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[wagmore]

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MAE all,

Loads on my mind today. Actually, I woke up in the middle of the night and couldn't fully turn my mind back off, and thus didn't sleep terribly well. Happy to be at 120 days AF though.

[NoSugar]

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At this point, Jane, I'd suggest a really big slumber party .

Your liability is huge if anything were to go wrong - even if the kids arrived half-drunk, you would be held responsible if they drank at your house and then got in an accident. Or if they drank after they were at your house -- there would be plenty of witnesses that you provided alcohol to minors. Another option would be not to provide much beer, not allow carry-ins, and provide a wide assortment of AF beverages and appealing food.

Sorry to be such a party-pooper but unless the laws in your state are vastly different than in mine, you are putting yourself in a precarious position.

I don't think you should worry about hypocrisy - what you did in your youth and what other parents choose to do has nothing to do with your obeying the law now.

I'll be thinking about you - please let us know how it goes.

[lifechange]

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Jane, what is the law where you live? Are kids over 18 allowed to drink if they are in the presence of a parent/other adult? In that case you could ask them for letters of consent from the parents.. can you tell I have young kids? Crazy it all is. You know here, kids are allowed to buy and drink beer at the age of 16-- And for the kids I know of the age, they aren't even interested.? I have no idea what I would do in your situation if it's illegal across the boards.. sorry I can't be of help..

WAGS!!! Congratulations on 120 days!

[lifechange]

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Now that I read NS's post, I would have to agree with her. If you are liable, actually even if you aren't, and something should happen to one of them on the way home or on the way to somewhere else- I guess if the party ends at 6 they won't be going home.. Hmmm. that's such a tough one.

[roxane]

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well done wags!

wont tell you what came up when i googled 120 days............

[lifechange]

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Had to look it up, Roxy!!

[Eloise]

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Guys just to add my two cents... when I was in boarding school our parents rented us a big house to have our senior party. Small class, mind you of 32 kids. We (kids) stayed there the entire week-end. Parents lodged in town (took cars, so no way to leave even if we wanted to) and we had our lake house, kids everywhere in the morning. But, I do not remember things getting crazy out of hand. Mind you that was 30 years ago, so I could be a bit foggy. We had fun, drank beer etc...some smoked... but it was pretty subdued as it was all 'allowed.'

[j-vo]

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Wags,
Congrats on your 120! So awesome! Keep strong girlie. I know you're not feeling that great today because of lack of sleep, but you'll make up for it tonight.

Jane, I've watched videos about the law and kids and parents getting into trouble for that. I hate to shake you up, but we show these in our Middle School. The fines can be pretty high. But I don't know where you live. I like your idea of the breathalizere for the designated drivers. And to identify them ASAP. For each car that drives to your house you should have a set of keys. Too risky. And too many times we hear of teens in car wrecks and not even drunk, but just careless driving because, you know, they're invincible. Good luck.

LC...16!! They let kids drink at 16? WTF! Really!?

Going to a high school football game tonight. Tomorrow is DS's double header and it's going to be a hot 90 degrees. Hope to relax tomorrow night!

[Dottie Belle]

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Had a great day. Gym then shopping. Got goodies for my pasta salad that I will take to the street party tomorrow. Wish they would push the time back. It is going to be HOT, HOT, HOT.....
Have lots of green peppers in my garden. Picked them and cut up to freeze. They taste so much better than store bought..mmmmmm

Back in the day my mom would let my friend and I drink in the basement but we couldnt go anywhere. That was OK with me...laws are so different these days....people are so sue happy and ready to blame others for their mistakes....just be careful and CYA .....

In for the night.....

[wagmore]

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Jane - Thanks for the congrats and my purple chip! But, in return, I'm sorry if my comments contributed to your worries over the party tomorrow. I am just worried about you and your own potential liability. We all know that drinking (even beer) can compromise judgment. I'd just hate to see you end up with a pile of crap to deal with if one of the party-goers does something stupid after they leave the party. At the same time, I totally get that kids (well, young adults) drink anyway. Maybe that's part of my concern - I know what I was like at that age and younger, and alcohol sure didn't help any of us make good decisions. Then again, I probably already drank alcoholically at that age, and perhaps some of my peers didn't - I don't really know.

Hugs to you, and we'll keep fingers and paws crossed that all goes smoothly and uneventfully.


Rox, j-vo and LC - Thanks to you as well - I appreciate all of the kudos. Sometimes google is NOT helpful!

