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[Eloise]

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Good morning! New day, hopefully something positive will come along today. Like washing my hair?
Narilly: I don't feel strong. I just feel annoyed.I am doing okay Jvo, doggies want breakfast. Hd is in bed.
I took myself, with the dog, to the hospital yesterday. I didn't think I would have another surgery, just check up visit. Feeling a bit down, but I just woke up. However, I am a lot better than last week right after surgery. Let's hope they got it all.

Morning Scottish lass.....

[giraffe1234]

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Jane, when I find myself in tricky/tempting circumstances, I will make a point of digging in my sober heels lol!
Going to a beach wedding in Mozambique next month (old camping and travelling partners), with whom we always used to party & drink a lot when out in the bush. The entire wedding party will be spending a week at the resort venue, so it's going to be one big party. However, I will be digging my sober and pedicured heels in the lovely white beach sand, keeping you in mind.
Hope you all have a good day.

[giraffe1234]

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Jane, when I find myself in tricky/tempting circumstances, I will make a point of digging in my sober heels lol!
Going to a beach wedding in Mozambique next month (old camping and travelling partners), with whom we always used to party & drink a lot when out in the bush. The entire wedding party will be spending a week at the resort venue, so it's going to be one big party. However, I will be digging my sober and pedicured heels in the lovely white beach sand, keeping you in mind.
Hope you all have a good day.

[lifechange]

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Morning Ladies!

Jane, I hate it when that happens!!! My trick, which has worked thus far, is when I'm finished writing to copy it-- then when I inevitably have to sign back on to post, I can just paste it on. I hope you'll write another long one soon-- I love to read your posts...

Eloise, so sorry to hear about the additional surgery. Damn! I sure hope they've got it all this time. I dare to say, you need a bit of a break. I'm glad to hear it isn't as bad as the last one-- may you heal well and fast!

J-vo, I also really liked that video. It clarified so much for me--no wonder, conquering this addiction isn't a cake walk!

I have the next 4 days with my girls-- the last days of summer break. Sad, but true..
I'll be checking in here as often as possible, though, as my family continues to trigger a stress in me that I haven't yet found the best way to deal with. It wasn't so difficult no to drink the past week. Now that everyone is coming home, I have to try out new methods of dealing. One I will try out today is to remove myself, when and if I need to for 5 minutes-- even if I have to be rude and leave in the middle of a conversation, I will go in my room and meditate. Deep breaths.

big hello to LB, Nar, Pav, NS, Giraffe, Daisy!!-- How is it going today with the little ones?? SL!--popping over to your thread--looks like you've hit a milestone today!!

[Eloise]

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Well, lifechange, the new surgery enlarged the hole on my forehead, but I got less anestesia so I didn't feel as bad as I did directly after the first procedure. The last time I could hardly walk afterwards. You know, I think the anestesia really was a big part of feeling so bad.
No way around it, this is not fun and I look terrible. It could always be worse, not doubt about that either.

[jenniech]

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I sincerely look forward to being a member of this thread…..I am jealous of your sobriety and I am looking forward to having the fog cleared away…..until then, i will be in the NN…..see you soon ladies on a mission!!!!!!

[lifechange]

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Eloise, I believe that with the anesthesia! If they don't manage to get it just right, it can really be hell, can't it? Do you have any expectations about how long it might take to heal? I guess this might really be a (difficult, albeit!) lesson in gratitude. Thank god you and your doctors caught it!! Thank god it wasn't in a place where you might not see it! My dad had a spot on the top of his head that my sister caught while cutting his hair. And a friend of my mom's had spots on the bottom of her feet that she didn't notice until it was a bit too late... I know it's all easier said by someone who doesn't have to deal with it at the moment.. Strength to you..:l

Jennie, can't wait to see you here more often. I saw you've been checking into the Nest-- a lot of great conversation/info. being exchanged going on there now. I hope you'll make the big leap of faith soooon!

I just signed on in the Nest-- I have had the most bothersome 2 hours of fighting cravings thus far. It's only 2pm here and the f****** part of my middle brain tried to convince me to go for it, to ignore everyone here, to head out for a bottle of wine and start again "tomorrow". I can't believe how difficult it is to keep the rational part of the brain in the game at that point. It really pisses me off!!! I am so happy to say that I used my tools and it seems to have passed for the moment. I have learned so much here-- I KNOW that I don't have any more tomorrows. I think it's when I started to think about starting over tomorrow that I really began to fight back.! Fuck tomorrow!!!!!

[available]

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The great thing is LC you came on here and posted to be accountable and you really dont want to drink otherwise you would be headed off to the bottleshop. Those urges/cravings are fucking horrible and thank god i dont get many now but at the end of the day al will give you nothing but shame, guilt and remorse. Put some music on and distract yourself, go for a walk (without the cashcard), eat and eat some more. keep up the fight girl it is so worth it in the end and you know that.

