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[narilly]

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Wow, I just lost my post. Using my phone is not so easy.
Lil B you must really love your hubby a lot. I am the same way, he drives me crazy but I love him.

J-Vo, let's kick these women in the ass! I'll come down and help.

SL, vanilla ice cream and hot fudge, YUM!! My fave.

Pat, so glad to hear from you.

Mossy, xo

I was thinking when I was walking home after work. I used to think about what I was going to do on the weekend so I didn't drink and figure out how to avoid drinking during the weekend. Now I just think about what plans I have on the weekend and drinking is not even part of my thoughts. I just know I am not going to drink. I don't drink so don't really think about it.
This is a real shift in thinking for me and it is incredible, I love it.

Anyway goodnight sweet ladies.

Pav, x post again?

[Pavati]

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Hey Ho, Ladies: (not calling you 'ho's, mind you)

I returned to the scene of the crime tonight - a bar where a local band was playing. The last time I was there was the Friday night before I quit drinking (technically I quit on a Sunday afternoon (gross) but that's another story) on the Monday. I was nursing a bad hangover from Thanksgiving and so had a couple of beers throughout the day to try to feel better. Drank three strong drinks and got pie eyed for the whole town to behold. SO glad I'm over that. And yet being in that scene - a Thursday night, among friends, hanging out - I felt a little out of place. I know I am exhausted and have to get up early for work (another great reason to not be drinking), but I didn't quite know how to muscle in and start chit chatting. I stayed for a short while (enough to be seen - I'm NOT a bump on a log), and then came home to a scoop of vanilla ice cream with chocolate sauce (sorry, Nar and SL - I had to celebrate early). I'm ok now, but still a tad out of sorts...

Ava! 180! I am so proud of you, my friend. I'll celebrate with you big time when you reach 6 calendar months as well...

J-Vo! 60 is another great milestone. As NS says, we all got sober in the early 2010's. I know you struggled in the 50s before - so happy to see you past that. Love hearing how strong you are.

Nar - that sounds great. Mostly that's how I feel, too. Such a relief!

LB - So scary about that car crash. So glad you're ok.

Patrice - Welcome back and settle in. Glad you see you again. I miss waking up to your and Ava's late night conversations (and now Roxy's in on it, too).

Kailey - don't worry about long posts - short will do. Just remember to keep coming. It DOES help to write out what you are feeling even if you don't answer everyone's posts. We all do that. In time, we talk to each other. That is the beauty of a sober group - we can help you work out your thoughts (or writing them down can).

And on that note, I won't answer everyone's posts tonight - just a quick check in. I am officially 180 days tomorrow as it is still Thursday here. I'll celebrate big time with 6 calendar months - June 2.

Pav

[little beagle]

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Is it offically tomorrow Pav? Who cares! 180 days is wonderful!!! Yeah. I'm not much for bar scenes either. I still feel uncomfortable around people drinking for the sake of getting drunk.
Narilly that wonderful shift in thinking. The celebration of the weekend. No drinking worries. Just what to do in that lovely time. I know how that feels.
Kailey it's just good to see you feeling positive.
Doggies need rain coats. Raining here this morning. We haven't gotten THAT much. Some have fared worse. Snakes washed up in unusual places, coffins floating out of cemeteries. Yes we bury above ground for a reason.

[patrice]

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Hey girls,
Just checking in, everyone seems to be good and doing well ! Yay
I'm exhausted and sober, yay again
So off to bed real soon
Xx
Pat

[Kailey]

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patrice;1666254 wrote: Hey girls,
Just checking in, everyone seems to be good and doing well ! Yay
I'm exhausted and sober, yay again
So off to bed real soon
Xx
Pat

Awesome, Patrice! It's so hard to get started and you've done it!

[patrice]

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Hey thanks Kailey... You are so right , it's so difficult to get started again.
Xx

[NoSugar]

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Moss, is there a website that shows your chandelier project?? That sounds really cool. I'm always making one thing or another and love to see what other people do. My weekend (and today, too, if I don't have too much work to do) involves some gardening (read: WEEDING!) and working on a bracelet that I'm making.

Great job on 180 days, Pav. At this point, it is alot easier to celebrate months, isn't it? So, your bash on Monday is the one not to miss.

Your description of how you felt at the crime scene is familiar. There are certain things I really don't enjoy as much now. These particularly are events that I don't think are that great in the first place (e.g. after work happy hours) so losing the "perk" of a couple glasses of wine and the resulting haze that masks the boredom is really obvious - and sort of depressing. It helps if something I like is going on (like the music). When going isn't an obligation of some sort, I've found that I just don't go or leave early. On the upside, I enjoy almost every other aspect of my life more now so the trade-off is more than worth it.

