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[patrice]

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Hi all,
Thanks for the advice on this flu thing.. It's day 4 and still feel so exhausted, taking extra zinc, I haven't been able to do a thing..
At least I'm not drinking.. Day 50 today
Xx
Patrice

[wagmore]

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patrice;1683281 wrote: Hi all,
Thanks for the advice on this flu thing.. It's day 4 and still feel so exhausted, taking extra zinc, I haven't been able to do a thing..
At least I'm not drinking.. Day 50 today
Xx
Patrice

Sorry you're still struggling with the flu Pat. I wish I had other advice to offer, but the only ideas I had have already been suggested.

CONGRATS on 50 DAYS though!!! Woohoo! We will celebrate more when you feel up to a little jig

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Pav - I'm doing great, thanks for asking. I'm a little fried from working extra and doing more workouts to train for a big international paddling race festival next month, but in terms of being AF I'm awesome and happy and feeling really strong.

I'm also happy because in August I'm going to be able to take a trip to visit my aunt (wife of my uncle who passed away a few weeks ago). I've been staying in touch with her via phone and email these past few weeks, but she sounds very excited to have me come up for 4-5 days next month.

Glad to hear you've been getting in some great hikes. What type of terrain do you like best? I love hiking as well, especially in the mountains or along the coast where I can get some good views as part of my reward for hard work.

Hugs to you,

Wag

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Pat 50 days, fan farking tastic girl. I knew once your head was in the right space that you would get the hang of not drinking. Gives me little goose bumps to see you with that number. I am so proud of you, an amazing effort. I hope you feel ok soon. i just took panadol and nurofen and even that did not work but kind of made me feel as if i was making an effort to feel better.

Pav i will look for that link and post it. off to the drs shortly to get a doctors certificate for today and tomorrow. then i have to ring idiot boss and tell him some kind of believable story of why i wont be in tomorrow. i am thinking i now have an infection in my arm, that should work.

hi wags!!!!!

[patrice]

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Thanks Wags and Ava!! And thanks Linda, I have been watching you go from strength to strength and always thought that if you can, then I can too!! I began to believe you when you said, it gets easier, it gets better and you were right... It really does get easier to not pick up that first drink and this 50 days for me is a personal best!! And I'm going to continue until it becomes a habit and I am learning from all of you that time is what is needed.. Someone mentioned earlier about looking at successful abstainers and following what they do or at least adapting my behavior to become more successful... I'm doing that and I'm happy to say it's working! It is a Team effort. This time also, I've also informed myself by reading, listening to podcasts and understanding the science behind addiction.. That Prof Kelly interview was instrumental in making me finally becoming aware that 6 months or more is needed to adapt the neurons to new habits.. And also that this is a not a short term thing...
I'm happy to be learning alongside all of you lovely ladies!
Pat

[narilly]

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Pat!! Way to go! 50 days!
I am so happy you are doing so well. Listening to Dr Kelly really helped me too.

I can hardly stay awake so I will talk to you girls tomorrow.

Xo

[lifechange]

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Hi Ladies!

Pat!!! Well done on 50 days and your personal best! :h I hope you're feeling better soon so that we can celebrate!

Ava, let us know what the doctor says-- and GOOD LUCK with your job interview. I'm keeping my fingers crossed.

Wags, I'm wondering with the amount of physical exercise you do, if you have a special diet. How to you get so much energy? I don't know what's going on with me lately, but I feel beat most of the time.

Pav, I'm also interested in hearing more about where you're hiking.. I'm envious! I guess it's somewhere up in N.CA near where you're living? So beautiful there. How's it going, being without son?

Nar and Eloise, I can relate to both of you-- my BF is self employed and is so good at his work, but only ever has enough to just get by. It's stressful for him almost every 2 months, not knowing if he'll get another contract. It always works out in the end--like you said, Nar, but still.. It would be nice to be able to count on having enough work!!

