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[Guitarista]

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patrice;1691970 wrote:

G - I'm not doing any exercise, I know this is part of a missing piece here. I just seem to have no motivation to start. Help!!

Xx
Pat

Pat, sounds like you need to make plans to get back to NZ then? There is always a way. I bet you could forge a career from anywhere.

Ok, help re exercise. To break the resistance barrier for me, i had to break it down into small chunks. This means:

1. i will just lace up my running shoes and get out the door no matter who, no matter what, rain, hail, or shine.

2. The distance is not important. From one street light to the next, or 50 metres and back is ok, or 5k's-10k's....not important. Just putting one foot in front of the other with no expectations and pressure to exercise is my goal. The action is what counts for me.

Take it easy.

[patrice]

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G. - ok my friend I will need to adapt that to this climate. Running is out. Anything outdoors between daylight hours is a no no
So.. I have a cross trainer that I presently use as a bag hanger. Would that do.
Maybe 5 mins a day and build up??

[wagmore]

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Pat - You aren't whining at all - you're being honest about how you're feeling and that's part of what this group is for.

How long have you been in Malaysia? Sorry, you probably posted this before but I've forgotten. You are teaching there, right? As an expat? That's what I did when I lived abroad as well. I experienced all of the highs and lows involved with this lifestyle - the days it felt like a big cultural adventure, and the days it just sucked and I wanted to go home and eat familiar food and hear familiar sounds as I fell asleep. I found holidays and other special days to be hardest, along with days I felt sick - nothing worse than feeling sick away from home.

It's especially tough if you don't have family living there with you (well, other adults in the family living with you I mean). Is there an expat community (or similar) you're connected with that could offer you some local support and camaraderie?

I agree with G-man about exercise. I will admit, exercise is relatively easy for me to fit into my routine because I love it. However, I have periods of time where my switch seems to flip and I become very demotivated. One thing that always helps me during those times is to remind myself that small amounts are still better than zero. I commit to doing 5 or 10 minutes per day, and I often find that simply getting up and overcoming inertia is enough to propel me through 20-30 minutes instead. If I stop after 5 or 10 though, I pat myself on the back for doing something.

What types of exercise do you like, if any? There are tons of videos available on youtube, some of which are good and some of which are dangerous. If you aren't sure what to try, let me know what you like (e.g., walking, dancing, strength training, yoga, other) and I can probably recommend a few good people (instructors/trainers) who have free workouts available online.

Feel free to reply here or PM me if you prefer.

Big hugs to you friend - I really empathize, and I have faith that you will get through this difficult patch. :l

[Guitarista]

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patrice;1691979 wrote: G. - ok my friend I will need to adapt that to this climate. Running is out. Anything outdoors between daylight hours is a no no
So.. I have a cross trainer that I presently use as a bag hanger. Would that do.
Maybe 5 mins a day and build up??

Yes, yes, yep! Go for it. Daily action i hear is key. If you can handle 5 minutes a day then build up slowly at your own pace, you'll be raaawkin it.

Hiya Wags!

I'm off for a run just to show i'm not all talk!

[little beagle]

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GOod advice G. I'm going to start doing a bit more outdoors with the dogs. Walk them individually instead of together at least once a day.
Patrice I'm sorry you're having a rough patch. The L in HALT. That's what is getting you. I hope when school starts you'll be too busy to be lonely.
Pav thank you for that post.
Jane yes it is a lot of work. And sometimes I feel uninspired. But coming here and at least reading always inspires me to just keep on truckin'. This is really so much better then the alternative. I'm sorry you're still feeling crappy. It's just not fair. But I was thinking about it today. I went through a really crappy spell where I just didn't feel good, very down physically and emotionally. But I expected that. The pink cloud effect partly and partly recovering from all that crap I put into my system. All the anxiety made my adrenal glands tired, I expect. But it did pass. And any day sober, whether I felt good or not, was and is 100% better then a day spent hungover regretting. So just hang in there.
Ava you would come right back here because we would all show up on your doorstep with bricks if you didn't.
NS it is true there is a big difference between a slip and a relapse. It's an important distinction.
I have been resting and relaxing. I'm off tomorrow so one more day of rest with hubby back to work and the house to myself. Yeah.

[narilly]

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I'm Baaack!
Just a quick note to say my holiday was great and I did not drink. I really really wanted to but did not. I thought about the Loamers and used the tools that I have found through you girls.

I drank all kinds of things to keep away from AL. Tea, coffee, soda, Perrier, root beer, iced tea, water, chai, soda, everything.

