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[rooniferd]

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Hey Loamers! Sorry I?ve been absent lately. I need to read back on your posts and catch up! Just wanted to share a quick story from last night.

Occasionally, I wait tables and bartend at a little Italian restaurant here in North Carolina (my friend owns it). Last night, my friends Dee and Rob came in to celebrate Rob?s new promotion at work. I?ve been drinking with these guys for many years, so I knew what they meant by celebration ? get stinking drunk.

They started off their night at the bar drinking cocktails, chatting with people around them. I could hear Bob getting louder and louder the more he drank. Finally, they were ready for their table. Dee ordered a fairly expensive bottle of Red Zin. She's a wine snob....Oh, don?t get me started on wine snobs. I see that crap all the time at the restaurant?.

Anyway, two bottles later on top of all the cocktails they had at the bar, they were pretty well toasted. They ended up calling a cab home.

I really wonder if it was all worth it. Two hundred and fifty on dinner and drinks. Probably 30 bucks for the cab ride home. I?m sure both with have major hangovers this morning. They probably don?t even remember much of the night, especially toward the end.

So, tell me, how is THAT a celebration? Why do we equate celebrating with hurting ourselves? Why don?t we celebrate by doing things that are GOOD for us? I just don?t understand.

[lifechange]

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I went ahead and signed on, too, NS. Let's see what happens.
I love MWO!! I don't like such changes. I am comfortable here with all of you and with this format. Anyway, I'm still hoping it will all get worked out--

[lifechange]

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Xpost, Roonie-- So good to see you here. I'm also trying to wrap my head around that question of celebration. I can understand, if one really doesn't have a problem with alcohol, that it is/would be nice to celebrate with a nice dinner and a glass or two of wine-- but going to such excess--it definitely ceases to be a celebration or fun. Certainly, with the amount they drank, even if they have a very high tolerance, they won't be feeling so well this morning! Thank you for that story.. it's a good play it forward example. I wouldn't have stopped until I was passed out -- would've def. had a couple more brandies at home!
How have you been??

[NoSugar]

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Rivergal;1697708 wrote:
NS- how do we get to alternative MWO? Is this site really going away? I am not having any technical problems...did I miss an
important message?

Hi, RG

You should be able to click on that link. If it doesn't work, Nursie has posted it in several threads.

It is hard to say what is happening with MWO. The alternative site is easier to use, can be run from an app, has stronger security features that should reduce the bot spam, has a "like" button, is free, but otherwise could be structured just like this is in terms of forums, threads, etc.

[Dottie Belle]

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Morning ladies,
I signed up for Nursie's sight last night. I like its simplicity. She is just starting it in case this sight blows up or the spammers take over..not sure but nice to have a plan B.
It is low 90's today and I am NOT going to spend much time outside. Church then lunch out.
Will read back later.

[NoSugar]

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Some people have signed up. The main problem I see with it is I have no idea how new people would find it. Maybe one of the tech experts on here knows about that.

[roxane]

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depending on RJ, there could be a link to it from here on the front page. im guessing but ive seen it from sites that have moved.

[wagmore]

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I signed up on the other site as well, just in case. So far it looks like there are about 18 or 20 people from MWO. Thanks Nursie for creating and NS for posting the link here!

Well, today is a new day. My Day 115 instead of Day 1 thanks to all of your support yesterday. I made it past a significant challenge and I am definitely stronger as a result. Wow, what a wake-up call yesterday was. I haven't really struggled very much since I quit drinking on May 1. Little urges here and there, but for the most part my resolve has been firm. As I mentioned around day 100, I could kinda tell that things might get more difficult. Then, before I could adequately prepare, WHAM! I got hit hard yesterday, really hard. It seriously took every tool I had, every ounce of resolve.

After some thought and reflection, it was really clear to me that I was feeling very uncomfortable feelings, too many of them, and the thoughts of AL were based on a desire to escape all of that discomfort.

I know I need to build my emotional coping muscles and skills. One thing that has occurred to me is that I am not afraid of discomfort when it is physical. I workout pretty hard and often push myself to do things that are not comfortable if I know they will help me get stronger or fitter. During many workouts I reach a point where my mind tells me to quit, and I have to dig very deep to keep going through the discomfort because I want the result and I want to challenge myself.

I think I need to adopt this mindset for my AF work. This probably isn't the strategy that most people would turn to - it's simply something I've realized might work for me.

