratulations to you and your son. Hope you have/had a wonderful day. I'm posting early because I'm skipping yoga today - my shoulder hurts and I'm giving it a week off.

Jane - sweet note. One of the things that kept me drinking longer than was perhaps advised was that "my personality doesn't change." I became more friendly and more funny (Hah!)). And to my husband, more kissy face as well. He wasn't too fond of the drunken Pavati, though he liked the slightly buzzed version whose inhibitions were a bit lowered. Ahem.

Oops, can't waffle now - have to go deal with my son's trip this weekend. Just got home.

More later.

xo
Pav

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:dog::beach::dog:

[NoSugar]

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I hope you and your pups are really on a beach, LB, relaxing and enjoying yourselves!

[narilly]

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Thanks girls for all the feed back on hubby. It is a complicated situation because he really did have a breakdown. What they call mid life crisis- it was a sort of nervous breakdown. He doesn't remember most of it now and the way he was acting back then was totally out of character like he was a different person.
I am not saying it is ok but just that it is not so black and white. I do still get worked up about it but then I have to accept that it happened and live day by day. It is over now and he loves me.
Although, like last night, I would like to kick his ass!

Enjoy your diet cokes Daisy!

SL, glad your audit went well. Now things can get back to normal.

I will think of you Jane tomorrow when I have my coffee!

NS xo



My son's graduation was nice. He looked good. I just love that kid! A group of us went for Dim Sum afterwards with the grads. It was fun. I love Dim Sum.

I ordered some made to measure flats today and was Super excited about that. A company here called Poppy Barley started by a couple of local girls. They measure your feet and then order made to fit shoes from their factory in Mexico where the people there are paid a fair wage and have good working conditions. The shoes have support and are super comfy, my cousin told me about them so I went and got measured up today. I love shoes

Hey, I am saving money not buying a couple of cases of wine a month right? That would be around $300 CDN. Since I turned 50, I bought a bunch of clothes and some shoes just to spiff up my wardrobe. I needed it and it makes me happy.

So now I can be happy and sober in my New clothes!

24C today in Calgary and lots of people out on balconies drinking and eating. I told my husband I was so grateful not to be drinking on a balcony. We went and sat on the balcony and had a burger and fries with water and a milk shake, mmmmm! No drinking thoughts, NONE at all! Amazing really.

I am using a keyboard so am able to type more, not like my iphone.

Anyway, I will talk to you beauties tomorrow!

[narilly]

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Ava, honey, I hope you are doing well. I can't wait for another Gazette. Are you feeling better? I don't think we will ever let you go to Thailand again, just sayin'
xo

[Kailey]

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Good morning! I woke up so excited this morning because it's day 7. I knew this quit was for good right from the start, but I'm still relieved to see that it's actually happening. I don't always post a lot, but believe me, this site, and you ladies in particular, are the reason it's working. That being said, I need to recognize that these are very early days yet and not let my guard down.

I hope everyone is doing well and that you have fun/relaxing/AF plans for this long weekend.

[daisy45]

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Woohoo Kailey! 7 days into the new you! Well done!

[Kailey]

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You, too, Daisy! Can you believe it? Were doing it!!

[Eloise]

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“The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new.” Socrates

I like ur quote Kailey.

[NoSugar]

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Hi, Eloise. I saw on another thread that you're feeling down. I hope that passes and that you can keep telling yourself that a drink will only make that worse over the long run. When other things are bad, it helps to have this specific area of your life to feel good about - to feel like you are strong and in control. And believe it or not, gaining control here will give it to you in other parts of your life, too. Over time (and you do have to give it time), many things that seem like unsolvable problems seem to sort themselves out.

Great job on 7 days, Kailey! You and Daisy really sound positive about this - and you should be! You are doing the best thing you can for yourselves right now. It isn't always easy but just about anything is easier than living the life of a regretful drinker, right? Over time, the good hours increase relative to the bad ones - just the opposite of before. I used to have about a 4 hour window in the day where I wasn't thinking about drinking, drinking, sleeping, or recovering. Now I have an occasional day where for a minute or 2 I might wish I could have a drink but it is not hard to dismiss the thought.

Ava and I were discussing that many people think the turnaround is quicker than it is. You have to give it time and realize that there are ups and downs and plateaus but the overall direction of change is positive. I feel great but it took 16 months (today ) to get here. So, don't get discouraged. Post if you do and get some support. There is always a better option than taking a drink and giving up everything you've gained, especially your self-respect.

:h NS

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Hi loamers

just a quick check in before i go to sleep and to say hello. Its been a busy and hectic week at work and with lovely liam. he finally woke up to himself and is now contributing more to the running of the household. When will he finally realise that if he does things then i dont turn into a bitch and his and my life run smoothly. It was a week of thinking of drinking but the choice was up to me and it was not a choice i was willing to take in that direction.

Kailey, 7 days a big congratulations on those days, the hardest 7 days i think i ever did and i was so proud when i did every day of the week. The first weekend was hell on wheels so good work and keep up the momentum, you will never regret not drinking.

Daisy you are a champion girl, i am very proud of you, plodding along, not drinking, getting on with life and doesnt it feel great not to wake with a hangover. I never want a hangover from hell again, blah.

Eloise hello, one day at a time, dont dwell on not drinking, just dont drink for today. That was my mantra in the early days and still is. I have the choice to drink every day, i just choose not to. Loved your quote and it is very true. I am starting to make small changes in my life, i have not been in a hurry as i have been busy protecting my quit but now i feel confident enough to be proud of everything i am doing and happy to do it. Dolly steps El, plod along, everyday is a great day if we dont drink.

NS wow 16 months that is huge my lovely friend and i admire you and look up to you so very much. You seem to say the right words to me when i need to hear them and i thank you for that. As you say it takes time to accept this af life and realise that drinking is not in the equation and we cant drown our sorrows with al anymore and we have to learn to deal with all the shit that is thrown at us.

This week i will have a confrontation with my office manager as i moved MY computer to where i want it and he does not want it there so i can see shit hitting the fan and his subtle tactics of bullying will be thrown in but i am strong enough to not be walked over anymore. Those days are gone, nearly 200 of them. I am anxious but only due to the fact that i really cant tell him to "fuck off" as i need my job. HR and the threat of the Professor having a meeting with us should just do the trick.

Well so much for that short post, sigh.

Nar i am ok, still getting headaches from this virus but starting to catch up on housework and managed a full week at work. Back to the grind again. Thanks for asking.

Hope everyone is well and i know everyone is sober! Hi Pat and Roxy, so glad to see you girls checking in and hope you are both doing great. Each day we dont drink is good. It takes awhile to "get it" but when it happens it makes the fight so much easier to deal with. Where the hell is LC