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[narilly]

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Mossy! So good to hear from you! I am sorry you are drinking, I know how much it sucks. Like Kailey says, just don't drink today, come back tomorrow and let is know how you did.

SL, I always have trouble on holidays but have managed to stay sober at a few. I always have an option around, like a tasty non AL drink and I make plans early in the morning so there is no way I could b hungover. There are some tips in the tool box.

Last night was the hardest night since I quit. I wanted a glass of wine so bad! The Only thing that stopped me was the thought of having to come here and tell you ladies I had a drink. Holy smokes! THANK YOU! If it wasn't for MWO and the Loamers, I would have drank for sure. That is how powerful this group is.
We got together with old friends who we drank with all the time before. It was a beautiful night and my friend asked me if it was ok for her to have wine. No problem I said. But it looked so good. I just wanted to have a glass and relax but then I thought there was no way I could tell the Loamers that I Drank , plus, one glass would not be enough. Aargh, it was tough.

You ladies sound good.

Rooni, way to go on 7 days. Ya, time to make some new friends. Just try some new things and the friends will come. Like yoga, whatever works for you.

Sober up hungover Sunday for me. Thank goodness.

Xo

[Rusty]

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Mossy,

Check your PM box.

[patrice]

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Hi MR - I echo all the support here..you'll be flying in no time..

SL - I am in the middle of my sober holiday and I went away for a week earlier.. It was not as difficult as I expected despite the myriad of opportunities to drink constantly. I used all the tools here, read what others said about how they loved their sober hols! After J Vo got back from her hols I didn't want to be the one to break the chAin! Another thing I told myself is if I really hate going away and not drinking, I won't do it again. This helped me a bit because I felt heaps better by not drinking so enjoyed it more....

Nar, it's so hard when those familiar situations come up..good for you for your powers of resistance !

[j-vo]

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Hi Moss! So glad you're back! Nope, we're not always happy. I had a crappy day and cried a bit here and there, laid on my couch, my DH wondered if I'd ever get up. Well, I did! To go to the bathroom. We're going to have our ups and downs as every normal person does. We just can't drown ourselves in poison when it happens. Apple pie worked for me!

SL, I had my very first 'real' vacation at an all inclusive resort last month. I have to tell you it was wonderful waking up every morning, being able to do yoga on the beach, being interested in activities that required a bit of effort on my part like kayaking, and just having a clear and happy head on my shoulders. Now, the alcohol was everywhere, and I can tell you I felt a bit of a tug here and there. But it passed. You're farther along in your quit than I was. I think I was around 85 days. Even so, it's hard to see people partying on vacation, but we have to be real with ourselves and know that it would end up not good. Playing it to the end. Would your daughters know of your drinking? How would they feel? Would you miss out on that quality time with them because you were worried about having a drink? I know you're not going to drink, but trying to think of things that would deter you might help. I know my son would make me think twice about taking that drink. I wouldn't do it for him. Rahul had lots of success on his AF holiday as well. You've spent so much time AF, you wouldn't wanna ruin that time just because of one week away. Make it the first AF holiday ever, like I did. You'll feel so great about it. I know i did!

[daisy45]

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Moss, so glad you popped in tonight! This is exactly how I got to my 76 days.....a kind pm from Ava saying that she believed in me.......I was drinking 2 bottles of wine a night and that one message was the one (so many here have helped me at different times, especially Byrdie) on that night that pulled me back. I wasn't ready and wanted another night but someone believed in me when I didn't......I owed it to her, in my mind, to give it a go......
I call this my 'reluctant quit'.....Ava did use a few bullying tactics along the way, threatening me with bricks and the likes but I will have to forgive her (some day) for that! Byrdie is my other constant here, always supporting and reassuring.......it makes such a difference....especially as, apart from my children, I don't speak about this to anyone........
So Moss, know that we believe in you and eventually you will too!
Scotlass, make us part of your holiday plan! Only right that we should hear what a cracker holiday you are having on a daily basis....I know you can do it.....

