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[NoSugar]

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Not to sound too new-agey, Daisy, but as soon as you truly believe you are done, you are, because it is completely in your power to make it true :l.

[daisy45]

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I like new-agey! I believe I am done!

[lifechange]

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Hi beautiful Loamers,

I have been having a break from the computer today because I feel like it is taking over my life!!!! Whenever I have a day off I sit here the WHOLE day reading, watching films/series, getting lost in youtube. arrghhhh! So this morning I picked up "The Secret Life of Bees" which has been sitting next to my chair for a very long time-- and it is soooo good. I was put off by the cheesiness of the film trailer, but it's beautifully written, in my opinion.

Thank you all for your support with the situation with my ex husband. I was a little bit proud to come to the decision on my own after a couple of struggling days and am happy to have your ok's.. One of the main, probably THE main reason I left him, is because I knew that if I didn't the girls would grow up without knowing their mother. He is such a dominating, always-right, manipulative person when it comes to me--I was a small shadow next to him-- his other side shows a very nice sense of humour and love of life, which the girls get. a lot of us live with crazy family dynamics..

Daisy, I am so happy to see you back here. You sound resolved in your decision, confident. Like NS said, I hope you'll check in often to let us know how you are! How is it going with the daycare? I'm sure that can be very stressful at times.. rewarding, but stressful!

Eloise! I love peanut butter cookies. I'm not sure if it was such a smart move to put them in the freezer, though. Nothing yummier than frozen cookies! Good luck this week with your classes-- will be thinking of you.

Pav, I knew you would come through those thoughts without doing harm to yourself. It must have been crazy to wake up from that dream-- like coming out of hell. Of course NS would encourage you to always be honest with yourself and therefore with us..:h It's the only way for us, isn't it? I feel very fortunate to have you to follow..

Ava, sounds like such a nice sleepover party! I still fall asleep almost every evening for an hour or so tucking in the girls-- they sleep in "high beds", about 2 meters above ground next to each other and I squeeze in between. I hope we can still do it periodically when they are in their 20's! You had some amazing posts the past couple of days in the Nest-- I had to copy them and send them to my email inbox.. You touch many more people than the one the post is aimed at each and every time you respond to someone..:h

LB, I'm relieved that your hubby is home and that your daughter is there with you. It sounds like you've had some great conversations about addiction. You're in my thoughts!!

Wags, Yayyy! to you with the paddling.. hope the one today goes just as well! You don't by chance ever get any footage of your races?? My sister just sent a couple of short clips of my nephew making touchdowns and it was so much fun to watch!

J-vo, how are you holding up with the family? I hope you're able to enjoy the time you have together and that they don't drive you up the wall!!:l

How are you doing, NS? Seems well-- you are always supporting all of us so much--listening to stories and problems and giving such thoughtful responses, relevant and interesting links.. I continue to learn so much from you!!

ok.. Love to Jane and Nar and Giraffe and Dottie and Gman and SL-- hope everyone is having a great Sunday.. see you tomorrow..

[daisy45]

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Thanks lifechange......will have to read back to see what's been happening.
The daycare is tough. Forgot how much work it is. Knackered every night. But the kids are lovely. Especially the youngest who is under 2....so cute.

[Dottie Belle]

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Hello ladies,
Watching football and chillin out. The walk yesterday helped me sleep like a brick last night. Maybe I should walk in a 5K every day...exercise is so good for me.

[available]

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morning from here. Monday and work, feels good to not wake up and try and think of an excuse not to go to work. i am visiting my friend with cancer at lunch today, they had to get his pain meds under control so i will have a coffee with him.

LB sending you hugs girl and thinking of you.

Jvo i hope you had a lovely time with your family, i know i enjoy mine more and more now i am sober and dont have to feel angry as they are cutting into my drinking time or i have to be sober.

NS yep you are right, i think about when i was drinking and to now and i totally want the now. I even reflect back to when i was younger and i see the signs of alcoholism even in my 20's but thats life. Tye is still not drinking and i am so proud of him and god my recycle bin is bloody empty now and no empty cans and bottles for me to pick up on weekends now.

