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Good Morning, Ladies!!!
Wishing you all a wonderful Saturday!! :chick:

[Eloise]

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wagmore;1699469 wrote: Well, I've spent lots of today lost in thought. Feeling good about my 120 days, and then hit sideways by the sudden thought that I should have just one drink to "celebrate" - WTF??? I guess old habits die hard. This is part of why it's so essential that I figure out the paddling team issues in my life, as trivial as they seem. Paddling is something I'm taking very seriously and it is helping me stay sober. I want to do as well as I can, and thus I am highly motivated to NOT drink the day/night before any practice and during at least a week before any race. There have been several times I've been semi-tempted to drink, but just by reminding myself that I have practice early the next morning or later the same day I've been able to brush those thoughts aside almost effortlessly.

So, what kept me awake last night was that my coach was actually nice at practice - she talked to me and she was nice and positive with everyone. Just when I thought I'd decided to leave the team, I found myself second-guessing the decision because I do like my team and would stay if my coach weren't such a diva and b*tch most of the time.

Sigh... I know my problems are small on the surface - they are only large because they reflect just the surface of much deeper issues I need to work on if I'm going to maintain my quit over the long haul. I guess I'm lucky that I have a situation that gives me that opportunity but doesn't have real major consequences (like marriage issues, work issues, legal problems, etc). I will count my lucky stars and embrace the opportunity to learn and grow.

Hugs to all. :groupluv:

Wagmore, if you feel like this about your couch I am certain you are not alone. She will most likely be entirely shocked if you told her. She is supposed to be leading the team, not breaking it apart. How about calling her out, on the spot, when she is behaving inappropriately?
I hate it when people are hot and cold, up and down, better to just be luke warm even if it seems dull.
This is a bummer for you and is important. Maybe talk to a teammate who might feel the same?

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A craving is very, very uncomfortable but keep in mind, it won't kill you or even make you faint or have a seizure or anything like that. It isn't as painful as labor or passing a kidney stone. If you didn't have such an easy way to take the feeling away and could look at it objectively, what pain rating would you give it with 10 being something like pushing out that baby or passing that stone? I bet it rarely would even get a 5. It is a really bad feeling but you can get through it - with no bad after effects!

Real physical and psychic pains are waking up at 3 a.m. and realizing what you've done again. Now that really hurts and it will be with you in one way or another all day, until that craving comes back tomorrow evening and either you give in again or do what you could have done today, and chosen not to drink. Why wait?

It will be great to hear how anyone who is struggling now but doesn't succumb feels about things in the morning

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You might think I'm stalking you today, Eloise!
I love your new cheery avatar--brightened my morning. Actually I have a sunflower just like it in a vase on the kitchen table that the girls brought to me after caring for the school garden...looks like it could be a painting of yours..?
How are you healing?? And have your classes already started? Couldn't remember the start date.

[j-vo]

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Wags,
I hope you can sort this out and be satisfied with your decision. That's a really difficult situation. Can you do a pro/con list for this? I tend to do that when I'm unsure about what to do.

Pav,
Great points.

NS, I bookmarked that meditation site. Hope you're ok.

LB, so glad you're having a much deserved great vacation!

Last night was a great Friday night. While drinking, I would NEVER dream of going to an away game to watch a high school football game. I sat with parents of DS's friends (we've become close friends through the years through the boys) and chatted and watched our boys kick ass! Only two more years of this excitement, but I know I"m going to enjoy everything I can. DS doesn't play football, but it's nice when the parents come to his basketball games to support us. Great sense of community.

Have to go to pick out paint samples for MIL, go to DS's double-header, then go to MIL to help her decide on colors for her house. Busy! But sober and happy. Have a great day.

[wagmore]

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little beagle;1699489 wrote: Just a quick post. We are having so much fun. It's wonderful to be able to relax.
A hot jacuzzi bath is just bliss. Tomorrow I'm throwing in some Epsom Salt. Ahhhh
Awesome LB - glad you're having such a great time!

