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[j-vo]

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El, good luck next week! I love the planning part.!!!!!

Daisy you sound terrific!

Patrice, need to hear how that reward went for you. Been thinking about something like that.

Lil b how bout just relaxing a bit and taking a nap?

Mom, as NS said, no worries or pressure!!!

Am typing on my phone. Waiting for sis to come out of store. Just finished a bike ride into city. It was great. We packed a lunch and ate down there. Have a great day all.

[little beagle]

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I plan to rest and nap this rainy afternoon.
wish we could send sa bit of the rain your way Ginger.

[little beagle]

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Pretty slow on here today. I hope everyone is just out enjoying their freedom.

[lifechange]

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Good MAE, Ladies!!!

Morning, LB!! How are you and your little beagles doing? I wasn't here yesterday-- was out at the lake, enjoying my freedom!! We are having gorgeous weather--hot-- and the only thing to do is to hang out in the shade at the lakes. We are fortunate to have many nearby. My little one is a water rat and it's still possible to get little-girl squeals of delight out of her.

What are all the loamers doing this weekend? I have to read back a bit-- but I get annoyed when I'm interrupted every 5 minutes with questions or stories. I am better able to concentrate when I'm not in the middle of a post here!!

It's really stressful at home as well-- the BF and his son have completely different interests and time schedules, so we don't end up doing anything together. As long as I don't have any expectations it's ok. But it's also sort of sad-- and a lot of work for me. Nice work, but it feels like a job to keep everyone happy.

Great job yesterday, Daisy on getting to that personal goal!!

Ok, we're off again--I'll check in this evening. :h to you all!

[NoSugar]

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Hi, LB. I'm here.

All of MWO seems to be on vacation right now. Like you, I hope it is because everyone is out living and not drinking :upset:.

I've been working on some crafty projects in my spare time. It is so nice to be back doing that type of thing regularly again. It's really something how many activities drinking steals but because, at least for me, changes were so gradual, I didn't realize all I'd given up until I began to reclaim them.

A day at the lake sounds fabulous, LC. It is a shame that that does not appeal to your BF and his son. And remember, it really isn't your job "to keep everyone happy". The stress of trying to do that can really get a person down.

Hope you all have/had a lovely Saturday!

[NoSugar]

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Hey, Daisy - way to go reaching a personal goal! Just keep setting another each time you achieve one and this success can go on and on and on.

Ginger, I saw the fires on the news last night. Is all of this unusual? I hope you aren't affected directly. It looks very scary and so sad.

xx- NS

[Kailey]

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Good morning. I'm here and will check in again today, as weekends are tough for me. Feeling pretty positive though. Crazy family drama for the last few days! I feel like I've either been at work or dealing with family for days! Exhausted by all the drama and ready for a little down time. I haven't read back, but will take the time to do it now. Hope everyone is doing well!

[patrice]

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Hi girls!
Just checking in
I'm having a bit of a blah day after my day of rewards yesterday
I actually can't wait to go to bed and it's not even 9 pm!!
So glad I'm not drinking though and these types of days just come and go, don't they...
Hope everyone has a great MAE
Xx
Pat

[daisy45]

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Thanks everyone....Patrice, I felt like that yesterday.....one of those days where everything goes opposite of how I intended....ended up like a weasel, and couldn't wait for tomorrow.
Tomorrow is here so I got up and had a good breakfast, then swam 64 lengths (1 mile in our pool). Feel great and I intend to keep it going.
Last night I was so wound up I told my daughter this was a time when I would normally reach for the wine. I have learned enough to know that it will pass......I suppose this is another part of our learning....shit days come, and they can just get shittier (like mine yesterday).....sobriety does not magic all the bad stuff away....but I knew that today I could change things if I put the effort in.....drinking wine would have sucked that possibility away.
Lifechange and Kailey......family drama! Feck, it never stops. My front door should be revolving.....as one problem is solved, another is on it's way. I tried selling an item of fb for my mum and then my paranoid sister chose to first of all write under the item for sale 'why did you not offer your sister thiis first?', then when I rang she pulled me up again.....I was doing my mum a favour! I cannot read minds! That was the start of the day and it just went from bad to worse.....sometimes you need to create space from family members....and if you can't.....HIDE! I have been known to hide in the bathroom pretending to run water every now and again, just to avoid talking to someone who doses the feck outta me!
Okay everyone.....Rant over....aaaaaah......funny, I feel better after that!

[j-vo]

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Daisy,
First, congrats on your reaching your personal goal and surpassing old one. You made so many good points in your post. Oh, how awesome to get up and swim that mile! First, I want to agree, that at the time we're feeling we want that glass of wine, we do need to recognize that this is just a thought and it'll pass. It's not a physical need anymore, just a mental tug. It goes away. It will always go away and we need to remember that. Nope, sobriety doesn't "magic" all the bad stuff away. Like Patrice, we'll have "blah" days, we'll have tugs here or there, but it passes and good feelings always come back. Thanks for reinforcing that for me! And lastly, yes, "we all can change things if we put effort in." Most things I'd say, but not all. We can recognize the difference. Thanks for all of that Daisy!

Patrice, just like Daisy said, that "blah" will pass. Hopefully you're feeling better!

Kailey, family drama! Sorry. Can you escape and do something nice for yourself?

Ginger, can't wait to hear about your adventure!

LC, I agree with NS. It's not your job to "keep everyone happy." I hope you're having fun doing all of that with the kids, and I think your time with them is so different than it would be had you been drinking. Everything would have taken so much more effort and been a drag! So even though it may feel like lots of pressure right now, you're doing it! And with a clear head! And one more thing...find time for yourself. Take time for yourself. Kids do not need to be entertained. They need to find a way to amuse themselves with things they like to do.