NS, I agree with what you said. I don't think there's any reinventing the wheel to get sober! Listening to and watching people who have done it before and following them, step for step is what works! It's what I'm doing now. It's getting to the point where one wants/has to do what one must--knowing there's no other way and following, even though it seems impossible at times. I think this is the point everyone has to reach on their own, in their own time. I am so thankful to be here now.

Hi Daisy!!! Hi to everyone checking in here today!!

I mentioned in the Nest, that on looking back on how I was feeling yesterday, it's obvious to me that I wasn't practising my "Attitude of Gratitude". I'd forgotten my purpose of staying present in each and every moment. Today I will work extra hard on that. I have such a short amount of time with the girls this summer break-- less than 2 weeks more that we have together and I don't want to waste them. I have so much to be grateful for!!!

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LC sometimes we can forget the gratitude feeling as we just dont give a "rats" and its all too much. I just would not give into al, i would not let al win. I am better than that voice and i ultimately have too much to lose by drinking. I could not possibly imagine coming on here after 7 months and saying "oh i farked up" and for what? I just remember my drunk days and its funny now i have these little flash backs and i just think "OMG" I am so glad those days are done. I was talking to Tye about his 21st birthday and i asked what food he wanted as i know that drunk kids need food and he was saying "no its okay mum" and i said "honey i will be sober, its okay, i will do the food". Before i was right in the swing of getting drunk, not giving a rats and then passing out. This feels good and this feels right!

I went to the doctors and have tomorrow off work and some pain killers and they are wonderful, i have a warm fuzzy feeling, still in pain but not caring. May not take these tomorrow for the job interview i am thinking.

Pat, i think that is the thing, if we see someone walking the walk it makes us want to follow. I am glad you believed me, i dont talk crap all the time ha ha. Wait till you get to 6+ months then everything starts to even out and you actually feel human. Its a great feeling.

Here is the link (well i hope it works) of the woman in rehab that Kiera said reminded her of me.

https://au.tv.yahoo.com/sunrise/video/watch/24395008/the-road-to-recovery

xxxx

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Pat, great job on 50 days! I agree with everything you say....Miss Ava has also been a massive support for me....
It really does make a difference when there is a group or someone in particular you feel accountable to.
Along the way sometimes you wonder if that is what keeps you going and it isn't going to be a good enough reason to stick with your quit. BUT, somewhere along the way, the clear-thinking an benefits creep in and you begin to realise that it is not just because you are accountable, but you are wanting it more and more....
I am so grateful for the help I got here to even get my day 1. I really was not ready and did not want it that day....tomorrow always looked good. There were several people who took time out of their lives to pm me and write great posts that got me onto my reluctant start....then they backed me up and still do when they notice I am weakening. I don't feel I have been instrumental to doing the same for anyone here but I will.
Feeling grateful today....you know who you are!

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Daisy I'm glad your here and you are helping me. Seeing your cheerful flower lets me know you are here and there is strength in numbers.
Accountability. I think most people don't realize what a valuable tool this is when we are working for sobriety. The girl thinks I'm just a bitch because I ask tell her that she needs to account for her time and where she's at. Hubby thinks the same. But I tell them it doesn't have to be ME they are accountable to. I chose my daughter. When I have drinking thoughts, I tell her. In the beginning, I checked in with her on a regular basis. Checkjng in here daily keeps me accountable. I felt at loose ends last night when I was unable to check in due to the fact I was unable t o get on site.
Ava maybe no pills before the interview. You are funny.
Hope you feel better quickly Pat. And congratulations. You are doing so great. 50 days and a vacation af. Wonderful.:l
NS I really enjoyed that blog. I liked the one about making personal space too.
J-vo hope you are enjoying your time as basketball mom. I'm glad for you that drinking is not dulling this pleasure or making you resent the time it takes.
Narilly having your husbands income feel shaky is scary. Hope everything works out.
My daughter and I are taking SD to New Orleans French Quarter on Sunday. Last year I would not have been able to go, but I feel confident this year. And next weekend we are going to Oklahoma to take her home. That's halfway. Her grandma is meeting us there and picking her up. My family lives there and my sister mentioned going to the river. Hubby is taking a vacation day. Yeah! For several reasons I am happy about that trip.
we went on B a wonderful ride last night. The weather was beautiful and it's just great to get out and about. I am no longer chained yo this house.
Have a great day everyone.
Oh NS I forgot. I hope you are enjoying this wonderful cool spell today.

