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[little beagle]

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I am feeling so crap this morning.
But I have been reading and enjoying everyone's posts. Lots of encouraging things happening, unexpected people stopping by.
Sam I hope we hear more from you.
Kailey just think of all of us if you struggle. That's what I did in my early days. I remember that I was going on my first camping trip and usually we drank on these trips. Usually? Hell, ALWAYS!! So there we are in the pickup driving along and I'm fighting with myself. It won't hurt. It's just for the weekend. No one will know. I can just stop again Monday. Just one six pack of my favorite beer isn't goint to hurt anyone. But I thought of my friends here who didn't drink and all of the promises I made to myself that I was going to do what ever it took to turn my life around. So we get there, me grouchy as all get out because I was craving that damned beer so badly and hubby bewildered because I was being a total bitch. A little time passed, the craving subsided and I look around. The magic of the beautiful place takes hold of my soul and I really open my eyes. That was my first real win over this monster. But without the image of the wonderful, supportive peopke on MWO I'm not sure if I could have survived that overwhelming, powerful craving. I did. With the help of my friends.


That's what its all about for me.

[Guitarista]

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little beagle;1681403 wrote: No one will know. I can just stop again Monday. Just one six pack of my favorite beer isn't goint to hurt anyone. But I thought of my friends here who didn't drink and all of the promises I made to myself that I was going to do what ever it took to turn my life around.

That's what its all about for me.

I love this Lil B. Git well real soon.

[Eloise]

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Hey little beagle sounds like you had a really big victory kind of camping trip!
I love your description of the magical place you visited. A New Hampshire girl now living in the cramped Netherlands does appreciate such descriptions.
And last time I slept outside I was probably 8? Still sounds great.
Congratulation to you, whooptie doo!
You know I was just thinking that if you live until 80, spent 20 years drinking then quit, the next 30 years could be really quite memorable, right?

Do you use the L-Glut and Kudzu? Or maybe just in the early days? I think you might consider to throw some in your purse? I am kind of scared to stop with it as the last time I did that I slowly started drinking again.
And I totally hear you on those thoughts of 'no harm done, start again on Monday.' Great you stuck it out.
Kudos!

[momofthree]

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Thank you for inviting me here J-vo, abstaining sounds wonderful to me. Since I know for certain I can not moderate, that is not a word my body understands.

[NoSugar]

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Sorry you're not feeling well, LB. Hope you improve soon.

Like you, my commitments to people here got me through some early challenges. I guess because I revealed so much of myself (for once), I had finally put everything on the line. The thought of posting that I failed was a really powerful deterrent. And I'd picture the people I'd met here not drinking in similar and even more challenging situations (I often thought of you :l) and realize that there was no reason I should or needed to choose to drink. There is never a need to do it. It feels like there is sometimes, but that is just a feeling and it will pass.

I saw there are 3 big events around here: 7 days for Kailey, 60 for Daisy, and 90 for Narilly .
Keep it going, friends, and never have to do again what you've just accomplished!! Congratulations! (and to LC for 2 weeks tomorrow - I'm not sure I'll have internet access and just want to let you know that I'm so happy for you, too).

J- you sound amazingly upbeat and strong on your 101st day - Hope to see you over on the 100 day thread soon - you belong there!

Pav, my kids are adults but my being 100% there over this last year has made a huge difference in my ability to help them through some major challenges. Hard, because unlike when they were small, I can't "fix it", but I was able to be the parent they needed and I'm doubtful that that would have been true if I'd been checking out each evening and struggling to cope each morning. I'm so glad you're there for your son and I'm sure he is, too.

Mr. G., I only recently found out what POETS day is . Good to see you and Sam here - we need a diversity of views around here, especially from men who clearly are not Farquads!

Have a safe, sober, super weekend! xx, NS

[Eloise]

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oh and I get the Loamer's thing now L(adies) O(n) A M(ission).
Ain't I just smmaart?
Please note: this is a rhetorical question and does not require an answer.:eeks:

[NoSugar]

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momofthree;1681418 wrote: Thank you for inviting me here J-vo, abstaining sounds wonderful to me. Since I know for certain I can not moderate, that is not a word my body understands.

Welcome, Mof3! I've seen your posts now and then over the last several months. This can be your last time of climbing out of that dark, deep, soul-crushing hole. You'll never regret it. No one ever wishes they'd waited a bit longer to quit.

Stay close and if you're tempted, come here first and lay out for us why it's a really good idea for you to drink. Explain how it will fix whatever situation you're in or why it will make your life easier. Tell us about how it will be better for your kids and husband if you drink and why you'll feel better waking up tomorrow if you drink tonight. After you do all that, see if you still really want to take that drink . I bet you won't.

All the best, NS

[NoSugar]

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Eloise;1681422 wrote: oh and I get the Loamer's thing now L(adies) O(n) A M(ission).
Ain't I just smmaart?
Please note: this is a rhetorical question and does not require an answer.:eeks:

Now we're G(gentlemen)LOAMERS!

[Eloise]

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ahahah! Gloamers... okay!

And yeah, NS, no one also ever said 'Gee, I wish I never quit drinking!'

[daisy45]

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Thanks J-vo....means a lot! And Kailey - well done on 7 days! I remember that thread, and I also remember feeling under pressure because the thread was going so well......hard to explain. When I succumbed and drank I felt so bad that I had let everyone down........ the shame of it! So I didn't do it again. I suppose it reflects me in real life......the ability to get things done and succeed....when I get recognition I retreat....can't handle it....am shy really.
LilB, hope your crappy feeling turns around....Bet writing that lovely post had an effect on you....

[Eloise]

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omg... ahhahahaa... there I go again READING where I do not belong.
'whats the harm in having a drink once you got a hold of things?'
oh lordie... somebody save me from myself!!!

[NoSugar]

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There is a lot of success here but we need to somehow make it clear that you should always come back ASAP if you screw up.

J-vo is proof that those mistakes are minimized if you don't let them take hold. When she came back right away, no one said Oh, that's ok, J-vo, no big deal, but no one said I can't imagine why you did that! either. We all know why it happens - it has happened to each of us. We just have to put systems in place so it isn't likely to happen again.

[NoSugar]

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Eloise;1681442 wrote: omg... ahhahahaa... there I go again READING where I do not belong.
'whats the harm in having a drink once you got a hold of things?'
oh lordie... somebody save me from myself!!!

STAY WHERE YOU BELONG, YOUNG LADY!! :l

[Eloise]

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i know i know i know i know... no wandering!!

[little beagle]

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Eloise that camping victory was 1 year and 1 month ago. I honestly feel that each strong victory we have, and come through to the other side does something to our brain. The RUSH. It feels so wonderful and no dire consequences, just a warm glow that stays with us. Quite a reward for a struggle that doesn't last that long at all in the grand scheme of things.
And yes NS. I have really been here for my daughter. Able to help when really needed now. That is rewarding.