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Did they not drill you Nar on how you stopped drinking or were they quite happy to keep drinking, well obviously they were as they got plastered. makes us grateful we dont drink doesnt it. i have yet to be around my drinking buddies as they live so far away but they do no i am not drinking anymore.

Oh yep he is a knob. gees before when i drank i had the users and now i have the knobs. oh well such is life. i dont enjoy dumping him by text but im so not going there to get what stuff i have. way too immature for me, god i have 4 children that are more mature and thats saying something with 2 boys.

where is everyone? i wanted to wake up to goss sigh.

[j-vo]

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Hi from Mexico!

Ok, I'm here and it's beautiful. I need to learn and appreciate the beautiful sites around me and ignore all the people drinking copious amounts of liquor in front of my face. What's good is that we've scoped the place pretty well today. There are several pools and the one's I'll choose to lay near will not be the one where there's a bar in the pool with people all around drinking. That's ok as that's not what I want to see anyhow. Won't choose the one with the little tots either! Love little ones just want to have that peace. The beach is beautiful and I've already made an appt to have a 30 minute massage right on the beach!!!! 75 big ones but hell, it'll be worth it. Went to the gym with my niece late this afternoon, layed near pool, beach, and now getting ready to shower and get ready for dinner.

I have mixed feelings as to what I see, not what I'll do. I see lots of drinking going on, and it's tugging at me as that's what I've done for most of my life on vacation and even not on vacation. I kind of got pissed off at myself for screwing it up for myself so that I can't do this anymore, but it's not really me that screwed me up. I'm going to blame it on heredity and over-exposure to something that I was at risk for but didn't know. How's that for a mouth-full of bullshit. I do believe that though. I'm trying to see things through sober eyes, like the beautiful peacock we saw on the walk to the fitness center. It was beautiful. The whole resort is so wonderful I know this will be a vacation I'll never forget.

My SIL, at lunch, asked me to taste a drink. I told her I wasn't drinking. She looked a bit confused and asked, "Today?" And I told her no, all week. She didn't ask why and I didn't offer. Then she asked DH if I chose to quit or had to quit. He said I chose to. This was when they were alone. Then she said to DH, well that won't deter me from drinking, and I didn't expect it to. If she asks, I'm going to say i was getting terrible panic attacks in the middle of the night when I drank. That's all I'm going to say. I bet she doesn't ask. Her father, my FIL died from cirrhosis of the liver, so not expecting any questions. I feel relieved that I got that out of the way very quickly. Now to enjoy the vacation!

Love you girls.

[little beagle]

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J-vo you are wonderful and that massage makes me envious. I'm glad they know you aren't drinking. And no you didn't mess it up foryourself. Alcohol is a VERY addictive poison that screws up everything it touches. All the time I have been sober I have NEVER regretted NOT drinking. Just wait until you feel wonderful tomorrow, ready to have adventures, and others around you feel crap. You will be glad. Have a wonderful adventure for me.:l

[narilly]

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I agree Lil B, just wait until the morning when you feel great and everyone who was drinking feels like crap. You can enjoy the morning and just be glad to be alive.
Your SIL will leave you alone now and hopefully won't pressure you to drink.
I wish I was in Mexico getting a massage! Even for $75.
Enjoy yourself j-Vo, big hugs from me.

I went out last night and tonight and didn't drink. It has been pretty easy so far.
No one ha been pressuring me Ava. There was a little bit of pressure last night but nothing I couldn't handle. Good luck with the guy situation. Something tells me he is going to be a big drama queen about it.stand your ground!
Ava, we have a Victoria here too. Victoria, British Columbia which is the province west of us. It's about a 11 hour drive or 1.5 hr plane ride from Calgary. I'm sure she would love to go to school in Australia though!

Goodnight sweet ladies.

[narilly]

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Morning everyone!
Where is everyone? I am watching Mexico and the Netherlands play soccer a after that going for a long walk with my hubby and lazy dog.

I'm going to spend a bit of time cooking veggies for the week to take for lunch.

Canada Day is on July 1st and I am looking forward to that- booze free of course!

Xo

[NoSugar]

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Ava, Not drinking gives us back the self-respect needed to choose positive relationships. I'm so happy you don't feel like you have to put up with crap to have a man in your life. A relationship should make each of you better than you are on your own. That clearly wasn't happening here so I'm glad you're moving on. The next guy you meet might be an Ava-Enhancer (although I must admit it is hard to imagine a better version ).

Glad to hear you are safely in Mexico, J. When you see those drinkers, just play out the reality version of that movie in your head then put the horror story aside, and have a wonderful vacation. One thing I like about drinking water in this hot weather is that I drink so much of it and stay hydrated, and therefore feel so much better due to both that and the absence of alcohol. Now that I've taken my head out of the sand, it is so obvious that drinking any AL in hot weather is just stupid.

I was at a hot happy hour the other day and when I had my water refilled for the 4th or 5th time, the guy next to me asked if I drank any alcohol. When I said No, he sort of grunted "smart" and picked up his beer.... Glad you're not giving in to peer pressure, Nar. All that is for middle-schoolers and we're way beyond that .

