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[NoSugar]

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1. dinking around
to goof off for long periods of time when you should be doing important things.
quit dinking around and get busy with your chores

or

i was dinking around on the internet all day and never paid the phone bill or washed the clothes.

Urban Dictionary: dinking around. :H

[scottish lass]

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Hi - I 'm back! Looks as if I have a ton of reading to do to catch up with you all.
So, I have been doing a lot of thinking and pondering - do I tell the truth or not, do I just carry on??? I know that I have to fess up...I have to start again, well today is day 2.
A little bit of me is happy - I did not overdo it - two pub small glasses of wine a night for three nights - no more, so probably one bottle in total...
I am mad that I have to start over, but relieved that I did not overdo it.
I am also very happy that my conciousness is working and I had a need to come clean.
So, off I go again - did 42 days, then three off and back on again to start the new year...
Will read back later, but hope everyone is keeping on a mission even if we need to slip and slide from time to time...

[Guitarista]

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Sha-LOAM y'all!

Stop dinking around NS!

Yo J-vo and Ava. Bravo on 30 days AF and taking your precious lives back. Youse RAWK, rock i tell's ya!

Right, enough dinking around. Take care everyone. This thread is a lively one.

xpost. Hiya SL! Take care.

[j-vo]

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Wow NS! Great context clues used in your "dinking" sentence!!!! A++

[j-vo]

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Awe NS...You didn't write your own original sentence. You copied from the Urban Dictionary...B-

[j-vo]

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Hi SL! Glad you're back and had a great trip! Your 42 AF days are not thrown out the window. During those days, you've learned what the AF life is all about. Never discount the distance you've come. Glad you're back with us and back on the AF track.

Sha-LOAM G-man and thank you!

[NoSugar]

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j-vo;1605289 wrote: Awe NS...You didn't write your own original sentence. You copied from the Urban Dictionary...B-

Hey, I needed a reference! You guys already thought I was making up words :H.
Dinkin' and You guys are clues that I live in the Midwest. And we drink pop.

[narilly]

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Hey quit Dinking around NS! That's a good word!

Nice to see you back SL, we missed you! Good you are back. I had a little slip myself but did not get too carried away. I'm back on board now.

Talk soon,

[available]

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SL hello and welcome home. How was your time away? I got to that 40 day mark and thought i could moderate but went way overboard in my moderation to the stage where i was starting to drink as much as when i was drinking. Good on you for your honesty and now you are here safe and sound the days will rock around.

DINKING i like that word NS.

Well i have been to drs with daughter and she had an ECG and she has to have a full blood test. I have a request for one also that i have had since early November so we are going together. I have not had a blood test in so many years. I didnt need to know my liver levels, i knew them without a blood test but feeling like I can do this now as i have to look after me above all else.

Glad you liked my pics Jvo but now i will wait patiently for the map of us all to be sent. I think a nap is in order for me this afternoon. Need to prepare for the party I am not having or going to.

[scottish lass]

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Thanks for the welcome back - I had a great time. The girls and I had a lot of fun and did a lot in a short time, wonderful to have that sort of good time with teenagers.
Av - true words, and I know that my mind did try to tell me that I was safe and could moderate - I have to say that I am very happy that I was moderate in my drinking, but am fully aware that if I don't get back on track that I will get way off track - so serious about getting back.
Pav, a while back you replied - we are close. I live in the central valley, and my main office is in San Leandro.....It is fun to know someone is in a similar area.
It is good so many people have stuck on this thread, and more have joined us.
UN - have you ventured over here? Well done for coming back!
Well done Star - seems as if you are getting soem good time in.
Narilly, saw that you have a stop and start - you are in teh lead now, so take me with you!
Hi j-vo, NS, G and everyone else.
So I leave for a couple of days and get back to find that I am a LOAM.
Time to stop dinking around, and also to stop drinking and to get back to business!:H

[Pavati]

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MAE, All:

Welcome back, SL. I'm glad you came clean - you can read back that while you were gone we had several posts about honesty - here and to ourselves, as being key to success in sobriety. I am glad it didn't take you down that rabbit hole, and I agree that you can't discount the days you had. I hope you had a fabulous time with your daughters.