NoSugar;1699482 wrote: Wags,

I just used this meditation podcast this evening: The Meditation Podcast | Episode 28 - Emotional Clearing. It relates to some of the issues you're dealing with right now. Apparently it works on some level because I burst into tears partway through it . I'm not sure that is what is supposed to happen but at least I ended up feeling better.

Thanks NS - I will check this out. Sounds like exactly what I need, but I should time it so it isn't right before I have to go somewhere.


Pavati;1699506 wrote: Hi, all:

I feel very strongly about not hosting parties with alcohol with teenagers present. I realize I am in the minority, and I'm not judging your decisions - I battle my friends here over it, too. I feel we're just contributing to the "alcohol is necessary for a party" culture. Can't we have a party without alcohol? The idea seems ridiculous! If I was still drinking and a friend had me over for a BBQ and there was no alcohol there, I would have thought s/he was crazy, and probably wouldn't have lasted long. I understand that "everyone" does it, too, but then come to a parent meeting at my school - everyone (who has just served beer to their underaged children) is wringing their hands and lamenting the "binge drinking" culture!? WTF? If we don't change things, who will?? I realize I sound like a goody two shoes, and likely will lose this battle, but I'm standing my ground for now. (I also don't allow shooter video games in my house (I worked in city schools where students of mine were shot), but I know that my kids play them other places.) As I raise my kids to be aware that alcohol was and is a problem to many family members, I think it would be hypocritical for me to then serve it to them. I was running around NYC, too, Jane (maybe we DO know each other?), and attending parties where adults served alcohol to minors all of the time. And look how well I turned out (HAH).

I say all of that with ABSOLUTELY and HONESTLY NO judgement - just letting you know my stance on it. I DO think you should be careful about social host laws and the like, but it sounds like you'll monitor it. One thing a friend did was buy LIMITED beer so that there wasn't enough for kids to get drunk.

WAGS!!!!! 120!!!!! So farking amazing. Another group win! You might be paddling is a great sober tool - any exercise and non alcoholic group activity.

OK folks, on my way to bed after a LONG week. Hope you are all fabulous as ever. LB - a long soak in a jacuzzi sounds like what the doctor ordered.

xo
Pav

Thanks for the congrats Pav. I don't think your feelings about al at teenage parties are too strong - we all have to figure out what we're comfortable with in each situation. I do think it's a difficult situation to navigate, especially when you're in it.

Jane - Good luck today - hope all goes well!

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Hello again!!
I wrote a long post this morning and lost it! Me, Ms copy and paste, f***** it up and then had no more patience to try again..

J-vo, sounds like you've got a heck of a lot going on this weekend! I like to hear about the sense of community surrounding your son and his friends. Even though they might not always say, I think it means a lot for the kids to have you all there supporting them. I love HS sports if I know someone playing. Crazy here with the al laws-- the kids are allowed to then buy wine, spirits and cigarettes at the age of 18! However, they aren't allowed to drive a car until the age of 18 and it takes about 3500,$ and a few months worth of classes. I guess one could make a case for or against any of the above..I'm glad to have at least another year (crossing my fingers) where I don't have to personally involved with kids and alcohol.

Nar, Hope you're having a nice weekend, including the working part. Good idea to stay home with the son, I think. If you already know he has troubles setting boundaries with his friends. Peer pressure can be so awful at that age, can't it? Something, like a get together, that begins quietly and innocently enough can turn into complete chaos quickly.

LB, I'd forgotten (or didn't know) you were going on vacation-- Hot tub sounds like Bliss!!!

Speaking of, Dottie, is yours fixed?

Wags, I was wondering, too, as Eloise mentioned, if it wouldn't be possible for you to have a word with the coach about your feelings? It sounded like otherwise you really liked the team and were cultivating friendships with some of the women. Maybe it's possible to guide the coach into changing her behaviour a bit? Positive sign that she was able to show another side of herself. It's great that you are looking closely at this situation and realising that it's roots are much deeper. Like you said, it's necessary for your long term recovery.
I sometimes worry that I might be overlooking/brushing to the side some issues that seem to difficult at the moment. And I definitely don't want to fall into the trap of being a "dry drunk"!

