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Wags:l

[narilly]

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Wags,yes, Dr Kelly's talk on TheBubble Hour is really good to listen to especially when you are feeling the urge to try and moderate. NS has the best info!

I am glad you feel a bit better about it. Hang in there, you can do it. It isn't easy but if it was we wouldn't be here right?

J-Vo, so glad you are loving work. That is great.

Lil B, big hugs.

Daisy, Roxy, hope you are ok.

Good night.

[narilly]

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Wags,yes, Dr Kelly's talk on TheBubble Hour is really good to listen to especially when you are feeling the urge to try and moderate. NS has the best info!

I am glad you feel a bit better about it. Hang in there, you can do it. It isn't easy but if it was we wouldn't be here right?

J-Vo, so glad you are loving work. That is great.

Lil B, big hugs.

Daisy, Roxy, hope you are ok.

Good night.

[Pavati]

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wagmore;1702208 wrote:

The sad part is, as I'm sitting here I kind of want to drink at the party. I think I'm tired of the energy it takes to remain AF, and my brain is telling me I've earned a day off from that battle.

WAGS - YES! and NO! Yes, I felt that exact same way. It felt like I was slogging through mud and I was just so farking tired of "recovery" and "being sober" that I wanted to just ignore it all and go back to how it was... Only I really didn't. I had just neglected to keep reminding myself of how far I had come, and in how many ways my life was better. I was feeling very blah and flat for a while - 3 months?? Just listen to the advice here - prepare yourself for that party. What will you say? What will you drink? How will you react? How will you get full of food before you go? Who can you trust to be your partner there? I know in your heart you don't want to go back there.

LB - Your post brought tears to my eyes. I am so sorry that you and someone you love are going through this. I don't understand why people don't chose a program, either. It is almost like they want to have the ability to relapse, so they stay un-accountable. Maybe this will be the time for him. Wishing you strength.

14 hour day, and I'm wiped. Again. Belly full, on my way to bed.

xo, Gloamers.

Pav

[lifechange]

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Good Morning, Gloamers,
Pav, you beat me with your 14 hour day-- last night after working an 11 hour day, and after an emotionally stressful couple of days, I was able to read back but too tired to post.

LB, I am so sorry to hear about Hubby's relapse. Even though you've experienced it often with him you must have been devastated--I know with my mom, I wanted so badly to believe her each and every time she dried out, that it would be for good, and each time she relapsed it was so heartbreaking. She eventually found her way, in her own time. I hope so much that your husband will get right back on track. I hope that after his last experiences and after having a fairly long stretch of sobriety he'll be able to find the strength within himself to do it. I'm thankful that you are so strong in your sobriety, LB. Sending you strength and love..

Wags, sorry to hear about your back!! I'm glad it's beginning to feel better-- when I have such pain it brings me down emotionally. Maybe that's part of the reason you were entertaining the thoughts of drinking..? I'm glad you came here and got such great, immediate support. I am going to listen to the podcast today, too.

Jvo, you sound great! I'm sure that your new self confidence is making you an even better teacher than you were before-- I know what you mean about taking care of yourself. Same here. It's so much easier to deal with life. Somehow everything is possible to at lease deal with!

[lifechange]

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ooops..

Eloise, how nice to have a quiet weekend planned! How's the weather over in your area? We have a sunny morning and a 26? forecast.. last beautiful days before it begins to get colder on Monday. I understand completely about needing your own space! I'm not an artist but sometimes think I should get a studio for myself anyway.. I was fantasizing about having a small room with just a sofa, a desk and a good lamp.

Nar, you sound good, girl! Glad to hear the cravings of a while back are a distant memory..

I had a difficult situation to deal with the past few days.. My ex went to a farm this weekend with the girls-- it's a weekend when they would normally be with me, which isn't a big deal 'cause we often trade weekends. But he said ahead of time, without discussing it first with me (which in itself really pissed me off-typical manipulative move), to the girls that, "maybe Mama could come along with us"-- of course they totally got their hopes up, even though I never go away with them for the weekend. We do day trips to the lake sometimes or have coffee together, but nothing more. The little one especially really wanted me to go along and was sooo disappointed when I said I probably wouldn't. I seriously considered going because I knew how much it would mean to the girls to have us all together. But when I woke up in the middle of the night with knots in my stomach, imagining the whole weekend with the ex and his friends, I knew I couldn't do it. I felt so bad because of putting myself first, before the deep wishes of my kids. The little one was just 1 when we separated so she doesn't have any memories of us together and is saddened by it.. ugghhh. In the end I said that I was so sorry to make her sad and that I would love to do more day trips all together, going for bike rides to the forest, collecting mushrooms, having picnics, whatever, but that I couldn't spend the whole weekend together. She seemed to get it.. It broke my heart ..but I think it was the right decision.

