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[Dottie Belle]

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Thanks everyone I am very proud of myself.
I had no clue one year ago that I would quit that day. The medical scare was the incentive I needed. If I continued the way I was going I am not so sure I would even be here.
I have known there was a problem for a decade or so. I would set a date and it would come and go so many times I lost count. I think my wake up call was what jolted me into the realization that this would kill me and I am not finished with life just yet.
It has not been easy. But knowing I could come here and vent and get support was an immense help. You all give so much of your time to encourage and support all of us and that is such a wonderful thing. I know dh will never really understand but I know ALL of you do.
Thanks for being here!!

[scottish lass]

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Nipping in to say yahoo to Ava, and huge one to DB!! The Loamers keep hitting it out of the park! More ice cream and chocolate sauce to be had!

Have a great day everyone - Pav, SUP is fun, you will love it - lake or ocean?? I had a lesson in Capitola, girls love it and did it a lot in SD!

[Eloise]

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Wow Dottie 1 year sober. Gosh, that is so great. It really is so much better to deal with all life has to hand out sober, huh? I am just at the beginning of this AF trip, but I think I am doing a lot better with all I have had to deal with being sober. Hands down, life is WAY more difficult to digest when you are drinking, or thinking about drinking, most of the time. It seems so obvious now, after a couple of months sober, but boy I couldn't see it before. Good for you... keep inspiring us all!

[Pie]

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Congratulations on One Year, Dottie!

[narilly]

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Have a great night girls.
Talk to you in the am
Hi Pie!

Xo

[Pie]

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Good morning, Narilly! Have a wonderful Tuesday!

[NoSugar]

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Hi, Pie

Nice to see you here! What's up with you these days?

wagmore;1700148 wrote: We had to make several trips to different stores because she would bu stuff and then realize she *might* need more for tonight, tomorrow, etc. She's probably like us. We had to go to certain stores where she hadn't bought recently because she was worried about what the clerks would think.Made me exhausted just to read that, Wags! So much time wasted and what a complete sham. I bet those clerks see it all the time and know who "those people" are. I'm surprised your friend behaved that way with you - it was my deepest darkest secret. If I was with someone else, buying wine was "perfectly normal and fine" (although I did buy "better" stuff in front of an audience ).

Eloise;1700241 wrote:
Yes, it is soooo good to not be preoccupied with drinking all the time. OMG do I not miss that at all. I spoke with an old friend and sometimes drinking pal over the week-end. She is on the wagon now too, she does that from time to time, but made it clear this is a just a break from drinking.If a person is addicted, "just taking a break" sounds crazy to me. You've done the hardest part! Why cash it in? I'm so glad you've stuck with it long enough, El, to see that life is easier and just plain better when AL doesn't have a noose around your neck.

available;1700244 wrote: Now i could have kept it and bought fizzy drink or chips even but its a shop i dont want to venture into again. That was my past life. Ava, it is great to hear how strong and self-confident you are these days! Not going to that shop was a good call but if you had to go in there, I just know you wouldn't buy any booze.

daisy45;1700252 wrote:
Well, if ever there was an example of what not to do then here I am. It is never just one drink, one night, only weekends! It is straight back to the same old crappy merry-go-round of trying to get off it again. So back to reclaim my sobriety! Sorry to all of you who supported me....I will get there

You can get there, Daisy! We've all been in that nasty amusement park with the merry-go-round from hell. It probably has clowns in it, too - one of my least favorite things in the world. In fact, I see AL as one of those clowns that seems to be all fun and games but behind the mask is really evil.

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Pavati;1700343 wrote:
We have beautiful weather for this long weekend. A baseball game, a good, long hike, and today we're trying stand-up paddle boarding. I am so happy to be sober, hungover free, and clear headed to enjoy this time with my family and friends. No nagging in the back of my head that I shouldn't have had that much to drink last night.

Pav, it sounds like you're truly to the point of appreciating your life so much that the little twinges of wishing things were different aren't a big deal anymore - so happy for you! And happy 9 months of AF living!!

Dottie Belle;1700351 wrote: The medical scare was the incentive I needed. If I continued the way I was going I am not so sure I would even be here.
I have known there was a problem for a decade or so. I would set a date and it would come and go so many times I lost count. I think my wake up call was what jolted me into the realization that this would kill me and I am not finished with life just yet.

There is a discussion of "rock bottoms" in the nest right now. You were so smart to recognize yours and use it to change your life. Not everyone is going to have a scare that doesn't do irreparable harm, though. I wish there was some way to help people realize you don't have to wait for external circumstances to make this decision. We do have control over AL, it just doesn't seem like it at first.