LB, yeah you took that nap, did ya!!!! Proud of you!

I'm out living and enjoying freedom, that's for damn sure! Yesterday was a bike ride into city, last night back into city - went to casino and play black jack for the first time, won some cash! Then we spent our winnings on a late dinner at Joe's Crab Shack. So good! I paid attention to how I was feeling throughout the evening. I was quite at peace. Of course there were people around me drinking, but I didn't crave it. I felt relaxed and not worried about when I would get my next drink. (I always did this, even snuck to one of the bars and would do a shot when DH wasn't looking). I remembered back to the times I was wobbling around. Too drunk to converse when we saw people. Last night I walked around with my head held high feeling mighty proud of myself. I didn't have to worry about feeling stupid or what i would do. I made good choices that that black jack table!!!!!!! And onto dinner, it was a busy night in the city. We walked over to Joe's Crab Shack and there was a band playing. Not great and not my music, but the atmosphere was fun. I think if it were a band that I liked, I would actually have stood there and danced and sang (in place) to it and loved it. All I can say is that I'm getting to a place where I used to need alcohol (think I needed) alcohol to have fun and I had such a nice evening without doing what we used to do. I haven't been to the casino much because of fear that I would feel bad, but I'm glad i went and experience the freedom that I did. WAFFFLING!!!!!!!

Have a great day ladies!

[Pavati]

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Hi,

I'm here, too. Enjoying myself, and also couldn't log on last night.

I had a great day but did feel the tug of alcohol on a ferry. I ALWAYS have a beer on that ferry and I felt a tad sorry for myself. It didn't take long for me to come to my senses - one moment to realize that I like the THOUGHT of a beer, but I don't actually want the beer. We had dinner with friends who commented how good I look! If that's not incentive to stay sober...

Great on your personal goal, Daisy.

LC - I LOVE lakes. Family drama? I'm going to dinner with some family tonight that have caused drama in my life - will let you know how it goes. The good news is I love the restaurant, so at least I can eat my way through it.
NS - Crafts are appealing to me but I think I lack the patience for it (and maybe the digital dexterity??).
J-Vo - sounds like a lovely night - glad you were happy.
El - If my calculations are correct you're entering what was for me the BLAH phase. I believe I have posted numerous times about it. I don't feel like that any more, but I sure did...
Kailey - good to see you here!

Happy sober Saturday, everyone. Off to do some house chores and get a hike in.

xo
Pav

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Hi all - I need to read back, I have been away for about a week out of town. I had a couple of very long days where, to be totally honest, I thought how nice it would be to unwind with a glass of wine. The good thing is I was in a house with a number of other adults/couples and only one or two drank - the rest did not which was fantastic. There were two unopened bottles of wine and they never got opened which also really helped. I just kept telling myself that these days come and go so quickly and there is no reason to risk trying to have that 'just one' when I know from experience that it just doesn't stop there. It was a little difficult but now it's over and I am very glad to be home.

Hope all are doing well...I am looking forward to catching up!

[wagmore]

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Daisy - Great job meeting and surpassing your personal goal. You sound strong and I have no doubt you will reach the next one as well. Glad you got out for a swim as well.

Pav - I just replied to this in the nest, but great job pushing past the trigger of drinking a beer on the ferry. In addition, it must feel wonderful to have people tell you that you're looking good!

Patrice - The blahs will definitely pass, as I'm sure you know. Stay close here, and go to bed early when you need to

Ginger - Look forward to hearing about our recent trip. Are you near any of the fires? Seems like the whole west coast is in flames right now.

Frances - Great job staying AF in the face of temptation!

j-vo - The bike ride, casino time, and dinner all sound fun. Definitely enjoy all of your freedom!

Ava - Love your new pic! How did the interview go?

NS - I agree - sometimes I'm amazed at how much more time I have now that I'm not drinking. I feel like I have a life again, which is awesome! I think this "high" from enjoying things is really helping me protect my quit. It's a much more even-keeled high than I ever got from any substance - not really even a high per se, but just happy. I think I had forgotten what it felt like to be happy. It's amazing!

Kailey, LB, LC, Eloise, Mo3, Jane, Nar, everyone - stay strong and have a great AF weekend!

[NoSugar]

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Pavati;1684115 wrote: ...one moment to realize that I like the THOUGHT of a beer, but I don't actually want the beer.

There are a lot of things that I've always liked the thought of - hot chocolate, toasted marshmallows, a football game on a crisp but sunny fall day - that I actually have never liked at all. But the idea of them still sounds good to me . I guess wine is in that category now. And just like I never try hot chocolate anymore, I'll not be trying wine!

Great to hear from you, Frances! You must feel so good that you didn't risk getting back on the hamster wheel! It might have been ok in the short run but the stories of relapse that I've read make me very reluctant to take that chance.

J, you are sounding fantastic - living your AF life to the max!

I hope your Sundays are better than your Saturdays, Pat and Daisy! (But any day you didn't drink at least has that going for it!).

Kailey, I've had some family drama lately, too. This relates to what I said to LC earlier. Right now, everybody simply cannot be happy. But they are adults and are going to have to figure it out w/o me mediating. I hope things are settling down for you.

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daisy45;1683664 wrote: Hi Loamers! Well,at day 67 - my last personal goal before 82 days.....last time I git 67 was 2012 just before my dad was diagnosed with cancer. Now for 82, which I got to when I first came here in 2010!
All good here....losing weight, looking and feeling better. PMT just kicking in so I 'will' bitch for a few days and bark at anyone that annoys me - standard! But, I won't drink!

Yeah Daisy - this is really great - so very happy for you, I know how hard you have tried for this as we have been on the same journey before - really pleased! SL