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Good on you LB for standing your ground, it is hard but necessary for our sanity and our quit. My kids are all over the place also atm and that is due to when i was drinking i was either drunk or hungover and they could get what they wanted. now i am sober it is different so its a whole new change in structure of our relationships and they are not happy but we will get over it. i am different now i am sober, i am stronger and i deserve not to be walked over, like you.

Well if hubs doesnt like it you gave him another option, choices are good and i am sure that he knows the grass is never greener on the other side. sounds like SD doesnt realise that. You dont bite the hand that feeds you is a great saying.

Try not to work yourself to death and if you do make sure hubs helps also. I hope you get a breather soon to relax and enjoy your summer.

Oh at least the down periods are getting less and less and that is always a good sign. Sending you big big hugs girl. xxxxx

[little beagle]

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Thank you Ava. Hubby is working twice as hard as I am. At least it seems that way.

[Ginger999]

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LB, Step-kids.... I could write a book after watching some of the stuff my son and his wife have been through but of course it would probably only be good for a door stop. Hope things get better for you and STAND YOUR GROUND! I missed how old your SD is but I'm guessing she's old enough to be off doing her own thing if she wasn't a taker. Hang in there and try to have a rest day, if possible.

[little beagle]

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She's 22. Thanks.

[j-vo]

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Hi Girls,
Feeling much, much better today. I'm so grateful to you all for helping me through some crappy feelings. And as NS pointed out, my DH was a hero on friday night. He talked me out of drinking. And he did it so well. First he talked about how it would make me feel losing those 80 ish days. Then he talked about how it would make the MWO ladies feel. Wow! He hit the nail on the freakin head! Boom! Good one DH. I've got a good DH. Makes me nuts at times, but I'm seeing so many good things that I used to take for granted. Another great affect of sobriety.

We're leaving for vacation on Saturday morning. Going to Riviera Maya - a beautiful resort. I'm going to take my antabuse with me, but will not take unless I feel wobbly. If I have a wobbly moment, I will take.
I'm feeling good about the trip and being sober, but moods change and I'm not going to take any chances on losing my days now.

LB, you're standing your ground, protecting your sobriety is making you even more strong. They have to know (SD) the door will be open to her when she's ready to be sober. But as long as she's not, well, then, it's closed. Your quit means your life, and your life is worth it. And I agree with you, although it's hard at time, that beating addiction is a personal journey. Sometimes I feel like my parents sabotage my sister's chance at sobriety. Like sending her and DH on a cruise after she got out of rehab. It frustrates me. Love you LB.

Hi Ginger!

SL and Jane, thanks for your encouraging words! Hope you get the sinus infection cleared up.

SL, congrats on your 4 months!!! That's super!!!

Thanks Pav, for your reply in NN. You always make sense!

Ok, it's time to get my butt off the computer and downstairs to work out. I didn't work out yesterday. Funny how I felt hungover yesterday from just feeling so drained. Don't feel that way today. Have a great Sunday girls!

[Ginger999]

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J-vo..... I have the same type of DH. He's so awesome about my sober journey. Always there for support but like you, I tend to take him a bit for granted. Thanks for the reminder. Have fun at Riviera Maya! You deserve it.

Hello LADIES! Hope everyone is enjoying there day/night!

[scottish lass]

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LB - feeling for you, but well done for taking a stance.
Jane - ugg, so sorry.
J-vo - glad you are feeling better.
Pav, thanks for the reminder that this is a continual fight - had supper out whith my daughter last night - a place where we go for a treat, and I have easliy managed one or at the most two glasses of wine and really enjoyed myself - so wanted to last night - not cravings but feeling so deprived - stuck to an AL free beer. My daughter has rarely spoken of me not drinking (the younger one would check my claendar for green dots), but when my O'Douls came she read the label and nodded - I asked are you happy I don't drink, and she said "of course" - she told me of a friend who came to school crying as her dad came home drunk and she proudly told the group that her mum did not drink - (she is further on in this journey than I am:H) - gosh, did that make me feel good.
I know I felt that not drinking would solve everything - and my life would be sorted out, and it is a suprise to find it is not so....Pay you mention 4-7 months - there is a few writings that talk about how long it takes to really complete the alcohol withdrawal...
Let's keep on going though and it really has to be worth it...

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Morning loamers

well quick check in as i prepare to get naked to have a shower to go to work. damn its windy and cold, i should have showered last night but i was lazy.

oh did you know knitting and craft helps prevent alzheimers, just heard that on the news. well so glad i knit but they dont say how often.