[j-vo]

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Wanted to post this last night but something held me back!

Wed night's post:

Hi Girls,

Went out to dinner this evening with three girlfriends from work. Of course we shop-talked! and gossiped! It was a nice dinner. They all had one drink and I had a nonalcoholic beer. Funny how I only wanted one! I didn't have any feelings of "I wish I could" or any struggle. It was just fun seeing them and talking. BTW, These are the girls I've told I quit. They asked a few questions, not many (not tonight) but never asked me anything after that. We've been friends for a long time.

Nar, I hope your job is secure! And that's unsettling with the job situation for DH. Hopefully he can find something permanent.

El, so glad you feel comfortable posting here. We love that you 're here. You're making such great progress!

LC, those dreams suck! It made you a bit out of whack and wobbly today. But I'm glad you played it to the end. And I like what NS said - we don't want to equate relaxing with not giving a shit. My relaxing tonight was sitting in my hot tub. Anything you can do to get away for a few minutes for yourself to bring back some peace for yourself, some relaxation. How about that "Calm" app you can download. Deep breathing. And always remember when we have these al thoughts, ASAP think of the truth of what that one drink will do. These emotions are normal as every person struggles with different thoughts. We just have to pray about them, distract ourselves, find a way to relax, and push through them. That's why they say it's hard. What you went through today is hard, but you had to do something to get through it and you did. You played it to the end. High five on that!!!!!

Wags, when is your next adventure?

Ava, the video was really good on Mrs. D. I could relate to so much. When he said she'd be dancing downstairs when everyone was in bed, I did that! I used to get drunk and play my ipod and dance. I love to dance and we never really went dancing, so I figured I'd just do it myself. I think I may start to do that sober!! And it's true. Until someone has an addiction, or someone they know has an addiction, people don't understand. I'm so glad Kierra is learning about your addiction so she can empathize with you and understand you more.

Hi NS, Pat, Daisy, LB, Jane, Pav, G-man, SL, Ginger, Kailey...have a great night.

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Morning!

LB, you sound fantastic! The bike ride sounds great! A new and great way to appreciate life. And so glad for your upcoming outings! How life is getting better and better - I would have never believed! Ya know, LB, I was thinking that I was enjoying this basketball mom thing, but I like how you put it. Drinking would have definitely dulled my pleasure in doing this and FOR SURE I would have resented doing it because I would have been hung over! Now it's quite the opposite. I'm grateful for this and having such a good time being with the kids! Alcohol would have, once again, kept me away from doing something that makes me feel good.

Ava, no painkillers for the interview! You have to think clearly, ma dear! Excellent news report and very touching. This is what we need more of IMHO. Spread the awareness through shows like this! Let us know how you're feeling and how interview went.

Pat!!! Congratulations on your 50!!!! Your personal best! Yes, it's like we need to be copycats. Do what the successful people are doing. Listen to them. You're putting all the time into being a happy person in recovery - podcasts, reading, listening...it's work and it's paying off for you!! Now, let's get rid of that flu!

Daisy, that's the beauty of being in a recovery group. We are able to help each other, hold each other up when we're feeling week, and that's what keeps us sober one day at a time until it becomes much easier, we can then life's precious gifts. Reading, learning, connecting - it's all about recovery.

Wags, so glad you're working towards your next paddling goal. You're serious! That'll be a nice trip for you to visit Aunt.

