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[Pavati]

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Hi, all:

Another very busy but successful day at work. I'm pooped, and I ate like a cow, but am ready for bed now!

Rox - I get the bike thing, and I love the way you applied it.

LC - STAY PUT!

Yes, we are all different and have to find our own ways, AND we are here to support and ask each other the hard questions. That's what makes this thread so amazing.

Love you gloamers!

xo
Pav

[lifechange]

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Good Morning, Gloamers!
I'm so happy that MWO is letting me sign on this morning!

J-vo, you must be such a wonderful teacher! Your post touched me and helped me to change perspective. My youngest daughter has been "late" with everything. She learned to walk at 15 months, she didn't talk until she was 3 or ride a bike until she was 6, and now beginning the 4th grade, she still can't read. It has always made me a bit nervous, but I have ALWAYS believed in my heart that she would get it in her own time-- and she always does and brilliantly, when she finally gets it she gets it! :l

Roxy, you also helped me to look differently.
All of you have! I feel a mixture of being very happy and excited again about life and feeling afraid that I can't manage it for more than a couple of weeks. So I am going to take each day as it comes, stay in the present, focus on what I am doing in each moment and find the positive if it's not obvious, I'm going to have my sight set on where I want to go, I'm going to pay good attention to those who have walked the road ahead of me and follow their advice on what has worked for them. My short term goal is staying sober TODAY and I know that is the most important-- my longer term goal is to still be sober on the 27th of August when my BF returns, as I've greatly saddened and frightened him again, and my next longer term goal is to be sober on my birthday which is December 10th and will be my 120th day without alcohol.

Rivergal, I am glad you are here-- good job not drinking to ease your pain/discomfort.
Wags, I hope you have a great time paddling! I was wondering if you are all women or if you have mixed teams? Can't remember if you've said.

OK, I've got to get myself ready for work-- see you all in a bit.

[little beagle]

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LC I personally am glad that one day at a time is enough. When I am really tired or not feeling well at work, I just focus on that one small area inam cleaning. The as I come to the next, I focus on it.
This is our big day. 1 year for hubby. His culture is VERY focused on alcohol. It's in the blood, so to speak. But he has managed. He took that antabuse for 6 months, once weekly, nonnegotiable. I handed it to him and watchec him take it. It worked to break the cycle of drinking, for any reason. Now is is finding gratitude. I am happy, jyst really tired. Like when you carry something heavy over a long period of time your arms are tired and sore afterwards. Well I am tired, so don't think I'm not here full, just resting up a bit. Sleeping a lot and zoning out has been the order of my days lately. This too shall pass. I was laughing last night thinking about meditation. I would just fall asleep with in 3 minutes of starting.
I am grateful for this.

[available]

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LB some times we just need to focus on ourselves and regroup our thoughts and feelings. This has been me lately, i can only really focus on me and my healing. Even if it has been 8 months of non drinking if i dont regroup i start to feel a bit overwhelmed.

A huge congratulations to your hubs on his one year, i hope he appreciates you even more and you both have the life you deserve without drugs.

Big day tomorrow with my baby turning 21. i took him shopping after work and i told him he was cutting into my drinking time. he said "mum you dont drink" and i replied with "well if i did you certainly would be cutting into it". in my drinking days i probably would not have taken him shopping especially after work on a Friday. Building happy memories now.

[j-vo]

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Wags, hope your trip goes well.

LC, yes, stay put! Whatever it takes to get through this day only. Great to have goals though and your plan in place. Sometimes when I think too much, that's what throws me off. Try not to clog your brain up with too much at once.

Ava, hope you have a great weekend with your family for Tye's birthday.

LB, sometimes stuff just catches up with us. You've been carrying that heavy load a really long time. Take some me time for yourself and sleep as much as you need.

Nar, and you have helped me and thank you!:l

[j-vo]

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:wd::yay::applaud::huggyBig shout out to Eloise on 90 days! Congratulations El! You've come so far and learned so much on how to kick the beast in the ass! The progress you've made is admirable and so glad you're here to share your life with us on loamers!

[Eloise]

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Thank you J-vo! You have offered me a lot of encouragement & inspiration and you are greatly appreciated!
I have tried to do this for so many years and it is the first time I really get involved, making friends and post regularly.
It helps a lot.

