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[daisy45]

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Hi loamers....had a lot of reading back to do! My son was 23 yesterday so we had a 200 mile round trip to have a bbq with him last night - he moved in with his girlfriend a year ago and last night he invited her family round. It was a lovely night and I felt comfortable with them all. Most were drinking but not too much. When I got up to go they wre surprised I was driving......I came home with a lovely feeling in my heart.....I only have 1 son and he sat beside me and I knew he was proud of me. Didn't get home until 1am.
Today I need to start a new project. My brother is renovating an old house as a retreat for people who are sick....he wants me to paint an artists impression of how it will look when finished. Never done this before so definitely a challenge!
Rooni, good to see you, and Ava, enjoy your wee break....hope the arm doesn't give you too much trouble. How exciting you are meeting Petrel....I would love to meet some MWOers....

[lifechange]

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Hi Ladies!!
I missed you all while on our little summer lake adventures. Today is rainy and cool, so we're spending the day at home, watching movies and making summer rolls. Mmmmmm..

Ava, wishing you a wonderful mini-vacation with your Mum! I am so happy for you, that you've been able find peace with her and that you are able to enjoy your time together. It's so important for all of us, to find peace with our loved ones. I am also envious that you're meeting up with another mwo'er!! Lucky dogs!! I don't travel so much at the moment, but I hope that if anyone is in Berlin...!!! Sorry to hear about the shoulder! I have to say, my left one is starting to creak..I always try to do "preventative" exercises.. but sometimes it's so painful..

Rooni!! So happy to see you here! This is such a great thread, as all have already said-- I hope you'll make yourself right at home and post like the devil. Even though I feel like I've "known" you for a long time, I can't remember such details and look forward to getting to know you!

Ginger!! Super well done on getting those 80 days under your belt. You do make it look easy!! You've taken drinking, moderating, any excuses off the table, have been positive with your attitude of gratitude, have offered help, whenever possible. You seem to be setting yourself up for success!!

J-vo!! I agree with the masses here on the Loamer's thread. You are someone I always look up to with your willingness to say it like it is, to recognise and talk about your problems, to foresee possible bumps in the road.. :l

Kailey, you're doing so well, doing what you need to do to kick this addiction in the a**. So nice to have the thoughts beginning to change direction-- it's so essential to our recovery.. to change these old norms.

LB, Nar, Jane, Eloise, NS, Star, Wags, Daisy :l and love to you all. Jane, extra love and strength headed your way in dealing with that ENT guy! I feel for you...

[rooniferd]

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Good morning, Loamers (love that name!), thank you all so much for the warm welcome! I know a couple of you have asked me what my plan is for quitting this time, and believe me, I'm asking myself that same question over and over again. Like I said, I have my handy prescription of Antabuse, so I will be taking that every single day until I have a whole bunch of days AF. Right now, I just need to get a significant sober time under my belt so I can start making new friendships and routines that don't involve the beast. The majority of my social life revolves around drinking situations and people who drink. I KNOW that this has to change. This HAS to change, or I will never beat this thing, right?

I also need to heal physically. I really want to focus on losing some weight and getting into shape. Seems like I'm always tired and unmotivated - typical for a heavy drinker, right? I am planning to change that - starting now! I went roller skating last night with a new group of friends (no alcohol at the skating rink), and I always admire their stamina. I left exhausted and came home and went straight to bed.

One thing I want to focus on is my mindset toward this quitting thing. It's a new opportunity - not a jail term. It's not about giving up something fun - it's about gaining a whole new, healthy life. It's not about losing friends - it's about gaining a ton of friends who share a common goal of living a healthy life. It's not about being a boring person - it's about being a person who lives life to the fullest.

The opportunities are endless!

But right now, I need to heal this worn body and get my head together. I am ready for this new journey!! And I'm happy to be here to share it with all of you!!!

Happy Thursday, everyone!! The beast can go F* himself today!!