My day was a bitch from start to finish and i actually said to someone at 8.30am that "fuck i could do with a drink". well where the hell did that come from as i then said "and i dont even drink". I was just so stressed but it passed and it wasnt even a conscious thought to drink. Funny how our brain works.

Thank god it is friday tomorrow is all i will say and for you another day that you dont drink and another day that i wont drink either.

[j-vo]

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LC, I think we need to keep remembering to hammer the H.A.L.T. into our heads and take care of those basic need -- Hungry, Angry (Anxious), Lonely, and Tired. Sometimes it's just that simple. I also liked what Wags suggested. Reassess your situation in 30 minutes. Then you won't think about it for 30 minutes and it might pass. And then do another 30 if it didn't pass. Did you ever consider Antabuse? It takes away that chatter, as if you take it and drink, you'd get sick as a dog. Takes it completely off the table. Hang in there and deep breath or eat or do whatever you can to get through this craving.

[j-vo]

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Nar, you've been working your butt off! Hope you got a good night's sleep.

Ava, sorry you had a shitty day. Hopefully your evening is much better.

El, four days until you hit 100! Hope you're feeling better today.

SL, glad you popped in! You sound well and strong.

Giraffe, I like that...digging your sober heels into the sand. When you go to the wedding, bring your tools with you. Focus on all that's good being sober. And be grateful that you won't wake up with a hangover like a lot of the other folks will and you can take a morning walk on the beach.

Jane, I always select and copy my post before I hit post. I've forgotten a few times and lost it, for the most part, that works for me. I didn't know bananas pooped!

Jenni, can't wait to have you here. Whenever you're ready!

Went into work the last two days to set up shop. Have more things to do today, but will do that at home. First official day is tomorrow. Inservice (boring!) Friday and Monday, clerical Tuesday, kids come next Wednesday. I'm looking forward to this year.

[j-vo]

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:applaud::groupluv::armsaround::dancin:SL, just saw your big 6 months is today! Congratulations on this awesome achievement! You've worked so hard on your sobriety and I'm sure these past 6 months were much better than 6 months of drinking. :l Keep it going, pretty lady!

[wagmore]

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SL - HUGE CONGRATS on 6 months!!! Ditto to all the dancing posted by j-vo, as that about sums it up! Well, I'd add this too (my favorite):

:banana:


LC - Great job coming on MWO and posting when you felt those cravings hit. I really believe that having an assortment of strategies for just those moments, tools that help you surf the urges, can be a critical part of maintaining a quit. Delay, distract, deal with any HALT issues. Posting and/or reading here can often be just the ticket, even if all it does is make you pause and not act impulsively. So glad you got through it!

El - Really sorry to hear you needed the additional surgery, but I'm so glad they caught it right away and took care of things. As I mentioned, my dad had this same surgery a couple of years ago, including spots on his forehead. He didn't look great for a little while but now you can barely tell he had anything done. Glad you're not feeling as awful after this most recent procedure. Hang in there!

Daisy - Sounds like you have your hands full in a good way!

Jane - As a few others have mentioned, I also copy my posts before I hit submit, as I've lost too many posts to count. Not sure why this site has this problem, but it sure is frustrating. I'll never look at a banana the same after reading your post

Ava - sorry to hear about your crappy day, and hope things are/were better today

Giraffe - digging your heals into the beach sand sounds like a great plan. Really good idea to think ahead and envision yourself enjoying all the festivities AF, and having some tools ready to go that will help you protect your quit

[wagmore]

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This group is growing and busy - so much to keep up with but lots of great successes happening!

On my end, things have also been busy but mostly good. I've found myself having more frequent thoughts of AL than any other time since my quit, and I'm not totally sure why. It might be a bit of post-100-day slump, or it might be that I've been around AL more in the past few weeks. I haven't come close to slipping, but I can tell I need to do some work to fortify my foundation and prop up my quit while I'm still feeling strong.

Hope everyone has a great MAE!

[lifechange]

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Thank you, Friends!!!
No one understands like all of you lovely Ladies. (and of course, all the other people here at MWO!) I feel so fortunate to have you all to check in with, get advice and support from, learn from--In the middle of cooking spaghetti and meatballs, listening to Carol King Tapestry.. "You've got a Friend" came on and I had to think of all of you...:h
Will check in after the girls are in bed, if I don't fall asleep with them. Otherwise, will read back in the am..xoxxoxoxoxo

[Eloise]

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:goodjob:Yup, getting busy here,
Wagmore- maybe listen to the BubbleHour relapse prevention. You are doing great, no point risking all youve done.