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wagmore;1686899 wrote: . Sigh... I think (I hope) I'm actually pretty interesting as a sober person, we probably all are, but I guess people who are drunk wouldn't see it that way.

I'm sure you are fun and interesting in 3-D, Wags, just as you are here.
My experience has been that the only people who don't like my choice are those with their own insecurities about the subject. I know many people who either have never drank or drink occasionally and they don't care one way of the other. I've thought about how I would have felt if one of my friends had quit first - it would have brought all my fears to to the forefront and people who are scared tend to lash out in one way or another. I'm glad to have been first .

[Starfish1]

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Hi sweet Ladies:l

Had a very emotional weekend (posted in nest) and thank you all for your support!

Huge congrats on milestones, Pat, Roxie and Roonie! Keep up the great work.

Lil :l what you are a hero, in my book!

Love you waggie!

Pav and Frances, Thanks!

Jane! Praying for you and the thyroid issue!

NS! I HATE driving in thunderstorms! I know how nerve-wracking that was!

I love each and every one of you and can't tell you how much your support means to me.

Hey P.S. Some of you have my cell number and send sweet messages. Just wanted to let you know that my cell is out of commission right now. So please don't think I am ignoring you if you send a message and I don't answer.

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Rooni happy 7th to you. I was so stoked when i did 7 days straight with no al. Amazed and stunned and proud and i knew then in myself that i could keep going. Nothing could entice me to do those 7 days again and go through those withdrawals. EAch and every day gets better and better. You need to get new friends yes or tell them you are not drinking. Thats way too much pressure in the early stages of quitting.

J sorry to hear about your family but at the end of the day we are the only ones that can make the choice to move on and change and you know that. Its sad to see others in pain and she probably thought the same of you when you were drinking, seeing you destroy your life and the person you are but you stopped that just as she has to. hugs to you lovely.

El, that was funny, a bear in the car also. Well there goes the whole family and no wonder the tyre went flat! Bears weigh a lot especially if they eat whole families.

Pav, yes times have changed since i posted my anxiety about going on holidays with mum. Its not perfect but its good and she is really proud of me, at least she wont have to bury another child due to al. I still bite my tongue and walk away but the distance is not as far anymore. Petrel and i have been texting for ages and it was such a coincidence that he lives in the middle of nowhere in the same suburb as my mum so i knew what he looked like. Running, mmm yep, boobs too big for that one.

Wag, those thoughts, i just let them run through my head and out my feet. I remind myself of a cartoon character going nuts for a drink but running at great speed away. I know i cant drink, i know i would like too but i cant and i look at how much better my life is and who i would hurt if i did drink and i want to be the best sober nana in the world if that ever happens. I am so not normal with drinking either, people just dont like it one iota. thats sad.

well last day here so off to sit outside in the sun and have a cup of coffee or ten, i hate flying, im filled with dread. ive spoken to the children and told them i love them and they all say "i know mum" and im like "no i mean i really really love you, remember that". poor kids but they know what i am like.

oh dear. be good girls and i really really love you guys ha ha!

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Ava, you're just The Best :l. I love you and all the Loamers. Thought of you all today when I read Anne LaMott's most recent post (I :h her, too): https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=524013137728334&id=1156320818 99777

[wagmore]

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available;1687031 wrote:
Wag, those thoughts, i just let them run through my head and out my feet. I remind myself of a cartoon character going nuts for a drink but running at great speed away. I know i cant drink, i know i would like too but i cant and i look at how much better my life is and who i would hurt if i did drink and i want to be the best sober nana in the world if that ever happens. I am so not normal with drinking either, people just dont like it one iota. thats

Ava - Love the cartoon character imagery... Yep, when I get those "wish I could" thoughts I try to just play the movie out to the end and I'm quickly reminded that it's all an illusion for me - no such thing as normal drinking or being happy to stop after just one or two.

Similar to you, I will focus on being the best sober friend, daughter, mom, etc I can be.

Your mom is obviously proud of your sobriety. Your kids and potential future grandkids will for sure be as well, especially as they build more and more memories with you.

[MossRose]

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Just poking my head in to say hi. Wish I could be more attentive and helpful like the rest of you, but I'm selfishly wrapped up in my own problems. Not liking myself much these days and vowed to stay clear of MWO because I'm drinking again, but NS (Bless Her Heart!!) keeps reaching out to me, and that made me feel loved and valued. Something I don't feel much of these days, from others or myself. Anyway, I'm lurking and tired. Hope to move past this awful time very soon. I didn't want to post here because you all seem so happy and motivated and I didn't want to be the downer on this thread. NS assured me it's the only way back to sanity. I sure do miss the AF life. It was wonderful. I can't bring myself to post in any other forum. It's just too shameful. But I know, and trust all of you. Love to you all. xx MR

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Hey Moss glad to see you back and good ole NS. she got me to get back on my path to sobriety. persistent she certainly is and i can thank her from the bottom of my heart for the 8 months of sobriety i have.

