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[DreamThinkDo]

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available;1606658 wrote: Blood test tomorrow and i said to my daughter "can you message me at 10pm to tell me to stop drinking" and she gave me a look and said "oh i thought you were going to drink wine", they are still getting used to my non drinking ways.

Oh Avail, I can just imagine the look on your daughter's face!

[patrice]

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Hi Girls,

Hope you are all doing good.. I'm feeling a bit demotivated.. it's taking a while to get my head around the whole Af thing again..but here I am sipping water..
Take Care
Patrice

[available]

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Hi Pat, keep drinking that water, you can do it. I think it gets a tad harder each time, we seem to get the taste and yep thats it. Thats why i am not tasting it ever again. I just keep thinking it tastes foul and as byrd said its like putting ethanol in our system as it is like fuel to us that keeps us going. Take out the fuel and pffft.

exhausted so going to go to sleep but will post a nice long post for you tomorrow to put you to sleep. Take care my friend and be strong. Hugs from afar and you can do this. xx

[patrice]

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Yes Ava I think you are right.. it does get a bit harder to get the momentum going again... thanks for the encouragement.. I certainly want to get back to the way i was feeling before Xmas.. more water for me!!
xx I too am exhausted!
Pat

[Starfish1]

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Hi Ladies :l

Thanks for the thoughts and prayers regarding my daughter. This has been a rough couple of days. She still is not home. My husband just spoke with her by phone and he said she sounds ok. She says she is networking to find a job, but she won't tell us who she is with and we are not sure where she is. She is telling us that she is in a town about 2 hours away from our home, but we don't know whether to believe her or not.

I have done everything in my power, for several years, to try to help her and to believe in her, but I am finally at a point that I feel totally helpless. She continues to take full advantage of our trust in her. She is breaking my heart.

Thanks again for all the support. I am sorry to even be discussing this, when you all have so many other cares of your own, but I did want to give an update.
I am trying to stay sober, but it is not easy. Minute by minute is how is goes.
Love you all! Keep up the great work!
:h Star

[NoSugar]

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Star,

It is hard to imagine living with the stress you are under right now. I am so sorry your family is in such turmoil. Don't feel bad about talking about it here. No one's life is perfect and pretending or keeping quiet about it not only doesn't make it so, hiding the truth eats away at you and makes everything worse. Plus, you need support and love and we can give it only if you let us in :l.

Please keep us posted, keep not drinking so you can deal with everything that comes up in your strongest possible state, and know you are loved.

xx, NS

[j-vo]

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I haven't read any posts, but wanna stop in and say a quick hi while on break. So, "HI!" Doing New Year's Resolutions with 8th grade kids is kind of fun. They come up with the silliest things. One of the things on the paper I gave to them was the best and worst things that happened to them in 2013. My fav was:
Best: Justin Beiber retired
Worst: Miley Cirus twerking
I have to agree!

[giraffe1234]

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Hi all
Im back after a long road trip, almost 5000 km. Went past beautiful vinyards & inviting wine cellars - the temptation was terrible esp over Christmas and new years. However, Im grateful for 66 days today. This was my first sober new years eve in 30 odd years.
Starfish I hope and pray your daughter will be fine. I can just imagine the hell you are going through.
Patrice I am sorry you are feeling demotivated and down. Just hang in there! I admire you and everybody else here who persevere despite setbacks. The members' encouragement and support mean so much. Hope you feel strong and in control soon.
During this trip i realised again that alcohol is absolutely everywhere and it feels as if it persues me relentlessly. Available, Im working on the idea that it tastes horrible. How do you manage to convince youself? Please teach me the trick.
So, for me, back to work on Monday.
Take care everyone!

[Dottie Belle]

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Hi ladies,
I am not motivated either....snowing and cold so I am just going to hang on the couch and watch TV. I will get to the chores some day...they wont go anywhere.

[Pavati]

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MAE:

Dottie - that's what I did all day yesterday. I read a good book, posted here and watched TV (three episodes of Top Chef!) I think I am actually sore from all of that sitting around, but it WAS nice.

Giraffe - welcome back. I'm glad you stayed safe and sober on that LOOONNNG road trip. Where did you go?