Have a great MAE, Friends.

:h NS

[j-vo]

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Thanks to all of you girls for carrying me, walking with me on these last 60 days!

Nar, 47 days is awesome. This complacency thing is huge. We cannot ever let go of that idea and stay aware, and we can't let go of each other. So glad you have that shift in thinking from "How will I not drink, what will I do, how much will I allow myself to drink (knowing all too well that I never followed through with my promises), to "I can't wait to do this or that" and drinking doesn't even come into the picture. So cool.

Patrice, day two...well, three! Stay close dear!

Moss, the chandelier sounds so awesome! Shabby, chic and glitzy! I wanna see a pic! I would love to do something like that! You're sounding much more at peace. And what a lovely gesture for that woman to go and have a talk with you brother. There's a lot of good in people and at times of need, we see it more. Just like we need each other here, and we give as much as we can. But kindness on that level is lovely.

Dottie, good luck with your house on the market. It's hard when it's all on you. Good thing DH is there to help you.

Kailey, this is a life-affirming thread. Everyone is so strong, but then when we're not, we can hold each other up. It's ok to experience the range of emotions and much easier when you can share them with each other.

Lb, yes, these women are obnoxious. Karma...Thanks for having my back Lil B. And you'll find that balance. That's what I'm working on, too. But I think it'll come much easier without Al in the picture. Snakes and coffins!!!!! O MY!

Pav, those situations will leave us being a tad out of sorts from time to time. It was such a part of us for so long. I don't know how long or if we'll ever be able to hang out in a bar without feeling a bit of that tug. I, frankly, don't wanna hang out in a bar where the focus is just alcohol. But sometimes that will be the case, and we just have to muddle through. Congrats on 180!!!!!!!!!

Daisy, giraffe, SL, Roxy (thanks for my picture!) Ava, Jane, El, NS, Pat, and all Pretty Loamers, have a great day.

[scottish lass]

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Hi - checking in before my day gets off and running - was my BD yesterday, and I was ok with not drinking, but did have some sense of mourning - I have to admit I do miss a glass of wine, do not miss the whole bottle, but most definatley the first one
Glad all are doing well and keep getting the count in the right direction.
Lots of love for (good) vanilla and choc sauce here.
HAPPY 180 days (today) Pav!!

[daisy45]

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J-vo, well done on 60 days! You not only got yourself there but are helping take us with you - thank you! You are a star!
And Pav, congratulations to you - half a year! Can't even imagine what that feels like........you two are rockin it!

[giraffe1234]

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Hi to all the lovely, committed and courageous LOAMERS!

It's Friday evening here, weekend! Driving to North West Province tomorrow to visit my daughters and my ex-mother-in-law (she is 91, and one amazing lady); will be back Sun evening.

J-vo - loved that advice note on your post: remember why you held on to recovery for so long.

xox

[Pavati]

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Hi, Everyone:

Thanks, Jane. Sweet sentiment, and I agree with the all for one, one for all mentality around here. I had a drinking dream last night - not a happy place to be, but once again the worst part was negotiating with myself how to come here and let you all know. How I would have to start counting from Day 1 again...

HAPPY BIRTHDAY, SL! I hope you had a great one, and that your daughters took good care of you! Looking forward to the big fiesta tomorrow...

J-Vo - I am home with a sick kid and have to miss a planned pub crawl with good friends tonight. I am actually a little relieved that I won't have to do that. I love these people and have hung out in bars with them since I quit, but it seems like a lot of effort right now...

NS - It WAS the music that was the draw last night, but I was too tired to really appreciate it anyway, so there was no buffer for all the drinking. Thursday nights are hard to make any effort!

Yikes, LB - I never thought about that aspect of all that rain - coffins floating around... Reminds me that our cats are buried in the back yard, and once an over-zealous gardening effort uncovered some bones...

Giraffe - Have a great trip!
Kailey - How's your Friday??
Patrice - Day 2??
Nar - How are you celebrating THIS weekend?
Dot - Glad you stopped by!
Daisy - Thanks for the love. Hope you're staying strong (and dry!)

OK, Loamers. Off to take care of sick DS. I'll probably be around tonight as I'll be staying home with him.

xo
Pav

[j-vo]

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Congratulations Pav!!!! You're such an inspiration and always post with care. I appreciate you so much!

Giraffe, have a great weekend trip!

SL, happy belated birthday, and tomorrow...it's a big, huge 100!!!!!! Can't wait for your party!

Thanks Daisy!

Hi Jane!

[daisy45]

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Ah Scotlass, hope you had a great birthday and got loads of love and pressies!

[available]

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Happy birthday SL, hope you had the best sober birthday. I think we have had way too many pissed ones so these sober ones are pretty damn special. xx