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[Eloise]

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hey NS.
hm. feeling slightly better. work has always been a real motivator for me and i have not done much of that for two years now. hard to believe. this is also really playing on my self-confidence to be honest.
i have been feeling terrible but not because of no wine, believe me. i am actually afraid to drink because who knows what road it might bring me down? don't trust myself at this stage to be perfectly honest.
time. it takes time. making a new life takes time too. i feel like just now i cannot handle one more challenge or change. nothing else. and when things do pop up i freak.
thanks for ur post, it did help to read it. time.

[Eloise]

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congrats on ur progress available.
oh, and nice post. time. yes. time. tick tock, tick tock.

[NoSugar]

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You can bounce non-al related concerns off people here, if you want to, Eloise. We've had some good brain-storming sessions. We've all discovered that life was there just waiting for us to show up .

[scottish lass]

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Morning - on my phone, so a quick one......well, hmmm - I only do quick posts regardless of what I am using :H oh well, it's my excuse and I sticking to it!
Up last night with a really sad work situation - life is precious ladies, so glad we are all trying to make the best of it!
Kailey - you sound good, very well done:l
Nar - glad yesterday was so good, and seeing you were sober, lots of memories too!
Pav - what's your sons trip?
Hi Ava, NS, Daisy, Jane, LB, Eloise and everyone else. I am sure I will be back later - work is calling

[daisy45]

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Thanks Ava and NoSugar; feeling really good......just gotta keep at it. Where would I be if you all weren't here?! But here I am and so grateful to you guys for leading the way.......
Eloise, you sound a little better - is there maybe an old hobby that you could restart, or take up a new one - can be very therapeutic....

[j-vo]

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El, so glad you decided to join us here!!! And our moods fluctuate just like non-drinkers moods do. It's normal to have ups and downs. Just because we don't have drink in hand doesn't mean our lives are going to be perfect, as there is no perfect anywhere with anyone. Do you think you may have a slight depression? Your change was pretty significant as I remember, moving to a new country? Have you seen a doc about it? Hugs to you and keep coming back here. Lots of great ladies here and we want to share this journey with you.

Kailey, congratulations on 7 days!!!!!! I hope you got your prize from Byrdie! That's huge for sure. And you're sounding fan-flippin-tastic!

Daisy, so glad your backdrop is complete! That has to be a great feeling of accomplishment. I'll be thinking of you tonight. You have a great plan in place for your dinner out and that's exactly what it takes-creating a plan and sticking to it. Let us know how your backdrop looks - can you take a picture and post?

Kailey, El, as NS said, gaining control of this will spill over into other areas of your life. She used to tell me that, and I wanted to believe her - seeing is believing, right? Well, it is true. Not drinking, and all f the positive affects of not drinking work their way into our whole life. We gain confidence where we never had it. It's like, "hey, where'd that come from!" We gain the ability to see clearly, feel emotionally balanced, and in control of ourselves. We relate to others so much better, and make daily decisions without second guessing ourselves. It's like our blood flows through our veins to all parts of our bodies at 100 percent with no obstructions. Or something like that. Whatever it is, taking Al out of our life does affect us in all areas of our lives in a positive way.

LB, are you at the beach with your pooches? Have a great time!

Jane, I'm a letter-writer!!!! I just wrote DS a letter about some things that I wanted to communicate with him. When I try to talk to him, he just has this look on his face, like "this is stupid, mom!" so I figure if I can write it down then I'll get out what i want to say to him without him looking at me like that. I've written numerous letters to DH as well. I feel I do my best communication through writing. BTW, I'm having a coff of cuppie!

SL, glad your audit is over and was good! Have a great three-day weekend.

Pav, hope your arm heals and you can get back into your yoga. I'm looking into Chalene Johnsons's new DVD called PiYo. I have other DVD's of hers and really like them. PiYo is Pilates and Yoga low impact.

Nar, shoes and clothes make my life so much better!!!! I buy a pair of shoes and all my problems go away! I'm giving you extra hugs.

Ava, glad you got through that week from hell. Imagine if you had the same week and you were drinking like you were. How would you have gotten through it? You would have felt a thousand times worse. You're holding Liam accountable as he should. I don't think that would have happened had you been drinking. Your not drinking is spilling over into your children's lives too. And even though they may not say they're proud of you like in the early days, they are and we are.