Humble - Thanks so much for Rita Hayworth. Now if I could only get a hold of a twirly skirt and bloomers I could REALLY have a dance party. That was a happy way for me to start my day.

J-Vo - Out of the mouths of babes... I'm not sure I will ever be the same after seeing that Miley Cyrus incident (although I have to admit that that Robin Thicke song is an extremely guilty pleasure for me). Hope your first day back to work is good. On vacation I adjust my time so that I go to bed around midnight and wake up at 8 - the first couple days of work are like having jet lag.

Patrice - welcome back and settle in. I understand about finding your motivation, for sure. Do you have an old journal or post in which you summarize your reasons/intentions for af? It might help to read that. Happy New Year!

Star - So sorry about all you are going through. I'm not sure what is going on with your daughter, but NEVER feel bad about what you post here - we're here for exactly that reason. I agree with NS - staying sober will help you deal with this all so much better with a clear head. Hugs to you!

Good luck with your tests, Ava. Glad you stopped drinking (hah hah).

SL - go for 31 days in Jan with green dots! We can do this!

All you loamers - stay strong. Now we get into the mundane daily grind and will have to stay aware to stay AF. I am off to the mall to return some things (I HATE the mall) and then off for a "drink" with a friend who doesn't know I don't drink and won't really understand. I don't care, really, as I don't want to drink at all. As a matter of fact, I don't really want to meet this friend but I think it is time for me to overcome my vacation inertia of being a hermit and get out in the real world. I'm SURE I'll check in later. Happy Sober Thursday!

[narilly]

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Gals,
I think a big part of being AF is changing our habits. It was such a habit for me to sit on the couch and drink wine while watching TV. Eventually I didn't even care what I was watching... I have so many habits around drinking and it is a slow change for sure. I try and not think about drinking AL and just go for the non alcolholic stuff right away.

Just keep walking the path of AF and eventually you will make the path.

I am at work today and it is good because I got my 30 minute walk in on the way to work and am going yoga at lunch time then walking home after work 40 minutes. The best thing about work is having a routine. I find I eat less and exercise more which is Great!! No chance for drinking here

Reading your posts, Star- I wish you the best with your daughter. So sorry you have to go through that.
J-Vo, that made me laugh when you said your exercise videos were under the couch in the basement!
Pat, hang in there.
Ava, hope your dog looks Fabulous! I love dogs, I have a Pitbull who is so lethargic we think she is a rug!
Giraffe- 66 days is great and being AF on NYE is awesome! Way to go. Alcohol IS everywhere which makes this journey even more difficult. We just have to keep after it I guess, its a crazy ride for sure!
Pav- I can see you dancing crazy, that sounds like fun. I would dance quite often when I drink too. Now its when I am sober!

Talk to you later sweet ladies!

[Pavati]

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x post again, Narilly. I am wondering how you walk to work in that weather!? I think that must take away 500 cal. just to say alive!

[NoSugar]

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giraffe1234;1606811 wrote:
During this trip i realised again that alcohol is absolutely everywhere and it feels as if it persues me relentlessly. Available, Im working on the idea that it tastes horrible. How do you manage to convince youself? Please teach me the trick.

Hey, Giraffe

This thread might help you see alcohol for what it really is: https://www.mywayout.org/community/f1...lie-73649.html

[Starfish1]

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Update on my daughter-

Thanks so much for the words of concern and support, Ladies- you don't know how much it means to me :l
Well, I just got back from a THOROUGH search of my dtrs apartment. I found some leads as to where she probably is, and I feel comfortable that these leads are reliable.
If this is actually where she is, I don't think she is in any danger, but I am more convinced than ever, that she needs psychiatric intervention.
My husband and I will discuss next steps this evening.
This is so hard!
Thanks again for your kind thoughts and words. Stay strong everyone.

[FreeFly]

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Hi everyone,
NS, where did I sneak off to? - to be really stupid that's where!
Thanks for the welcomes back.
Really, really tired but I get like this when I quit. Certainly not complaining - much prefer it to insomnia.
Loads to catch up on here. Started a journal this year which I think will really help.
FF:l