I am doing okay today, but really so tired.
I slept all day yesterday and napped this afternoon.
I guess my body needs all the help I can muster to heal. I think I look less ugly today too,
Silly, I didn't think I was so vain! You ladies would have laughed if you had seen me in my purple poncho this morning, hood and all... dragging the doggies across the street to poop.
We had one hell of a storm last night here, we were all wide awake at 2 am with the thunder and lightning. Opps, I am off track again. Sorry. My brain is wondering today... back to bed. xx

[narilly]

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Eloise!!! Yippee, 90 days! Way to go girl!
I am so happy for you!

Ava, that is so nice to go shopping with your son. last night I gave mine a big hug before I went to bed. He gave me a big smile and laughed because I gave him a little poke of the forehead and said I loved him. I always make sure to say something and give him a hug before I go to bed.

Lil B, take care of yourself. We just need it sometimes. We take care of everyone except ourselves. My husband has to go to the liver doctor this am to see if there are any signs of cancer coming back. I am not going with him. I usually do but today I walked into work and I am going to work out. He is riding his motorcycle to the hospital so he can just go on his own.
I went to bed at 8 last night and read and went to sleep. I have been pretty tired too. My work starts at 6:30 am and goes till a bit after 4 so my days are long but I do get every other Friday off which is Awesome! Anyway, I have a great job so I am not complaining

Wags, it looks like you are really finding your way with this group of people. I hope you have a great weekend.

Life, I am glad you are here and you are sounding great.

J-Vo, I hope this is a better weekend for you, I know it will be. Ya, thinking too much, I do that too!

Pav, sounds like you had a good day and were obviously hungry!

River, hope your mouth is better.

Daisy- how are things?
Pat, are you ok?

Talk to you soon.

[lifechange]

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YAAYYY, Eloise on 90 days!!:rays: Will you do something to celebrate?

LB, your hubby's year anniversary is really good news. I'm so happy for the both of you. also, I agree with J-vo, you HAVE been carrying a lot for a very long time-- it's no wonder you're tired. I had to laugh at the picture of you falling asleep while meditating. As long as you meditate flat on your back it's no problem!

Ava, I hope you have a great time tomorrow at the celebration. Did I understand correctly that you're having a dinner party? Or a party party? I'm so glad that you can be there for him 100%--

Just got done with work and I'm tired as a dog. So glad that I cancelled the overnighter with my girlfriends tonight. I never would have made it--even to stay awake until 9 will be a challenge.
I'll check in with you all again later!

J-vo, I'm definitely not thinking too much today!

[lifechange]

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Xpost Nar!!:h

[NoSugar]

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lifechange;1693721 wrote:
J-vo, I'm definitely not thinking too much today!

What's there to think about anyway? You don't drink .

El, congratulations on 90 days. Several Gloamers have started posting in the 100 day thread recently - it will be great to have you join us there very, very soon!

LB, I was about to write that I don't know how you've done it but actually I do know - you committed 100% to freeing yourself from addiction and then you used all you had learned to help your husband do the same. It is hard enough to accomplish this for ourselves so what you have done is amazing. Talk about being of service as part of recovery - you're the top dog (so to speak ).

Enjoy your AF weekends, everyone - they make Monday morning something to celebrate instead of dread.

[Eloise]

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Whoopie NS can't wait to join the 100 day thread!
Thanks Narilly! :moon: Am finally feeling like this milestone is some real progress for me.
No Lifechange I am kind of stuck at home now for a while, so no celebrations. But I am elated, believe me. And one thing I keep thinking is 'thank god I know about the risk factors for relapse.' I have been reading a lot about this. The best offense is a good defense, right? And I do not for a second feel 'cocky' about all this. I just keep in my mind 'no drinking, no first drink- one drink will take you down girlie.... .'
Back to bed ladies... am watching The monument men... I have been wanting to see it.

[lifechange]

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I'm happy to see you feeling so much better, El! Watching the Monument Men in bed sounds like a celebration to me!! Bliss... Your defense sounds right in place, too..

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El happy 90th and i hope you had a lovely day. I love number ending in 0, always a sense of achievement. These last ten days till 100 will seem like 100 days as you are finally triple digits and who would have thought it! I know i never in my wildest dreams thought alky me could do it. You will never regret adding numbers to your sobriety. Hugs to you lovely you deserve them.

[Eloise]

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Thanks Available & Jane! You guys are great... We are making this happen together....