[Starfish1]

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Love you ladies so much. :l

I had a rough start to my day (posted in the nest about it), but all better now, after skimming thru posts in the nest and the loamers thread.:thanks:

I have a meeting starting in seven minutes and no time to post, but wanted to thank you all for giving me strength.

Love you all and we will miss you, Ava!

[narilly]

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Morning Loamers!
I wish I was there to hold your hand Ava while you were going through this. i hate the thought of you being in pain.
Hey, you are meeting Petrel for coffee? Wow, that should be interesting! Tell us how it goes. I would love to get together with some MWOers sometime and maybe that will happen you never know.

Rooni, so glad you are starting to do different things that don't involve AL. I stopped going to movies for a long time because I could not drink there. Now, I go (ok, I still don't go) but I would go if asked. I wouldn't outright say, No, I don't feel like it.
Changing your mind set from a feeling deprivation to a feeling of gratitude for being sober really helped me. Every day I wake up and am so grateful that I have no hangover and no guilt from the night before. It is awesome.

Star, I am glad skimming thru the posts helped you out. It is amazing how that works! I am glad you are here.

Life- summer rolls? YUM, I am comin' over!

Lil B- isn't it great to feel the freedom of not having the worry to drink. Love it!

Kailey, big hug from me. You are kickin butt.

Anyway, back to work.

[wagmore]

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Ava - Have fun at lunch with Petrel! Also, hope your shoulder injection helps a bunch and that you enjoy your time with your mom.

Kailey - Great to hear you doing so well - you sound strong, determined and happy

Daisy - The visit with your son for his bday sounds like it was wonderful, and I'm sure he is very proud of you. The "artist's impression" project sounds really interesting - have fun and let us know how it goes!

LB - I know, I would rather have people like me too. And I actually think I'm pretty likable when people get to know me. It's hard when people form judgments before they even know a person. I feel like with my current coach, that's partly the case, and I have to let her own that. When I think about it, her behavior hasn't changed from Day One, so it's not likely due to anything about me.

I'm just going to enjoy the rest of the season, learn as much as I can, continue to get great exercise and become even more physically fit, and hopefully develop a few friendships with team mates. The rest I will let go of because I can only control my own behaviors and responses.

Star - Sorry your day started off kinda rough - hugs to you

Jane - Good luck with Doogie. I really hope you're able to get some relief - you've got a big 200-day celebration to prep for!

Rooni - I can SO relate to the process of making new friendships that don't revolve around drinking. I'm in the middle of that process myself. It hasn't always been easy but it's definitely worth the effort. And you CAN lose the weight! I've lost at least 10-12 pounds since I stopped drinking - maybe more than that. I've been working out hard, no doubt, but simply stopping the AL and eating more healthy foods again has probably been the biggest catalyst.

LC, Pav, Nar, Pat, Ginger, G-man, everyone else I'm forgetting (sorry) - Have a great day!

[Starfish1]

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Hi Ladies,

Just checking back in. Had a three hour meeting again this morning...Y'all would NOT EVEN believe what goes on in those damn meetings. Feel like I've been drug thru the mud! But it's over now and I am eating a nice, healthy lunch. The supervisor went out for lunch, so at least he will leave me alone while I eat mine.
Thanks for all the encouragement this morning. Everyone sounds great.
Jane, I am so happy Doogie discovered what the problem has been. Yeah, those sinus infections are awful and can make you feel bad all over. Fingers and toes crossed that the next course of treatment will clear it all up for you!

[j-vo]

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Hi Girls!

Nar, thanks!:l:h

Kailey, sounds like your priorities are changing and also what is good is changing. Isn't it nice to think about something like a nice bath instead of a glass of wine. Your brain is beginning to change, just keep reprogramming.

Ava, enjoy your spoiled and sun and fun-filled weekend. Whatever you wear, you'll be pretty. And have fun with Petrel!