[narilly]

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J-Vo, Daisy, NS, you gals have such great advice. I agree with ALL of the above!

J-Vo, I just want to say sorry that you are having trouble with your sister. Sibling relationships are so complicated sometimes. My brother and I used to be so close and now since he got married he has become so judgemental of me. His wife barely tolerates me and ignores my emails etc. she says she is busy but I know I am just not one of her favorite people. I am not really sure why but she just doesn't seem to like me that much.
I find this painful and tend to obsess about it which drives me really nutso!
Anyway, I can only be nice and maybe one day she will come around.

Hi Rusty!

Well, beddie bye for me.

Goodnight sweet ladies.

[daisy45]

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Hi Nar.....families!!! I have a sign as you walk in my front door....'friends welcome...family by appointment only!'.........doesn't work!
Had a night out in the pub tonight....a charity night with music. Went with sisters and nieces and daughter...it was ok...2 sisters were tipsy...one kept talking crap to me....the same one who upset me the other day(and I let it go, so she is oblivious) and coming too close to my face and spitting over me and my diet coke when she spoke......I know, I know, not very tolerant of me, but it was just getting on my nerves!
After a couple of hours I left to bring the younger ones to a nightclub and went home for a while then returned later to pick sister up....
After that I went downtown to pick my daughter up....there was a man lying sleeping on the pavement....I drove by again to check on him and thankfully the police were helping him out. There were very drunk people all over, one young girl being sick in the street.
Picked one daughter up and the eldest rolled in not long after....my youngest then text me from upstairs to say that her sister was sleeping in the hall....up I went to get her to bed.....she was trying to argue but thankfully went to bed....I really worry that this one (my eldest girl) is following in her mummy's footsteps.....will be having a word sometime soon.....hard when I have shown them the wrong way for so many years......
I don't feel disgusted seeing people so drunk and in a state....just so sad.....I feel for them, and even more if they never get to know they have a problem because that is where the recovery begins....no matter what stage, even before day 1, when you accept there is a problem, you become just that bit better off than you were before.......then you have hope!

[wagmore]

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SL - I echo what j-vo and a few others have already mentioned... when you see web sites, travel brochures, hotel info etc that shows lots of fun drinking options/venues/whatnot, be sure to play that film all the way to the end. We all know the enticing part at the beginning, in the photos, is an illusion at best. Remind yourself about how things unfold, how they take a turn, how it all feels the next day.

Also loved NS's suggestion - what would you tell your daughter or a dear friend who was toying with throwing away a 160+ day quit?

You sound resilient, but you're letting a few cracks of possibility open up. Play it to the end and slam those cracks shut tight. Keep posting here and we'll help you keep on track as well.

[narilly]

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Daisy, I don't feel disgusted either. I usually think, thank God that isn't me. I feel sorry for them too. Like you said, most of them don't even know they have a problem and by the time they do it's too late. I mean people die everyday because of AL.
You were sure busy driving everyone around! It's tough to watch our kids drink especially when they over do it. We have been there and if we had a choice we probably would not have drank like we did eh?
Your sister spitting on you, I guess it's better than you spitting on her because YOU are SOBER! Yay!
Your family must be proud of you Daisy. I am for sure.

:l

[narilly]

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Wags- "like"
That was good.
Hey, I hope you are starting to make new friends or at least feel more settled there. I know it's hard. You are doing so well though. I am happy for that.
NS has the best advice for sure.

[Pavati]

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Hi, Everyone:

SL! You're the one I missed on my LONG post. Sorry, Lassie. I was thinking about your vacation but I didn't want to keep asking about it. I have been on MANY short vacations without the booze, but no big "here's the hotel, here's the bar" vacations. I know that you will feel the pull here and there, but I also know that you have used the tools and will continue to use them to stay sober. I agree with all that everyone has said - there is no way you want to tell your daughters that you're drinking again, or to go back down that worm hole that you were in before. Jeez - starting out is SO HARD, why would anyone want to do it again?! Maybe take the $$ you would spend on booze and do something really nice - buy a new dress, get a spa treatment, charter a boat - whatever to "treat" yourself and thank yourself for taking such good care of yourself. NS's advice is great - be nice to you! I was at a hotel last weekend near a beach and after dinner everyone was headed to the bar. I said I was going to walk out on the beach, and everyone joined me (and thanked me after!) instead. We went inside, and someone had a tea with me (while others drank), but it felt good to give myself an alternative as normally I would have led the charge to the bar...

