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[narilly]

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Hi Gals!
Pav, my son is taking a gap year so he will be sticking around I think. My daughter is off to another province in September for University. Taking Biological Sciences...we will see what she does. She is interested in Naturopathy but you never know what happens in Uni.
So glad you are doing so well. I think I listened to that pod cast but I have to check. I have listened to them all I think and a few multiple times.

DB, The Bubble Hour, check it out! These women put some wonderful podcasts together and they are SO helpful. I found the one with Dr John Kelly the most helpful for me. Check them out sweetie pie.
Of course your hubby thinks Pedi's are a waste of time, he is a MAN! Go for it Dottie, they are awesome!

I am planting my Daisy's today (I will think of you Daisy). It is a beautiful sunny day here and I am BBQ'ing chicken for supper with roasted beets and brussel sprouts, sweet potato and smashed potatoes. Then I have leftovers for work all week. I have been trying not to buy lunch too many times a week to save money (and calories).

So I am 50 days tomorrow and it has been super easy. I don't mean to sound glib. but this time I really know I am not going to drink. Before, I did not have it out of my mind. The door was slightly ajar, I thought I might have a drink or two sometime, obviously I could quit If I wanted to.
This time I don't have that feeling. A large part is due to my new knowledge of addiction through Dr. Kelly. From what science says, moderation, is pretty rare once you have an AL problem.
I remember him saying "once you are a pickle, you cannot turn back into a cucumber". I know I am a pickle!

NS, thank you for all your advice in the past and pushing me to do better. All of you, thank you.

Anyway, off to do some gardening.
Love you girls,
xo

[little beagle]

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Pav that post really resonated with me. The acceptance part. I am still working on that. Oh I accept that I can't drink. I has trouble accepting that my life is still so hard even though I don't. With everyone it is something different. We all have frustrations that are painful and or difficult to deal with. These things just didn't disappear when we stopped, did they? I am glad I am not drinking at these things any longer though.
And I am glad I found a place to have like minded people around me.
NS I like directness. Some days I may not be happy when someone (hubby or daughter, usually) tells me something unflattering, but I always think about what they said, and know that person is trying to help me better myself.
I'm not trying to feel sorry for myself, but I have been going through a rough patch recently. Maybe a form of PTSD? Things have settled down around here. Everyone working on addictions, its just aftershock I think. As long as things go along like this, I know it will get better and not drinking will help me keep a clear head. But honestly, I haven't felt this emotionally unstable since I quit drinking. The worst was yesterday though. I am just sharing so everyone knows that these things do pass.
So I got up this morning and tackled a flowerbed that had become overgrown with nasty southern viney crap. One with stickers, I think all together there were four different things in there that shouldn't have been. Now its nicely planted with flowers and I am smiling again.
Whew. An Ava gazette.

[NoSugar]

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narilly;1667137 wrote:
So I am 50 days tomorrow and it has been super easy. I don't mean to sound glib. but this time I really know I am not going to drink. Before, I did not have it out of my mind. The door was slightly ajar, I thought I might have a drink or two sometime, obviously I could quit If I wanted to.
This time I don't have that feeling. A large part is due to my new knowledge of addiction through Dr. Kelly. From what science says, moderation, is pretty rare once you have an AL problem.
Anyway, off to do some gardening.
Love you girls,
xo
You know, Nar, I believe you about it being easy. You have had one of the least angsty 50 day counts I've ever seen on here. Once your mind is made up, you are fierce! It's so interesting how hearing the right thing at the right time can make all the difference. I'm so happy for you .

little beagle;1667140 wrote:
I'm not trying to feel sorry for myself, but I have been going through a rough patch recently. Maybe a form of PTSD? Things have settled down around here. Everyone working on addictions, its just aftershock I think. As long as things go along like this, I know it will get better and not drinking will help me keep a clear head. But honestly, I haven't felt this emotionally unstable since I quit drinking. The worst was yesterday though. I am just sharing so everyone knows that these things do pass.
So I got up this morning and tackled a flowerbed that had become overgrown with nasty southern viney crap. One with stickers, I think all together there were four different things in there that shouldn't have been. Now its nicely planted with flowers and I am smiling again.
Whew. An Ava gazette.

You, LB, are one of the least self-pitying people I have ever met! There were times over the last year when your attitude and resilience in the face of adversity made me ashamed of the molehills I was making into mountains. You've really helped me keep things in perspective. I don't know if we can help you too much but we'll always want to listen :l. I'm so glad your family is addressing their problems. Enjoy your flowers!

[daisy45]

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little beagle;1667140 wrote:
So I got up this morning and tackled a flowerbed that had become overgrown with nasty southern viney crap. One with stickers, I think all together there were four different things in there that shouldn't have been. Now its nicely planted with flowers and I am smiling again.
Whew. An Ava gazette.