Unwasted, J-Vo and NS were conversing on another thread about perfectionism, and they said they would bring the conversation here, but i couldn't wait! This is for sure one of my big problems - and it can be stifling. I do things like keep my ragged, moldy shower curtain because no matter how many stores I go to I can't find the perfect one! I don't sign up for a yoga class because after searching and finding the perfect one, my teacher moved. I shop endlessly for a sofa (literally years) but never buy a new one because I can't find the perfect one. I compare myself to other (moms, sisters, friends) and feel guilty and bad because my body isn't perfect, my parenting isn't perfect, etc.

Alcohol gave me that social lubricant to have more confidence in a room. Maybe it was the blurry vision, but I swear that I thought I looked BETTER after a glass or two (certainly not better after more than that - but that's another story). Alcohol also gave me confidence to flirt when I was painfully shy around boys (let's not mention the times in college where AL made me a little too confident in that department).

Through therapy and just aging, I have gained more confidence, and being without alcohol doesn't seem so daunting. I was at our Christmas party with a bunch of twenty-somethings at a table and began to turn inward as I felt old and out of place. But I was sober so I could notice what I was doing, and to remember to find my inner confidence. I began to be much more myself - my true, unadulterated self, and actually was funny and engaging - we all had a great time.

In my family this is called a "Pavati" story - one I start with real purpose only to wander around and forget my point. I guess my point is that perfectionism is bulls#!t. It doesn't exist. Good enough is good enough, and will free us up to get on with life. I have a feeling a lot of us here are perfectionists who compensated in some way with booze.

Ok - I will do some more complete reading back now and hope to post more later (or tomorrow - aren't you all lucky?!)

Sleep tight - NYE is tomorrow. I NEVER thought I could make it through Christmas and New Year's without alcohol, and now I know I will. Thanks, everyone. Day 29 over.

[narilly]

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SL, yup, time to stop DINKING around! I did not drink too much either but we both know what a slippery slope it is.
The next time easily could be black out night. No thanks! Have to get back on this AF wagon. I'll ride it with you SL!
Have a great AF night.

[DreamThinkDo]

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available;1605320 wrote: I think a nap is in order for me this afternoon. Need to prepare for the party I am not having or going to.

Oh Avail, that must be the best excuse for a nap I've heard in all my life!:H:H:H

LOAMS, have a lovely last day of 2013!

[Pavati]

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Ok, I was just reading back again and see that I missed NS bringing the perfectionism thing here - I think I missed a whole page. Must have been dinking around.

Ava - that actually made me laugh out loud. I don't even know the Avicci song (or at least I don't know it as that). You are hysterical.

Star - please forgive yourself! We are all human, we all make mistakes. I'm going to sound like a broken record (or 60 broken records), but can you get out in the fresh air and get some exercise? It really helps with that terrible feeling you're feeling. Also, B vitamins.

Nar - Love the idea of visualizing roots - I will have to remember that one.

Ok, NOW I'm going to sleep. See you tomorrow to ring in the New Year SOBER! We got this, gals (and G)!

[available]

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Oh Pav it so was not when i remembered the next day but damn i love that song. The same night my SIL did not get her order from McDonalds and man she abused everyone in the car who got theirs. You could have heard a pin drop and no way were we going to eat our food. I had one chip in my mouth that i ate for about 15 minutes. I can laugh now but it was the straw that broke the camels back so the saying goes, took me a month or so to start my journey again but as Dream (god i am confusing myself) said I always said i was going to give up and i am glad i listened to myself.

I have nearly polished off all my lemon lime and bitters, still have some diet ginger beer to wade through. My son came home with some tequila and said "hey mum lets celebrate your 30 days with you skulling a tequila followed by a beer" and see how long it takes you to pass out. Oh funny boy, i said no thanks. I just think they are still testing me to see how serious i am. Before I would have been right in there! Those to letters NO flowed easily from my mouth and i had no desire at all. I miss not drinking tonight but waking up hangover free and posting on here that i am sober is more than enough for me.