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[Ginger999]

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El, CONGRATS on 80 days!!

[Starfish1]

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Thanks for the words of support, ladies. I am feeling better already. Love you all!

[j-vo]

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The Lizard Brain

The Lizard Brain Addiction Monster

[roxane]

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im late to the party as usual, well done eloise!

you spelled out reasons to be happy, this is another. theres no rain on your parade!

[scottish lass]

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AF Mai Tai's are OK!!!! Worked for me, felt like part of the fun and girls had the same!
J-vo and Pav, thanks for your understanding about the anniversary date - it helped to know I wasn't being silly.
Pav - mine is patella moving wrong - wonder if it is same with a different name? It stinks not running, hard to get good exercise in a short period of time! Ps I am 52, I thought I was older than you??
Belated congrats Eloise!
Happy moving and unpacking to those who are switching things up a bit!!
Almost halfway thru my hols - and as I just mentioned to NS, I have learnt that I don't have a clue how to relax - I really have to learn that skill!!!!
See you later friends

[daisy45]

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I have had drinking in my head for almost 2 days now.....totally stressed from pressure.
Trying to get organised to clear out my garage to make a studio, get paperwork sorted to start an art business, same for childminding. Have to meet 2 mums for costing. Need to finish a painting that my brother keeps texting me about. Doing a couple of things for mum....sort out parking fine she got because she didn't display her disability sticker and selling a hottub lid she bought in the wrong size. Not sleeping as I keep hearing scratching and afraid there is a mouse in my room.......just fecked off!

[j-vo]

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Daisy,
Drinking will make things no better, and actually worse. Please don't fall off now. You just hit your personal best, and things have been going so well for you in your life. Nothing will ever be perfect, and if stress is causing you to want to think about it, destress by doing something nice for yourself asap.

Have you made a gratitude list - all the gifs of being al-free for these last months? Write them down, read them over, and these thoughts will pass. Call someone close and talk about what's bothering you. I just read "the lizard brain' and sometimes we let the beast part of our brain control the rational part of our brain. The beast tells us ok, drink. The rational part tells us to slow down, and think of all the things have have improved in your life. They'll continue to improve. Not only that, it gets easier every day. Of course we'll have days like this. Normal. But it's not normal to rely on poison and think it will help you. Please don't drink.

[Eloise]

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Heya all- i listened to the relapse prevention podcast today on the Bubble Hour J-vo.
I will listen again as I was trying to unpack at the same time,
I was amazed at how many years one lady was AF-11 years I think she said? And she tasted a mulled wine she was taking to a party and 3years later she was quiting again. You would think if one went so long without a drink one sip wouldnt hurt, but it started the process all over again.
It is so good to hear this kind if thing, there is no getting over this ... You just cannot drink.
In the past I felt moderation was the only solution, but it is no solution at all.

Hm. Good thinks to be thinking about...

Thanks Scottish Lass!
I didnt think anyone would even notice my 80 days, but many have.... I feel all warm and fuzzy, thanks!!! :h

[Eloise]

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Thanks Ginger!!

Daisy... I am sorry to hear about all this. Tomorrow is a new day, just start fresh.
This is so hard, I totally understand how stressed you are. Me too! We have moved and there is stuff everywhere. And I ran into our old neighbors, who basically drove us out with their chaos, and I just wanted to punch them both. There were changing a bike tire in front of our door. Messy Marvins!

Ugh. Your start date was 13 May and mine 17 May... remember?
I got a bit confused as I thought Daisy and Daisy45 were two different people.

You take it easy and good for you for getting back on here. I am going to PM you....

[available]

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El, happy 80 days, i must have been off with Roxy and gotten in late to the party. Its amazing to see those numbers and know that it is you instead of looking at someone elses day wishing it was you.

Daisy funks come and go, ive been in a funk for a few days but i know it will pass. I know al wont do a single damn thing to make anything better. Try and say NO to a few people. There is always next week or tomorrow to get things done. Before i used to have intense cravings but now it is a thought that just meanders in the back of my brain, trying to entice me quietly to drink. I just ignore it as best i can and one morning i will wake and it will be gone. Thankfully this doesnt happen often.