Jvo glad dh helped you with not drinking, i think it is good to realise that at the end of the day we would be hurt also if you drank. It honestly takes time and effort to help others and when they fail we feel as if we have failed as well and you know thats not good for us alkies, we always have a fear of failure. i am very proud of your dh, hug him for me. The only people that sabotage their drinking is that person. No one made your sister drink except your sister although a bloody cruise is probably not the best reward for not drinking, bit like being sent to Thailand as it is alkies paradise.

SL that is lovely what your daughter said, my children have told their friends so i know they are proud also and that keeps me going and going and going.

well off i go, running late again. sorry you are not well Jane, get better soon.

love to all.
xxxx

[Kailey]

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Good experience for me today. I was getting through my weekend pretty easily without much of a struggle not to drink when I got an irresistable urge while working in the garden to go buy a bottle of wine. My first thought was "Well, that's it." Then I decided to try something I read on here. I just kind of detached myself from the feelings and accepted that while they were no fun, the urge was not, in fact, "irresistable". I stuck it out, and after about 15 minutes I was fine. That was 3 or 4 hours ago. If I had succumbed to the urge I would be passed out by now, or close to it. I would have woken up in the morning disgusted with myself, and started the week off on the wrong foot. Good lesson learned. Just step back and seperate a bit from the feeling and it will pass. Another tool.

[Ginger999]

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Kailey, that is awesome. Good for you!

[wagmore]

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Great job Kailey! That's a victory for sure (and a good learning as well).

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Kailey its the little things that make the difference between drinking and not drinking. Great work on not drinking. I used to remove myself from where i had the urge/craving to drink and i definitely did not walk out the door or i would have gone to the bottleshop. Some urges last longer than others but they do all pass. i found anything with sugar helped me and still does. Who can say no to sweets!

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Hi Lovelies,

Ginger, I take my DH for granted I hate to say. He drives me insane, but I need to start taking better care of him as he's always taken care of me. Co-dependency????? Yep, I think so.

SL, what a story about your daughter's friend coming into school crying. DS used to get so upset and embarrassed by my behaviors while drinking and I still cringe when I think about it. I know he feels so much better about me and our relationship, but I hate to think of what I'd done when he was younger. Your daughter is proud of you, as is Ava's children. And no, not drinking doesn't take away life's problems. But it does give us so many better things such as energy for what we need to accomplish in a a day, the patience for our children, and clear heads to appreciate simple things. Things are just plain easier and more enjoyable when we don't drink.

Ava, I know Loamers would be hurt if I drank or any of us drank. We have wins and losses and while those wins feel great, the losses hurt badly. I will hug DH for you! Here's one from me first...:l

Kailey, that's a great freaking group win!!! Individual and group win!:goodjob::yay::happy::kudos:

Have a great night Ladies!

[scottish lass]

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Yeah Kailey! Win for you, and one for the team as well - lots of great ideas here, we just need to stop long enough to let one work.....as we know there is one that will, and each win makes us stronger!!!

[Pavati]

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Evening all:

Way to go Kailey! A Loamer win! There is something in the tool box about urge surfing that is a good read if you can find it.

After all my talk about giving in to the fact that we can't control our families, I was totally triggered by my sister tonight. Her life is crazy and she brings a whole lot of crazy to everything - I don't think she can see it. I WANT to say something to her, but I know it won't make a difference, but really what I should say is I can't hang out with you unless we don't talk about X and Y. No drugs or alcohol, but crazy relationships, questionable (by my standards) parenting decisions, and a very self centered approach to life. A family member made a joke about that last fact and she got very defensive - "I'm VERY giving. People are nice to me and give me things to thank me..." Pull yer head out of yer arse and look around, FFS!

OK, rant over. I am now going to detach for real (not just talk about it in other people's lives!!!).

I am off to bed. Two day conference coming up and may or may not be able to check in. I'll be good, although this will be my first conference - normally a booze fest. At the moment I am not tempted.

LB - sorry about your SD, but I am glad to hear that you came out swinging - I wouldn't want to hear that you cowered in the corner forever.

JVo - Good luck on your trip. Sounds divine. Think of other ways to treat yourself without alcohol. Did you read Rahul's account of swimming in the ocean while everyone else was having afternoon drinks? Alcohol does not make a party - what you do and the fun you have does. Hope you have a great time.

Jane - Glad you're ok, and I hope you get those sinuses clear!

SL - I had a moment tonight, too. DH got a good bottle of red wine (something I only drank on rare occasions) and we had a good roast beef for the party. My mouth watered when I smelled the wine - I just wanted a TASTE, FFS. Glad we both stood strong. Great to hear that your daughter was bragging about you.

Ginger, Daisy, Narilly, Dot, Frances, Giraffe, whoever I am missing - happy sober Sunday night!

xo
Pav