Ok, hopefully this will post this morning. Have a great day ladies.

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LB, You Do sound great. The ride, going to the French Quarter, Hubby taking a day off. Wow, it just keeps getting better! And you are Sober on top of all of that
So happy for you.

J-Vo, it is always nice hangin' with old gal pals. I love doing that. Just like I love coming here and talking to you gals. It is great too how much you are into the basket ball thing with your son. Hey- get dancing girl! I can totally see you dancing to your ipod. Make sure you play Avicii and think of Ava and be happy your sober!

Life, I am so glad you are here. I love your attitude of Grattitude. I try and practice that everyday too. I Do have so much to be grateful for.

Ava, Don't take the pills before the interview! lol Be careful of that warm fuzzy feeling....just sayin'
You crack me up Ava.

I took my son to counselling yesterday. He had told us last week he was depressed. The counsellor talked to him for an hour and in part of the session she talked about the effects of marijuana on the brain. She said she had seen so many teens deeply affected by pot and that it stayed in the system the longest. I think he really listened. It sounds like he will try and go pot free for 6 weeks and see how he feels. She talked about certain tools he could use when he was feeling anxiety. It was interesting because she talked about being hungry and tired and that being a trigger for anxiety.
I told her about HALT and she was quite interested in that. Hungry Angry Lonely Tired- these things can bring on anxiety or craving AL. (thats my interpretation)
I am taking him there next week again. I think she really helped him. A big part of it is just him talking. That really helps alot.

Back to work. Thank you for all your support. It sounds like I should have work going into the fall....hopefully this is true.
xo

[NoSugar]

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Pat, Here's to you for setting a personal best! Congratulations!

lifechange;1683312 wrote: I mentioned in the Nest, that on looking back on how I was feeling yesterday, it's obvious to me that I wasn't practising my "Attitude of Gratitude". I'd forgotten my purpose of staying present in each and every moment... I have so much to be grateful for!!!

Good for you to recognize what was missing, LC! When I neglect to notice what is better in my life now than it used to be (and I need to make a specific mental comparison between before and after), I slip into taking what I have now for granted and almost not noticing that I'm happy, or at least content. For me, that is a dangerous place to be because being numb was my substitute for being content. I just need to remember to point out to myself that I already am .

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Hi loamers

No pills before the interview i promise!. I only had one and went to cook liam some dinner and dropped the frypan on the tiles, oil and chicken snitzel everywhere! i just laughed. then an hour or so later i wanted to vomit!. A pretty good indicator that i wont take them again.

Nar that is what Mia is going through with "mull/dope" too. She always tell me that if i can give up drinking then she can stop pot and she does for a few days and then starts again. I just want to shake her to stop but we know we cant do that. She has done counselling also but she is not going to work and i am disappointed about that as i have always thought kids need to work for a sense of self etc. We are spending the day together today shopping for candlemaking stuff so i will be subtly chatting to her. Mind you i was the biggest "cone head" when i was her age so i cant really hassle her when i did the same thing. I did stop when i had children. Maybe you could tell him about your drinking comparing it to his smoking.

Jvo yes the news report was good and i so related to the young man with his ICE addiction as that was liam. Addiction can hit us all like a brick and we really have no idea until we are near our bottom.

LB i bet that bike ride was wonderful. I have a huge fear of bikes but when i do get on one (20 years ago at least) i did enjoy it.

Well inteview today, have spent most of the night waking up thinking of an answer as to why i want to leave this job i am in as i dont want to say "i work with a bunch of dickheads", doesnt have a ring to it really!

I woke up to the news of the plane crash overseas and no survives and shot down by a missile. Why does this crap happen? Its just bewildering to think that people can take others lives just like that. We have a huge AIDS world conference on this week in Melbourne and apparently there are a few speakers that were on that plane. So very very sad.

Have a lovely day everyone and Jane will be glad when you are home. xx