This made me think of all of us here - likening the original flowerbed to how our minds and bodies were before we began the process of destruction that is alcohol! By coming here we are weeding our personal flowerbeds, removing one lie after another that we have become conditioned to believe about alcohol - our sole aim, no matter what stage is to smile at what is a lovely flowerbed again!

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Pav, Pav Pav, we made it and we are doing it. A huge congrats on your 6 months. I preferred yesterdays 6 months to 180 days, now we are talking months and months and months and that feels so farking great. From when we first came on here, scared, ashamed and alone to where we are now is nothing more than the best feeling. I for sure dont want those early days back again so now it just getting on with it. I will always be an alcoholic but i hope to be a reformed one one day.

Nar congratulations on your 50 days, that is such a great number. Its like half way, half way to infinity. Enjoy your day and keep smiling.

Yes Pav day 2 of no fags and yep doing pretty good, cant complain, well i could but this is not a non smoking site lol. Nah i am fine, it has to be done, just like giving up drinking. Im a "smokoholic" and my names Linda lol.

Off to work, have a great day ladies.

[narilly]

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Ava, have a great day at work. Hopefully Farquad is not so bad today. I am glad you quit smoking, that's a tough one. I chewed a lot of gum when I quit but that was 25 years ago.

NS, I read your post that you are worried about on the nest. It's a great post, coming from a place of love and caring. Don't second guess yourself. I got a few tough nudges from you and I really appreciated them!
Lil B, like Daisy I thought the same thing about you weeding your garden and getting all the 'crap' out. Now Lil B you can go ahead with a clean slate, your garden is weeded. Yippee!
You are one strong lady

Xo

[little beagle]

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Daisy that really made me smile. How lovely. When I look at my new flowers I will remember what you said.

[scottish lass]

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Really was going to write to everyone - but the day has been crazy - shopping with a moody 13 year old (for her Washington trip - she has a uniform/dress code for school so needed new clothes for the trip)! Am exhausted...
I really do appreciate each and everyone of you - and I know how much I enjoy seeing notes to me, so I will try to write more personal notes....
Pav and Ava - 6 months - frigging awesome! I remember when you hit the 100, so maybe 6 months is my next goal and I can just keep chasing you
I have a very crazy busy work week, so will be doing fly-bys I am afraid.
Please do not think that I don't love and respect each of you because of my brevity...

[narilly]

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SL, thank you! Have a great but busy week. It's amazing how cranky teen girls can be! You sound reasy good SL.

I am in bed and am going to sleep now. I will talk to you ladies tomorrow.

Goodnight,
Sober me

[narilly]

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narilly;1667269 wrote: SL, thank you! Have a great but busy week. It's amazing how cranky teen girls can be! You sound really good SL.

I am in bed and am going to sleep now. I will talk to you ladies tomorrow.

Goodnight,
Sober me

Nar

[narilly]

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Oops! Haha, using my iPhone is killing me.

[Pavati]

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Evening, all.

Just missed you, Nar. You HAVE had one of the least angsty 50 days I've seen, too. So cool that you are sailing smooth...

SL - I went shopping for clothes with my not moody teen-aged son. Remembering what an AWFUL teen-aged shopper I was, I was for once thankful to only have sons. Hope your crazy week goes well, and don't forget to check in here for yourself as well as for us.

LB- I agree, you are not a whiner at all. When I grow up I want to be a gardener, too. I feel like I am not patient enough... That WAS a long post from you.

Ava - good luck with Farquad and not smoking - you'll have to adopt yet another coping mechanism...

NS - You keep responding to us, but what's happening with you? Hope you are well and happy.

Daisy - Love that image - clearing the weeds. I know I still feel like I need that in my head.

Dot - I'll look for you in the nest...

Jane - I know when I was in my more control-freakish state I would get super annoyed with my DH for not getting the right crackers, or milk, or the right cut of steak. So now he asks EVERYTHING. I want to say - FFS, can't you figure it out yourself - but I think I conditioned him to ask. Now I need to re-train and accept that I can eat and like any cut of steak he picks up...

Good night ladies. Happy first week of June.

xo
Pav

[patrice]

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Hi girls,
Hope you're all having a great day
My Monday is nearly done, a stressful day but not going to make it even more stressy by drinking...so it'll be on to day 6 tomorrow....
Sorry I don't write much, I read all the posts but hate tying on the ipad, but really can't be bothered firing up the laptop anymore. I seem to do more and more on the ipad
Take care ladies
Pat
Xx

[available]

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Hi Pat, proud of you girl, 6 days and zooming along.

MWO is being a bitch here and has only just let me on, think that is why not much is happening.

So glad you didnt drink since you were stressed and it does get easier and easier.

[little beagle]

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Morning ladies. I finally have a Monday off, house to myself.
Pat glad you made it through your Monday.