Ladies on a Mission: The Official Site
Hi, Everyone!
Sweet post, Jane. I know that the count can't be right because Ava is 1 calendar and frequently 2 days behind me. I believe Sunday was 203 which makes today, Monday, 204 for me and 205 for Ava. I love the group support here, too.
LC - I'm sorry about your turmoil. I believe it is a good thing that he talked to you about alcohol before he left, and that he expressed sorrow to lose the drinking you. I think that would be normal to feel, and I would assume that a lot of spouses, for fear of seeming to be unsupportive, might not express those feelings. You can and will be the fun person you are. I find when, say, DH wants to do something silly, I have to take and extra beat to push myself into it (alcohol allowed me to be less self conscious), but that when I do, I can be and have just as much fun. That is especially true when I am not in deprivation mode.
Wags - I am sorry for your loss. I nursed my MiL while she was sick (we were very close) and I drank through that, though at the time (10 years ago) I felt much more in control than I did at the end of my drinking career. NS, I, too, am afraid for that BIG event that I can't mask with alcohol. I don't think about it too much, because fortunately I am not very good at worrying about catastrophic things. Thanks, as always for the links.
(And speaking of links, I listened to The Bubble Hour - What's in Your Sober Toolbox. HIGHLY recommend.)
These are the situations that can cause relapse according to Addiction Recovery – Alcohol and Drug Abuse Treatment Resources.
Loss of a loved one
Major financial changes
Change in employment
Social pressures or conflicts
Change in marital status
Boredom with life
Health issues
Sounds like "everyday" issues we have to face, so it is good to stay vigilant and think about how we will handle them as they arise.
Ava - Sorry about Maddie - I hope she recovers soon.
Nar - Off the table! I wake up with headaches from time to time since quitting, and it makes me tense. Thank goodness they go away with coffee, usually, instead of lingering with the stomach aches and anxiety of a hangover.
Long day at the conference and another one tomorrow. I have to endure happy hour and dinner tomorrow - should be ok with a great team, but I am sure there will be the initial "woe is me." I'm prepared and hope I can not feel that someday.
SL - Where is your vacation with your daughters? Whenever I focus on making my muffin top a mini it always goes the other way because I become crazy with food thoughts. Trying just to "eat healthy" and wear a "slimming" bathing suit that holds it all in.
Ginger! Way to go on 50!!! Amazing effort and focus - great work.
Kailey - what ARE you up to?? Keep working on this - it is SO worth it!
LB, Daisy, Giraffe, Dot, Ann - hope you are all doing well (and anyone else I missed - my computer is SLOW on the backspace so it is hard to read back).
This post is as meandering as my thoughts right now. It probably won't make sense, but I'm hitting reply anyway.
xo
Pav
Hi, Everyone!
Sweet post, Jane. I know that the count can't be right because Ava is 1 calendar and frequently 2 days behind me. I believe Sunday was 203 which makes today, Monday, 204 for me and 205 for Ava. I love the group support here, too.
LC - I'm sorry about your turmoil. I believe it is a good thing that he talked to you about alcohol before he left, and that he expressed sorrow to lose the drinking you. I think that would be normal to feel, and I would assume that a lot of spouses, for fear of seeming to be unsupportive, might not express those feelings. You can and will be the fun person you are. I find when, say, DH wants to do something silly, I have to take and extra beat to push myself into it (alcohol allowed me to be less self conscious), but that when I do, I can be and have just as much fun. That is especially true when I am not in deprivation mode.
Wags - I am sorry for your loss. I nursed my MiL while she was sick (we were very close) and I drank through that, though at the time (10 years ago) I felt much more in control than I did at the end of my drinking career. NS, I, too, am afraid for that BIG event that I can't mask with alcohol. I don't think about it too much, because fortunately I am not very good at worrying about catastrophic things. Thanks, as always for the links.
(And speaking of links, I listened to The Bubble Hour - What's in Your Sober Toolbox. HIGHLY recommend.)
These are the situations that can cause relapse according to Addiction Recovery – Alcohol and Drug Abuse Treatment Resources.
Loss of a loved one
Major financial changes
Change in employment
Social pressures or conflicts
Change in marital status
Boredom with life
Health issues
Sounds like "everyday" issues we have to face, so it is good to stay vigilant and think about how we will handle them as they arise.
Ava - Sorry about Maddie - I hope she recovers soon.
Nar - Off the table! I wake up with headaches from time to time since quitting, and it makes me tense. Thank goodness they go away with coffee, usually, instead of lingering with the stomach aches and anxiety of a hangover.
Long day at the conference and another one tomorrow. I have to endure happy hour and dinner tomorrow - should be ok with a great team, but I am sure there will be the initial "woe is me." I'm prepared and hope I can not feel that someday.
SL - Where is your vacation with your daughters? Whenever I focus on making my muffin top a mini it always goes the other way because I become crazy with food thoughts. Trying just to "eat healthy" and wear a "slimming" bathing suit that holds it all in.
Ginger! Way to go on 50!!! Amazing effort and focus - great work.
Kailey - what ARE you up to?? Keep working on this - it is SO worth it!
LB, Daisy, Giraffe, Dot, Ann - hope you are all doing well (and anyone else I missed - my computer is SLOW on the backspace so it is hard to read back).
This post is as meandering as my thoughts right now. It probably won't make sense, but I'm hitting reply anyway.
xo
Pav
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