Dottie - Gym and garden bounty - what more could you ask for?!?

[wagmore]

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Well, I've spent lots of today lost in thought. Feeling good about my 120 days, and then hit sideways by the sudden thought that I should have just one drink to "celebrate" - WTF??? I guess old habits die hard. This is part of why it's so essential that I figure out the paddling team issues in my life, as trivial as they seem. Paddling is something I'm taking very seriously and it is helping me stay sober. I want to do as well as I can, and thus I am highly motivated to NOT drink the day/night before any practice and during at least a week before any race. There have been several times I've been semi-tempted to drink, but just by reminding myself that I have practice early the next morning or later the same day I've been able to brush those thoughts aside almost effortlessly.

So, what kept me awake last night was that my coach was actually nice at practice - she talked to me and she was nice and positive with everyone. Just when I thought I'd decided to leave the team, I found myself second-guessing the decision because I do like my team and would stay if my coach weren't such a diva and b*tch most of the time.

Sigh... I know my problems are small on the surface - they are only large because they reflect just the surface of much deeper issues I need to work on if I'm going to maintain my quit over the long haul. I guess I'm lucky that I have a situation that gives me that opportunity but doesn't have real major consequences (like marriage issues, work issues, legal problems, etc). I will count my lucky stars and embrace the opportunity to learn and grow.

Hugs to all. :groupluv:

[NoSugar]

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Wags,

I just used this meditation podcast this evening: The Meditation Podcast | Episode 28 - Emotional Clearing. It relates to some of the issues you're dealing with right now. Apparently it works on some level because I burst into tears partway through it . I'm not sure that is what is supposed to happen but at least I ended up feeling better.

[little beagle]

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Just a quick post. We are having so much fun. It's wonderful to be able to relax.
A hot jacuzzi bath is just bliss. Tomorrow I'm throwing in some Epsom Salt. Ahhhh

[narilly]

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Jane, I wouldn't over think it. Tell the kids no one is allowed to drink and drive, take their keys at the beginning of the party if they are drinking. Have some good food-pizza and non AL drinks and let them have fun.
I stayed home this weekend because I did not want my son to have a party at my house AND I had to work today. I am more concerned about kids wrecking and making a mess of my house. They play beer pong and spill all over the floor. My son isn't very good at setting boundaries for his friends so I'll just stick around. I told him he could have a few people over and I would leave for a couple of hours.

Lil B, the jacuzzi bath sounds amazing.

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NS, interesting that you cried. There must be some pent up stuff that came out. It's incredible sometimes all the emotion we carry and we are not even aware of it.
I am doing the headspace meditations that RJ mentioned. I am nothe fourth one now, they are really good and totally help me to relax.

Xxx

[Pavati]

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Hi, all:

I feel very strongly about not hosting parties with alcohol with teenagers present. I realize I am in the minority, and I'm not judging your decisions - I battle my friends here over it, too. I feel we're just contributing to the "alcohol is necessary for a party" culture. Can't we have a party without alcohol? The idea seems ridiculous! If I was still drinking and a friend had me over for a BBQ and there was no alcohol there, I would have thought s/he was crazy, and probably wouldn't have lasted long. I understand that "everyone" does it, too, but then come to a parent meeting at my school - everyone (who has just served beer to their underaged children) is wringing their hands and lamenting the "binge drinking" culture!? WTF? If we don't change things, who will?? I realize I sound like a goody two shoes, and likely will lose this battle, but I'm standing my ground for now. (I also don't allow shooter video games in my house (I worked in city schools where students of mine were shot), but I know that my kids play them other places.) As I raise my kids to be aware that alcohol was and is a problem to many family members, I think it would be hypocritical for me to then serve it to them. I was running around NYC, too, Jane (maybe we DO know each other?), and attending parties where adults served alcohol to minors all of the time. And look how well I turned out (HAH).

I say all of that with ABSOLUTELY and HONESTLY NO judgement - just letting you know my stance on it. I DO think you should be careful about social host laws and the like, but it sounds like you'll monitor it. One thing a friend did was buy LIMITED beer so that there wasn't enough for kids to get drunk.

WAGS!!!!! 120!!!!! So farking amazing. Another group win! You might be paddling is a great sober tool - any exercise and non alcoholic group activity.

OK folks, on my way to bed after a LONG week. Hope you are all fabulous as ever. LB - a long soak in a jacuzzi sounds like what the doctor ordered.

xo
Pav