Daisy, hearing about your son being proud of you warms my heart. So many of us have experienced the same, and it's the best, really! I also love hearing people doing good for others like your brother, and now you're working with him towards this great cause. So cool.

LC, glad you're having a relaxing time today with girls. It's nice to just "hang out."

Roon, I loved roller skating when I was younger. I was quite the bad ass on skates...going backwards, one leg crossing over the other. When I was pregnant 17 years ago, I thought being pregnant for 9 months was like a jail sentence because i couldn't drink. Sounds like you're gratitude mode is kicking in. Sometimes we have to force it, but once we begin thinking like that, it's so much easier and we're more at peace.

Have a great day ladies!

[available]

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Rooni hi and welcome. I did mean to say hi yesterday but forgot, damn that memory of mine. you are totally right in thinking that not drinking is a jail sentence when at the end of the day it is total freedom.

Another plane crash to wake up to. I just thought "im not going" but i figure when your time is up your time is up and valium works.

Going for lunch with petrel so that will be lovely. He is not drinking but still has those modding thoughts so a brick is packed just in case.

Well better stop procrastinating and get ready.

love you all xxx

[narilly]

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Ha ha! Good thing Ava, a brick may be what is needed. I could have used one so many times when I was drinking. Once a pickle always a pickle.


Rooni, hope you are having a great day. Tomorrow is Friday , I know you will have a plan to stay AF this weekend. :l

We are going for supper with another couple tonight. Before I would have taken this as a big chance to drink. These friends don't really drink and so that would have put me off a bit. In fact, I probably would not have planned this, that way I could stay home and drink. I used to only make brunch plans with these particular friends. So it will be fun. We are going to a French Indian fusion restaurant. Yum!

I won't be drinking tonight anyway so hip hip Horray!

I am so freakin tired lately. Maybe it's because work is so mental. I am one of the last people working on this huge project and am dealing with a million problems all day every day. That makes me tired Bur NOT thirsty.

Talk later sweet ladies.

[j-vo]

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Ava,
Glad you can get through security with your brick!

Nar, enjoy your supper with friends.

I had a nice breakfast with a friend I work with, and we became friends as I knew she was "one of us" and I reached out to her last October. She's such a great person, so pretty, smart, has three kids 10, 13, and 14. She's a HS English teacher. We don't get together much, but it's really nice when we do.

Leaving tomorrow for two days. Going to meet parents and sister and family about three hours away to watch one of my nephews play tourney baseball. We're looking forward to it as that was our summer lives for many years. Tourney after tourney in July. I can't believe that's not a part of our lives anymore. So will be gone Friday and Saturday. I'll check in!

Have a great weekend ladies!

[NoSugar]

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Ava, I think you could be a tee-shirt designer :H:


When your time is up,
your time is up.
And valium works.

[narilly]

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I'll buy the shirt! Good one NS

Goodnight girls. Had a nice supper and am in bed.

We have a Folk Fest going on this weekend with lots of bands playing outside. It is just down the hill from my house and it is loud. Hopefully they shut it down soon.

Xo
Mariane

[available]

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lol NS i will buy one thanks.

well i made it to mums and we had a lovely lunch and a coffee after. came home to have a cup of coffee and she had wine. i was telling her how i met petrel as i had not told her about mwo as did not think she was interested and she then told me how proud of me she was. she has never told me she is proud of me so i am pretty chuffed today.

well better go and listen to mum bitch about the politicians etc. shoot the bloody lot of them she says, i cant say i really disagree with that.

xxxx

[daisy45]

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Jane, congratulations on 200 days.....what a woman!
Ava, so glad you made it to your mums in one piece! And that was so nice for you to hear.....
Feeling so down today....don't like to get this way when I know there are so many people worse off than me. Just feel like I am alone in a situation at home....can't talk to anyone in case it affects my daughter....my sister has upset my daughter and I feel like going round and giving her what for! I won't because it would had adverse effects on my daughter so sister gets off with it.....Can't even say on here....anonymity.....