Nar - Sorry about your strong urge. I HATE when that happens, and I feel sorry for myself. I try to read or listen to a Bubble Hour to confirm my excellent choice.

Mossy and everyone - We're NOT happy all the time - read here to see that. There are ups and downs everywhere - don't shy away from saying what you feel here. We can help (I can attest to the fact that what happened to Nar has happened to me - the thought of posting here that I drank has kept me on the sober path).

Cheers to you lovelies who reach out to the missing members - you are giving that extra mile to help us all.

OK - back to work tomorrow. Have to set an alarm. Have to pack a lunch. Did I mention I like my job? I have to keep reminding myself of that as I have grown accustomed to lazy mornings, long hikes, and time with my family. Ah well...

xo
Pav

[Pavati]

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x post, Nar. Sweet dreams.

Daisy - have you become a taxi driver? I agree with you, also. I feel sad.

Mrs. D says (I paraphrase) "I don't feel bad about getting addicted to alcohol - alcohol is addictive. That's not my fault." I'm still working on that with myself, but I can give that compassion to others.

'Night.

[wagmore]

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Daisy - sorry to hear about all of the hard family stuff you're dealing with. Seems like your daughter might be the biggest concern. Your sisters might drive you crazy, behave in ways that you find challenging, etc, but ultimately you probably can't change or influence any of that. Not sure how old your daughter is, but hopefully you can talk with her and save her from some of the lessons you've learned the hard way.

Hugs to you... :huggy

[scottish lass]

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Getting into bed - thanks everyone! Now I can clean it gave me no option but to stay the course! Ready for my cracker holiday Daisy (that made me smile) & beach buddies with NS - how can I refuse that offer! Pav, like you I have done the short trips and work conferences - there will be lots of firsts for us and I get this is just another - just feeling need to get in the zone! Thanks Nar, j-vo, Wags and Pat - you all confirmed my desire to do this!
Night all - sweet dreams!! See you tomorrow ( not even considering that it will be Monday Pav - got a little more Sunday left!)

[Eloise]

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Good for you Nar for resisting.
Saturday night we were out and a friend had a sparkling glass of white wine wiht dinner... it looked so fresh I had to look away.
So I know what you are saying!! It just goes down hill from that first slip.... let's keep it in mind.

narilly;1687073 wrote: Mossy! So good to hear from you! I am sorry you are drinking, I know how much it sucks. Like Kailey says, just don't drink today, come back tomorrow and let is know how you did.

SL, I always have trouble on holidays but have managed to stay sober at a few. I always have an option around, like a tasty non AL drink and I make plans early in the morning so there is no way I could b hungover. There are some tips in the tool box.

Last night was the hardest night since I quit. I wanted a glass of wine so bad! The Only thing that stopped me was the thought of having to come here and tell you ladies I had a drink. Holy smokes! THANK YOU! If it wasn't for MWO and the Loamers, I would have drank for sure. That is how powerful this group is.
We got together with old friends who we drank with all the time before. It was a beautiful night and my friend asked me if it was ok for her to have wine. No problem I said. But it looked so good. I just wanted to have a glass and relax but then I thought there was no way I could tell the Loamers that I Drank , plus, one glass would not be enough. Aargh, it was tough.

You ladies sound good.

Rooni, way to go on 7 days. Ya, time to make some new friends. Just try some new things and the friends will come. Like yoga, whatever works for you.

Sober up hungover Sunday for me. Thank goodness.

Xo