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[narilly]

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Lol! I bet it was freezing! That is funny that you dreamt you visited me last night. I think of you often, we must be in sinc. I told my hubby that I wanted to go to Australia to visit my friend Ava sometime. He said "you would go all the way down there to meet someone?". I said "hell ya!"

Lil B, you have helped me so many times and I hope we can all help you through whatever you are going through. Hang in there sweetie. So good you are so strong in your quit because as you know AL never helped any of us.

Daisy, glad you are doing so well. Kailey too

xo

[NoSugar]

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Pavati;1664874 wrote: NS - Even though I did it once, I can't remember how to post a picture in the text. I did it without photo bucket - how do you put those pictures in?
There probably are several ways to do it. If I find an image online that isn't too huge, I just put the coding before and after the URL:
[img]pasted URL here[/img] .
If you need to resize the image, save it to your device first. For those, or any of your own images, go to TinyPic - Free Image Hosting, Photo Sharing & Video Hosting. There you can resize it and get a URL (they include the coding so you don't even have to add it if you choose the size for web posts). You sometimes have to endure an ad but they aren't that long.

I generally preview and make sure it works before posting.

Let me know if that doesn't work for you and I'll try to explain better.

available;1664970 wrote:

What are we starting to eat healthy now, bloody eggs, gees Rox we need chocolate and more chocolate. I think NS is trying to get into our head to eat healthy. I will go the bacon with mine also.

I eat bacon. And dark chocolate. .


i had a dream i visited you last night Nar and we had to sleep on lounge cushions with thermal sleeping bags and i had to share a double sleeping bag with someone, not sure who that was. it was bloody freezing.

It was me :l! I'm a big-time cuddler so you'd better look out!

Congratulations on 7 months, Giraffe. They just keep adding up, don't they? Like I wrote earlier, it won't bug you so much to listen to people wax poetic about the merits of various types of booze as time goes on. Actually, if you really listen, it sounds kind of silly. I think a lot of it is an attempt to "normalize" consuming a known poison. I used to participate in all that talk and tried to believe it --- that I drank because I was knowlegable about wine, I appreciated the subtle nuances of particular ones, I was sophisticated, and I appreciated the health benefits. All BS .

LB, I hope you can spend some time on your own or with your daughter and have a chance to think about what you want and need.

Hope all of you in the US had a nice holiday weekend. I traveled and really enjoyed being with family. Home now and have a computer not just a tablet and so am a bit chattier .

[j-vo]

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Nar, I think about how life will change for me and DH is two years. We've made lots of friends that DS has played baseball and basketball with, and therefore, we've been together for many events. But that's all going to change when they graduate HS. I'll always have my close friends that I've had over the years, and I'm not ever leaving you girls.

NS, Glad you had a nice family weekend! I don't know that I'm neutral about being around alcohol just yet. I think, though that I've probably been reluctant to go certain places as it would be a little too hard for me. This weekend was a great test, as I was around booze a lot. I think it was a good test, as I felt happy doing what we were doing, and alcohol being there didn't freak me out or even better, it didn't put me in a bad mood or make me feel deprived. I was able to enjoy company, the game, and just having a pleasant time. I can't say I was able to do that even while I was drinking. I was either too blitzed out of my mind or worried about my next drink.

Pav, I was at the pity party, but just for a little, as it was too sad for me to be there!

SL, did you just place a bunch of strawberries in plain water with mint? Sounds so healthy and good!

Daisy, loved your story you posted in NN! And I'm eggstatic that you're going to give it another go! Yep, I'm eating my way out of this as well, and that's just fine.

Ava, I wanna snuggle, too. Move over NS!!!

Giraffe, congrats to you on 7 months!!! That is soooo wonderful!!!!!inkele: (I hope elephants and giraffes get along!)

[little beagle]

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Giraffe 7 months is really great.
sorry ladies. Holidays are tough at my house. I was so angry that I don't think I was civilized there for awhile, but my emotions are starting to even out again.
One Day At A Time around here.

[MossRose]

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Hi friends. It's been a while since I dropped in here, but as our wonderful NS keeps reminding me - going it alone is not a good option for me. When I get upset, I tend to isolate. When I isolate, I drink. Not a good idea. So, I am going to try to stay connected. And I can't think of any other people in the world that I would rather stay connected to than all of you. I have so much reading to do, because I know I have missed some interesting and inspiring posts. I just hate that I'm always down and feel like I shouldn't "infect" this thread with my endless problems. So, I'm going to vent a bit tonight, and then I will try to recapture some of the happiness I used to feel when I first arrived here and got myself sober. I owe you all so much. You have done so much for me.