I hope all the 'missing' Loamers check in - it means a lot to know that everyone is alright :hug:.

[Ginger999]

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Howdy all, I've been following this thread and really enjoying all the advice and wisdom I find here. J-vo, Thinking about you a lot and sending you AF free vibes to your exotic local! Hope you all have a fantastic AF day.

[Ginger999]

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Ugh... Jane, I'm so sorry you are feeling this way today. I'm glad that coming here and posting helps some. Have you always suffered from depression or is this new since quitting AL? I'll be thinking about you and hoping that the blue funk passes soon.

[NoSugar]

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Good to see you here, Ginger! You're a Loamer, not a Lurker . How is your SF trial going?

Jane, I'm sorry you're so down and I'm not really sure what the gun talk is about. I hope there isn't one in your home. I won't pretend I have any advice for you but here's a :l. And I'm very very glad that you don't see drinking as a way to alleviate the pain you're feeling. We all know that it wouldn't really work, even if it did let you escape for a bit. It just isn't worth it.

As for the guilt, no one can make you feel it. They can try but it really is your choice. If you are doing the best you can in a given set of circumstances, there is no reason to feel guilty. You might not be meeting their standards or even your own but if that is all you can do at that time, let it go (I guess maybe that is advice, but just about the feeling guilty part).

xx, NS

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Loamers, where are the loamers.

Well its monday here and damn its cold. i know you guys have no sympathy for me as you are all basking in the heat and i am freezing brrrr.

Jvo so glad your holiday is starting off well. My mum when i told her i wasnt drinking said "well i will be" but suprisingly she drank very little. keep an eye on SIL and see what she does. she may suprise you and not want to be the "village idiot" on wine and behave herself as you are not drinking.

NS yes i totally deserve to have a man that i get on with. He mentioned in a text that he had me picked as a "bullshitter and liar". mmm wonder why he was with me. His problem and not mine and happily i will move on and try and find a decent man. Rare as rocking horse teeth i am thinking.

Jane sorry you are feeling down but i have been there and done that too. Everything i seen on tv i got angry at or cried at. I can honestly say that the emotions have settled down more now that i have hit the 200 days. Before i was all over the place like a "brides nighty" but now i just feel more settled and in control. Its the emotions in the latter days that get to us and they are not really talked about on mwo, it seems that it is focused on the early days and just not drinking. I personally dont want to drink but i dont want to feel like a pouty teenager either and that is what i was between 150 to 200. Im sure there is another emotion just around the corner so i am grateful that i am having a cruisy few weeks. Chin up girl and keep posting on here. If you dont want to be around them then dont. I do that with my boys and their world doesnt end if i am not there, the come into my room occasionally and im like "what do you want" and then they say "nothing" and walk out. I am sure when you start to feel better your emotions will even out. I got sick of posting how sick i was so know how you feel lovey. Run naked through the streets that will fix you or make you sicker! Better i hope.

Hi Ginger, i have been seeing how well you have been doing, great work girl.

well i had better go get naked and jump in the shower. clothed would be great but i even realise that the clothes will make me colder than being naked.

love to all xxxx

[NoSugar]

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Mr. Sad Puppy must know that that look makes you feel guilty and will get him his way. (If you had never responded to it, he probably wouldn't use it). You, however, can look at that face, acknowledge to yourself that what he means by it is that he would like you to be with them (so, that's nice to be wanted) but you can also decide that you (and maybe everyone else ) will be better off if you go to your room and read, hang out here, whatever. I'm sure the Sad Puppy doesn't want Ice Berg Jane in the room and if you're at all like me, that's who I become when I feel manipulated.

[j-vo]

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Hi ladies,

Still doing well on vacation. Not going to post much but my SIL has questioned my husband, BIL, and mil so far about my not drinking. I'm fine with that and I'd never feel pressured to drink. The only pressure would come from myself and I'm not doing that to me! Had another great day and now just sitting here relaxing a bit. I'll have to catch up with posts another time as it's so beautiful and I feel almost guilty for even touching this ipad. Love girls! Oh! It's 90 for me today!!

[j-vo]

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Hi ladies,

Still doing well on vacation. Not going to post much but my SIL has questioned my husband, BIL, and mil so far about my not drinking. I'm fine with that and I'd never feel pressured to drink. The only pressure would come from myself and I'm not doing that to me! Had another great day and now just sitting here relaxing a bit. I'll have to catch up with posts another time as it's so beautiful and I feel almost guilty for even touching this ipad. Love girls! Oh! It's 90 for me today!!

[daisy45]

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J-vo, brilliant! 90 days! When I was day 1, your 40+ days seemed so far away from me.....now even the 90 feels possible! You are leading the way and doing a great job pulling us with you! You deserve this holiday, you deserve sobriety and with your attitude I would not be surprised if there are a few converts, in time, in your inner circle......well done!

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90 days woo hoo Jvo how good does that make you feel. So glad you are having a wonderful holiday you deserve it after all the hard work you have done in the past months. Its funny how we stress about our change of environment but when placed in that situation it is all okay. Big hugs to you, my dear friend. You deserve every single day of these sober days.

Do not feel guilty about checking in on mwo, remember it is always good to be accountable and its some you time also x