Have a great day, GLoamers! xx NS

[narilly]

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Good morning Gloamers!
Its great to be Un hungover on the first day of the work week! I am hoping to have a good day at work even though it has been a bit of a s__it show lately. Too much work, not enough resources, but whatever, we do our best right?

My daughter starts University today. I am so excited for her! What an adventure life can be.

I am so glad not to be drinking. I have been reading the book by Augsten Burroughs called 'Dry'. It is pretty interesting. I like reading books related to AL because it reminds me how much it sucks to drink. This book is a good one, of course, Pav told me about it. Thanks Pav!

That discussion about "rock bottoms" sounds interesting. I will try and check it out. Thanks NS, I so appreciate it when you give us reading suggestions!

Talk soon,

[Dottie Belle]

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Yep NS I agree but I was stubborn and invincible ....but not so much in reality. I knew in the back of my mind but we all know how we just ignore that little voice. I am grateful to be here and wish I could impart that horrid feeling into everyone who is on the fence. It could save your life.

Off to run errands.

[Eloise]

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Love the clown NS!
Happy, happy days Dottie!
I think my rock bottom was sitting in a hotel room in Florida waiting around to visit my (crazy) mother for an hour a day. Talk about being in a dark place. And she will admit sometimes she is just crazy, but thankfully at the time doesnt realize it.
Oh boy.

[Kailey]

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daisy45;1700252 wrote: Congratulations to everyone on your milestones!
Well, if ever there was an example of what not to do then here I am. It is never just one drink, one night, only weekends! It is straight back to the same old crappy merry-go-round of trying to get off it again.
So back to reclaim my sobriety!
Sorry to all of you who supported me....I will get there

Looking for you, today, Daisy! How are you doing?

[wagmore]

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Pav

9 Months!!! Woohoo!!!

I'm so happy for you and inspired by your accomplishment. Hope today is fantastic!

:happy: :yay: :rockon: :wave:

[NoSugar]

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Good to see you again, Kailey.

I hope both you and Daisy are ready to get off that miserable merry-go-round this time. It just isn't fun anymore, right?

I saw a quote on a blog yesterday that I really related to: "Drinking made my life better and then it didn't". In retrospect, it didn't make my life better at all and I really regret starting such a bad habit in my 30s (why did I mess up a good thing??) but... it did seem to be a positive thing - sophisticated, healthy, put me at ease more quickly, and all that but... then it wasn't positive at all and in fact eventually became the most negative thing in my life. But, our brains selectively remember the good parts (fun, parties, relief, numbing, whatever you drank for) and bury the bad. So we keep jumping back on the stupid merry-go-round (which I think is operated by that sly, evil clown!).

The main thing needed is time off that merry-go-round. 30 days is a good start and enables you to look at your situation more objectively but really, you've got to give yourself longer than that - longer even than 100 days - to heal enough to be able to clearly see what drinking does and does not do to you and for you. I promise you that if you give yourself a chance to truly heal, you'll see that when it stopped making your life better, all drinking did was make you sick - body, mind, and spirit.

Maybe you could picture what your life would be like on January 1, with 4 months AF behind you. And then picture how you'll feel if on the first day of the new year you are exactly where you are now. There is no way you're ever again going to have a life that is made better by drinking so you might as well quit now. You won't regret it on 1.1.15 and can be welcoming all of the many people who will be coming here on day 1 rather than joining them.

:l NS

[Eloise]

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Hey Nar!

Did you just start taking the L-Glut? I find it really does work for me.

narilly;1700342 wrote: Morning on this glorious Monday!


I had no cravings on the weekend which is great. Maybe the l Glutamine is helping or maybe it is just time being AF.
Daisy, it does get easier. Keep on trying, you can do it. Kick that AL brain down. Go to the tool box, that helps for sure.

[Eloise]

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NoSugar;1700603 wrote: Good to see you again, Kailey.




The main thing needed is time off that merry-go-round. 30 days is a good start and enables you to look at your situation more objectively but really, you've got to give yourself longer than that - longer even than 100 days - to heal enough to be able to clearly see what drinking does and does not do to you and for you. I promise you that if you give yourself a chance to truly heal, you'll see that when it stopped making your life better, all drinking did was make you sick - body, mind, and spirit.

:l NS

Amen to this NS! Every day for me feels like I am just getting starting living again after all those years of foggywinebrain.

I am so grateful to be free of it all and the messiness that comes with it.