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[Eloise]

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jane27;1693045 wrote: Thanks Lil B. I'm so grateful for you guys. You each bring something different to the table, and without hearing your stories and getting your input, there's no way I'd lick this problem. Ly

I second that with a big 'me too!' Thank you ladies for all your kind support. Today is a new day and I am just going to be safe in my art studio and see what magic that brings.
Maybe I will look into meditation techniques later too? xx :h

[available]

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Quick check in. Such a busy day at work, 36 botox patients in a day is way too much talking even for me. These patients come in every three months for botox for medicinal purposes so they are just like family to me. Its been a busy week so the thought of Friday is definitely on my mind!

I managed to go for a 3 mile walk when i got home which puts me back in the headspace i need to be in. Im finding it very therapeutic, busy trying to beat my walking pace and patients told me today that i look so healthy and have lost weight. God i must have looked so bad before!

Big weekend with family birthday for tye, he finally turns 21 on the 16th August.

Pav god if Byrd or NS drank i would be booking into hospital with you, best place would be with padded walls i am thinking!

Glad everyone is doing well. xx

[Rivergal]

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Good morning ladies. Feeling tired with a dull headache, but I am not going to drink today. No work to keep me busy- took the day off for a dentist appointment. If I am not drooling all over myself, plan to get some hiking in with the dogs along the River.....Byrdie & NS hitting the bottle again....shoot me now!!!!
So glad to be back.

[giraffe1234]

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J-vo loved your honest post. Don't be hard on yourself though. We all love you.
Hope everyone has a wonderful day.
xox

[little beagle]

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I am doing a quick check in. Feeling a chest cold coming on. But I still am going to work.

[narilly]

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Morning Girls,
I read an article today about Belief. If you Believe you can do something you will be able to do it.

BELIEVE

Actually Wags, you hit this one on the head with Expecting to Succeed. Thanks for your list!

I BELIEVE that we can kick this thing to the curb. We are strong women and will do this together.

Rooni- how are you doing? Check in soon ok?

Have a great day!

[Ginger999]

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Morning all..... We leave today for 10 days. I may be MIA off and on but I'll have all of you on my mind. This will be the first trip to the ocean without Ellie in almost 16 years. My grief is starting to turn to gratitude. I'm grateful that I had such a special pup and traveling companion for so long. Not many people can say they had that with their dog. I'm grateful that I got through this terrbile time AF.

Thank you all for your kind words and understanding. I love you guys!!

[j-vo]

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Thanks Giraffe.:l

Ginger, have a safe trip. This will be a much needed healing time for you and your hubby. Check in when you can.:l

Getting more house things in order while DH is off this week.

Have a great day.

[Eloise]

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Happy trials Ginger. X

[lifechange]

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Hi Ladies,
I did some great reading here before work ( I really like the, "When does it get easier?" thread in just starting out) and then when I tried to post here wasn't able to. I thought of you all a lot when I was at work. Though I knew I wouldn't drink, the beast was bugging the hell out of me. I told him to F off. I won't give in to the F its again.

Ava, you made a great point about letting go of the thinking a bit. I am thinking so much about it because I don't want to fall into the trap again. I'm so tired of falling down and struggling to pull myself back up. How did you decide which 3 things to do each day? I like that idea and will try it tomorrow.

I also really love this, Pav...""Expectations about the likelihood of eventual success determine the amount of effort people are willing to put in. -Moss Kanter That is why, in spite of relapse being part of the disease, I have to believe that I will not relapse. I expect that I won't drink and set my life up accordingly.""

J-vo, I think it's great that you are having these conversations with your son. I think I've mentioned before that it took me a very long time to trust my mom when she finally stopped drinking for good. I sure wish it would have been when I was younger-and I wish she could have explained to me a bit about addiction. Even though we went to alanon ( I hated it), I still in my heart and in my mind believed she was "choosing" alcohol over us. I hope your dialogues keep on and that he might even feel comfortable talking to you about his feelings--it sounds like he can voice his anger.. I believe in you and know that you are finding your way.

I went to the movies with my youngest and her dad this afternoon-- a really nice, hilarious german kids/parents movie. Such a sweet story about two ten year old quirky best friends--boys. It was uplifting and I felt happy after watching it. It was a bit old fashioned without all the high tech special effects and techo music. Loved it.

I am very tired now and am going to make some dinner and then come back to read some more.
:l and love to you all..

[lifechange]

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"I expect that I won't drink and set my life up accordingly." from Pav.
This is exactly what I will have in my mind at all times.

[narilly]

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Life, That sounds great. Pav- that is a great saying. It is exactly what I try to do.

The movie sounds fun. Sometimes those kind of movies just hit the spot. Glad you had fun.

Ginger, big hugs to you. I know how hard it is to lose a dog. I still miss my little weenies that have been gone for a few years. Glad you are going and plan to be sober. xo

[NoSugar]

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Well, being put in the same category with Ms. Byrdy is about the highest compliment I could receive around here, so thank you.

I think your quote sums it up, Pav:

Expectations about the likelihood of eventual success determine the amount of effort people are willing to put in. -Moss Kanter

I joined MWO 100% determined to succeed because for whatever reason, I had decided it was my Last Chance. I realize now this was pretty hyperbolic but apparently I wasn't thinking straight and that's how it seemed to me. The good thing about that was, it drove me to put a huge amount of time and effort into becoming and staying sober. And still does because even though I've calmed down enough to realize that there can be "more chances", I don't want another. I want this to be it.

But... let's say I did drink. That should not make any of you feel more or less secure about your situation. It should be a reminder that addiction is a very powerful thing and it would indicate that I had neglected some part of my program. It should encourage you to re-check what you are doing and make sure you're protecting your quit, but not make you think you are about to lose it.

If Byrdie drank, I would be extremely surprised and sad and I would do whatever I could to help her, but it would not make me think I was all of a sudden about to do the same. However, it would motivate me to nurture my sobriety that much more because I would realize again how important that is if someone as committed as she clearly is could make that choice.

Please don't feel threatened by the choices someone else makes. It says nothing about what you will or will not do. The point of a forum such as this it to learn from one another's successes and mistakes, take away from what others do the parts that will work for you, share what works for you without expecting that your tools will work for everyone, and give and receive the support that clearly is required to become and stay free.

xx NS

[lifechange]

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Hi again!
I am going to bed now. It's only 830, but I'm beat.
Look forward to seeing you all tomorrow.

Jane posted a really good list about preventing relapsing in long term sobriety on her thread--I think it's a great one for everyone to read and remind themselves of regularly--even those of us without much recent consecutive time..me!!

I want to say that I'm sorry for not being a strong part of the Loamer's thread--for a long time now. Sometimes I'm not sure where I should post because this thread is in the ABS section of MWO, and I have for the past months been a chronic relapser--which I hate to be. Definitely, one of my weaknesses has been thinking I have this addiction thing "kicked"-- at the time, I didn't notice what was going on, but in hindsight I would say I was avoiding doing some of the hard work that needs to be done to become sober. The diligence involved with remembering what I'd done while drinking so as not to forget why I WANT to be sober, finding new ways to deal with stress and depression, making my support group my top priority, not making the leap to acceptance.
I don't want to be like that any more. I want to do whatever I have to do. I will do whatever I have to do. And I guess I keep posting here because I know in my heart where I want and have to be, and I know I can do it. They say something in AA about becoming humble which I have always liked, but which has taken me the past 3 years here to understand for myself.

night night..

[roxane]

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something i learned when riding horses and bikes is

look where you want to go, not where you dont.

little kids with their training wheels off for the first time nearly always seem to head for that bush or tree and hit it.