I actually had dinner guests tonight - my sons. It was the first time I have smiled in months. I have been feeling a bit down because I didn't see (or hear) from either of them on Mother's Day. That put me into a downward spiral. Especially since I saw their posts on FB (I know I shouldn't look), and they were both busy having a good time with other people's mothers. I know that sounds petty, but I was so hurt. I had to fight very, very hard not to climb back into a bottle. Anyway, tonight was nice. I loved seeing them, but I don't really hold out a lot of hope anymore than things will ever be right again. I'm going to have to find another way. My sons aren't coming back. So now what? That was how I always defined myself - wife, mother, daughter. Now I am lost. Well, I am still a daughter.

And, I am trying to be a good one right now. My parents are struggling with my brother's illness. He is only one week into treatment (5 radiation treatments, 1 chemo) and yesterday, he looked terrible. He's down to 100 pounds already. I honestly don't know if he can withstand the treatments. I am trying to spend time with him when possible (he lives about an hour and 15 minutes away from me, so it's not always that easy for me to just pop in for visit but I'm doing as much as I can).

Anyway, you can see now, why I don't post here much anymore. I am such a downer. But I really don't have anyone to talk to. I have dear friends but they are all busy with their families. Plus I am tired of leaning on them. I just feel so very alone right now. I would give anything to have someone to come home to. But I don't, so again, I need to learn a new way. So thanks for listening. . xxxxx to all of you.

[Kailey]

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Mossrose, please keep coming back, and post whatever is on your mind. I remember being with my dad when he was dying and it was so all consuming. I couldn't understand how the rest of the world could just keep functioning as it nothing was going on. It was a lonely, dark time for me. I wish I had had a place like this to let my hair down.

[available]

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Oh MR you know you can always talk to us, you are part of the family and always will be. You are going through a lot of shit at the moment so its hard to find anything to be happy about. You can be happy because you are sober and you can be happy that you wake everyday without an al fogged brain. You can be happy that you are now sober and hopefully in time your relationship will repair with your boys. There are lots of little things to be happy about Moss, just pick one a day.

You have always tried to be a good mother and daughter and wife Moss, no one is perfect and we all make mistakes. I know i have but i am realising now that i am a good person too, it takes time after living in an al fog.

I am sending you big hugs and take care.
xxx

[scottish lass]

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I also eat bacon and chocalte, but have not managed to try them together, does not work for me!
Yes, just put water and strawberries and mint together and let it steep - I had found a series of "recipes" for different flavoured waters a while ago j-vo, i can send your way if you wish. My fav is lemon, lime, cucumber and mint
Moss - as we have said to LB, please join in warts and all - that is the strength of thsi thread, it is not all sunshine and joy, we are living real lives! I had a blue time a while back and it was due to Mothers Day too - and a lack of recognition - I felt very selfish and embarrassed, but it was the way I felt and it put me in a funk for sure.
Saw a quote today that I like,sent it to a friend, but it works here too..

respect yourself enough to walk away from ANYTHING that no longer serves you, grows you, or makes you HAPPY....

Easier said than done, but a good aim....and wine needs walking away from for sure...

[narilly]

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Mossy, please don't worry about posting here. What you are talking about is life! It can't always be roses. We all go through bad times and that's ok. That's why we are here, to support each other. I can imagine how hard Mothers Day was for you, I think sometimes boys are a little clueless about that kind of stuff. My son certainly did nothing but he still lives at home st least.
So sorry about your brother, that sucks. Cancer sucks. My hubby keeps going to get checked, so far so good. He had part of his descending colon removed 3 years ago due to cancer.

Moss, just to reiterate, thanks for coming back.

J-Vo, Ava, NS, a sleepover it is! I don't think we will be cold, not with all of us in one room.

Has anyone heard from Humble?

Xo

[narilly]

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SL, cross post! Bacon goes with anything, they have a bacon and peanut bitter gelato flavor at the gelato place down the street. YUM!
I am so glad you are doing so well hon.