I had a quick glance at the last day and just want to say Daisy, I am so glad you came right back here. You are a strong woman and I know you will get right back into the race. :l

Talk to you girls tomorrow!

[Pavati]

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Hi,

Welcome back, Nar! So happy that you didn't drink!!! Another Loamer vacation win. xo

You all know my take on exercise by now - a medicine I can't do without, physically or mentally. It has gotten to the point that if I am in a funk my husband will say "have you exercised today." Sometimes it is a walk around the block, sometimes a long hike, a swim, walking up a flight of stairs a few times - whatever it takes to get the blood flowing and the heart pumping (and the dopamine released!). I feel so much stronger since making the commitment to myself.

LB - Enjoy your day off. I love having the house to myself.

Still feeling a bit blech, but better. Got some good exercise, ate some fresh local salmon and vegetables, and now I'm heading to bed. I'll snap out of this soon.

xo
Pav

[Pavati]

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Oh, and I may or may not have had a sober roll in the hay this afternoon since the kids were gone. Add that to the list of things that are sober.

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Ahhhh Pav you lucky or unlucky girl! At least you will remember it.

Nar glad to have you back, never a dull moment on loamers and proud of you for staying sober. Its hard when we are out of our comfort zone.

Jane hang in there, we know its better waking up sober than hungover and i know it gets better and better and better.

Mr G i have just started to exercise again (well a few weeks now) and this afternoon i got home from work, fed the dogs and went for a walk for 40 mins, cold but i felt better. Gone are the days of coming home from work and opening a bottle of wine. These are the positives of not drinking.

LB how was your ride yesterday? i have not taken the dogs for a walk as i want to power walk atm and they slow me way down especially maddison but i will start taking them out. she has love handles she needs to get rid of, just like me!

Well i am totally exhausted which could have something to do with the walk and work but life is good. my boy has just come home so its a noisy house again and i love it.

[NoSugar]

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narilly;1692015 wrote:
I drank all kinds of things to keep away from AL. Tea, coffee, soda, Perrier, root beer, iced tea, water, chai, soda, everything.

You crack me up! You took more AF beverages on a camping trip than I have in my house!

The mix of feelings you're going to have when you wake up this morning is one of the greatest gifts of sobriety. I doubt if someone who has never had this or a similar problem could even understand the various emotions that arise when you wake up and realize you've faced and struggled with your inner demon and come out stronger than before - joy, peace, relief, amazement, strength.

When you can achieve something like this, think what else you're capable of! It can boost your self-confidence in so many ways and you and SL have just done it . Look out world!!!

[little beagle]

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Yeah Narilly. I knew you would make it.:l
Ava yes. The ride was good yesterday. A bit long. My butt hurts. That seat is pretty small back there. And we got caught in the rain. Just made it home before it open up for about 2 hours. Well it seemed that long.
Pav, anything done soberly is much more enjoyable.
Some big news here. Friday we are celebrating hubbys 1 year no al and 90 days no crack. Thats a biggie. I'm happiest about the 90 days, but one year al free is truly an accomplishment for him. His culture and genetics are really hard to overcome. And he's learning gratitude. That is just unbelievable to me. Figuring out what not drinking or smoking that crap is giving to him. Just like I figured out what not drinking is giving to me.

[j-vo]

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Pat, we've talked about your situation, and that's so difficult. Once you get back into routine of work, that'll keep your mind distracted more. And then your son will be going back to school as well. One day you'll be able to go back to your homeland. I hope it's soon.:l Thinking of you. And happy birthday to your DS!

Nar, so glad your camping trip went well! I'm proud of you!:l

LB, now that calls for a celebration! Congratulations to your DH! That's huge! xxxooo

[patrice]

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Hi girls,
Welcome back Nar, that af holiday is just the best!
LB - I am just so delighted for you hubby, I'm so impressed, pls tell him that from me, this random stranger!! Wow the crack thing is big, and the booze!!
Jvo -, yes I really am looking forward to work now.. The first 5 weeks of my hols were easy to be af, these last 2 weeks have been more difficult.. I'm so ready for routine..
Thanks for your thoughts.. My son had a lovely day, it was the second year in a row I have been sober on his birthday, last year I was too...the previous years .. No. It is very special to go to bed knowing he had a cool day that costed very little money or fuss and there are no fuzzy edges to the day or night...
Have a great MAE all, sorry haven't read back much but I hope you are feeling better Jane. Hi Pav, NS, Ava,Daisy , kailey, wags and all others
Xx
Pat

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Oh Jane, I'm so terribly sorry about your dog. I have to do the same with Ellie at 4p today and my gut is in a knot and my heart is so very heavy. I'll be thinking of you....

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