THANK YOU all for your support. So glad I have this amazing group :groupluv:

[Eloise]

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:hLifechange- I am going to celebrate tomorrow by going to work for a week! I am really looking forward to it. Otherwise, not sure but I should do or buy myself something nice I think. Hopefully I will get a clean bill of health in the afternoon, cancer free, so that will also be something to celebrate.

Glad you made it safely through yesterday Wagmore. Really glad and thankfully to you for sharing. It helps a lot to hear how others are handling all this. I feel like I am just at the beginning of this AF battle.

[Pavati]

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Good morning!

I was at a concert, too, Nar. Second night of going to bed after 1:00am - waking tired but with no hangover. Phew. The scariest thing for me was getting ready for the concert. DH and I had made ice coffees from the leftovers in the pot and I picked one up off the shelf and took a giant swig. DH said, "that one's mine" and I had a moment of panic! He sometimes will make his an Irish iced coffee with a shot of whiskey if we are going out (actually, he's a normie, even though he does that - he'll forget the coffee, not finish it, whatever). So I thought - oh, shit, I've just had some whiskey. So many thoughts ran through my head - do I have to count over? will I get to feel the buzz (and did I want to)? people actually DO drink accidentally... Thankfully, there was no whiskey in it, but it was a good reminder to think before I just take sips of things around here...

Wags - sorry for your struggles. I think identifying emotions as a trigger is interesting. I have found many times since I quit drinking suddenly things that people have said and written all along will suddenly click for me. (That's part of just copying sober people until I actually get why). "The only way out is through" made sense to me once I started feeling intense emotions and having to get through them without my usual assistance from AL. There's some yoga/mindfulness in there, too. Acknowledge the emotion, sit with it instead of fighting against it. New agey sounding, but it works.

LB - I also can visualize the drunkenness. For me it works better being myself - I get the taste of my breath as well. VERY easy to say no if I can channel that properly. Exercise, too, Wags, as you know. Four to seven months were challenging for me. I wouldn't say I had cravings as much as I felt blah and unmotivated. I know you won't drink, but am sorry you're feeling like that.

Hope all of my gloamers are doing well. I'm going to check out Nursie's site but hope for the best with MWO still. We'll have a big party tomorrow, El!

xo
Pav

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gOOD nIGHT; lOVeLIES:::

capitals locked! I'm off to hit the hay.. first day of school tomorrow for the girls and first day back in the gym for me..
I'm so happy to have had a nice weekend, even with the major al voice breathing down my back. It helped so much to have you all here and to actually check in instead of checking out. Glad you're feeling better, Wags. Looking forward to the 100 day party for El tomorrow-- I'll bring a cake-- what's your favourite, Eloise? Any allergies?

wishing you all well...

[Ginger999]

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NS, It has to do with search engine optimization and meta tags, which will need to be done at the admin level, I think. Those are key words that people would enter when doing a search. The tags would be things like, alcoholic, recovery, stop drinking and on and on. Anything that you think a person migh search for with regard to the new forum would be added. I'm on the road but when I get home, I can contact Nursie to discuss this with her. She may already know this needs to be done.

[Eloise]

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No allergies Lifechange :moon:
But watching my sugar so maybe a banana or carrot cake?
I havent told hd yet about tomorrow. He is still in his mid life blues out of work financial crisis funk. Cant blame him there. I dont want to talk about my Af days as I am afraid he will say it doesnt matter... Dont be so hard on yourself... U can have some wine,,, just a glass or two. Prove to yourself you can stop. I dont want this discussion.

Lets keep it moving ladies! Talk is cHeap We want action! X

[available]

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Its the 25th today in Aus El so happy 100th. It is a massive achievement that you should be so proud of. Dont let hubs rain on your parade today, you deserve every cudo's for today. have a lovely happy day and go and spoil yourself. i remember i bought a electric toothbrush and a new bra! Mmm probably dont do that! have a lovely day for your triple digit day. Hugs xx

[narilly]

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Lol, an electric tooth brush and a new bra, that's good! I don't remember what I did but I know I was happy!
Life, if you are bringing cake I will bring some yummy ice cream or gelato. Oh and popcorn. I love popcorn.
I am just making a nice salmon dinner for the family. Salmon, rice, saut?ed brussel sprouts and broccoli. Maybe salad too. That way I have lots of leftovers for work.

Talk soon,