Big hug,

[Pavati]

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Hi, Ladies:

Now I KNOW I picked the right group here - bacon! chocolate! bacon AND chocolate! I'm in.

Moss - please, please post here - especially when you're feeling down. Mental relapse starts by withdrawing from help. Life is hard, and going alone is hard. I know it doesn't sound like fun, but one thing I have tried to do is to be open with my family about expectations - for example "It is Mother's Day tomorrow - I want to have breakfast with you four, go on a hike and hang out at the beach." They wouldn't dare say no. Not as romantic or Julia Roberts-ish, but I get what I want and need. Maybe you could ask your kids for what you need - maybe one of them could occasionally drive with you to see your brother, for example. Of course they have their own lives, too, but I think you need support now as well. Hang with us - we'll keep you company.

LB - Sorry you're having a bad time - One Day at a Time for sure. Take care!

If there's a slumber party in Calgary, count me in. As I've said before, I snore, so I'll bring extra ear plugs for you all. I was hoping that would go away when I quit drinking, but the ears/nose/throat doctor says I was made to snore. Poor DH. I'll probably end up with one of those nose breathing machines. Between that and my mouth guard, how will DH ever resist??

Haven't heard from Humble. I think about her and hope she's well. I tried a PM.

Ava - I'm counting 6 calendar months which means I'll be celebrating on June 2 (a week from today). I don't know why it isn't days this time, but I agree with you that this 20 days is inching by. Speeding by and inching by at the same time. Maybe we should celebrate 180 days AND 6 calendar months - a week long party. I'll bring the bacon.

I am not immune to alcohol - especially if I smell beer on a hot day or wine with good food. I am not a connoisseur at all, but those are trigger moments for me. It is getting better, for sure, but having it all around me this weekend was not "nothing." I long for that day, NS...

J-Vo - I think about that empty nest, too. My oldest is 15 and is going away for four weeks this summer - I'll definitely miss him! I think it will be a great stage of life - to see the kids go out and be successful adults, but definitely bittersweet. That's why we live for today, right?

I am very tired - as usual, I need another weekend day to do housework and rest, but I guess that's for later in life.

Good night, ladies.

xo
Pav

[giraffe1234]

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Moss, nice to see you hear again - missed you!

Ava, NS, J-vo, LB - thanx for the messages and congrats - much appreciated, and good advice filed and stored firmly in my now clear head.

Somebody mentioned having a healthy fear of relapse. I am trying to tone done my extreme fear of relapse into that healthy fear.

Hope you all have a lovely day!

[roxane]

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Veels geluk giraffe!

sorry i missed it, i was too busy falling flat on my face.

[little beagle]

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Mossrose I am so excited to see you posting here. Sure it isn't all sunshine and roses, and that's why I love this place. It isn't suppose to be and no one pretends it is. You and I have a lot in common. I isolated myself this weekend because I didn't want to be a downer this holiday weekend. But I wasn't able to even speak coherently, let alone type. But I did talk to someone. My daughter.
Ladies the thing that makes me the maddest is no action. Not doing anything about a huge problem. Admitting the enormity of the problem and then sitting back and doing nothing. Grrrrrrr!!!!!! Like saying "Oh I am out of groceries" and then going out and sitting on the patio. ???? Well how is that going to stock your fridge? Yes that is hubby's problem. A real Farquad to be sure.
Roxy I admire you for not doing the above. Keep at it.
Bacon and chocolate? I'm not sure about that combination.

[MossRose]

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Thanks for the warm welcome back. Pav, I love your advice to just be brave and ask for what I want or need rather than expecting others to read my mind. That doesn't come easy for me. But, I doubt that either of my sons realize how I feel, so holding them accountable is unfair in many ways. It's time for me to learn to speak up.

LB, sorry you are having a tough time right now. I know we are both isolators, so I totally understand where your mind goes when you get overwhelmed by emotions. Too bad we live 12 states apart. You also gave me excellent advice although you were speaking about your husband...admitting a problem and then doing nothing about it is useless, and infuriating to others. Yet another area I need to work on.

Wow - it's nice to be back. Ava, Kailey, SL & Nar - your support and friendship helped get me through a rough night. Thanks for letting me whine. I can't tell you how much better I feel this morning.

Giraffe - it sounds like you are still doing great. Seven months. Woo-hoo. Good for you.

Plus, bacon and chocolate and sleep-overs! Count me in!