[wagmore]

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daisy45;1690439 wrote: I have had drinking in my head for almost 2 days now.....totally stressed from pressure.
Trying to get organised to clear out my garage to make a studio, get paperwork sorted to start an art business, same for childminding. Have to meet 2 mums for costing. Need to finish a painting that my brother keeps texting me about. Doing a couple of things for mum....sort out parking fine she got because she didn't display her disability sticker and selling a hottub lid she bought in the wrong size. Not sleeping as I keep hearing scratching and afraid there is a mouse in my room.......just fecked off!

Daisy - I'm sorry to hear how stressed out you are, but I'm so glad you posted here and shared with us both about your stress and your thoughts of drinking. Play it to the end girl, you know the only lure of drinking comes from the lies the trickster AL voice tells you in advance - the end of the film has a much different tone. Stay strong, use your tools, delay, distract, exercise, eat ice cream, post like a maniac. We're here for you!

[wagmore]

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Eloise;1690455 wrote: Heya all- i listened to the relapse prevention podcast today on the Bubble Hour J-vo.
I will listen again as I was trying to unpack at the same time,
I was amazed at how many years one lady was AF-11 years I think she said? And she tasted a mulled wine she was taking to a party and 3years later she was quiting again. You would think if one went so long without a drink one sip wouldnt hurt, but it started the process all over again.
It is so good to hear this kind if thing, there is no getting over this ... You just cannot drink.
In the past I felt moderation was the only solution, but it is no solution at all.

Hm. Good thinks to be thinking about...

Thanks Scottish Lass!
I didnt think anyone would even notice my 80 days, but many have.... I feel all warm and fuzzy, thanks!!! :h

Eloise - I haven't listened to this particular bubble hour, but my story is similar to what you described. I was sober for about 15 years. I broke down and drank after my dog died (after a whole string of other stressful events as well), and one drink is all it took. Now it's just over 3 years later and I'm almost 100 days into my quit. I am determined that this quit will stick, as I now know I can never ever let my guard down no matter what triggers arise.

BTW, forgot to congratulate you on the move to the art studio. From your description of the space, it sounds like a great idea and I hope it works out very well.

[Guitarista]

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Yo Loamer's!

Belated Congratulations Eloise on 80 days.

Hi Daisy. Can you break those tasks right down and just chip away at one at a time? e.g. Write a list. When one task is done, cross it off the list, then onto the next one. It works. Take it easy and take care of yourself.

Off to track down some b/hour.

Have a great MAE y'all.

G.

[patrice]

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Hi girls!
Hey Daisy! - I felt like you do, last weekend... Instead of telling someone or asking for support, I didn't. I drank instead, at 9 weeks AF. The stress was still there in the morning, coupled with a headache, haha by drinking I did gain that!! Oh and the chance to practice my counting again...
Drinking through Stress Wasn't a Winning Strategy..
Take care
Pat
Xx

[daisy45]

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J-vo, Eloise, Wags, Ava and Mr G! Thank you......I have survived! Went so far as to sneak out and buy a bottle, which I will give away tomorrow......
I have too much going on here and with that am missing out on my exercise which, for me is crucial in levelling out my moods. The pressure has been building all week, not for a drink, but just feeling overwhemed, like so much is expected of me.....
I made some headway today and will make sure to deal with more tomorrow. I really enjoy my art but with this particular project I am under pressure to get it done....the result is better without the pressure.
Lack of sleep is another.....my room needs gutted and painted....then I will feel confident that I am not sharing it with a mouse....but just now I don't have the time....
On hindsight now I can see how things got so bad.......tomorrow I will make it my mission to deal with as much as I can but definitely exercise has to be part of my day......
This was my nearest call since day 1....... hard to believe you can be on here advising someone else and next you are in a spiral......my head was so far up my ass tonight.....feel a little shocked at how bad I got...