NS, congratulations on 16 months! Wow, and woot! woot! You are an incredible woman and such a great leader here. We got so lucky when you showed up here. Thank you for all your invaluable advice, guidance, support, and love. You rock, sista Loamer.

Today is a beautiful day in my neck of the woods. Tonight DH and I are going to an MLB game with brother and sister-in law. Brother-in-law got tickets for the Miller Box which will serve free food and drinks. Now, that would have gotten me a little concerned before, but not now. I'm so excited, as it's really cool going to a game and hanging out in one of those beautiful rooms, and it's going to be beautiful outside. The park we're going to is one of the nicest in the country. So I have lots to enjoy and more as I won't be clouding my mind with alcohol. I'll get to enjoy dessert as well! So have a great day girls, and Kailey, Daisy, and El, keep coming back.

[Pavati]

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MAE, All:

j-vo;1664236 wrote:
As NS said, gaining control of this will spill over into other areas of your life. She used to tell me that, and I wanted to believe her - seeing is believing, right? Well, it is true. Not drinking, and all f the positive affects of not drinking work their way into our whole life. We gain confidence where we never had it. It's like, "hey, where'd that come from!" We gain the ability to see clearly, feel emotionally balanced, and in control of ourselves. We relate to others so much better, and make daily decisions without second guessing ourselves. It's like our blood flows through our veins to all parts of our bodies at 100 percent with no obstructions. Or something like that. Whatever it is, taking Al out of our life does affect us in all areas of our lives in a positive way.

Yes, yes, yes, J-Vo! I kept thinking - no way. I'm together enough. I'm confident enough. I just am a little shy, or I am overly sensitive, etc. Well, getting the booze out of my life has really made a difference in ALL aspects of it. I guess I never would have believed it if I didn't get to experience it. I wonder if our saying it over and over again here on MWO will make an impression on anyone sometimes.

I guess I approached getting sober with blind faith - I just figured that if I followed the successful sober people I would become one, too. I didn't always believe or feel it, but I just kept (keep) following.

Have a great time at the game - we're going to an MLB game this weekend, too. Seems we both have baseball in the blood. We watched Bull Durham with DS last night - my goodness there is a lot of sex and swearing that I didn't quite remember...

Eloise - so glad you're here with us! Kailey - Seven days! As they say in the nest, now you've gotten through all seven days sober, and with such a positive attitude. I spend a considerable amount of time remaining vigilant against complacency that could lead to relapse. I read a lot about it and really enjoy the Bubble Hour podcast.

Daisy - Congratulations on finishing your backdrop - sounds like a satisfying project to finish.

SL - Sorry about your work. That must be such a difficult part of it.

LB - Beach with the doggies sounds (looks) divine.

Nar - Glad the graduation went well. I was super stressed out this week by my son's struggles in school (only 6th grade) - it is good for me to see/hear you speak about your son. You seem like such a great and easy going parent. My older son is off (camping with a friend) - he is definitely drifting toward being an adult who doesn't need us as much. Very gratifying to see him so independent, but also a little sad to see him go... Is your son off to university in the fall?

NS - 16 months is such an accomplishment! Yours are the footsteps I am talking about following above.

Ava - Sorry about the fwad at work (or is that name only applicable to ex husbands?). WTF could he care about where your computer is? Glad you and Liam have buried the hatchet! I am looking forward to celebrating six months - on June 2. Although sometimes the days fly by, I feel like I am creeping toward this milestone.

OK - My DH just woke up and is taking us all to breakfast (well, leading the charge). I can't decline a good piece of bacon. Sorry for everyone I missed. Back later...

xo
Pav

[roxane]

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I've seen it written on this site quite a few times, 'I didn't drink because I would let you all down'.
Now, we all know that the person is letting themselves down, if anyone, I'm not sure that's even the right phrase.

But, I get it. I do. You know that people are looking out for you, they care to some degree or other. Even if its just the collective soberness that's being protected, we are all in this together.

I'm not sure that I wouldn't have got drunk these last two days if I hadn't thought of the support from mwo. I don't feel I could throw it in mwo's face.

Alcoholism is a lonely addiction with a massive amount of members in its club, mwo makes me feel less alone.

[daisy45]

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Roxanne, it is the power of the people, teamwork! There is a really positive vibe on this site right now - so nice to be a part of it - it definitely encourages me to keep going! You are doing so well!