Big hello to Jane and Ginger and Dottie and Ava and Gman and Daisy and Pav and NS and Moss and each and every lovely person checking in here today.

To market, to market..

[Eloise]

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Morning Lifechange! Its been really warm here. Me outside with no jacket, that means warm!
You know what i mean about private time then. My hd didnt go to his mom yesterday, said it isnt much fun without me. He says he will go now... ?
My studio is 2500 square feet, it is weird that there is no private place for me. Well, there are 2, where i paint and read but it is only seperated by glass.
There are more empty rooms in the old part of the house, i may have to set up camp out there?

I do not have children but I can imagine how heart breaking it must be to separate the family. I am sure you have your valid reasons and you should put yourself first in this case. You have the children most of the time so you have to be good in your mind to deal with the daily stuff. Not just the for fun times, right? :l

[lifechange]

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Hi Eloise! Thanks for the :l-- and back at you.
I was just at the market and it was sooo nice--now again I have enough veggies to feed an army.. Good idea to move into one of the other rooms in the house. Separated by glass doesn't seem very private!--unless of course you have a heavy curtain you can close.
I'm lucky today that the BF and son have headed off for awhile. Hope your DH ends up heading over to Mum's. Of course it's not as fun without you!!! Can't remember why you don't like to go? Typical MIL stuff?? Enjoy your warm day..

[Eloise]

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hey Lifechange... glad the market was nice!
I like to go w/my hd it is just that I need some alone time.
My art program starts next week and we are together all the time... good to just have some me time.
I am going to make cookies for snack time for next week and will be around today.

LB- am wondering how you are and sending lots of positive energy. Good luck over there!

[Dottie Belle]

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Morning ladies,
Up way too early but need to get down to the race start on time. My first 5K and we will walk this one. I am hoping to run one in November. We shall see.

[j-vo]

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Morning Ladies,

Up early and that's quite unusual for a Saturday. My parents and sis are coming in and staying here this weekend, and not that I have anything to prepare for, I guess I was thinking I should get some laundry and papers graded so it's not in the back of my mind while they're here.

I woke up thinking about complacency. That's one thing that we must not become, as it can become a slippery slope once too much of that is the case. Last week when I had lots going on, I almost felt like I was becoming complacent about my sobriety. I know, at times, we'll have a busier schedule than ohers, but i know that I need to think about my sobriety daily in some form or way. I don't want to slip into "i can moderate" mode ever again, or even just get such a crazy craving that I say f-it.

Have a good day.

[j-vo]

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LC,
I read your story. Heartbreaking for you. I wish your ex didn't put you in that situation. That not only made you upset, but your daughter had to deal with your not being there. Hugs to you!

El, I have seen those free standing dividers for rooms when you want more privacy. How about a few of those around your studio?

[j-vo]

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I actually feel better after reading this morning. I needed a big dose of that renewed sense of recovery.

SL, thank you for your post in your "10-year plan.":l You really helped me today.

[lifechange]

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Hello again!

Eloise, How'd the cookies turn out? Dare I ask what kind you made..? I'd give my left arm for a cookie right this minute!

Dottie, forgot to mention before how excited I am about your new running career-- great to hear. I hope your first 5k experience is a good one. Do you have a friend you're going with?-- sorry if you already said--

J-vo, Thanks for the hug! I sure needed it.--I also read a lot here today. Probably a total of 3-4 hours! I loved SL's 10 year plan, too. Also, you probably already have read it, but if not the Nest the past few days has been really inspiring. I always get so much out of what everyone writes there and the posts from our Ava, Pav and NS, plus those from Byrdie have been spot on, such great wisdom, ideas, support. I agree with the importance of not becoming complacent! I have to work very hard not to become so, especially when I'm working hard at other things.
Are you excited about having your family come to visit? Is it for a special occasion? Do they live far away? --

We've had such a warm day here today and I feel so fortunate to have enjoyed it with a clear mind and rested body. Hope you're all having a nice Saturday..xo

[narilly]

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I got out of bed at 9am, it was Soooo awesome. I am happy happy happy!
Going to Starbucks and then my moms. She is making some Indian breakfast for me and hubby. YUM!

Life, I am glad you followed your 'gut' and didn't go. If you woke up with knots in your stomach that means a lot. Just stay home and take care of yourself.
I hope you find some me time El! You need that sometimes.

Dottie, 5k? You go girl!

Exactly J-Vo, I won't become complacent either. Thanks babe!

Have a great AF day everyone!