Ava, I read in the Nest that you were going out shopping and you inspired me to do the same! Actually bought a couple of tops for myself. My plan was not to buy anything until I lose the 5kg I've gained since Dec., reasoning that if I could just do that, I already have lots of things in my closet that fit!!! But seeing as that may never be the case...and I'm sick of wearing the same old thing day in and out.. Glad you had such a nice day with your girl!

I just talked to my Mom, who told me that a surgery that my Sister had last yesterday went very well. I think I was more worried than I allowed myself to show, trying to be purely positive. They had to go in through her throat to take out a deteriorating disc that was pressing against her spine. She's been in so much pain for such a long time, but because of some bad Doctors, wasn't correctly diagnosed until 2 months ago. Thank god that at that point everything was rushed. I feel relieved...

Also, I made an appointment with a doctor on Monday (finally) to talk about possible alcohol recovery supplements and about finding an addiction counselor. I don't want to let these things go too long-- I want to do more than I have before to insure that I'm completely open and honest with myself. Also started cutting out sugar and simple carbs yesterday which is a complete pain in the butt-- but I swear, I already feel physically better. It's just my obsessive/compulsive attitude towards sweets. Arghhhhh..

Oh, Jane, I wanted to ask if you've come farther with party concerns?
NS, thanks for the meditation podcast-- I have it set up to listen to today.

Hugs to all Gloamers and all people stopping by here today--

[Ginger999]

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Morning Gloamers! Just wanted to post real quick that I really enjoy everyone's posts here. I'm afraid I take more away than I leave. Sorry about that. I come here and read every day. Sometimes a couple of times a day. Thanks to all of you for being here and sharing your lives, trials and most of all your wisdom. I feel so blessed to have met all of you on this thread. I wouldn't be heading toward 120 days Monday without all of your modivational posts!!

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Hi Ginger!!! Monday will be a day to celebrate!! Hope you're having a nice weekend...

[narilly]

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Good morning! Off to the market, will check in later.

[Dottie Belle]

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Morning ladies,
lc hot tub is still not working. Electrician comes on Tuesday... AND check out this site. Lots of great info on supplements. DoctorYourself.com: Andrew Saul's Natural Health Website
Street party is later today in the HOT weather. Why didnt they schedule it for tonight after it cools off a bit....wont stay long that is for sure. But my pasta salad is yummy if i do say so myself. I am not much of a cook but I try.

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THANK YOU, DOTTIE! Greatly appreciated.. Hope the party is fun regardless! I'm getting ready to bake a huge, fat cake for MONDAY. That would be the first of September, wouldn't it? A very special day around these parts. Are you still following a vegan diet? I make very delicious vegan cakes/desserts..

[Dottie Belle]

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I am sticking to the vegan diet as closely as I can. Not perfect but pretty darn good. Cheese is my downfall.
We took our chairs down to the party now getting my water bottle filled and ready to go. There is a little breeze so I hope it keeps up. Or rains and we can all go home....what a party animal I am....

[Eloise]

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lifechange;1699551 wrote: You might think I'm stalking you today, Eloise!
I love your new cheery avatar--brightened my morning. Actually I have a sunflower just like it in a vase on the kitchen table that the girls brought to me after caring for the school garden...looks like it could be a painting of yours..?
How are you healing?? And have your classes already started? Couldn't remember the start date.

Heya Lifechange- i couldnt get on here today since the morning.
My art classes start mid September so I will be preparing this week.
The smaller wound is healing nicely, thanks. The big one is slower and am still quite tired. I thought maybe I was getting depressed but worked all last week and slept like the dead.
I was painting sunflowers on benches for the British School here, hence my sunflower picture. I want to get back my art but not done getting settled inour nee place yet...

[wagmore]

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jane27;1699741 wrote: Quick stop by to thank everyone for all the good advice. Party is over and everyone was very well behaved. Thank God! Wishing all a great weekend. Xo

Really glad to hear the good news Jane! We were all rooting for you