[NoSugar]

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Like Daisy said on another thread, Roxy, with all the support offered to her, she felt like it would be rude to drink. That just cracked me up :H!

[roxane]

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Yes, daisy put it more succinctly.

[NoSugar]

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I guess, Roxy, the thing is that it is so profoundly life-changing to get free of this, you just want everyone who has expressed the desire to do so to make it. I do care whether you, the individual, kicks this addiction. It doesn't matter that I haven't met you or know your real name. I truly hope that the woman known as Roxy does what it takes to be free. The group is what gives the individual the strength to succeed.

I thought this article I read today about fire ants was a great metaphor for all of this:

The incredible floating fire ant

When in danger of drowning, a colony of the critters ? thousands of them ? will save themselves by joining forces and forming a raft. They pile together and lock legs and jaws.

So bound, an ant raft can survive for months.

Engineers studying animal oddities now report that together, the ants aren?t just stronger. They?re floatier. Airtight, even.

?Water does not penetrate the raft,? said Nathan Mlot, a mechanical engineer at the Georgia Institute of Technology and lead author of the ant-raft report published in Monday?s Proceedings of the National Academies. Even the bottom layer of ants stays dry, he said.

Individual fire ants, when dropped in water, struggle and flail, ...

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roxane;1664259 wrote: I've seen it written on this site quite a few times, 'I didn't drink because I would let you all down'.
Now, we all know that the person is letting themselves down, if anyone, I'm not sure that's even the right phrase.

But, I get it. I do. You know that people are looking out for you, they care to some degree or other. Even if its just the collective soberness that's being protected, we are all in this together.

I'm not sure that I wouldn't have got drunk these last two days if I hadn't thought of the support from mwo. I don't feel I could throw it in mwo's face.

Alcoholism is a lonely addiction with a massive amount of members in its club, mwo makes me feel less alone.

Very well said Rox. I know that i could have quite easily had a bottle of wine last week but i could not let myself down nor could i let the "team" down on mwo. We have all invested time and energy into helping each other and no-one understands an alky like a fellow alky. As we get more days ahead and start helping others, i feel like, how could i let anyone down, and me, when here i am trying to give wonderful, helpful advice as only Ava can do (bullshit thrown in there).

For example if NS posted that she had had a drink, we would be all speechless to say the least (for a few mins NS). What happened, why didnt she ask for help, why, why why. But NS makes her own choices and we are here to help her, along with herself to stay sober. Would we judge her? No. Would we feel her pain? Yes. Would we support her again? Of course. We are all human, we all make mistakes but in this journey we all so dont want to fail as it will only lead to pain and misery and a life that we never want to have to experience again.

This is why being accountable on MWO is my AA and making wonderful cyber friends who totally understand what being an alcoholic entails makes it so much easier.

You my friend are doing so well and i am pretty farking proud of you.

[scottish lass]

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roxane;1664259 wrote: I've seen it written on this site quite a few times, 'I didn't drink because I would let you all down'.
Now, we all know that the person is letting themselves down, if anyone, I'm not sure that's even the right phrase.

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Rox - I totally agree with you, but I think we are a group who put themselves at the bottom of the pile, and seem quite comforatble to let ourselves down - but letting others down comes hard to us - so if that is what works until we get stronger, and allow our self esteem to grow, then we are able to make it more about us...
Pav - yum, bacon!!!!!

Go Team Loam!!!

[narilly]

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Goodnight girls.
I don't have time to read all the posts so will check in tomorrow an respond to Daisy, Kailey (doing do well) , J-Vo at the ball game, Pav, my son is taking a Gap year and then University. So you had bacon this morning? Nice!

NS, you are racking up the days! Congrats!

SL, sorry bad things are happening. You are doing so well not turning to AL. We have all come so far!

Ava, so good to read the Gazette. Kick Farquads ass on Monday! Glad you worked it out with your son.

Eloise, glad your here, one day at a time right?

Roxy Roller, glad to hear from you! Xo babe

I went all crazy and planted a zillion flowers in my garden today. Our growing season is only 4 months so we go all out when we can. Of course I did too much and now I am just bagged so Nitey night.
It was a great sober Saturday for sure.

Ok, I talked way more than planned...haha!
Xo