Keep posting girl and come back to us on a full time basis. we arent happy all the time believe me but we do our best to look at the positives in life. If we looked at the negatives each and every day we would all be drowing in the bottle.

Ive really got to go and pack and get ready to go home. I am thinking i dont want to go and leave my future husband lol.
xx

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Persistent is certainly a nice word for it, Ava - thank you .

Moss, Moss, Moss - I just sent you 3 hugs in a PM because you are showing such courage and self-love coming here today. Please don't drift away again - no matter what! Here's one more: :l.

[Kailey]

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Hi Moss! If you can somehow figure out a way to get an AF day or two under your belt you will feel so much better. As you know, it's a vicious circle when your are stuck drinking ... you drink and that makes you loathe yourself, you drink again because your miserable and it's the easiest way to get some momentary happiness, and then you loathe yourself... over and over.

If you can just break that pattern you are just a day or two from feeling hopeful and proud. I've had a history in the past running away from here when I've been drinking... for the same reasons as you, I don't want to bring everyone down. I'm trying to reframe that way of thinking. If I drink again, that's when I will need to be here more than ever.

You are welcome here with open arms. You deserve a chance at a sober life as much as anyone! You'll do it! Just stick around. :l

[MossRose]

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Thanks for the hugs NS. I can't thank you enough.

And Ava...future husband??? I obviously missed something big. Sounds like love is in the air. How lovely.

ok - back to Day one. But I'm ready. I have felt so sick physically, emotionally and spiritually for over a month now. I wouldn't wish this feeling on my worst enemy - which I'm obviously my own. Glad to be back home.

[MossRose]

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Hi Kailey - cross post. Thanks for the love and support. You are right - I'm a master at running away. Or at least trying to run away. No more!! I know where that leads.

[Rusty]

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Hey Neighbor Moss,:l:h

I'm proud of you for coming back here. Tell us what's going on in your life that you are self-medicating with booze. I echo what other people here said...we aren't happy all the time but if we keep looking back at our lives and ruminating about negative stuff, we would all be staring at the bottom of the bottle and then hustling off to the liquor store to get more.

I want to help. Tell me how.:h

xox
Rusty

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Hi MR - signing in to be all about me, and good to see you ready to try again - keeping on trying is what got me to where I am today, and if you keep trying you will be too.
I am signing in today with a request for help.
I am off on my summer hols on Saturday - and this will be my first af holiday....probably ever since reaching drinking age, if not before (and drinking age being 18 in UK).
I am sure I can do it - i will have 160 days under my belt when I leave, and who in their right mind would ruin that? Also I would have to confess here and on the daily thread I sign in on...
However, as you can tell - it is weighing on my mind. I have been looking at the hotel sight and so many drinkig opportunities that all sound so good on one side of my mind and not to the other....
I am getting shored up ready for the temptation - I know all the answers, but realistically I know I will be tempted - I had decided not to get a rental car as I want a real relaxing time, but then having a car will be another reason not to drink...
I really do not want to drink, and know I can do it (different to other times) and will be so proud signing in on return - just another bad habit to break - holidays mean drinking, have to get holidays to mean more than that now don't I.
So many Loamers have done this, so I know I can too - just another of the long list of firsts - so likely will stay close here for a while....
Thanks for understanding....:l

[MossRose]

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Hiya neighbor. I'm sending you a PM so we don't bore these poor people to death. Must say, I'm feeling the love and it's helping a lot!!!

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SL, talk to yourself like you would to one of your daughters if she had a bad habit (that she had been free of for 160 days!) that she was tempted to return to on vacation. You would be calm and logical, but would empathize with her because she had had to give up something that she enjoyed but that had become bad for her. You'd probably offer alternatives and maybe even let her pout for a little while. You wouldn't tell her she was stupid, bad, or weak, but would talk about the even greater longer term benefits, including self-worth, that will come if she sticks with it. You might remind her how awful she'll feel if she goes back to her old ways.

You might be surprised how much you prefer being sober on vacation - maybe by dealing with it now, it won't even be a problem next week. I'll be on a beach at the same time. Wanna be sober beach-buddies :l?