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[narilly]

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SL, I love the quote, it is so true. I have to learn to do the same and forgive myself.

Pav, wow, that is quite a history of AL in your family. I totally get why you would be concerned. I worry about my kids too, I guess we all do. All we can do is give them the right tools and support so they can figure it out on their own.

Play it to the end, good one Wags. That's what I did on the weekend and it helped.

I will talk to yo gals later.
Oh, thanks J-Vo on the SIL advice.

[MossRose]

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Hi everyone. Just a quick check in and then off to work - without a hangover!!!! I forced myself to eat a lot yesterday, then I slept for almost 10 hours last night. I still feel shaky, but I know it's worth it to carry on. I remember what's waiting on the other side of this hell...a beautiful, fulfilling AF life. Thanks again for all of your support and letting me vent this out.

Pav, - I don't think you are overreacting either. I am fortunate that one of my sons doesn't drink at all, and my other son is a very controlled, "normal" drinker - take or leave it - and smart enough to never drink when he is feeling down. They are both very aware of their predisposition to addiction - two alcoholic parents, an alcoholic ex-step-dad, an aunt who abuses prescription drugs, and an uncle dying from cancer caused by years of bad living. They've seen first hand how much AL/drugs destroys lives. And still it worries me to my soul because I wasn't an alcoholic at their age. It wasn't until I was older and life had kicked me down that AL managed to creep in full-time. They must always be vigilant.

SL - love that quote. Hardest part of the whole thing for me. Luckily, I isolated during this last bender so it wasn't witnessed by my sons, or anyone else really. The only damage done was to myself. But forgiving myself this time is going to take some time.

Have a wonderful MAE all.

[patrice]

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Yay Moss Rose, up and running! , you deserve it
Hi all, lots of really interesting discussions on here. Again the message is... Time makes it easier as does the acceptance.
Keep rocking girls
Xx
Patrice

[little beagle]

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I am doing a quick check in. Back to work this morning.
Moss concentrate on your health and just check in. As you said just stay accountable. The rest will come.:l

[j-vo]

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Morning Ladies,

Came across this quote...

?Nothing worthwhile ever happens quickly and easily. You achieve only as you are determined to achieve? and as you keep at it until you have achieved.?
Overcoming Addiction Quote by Robert H. Lauer

I think sometimes I get impatient with recovery and expect this monkey to get off my back more quickly than is realistic. But it is definitely worthwhile to me...to be sober. There are going to be times that we just have to face difficult circumstances (and we can minimize these at times) and walk past or through them. Keep the faith, that with each day, you'll get stronger, healthier, and these circumstances won't seem overwhelmingly scary, or even make you sad. Believe!

[Starfish1]

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Jane :l

What a thoughtful post! As poorly as you feel, you still take the time to show your interest in everyone. We love you so much.
My company is gone, but I have been feeling pretty sad this week. I know it will pass, I just need to sit back a little and accept these as normal emotions and give myself a little space and time. I am having a hard time posting, but am still reading and learning.
I can't wait for you to feel better yourself. I have faith that the doctors will have you well in no time.

[scottish lass]

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Heck Jane - that is a heck of a post!! I cannot match that one.
Quick check in to j-vo!! Nice round number there :goodjob:

[Starfish1]

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Congratulations, Jvo!!!!!!!!!!! You Rock!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Jane, I don't have a phone right now, dropped it in the loo :flush: :upset:

Trying to dry it out.

[NoSugar]

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Starfish1;1687664 wrote:
Trying to dry it out.

You and your phone :H! So happy for you Star -- staying AF even during an emotional time. xx, NS

[Starfish1]

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NoSugar;1687667 wrote: You and your phone :H! So happy for you Star

:H Thanks, NS. I needed a laugh!

Hey, maybe I should just pack meself in an airtight container filled with silica granules, sit for three days and voila, all recovered. :thumbs:

Now that would be a novel approach!

[NoSugar]

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Actually - I did do a version of that. Wrapped myself up in fleece blankets, sat in front of talking head TV all evening, and went to bed as early as possible. I'm amazed by all of you who go about your normal lives in the first couple weeks. I was just so tired and cold I could barely do anything.

[Starfish1]

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NoSugar;1687671 wrote: Actually - I did do a version of that. Wrapped myself up in fleece blankets, sat in front of talking head TV all evening, and went to bed as early as possible.

Yeah, I chose to start this quit on a Saturday, so I didn't have to go to work. Work is a huge trigger for me and I have (had) a habit of stopping for beverage on the way home each day. The first weekend, I stayed in my house as much as possible and then even took Monday off and spent the day with my dtr. So I actually had a 3 day hiatus from the routine. Things are back to "business as usual" now though and some times are tough. I do go to bed with the chickens and make things at home as easy on myself as possible. Oh how I wish there were some magic "drying out" powder I could sprinkle upon myself! All in good time, I guess! Thanks, NS :l

[little beagle]

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Pav I too have a lot of alcoholics in my family. And I see my daughter progressing down that path.

[daisy45]

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Jane, sorry you're still not well.
I called it my 'reluctant quit' because I came here that day not intending to do day 1....usually I would psyche myself into preparartion for starting. It was through reading and encouragement that I just done it anyway.....am I glad I did! Just pure relief to finally get day 1, then day 2...... and the rest. On that first day I did not believe I would get through the night without drinking so every step of this quit is a bonus!

[Kailey]

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jane27;1687623 wrote:
Kailey, I did quite a bit of drunk gardening. Just thinking about it makes me cringe a little. There was an elderly couple that lived next door with me and I was very friendly with them. Saw them often because the Mrs. Would smoke in our adjoining driveways, and both retired, they enjoyed gardening too. On one of my projects I dragged a light out to the driveway using one of those extra long orange extension cords, and planted flowers until 2am. I always had either a soda can filled with vodka or wine, or just a tall plastic glass of the same. They had to have known (my neighbors). There were other escapades where Id drag out the 10 foot ladder and cut dead branches down (while loaded). I'm so lucky that I didn't get hurt. Re beach vacations, I have done a handful sober and would happy to share more about them with you, if you'd like via PM or phone. None were great the way being drunk can make things feel. All were OK, and each gets better. I am still learning to live without being able to pogo stick into a drunk high. It gets better, and you absolutely can do it.

Thank you so much for the honest response about vacationing without alcohol. I think you hit the nail on the head. In some ways it won't be as much fun. That's something I need to deal with before I go, or I'll cave. Just have a moment because I'm at work, but I wanted to thank you.

By the way, the drunk gardening comments made me laugh! How many times have I gotten up in the morning and thought ... "Oh, yeah, I replanted that area" or whatever. I do seem to get inspired when I drink!