LC you are sounding strong now. what a twat your ex is to assume and plan for you to go with him and you have a partner! Some men should be shot at birth. I was with two that should have lol. I know i am happy by myself now.

Daisy hi and welcome lovely, you can do this but we all know is no easy but believe me it gets easier.

Dot i did a hill walk with Kiera yesterday and god i felt it yesterday but it was great and we had a coffee and just enjoyed the day. i had to come home and have a nana nap.

Wags when do you change teams? Its great to be sober every day and it gets better. When i went to my daughters on the weekend her hubs was having a beer when i arrived and i thought "prick", why can you just have one! but we are all different and he made me a coffee so i was happy. most of the time now the kids dont drink around me out of respect so that is nice. i still have wine in the fridge from tyes 21st in mid august and its offered when people visit though some visitors freak out and say "you've got wine in the fridge" and im like "yes, problem with that". my support is amazing.

Well best get up and motivated. I have even made lunch to take. a bloody miracle is at work, oh and i cooked a baked dinner. asked tye to do the veges so we had carrots and potato. mmm not really what i would have chosen but he helped. i hate carrots cooked.

[j-vo]

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daisy45;1702888 wrote: Hey loamers. Back....again! But this time I feel more ready.
I feel I have accepted that I am never going to be a normal drinker and nor do I want to be.
I have opened up to people this week and told them I have a problem with drinking and need to stop.
It will be a month tomorrow since I took that first drink after 88 days sober.
But that is ok.....there was still doubt. I am walking into this quit with no doubt whatsoever.......
Hi Daisy! Glad you're back and I can feel and hear your acceptance of who you are. We are great people, but we just can't do one thing because we're allergic to a toxin. Glad you're on board!

NoSugar;1702920 wrote: Pav, how nice that your subconscious is working so hard to keep you on track! Those drinking dreams are such great motivators even though they often leave us feeling really unsettled - almost as weird as the disconnect between knowing that you won't drink while bombarding yourself with reasons why you need to, could, and should. I hate ambivalence like that and for so long didn't make myself experience it. I just drank. Talk about taking the easy way out. I'm sorry you've had a troubled weekend but as long as you know deep inside that drinking isn't an option for you, you'll be ok. I wrote last week about feeling like you've described. I felt like I was outside myself, observing, and thinking about what I'd sure like to do if I wasn't me. The more clinically and objectively you can look at it, the less upsetting and uncomfortable it is, I think.

I had another drinking dream as well. But I didn't drink. I white-knuckled through it. I was not comfortable with my thoughts in this dream. When I have these, I just need to be aware that I'm not there yet. I'm working through this, making it a part of my journey. Drinking was such a huge part of me for decades, and this huge change will inevitably bring discomfort and feelings that should be normal considering the massive changes going on in my body and mind.


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Pavati;1702797 wrote:

The family party was fun - I actually like my family. I still felt out of sorts and didn't laugh as much as I usually do. My sister brought a bottle of wine from a small vineyard and after the whole story of watching the owner put the label on it herself, had a glass with her friend. I had to pass the glass to my mom and back, and really just wanted a taste. I didn't want the alcohol, but we all know where that would lead. Of course, being normies, they left the half bottle they didn't drink behind. Who does THAT?

Pav

Pav, my family was here for a short visit. Had company both nights. It was quite relaxing. It's funny, but in my family that was here yesterday, more of us were nondrinkers. My younger sis, who is doing great (so happy for her), my dad, my aunt, and me. My mother had a few glasses of wine and my oldest sister, who is supposedly a 'normie' was not a normie last night. She was trashed. Not pretty. I know she felt like poop today.

little beagle;1702752 wrote: I'm feeling better. Slept late. Daughter came to be with me awhile this afternoon.
Hubby finally came home. And we are talking. Getting ready to eat dinner together.
I was talking to my daughter about how I have never regretted NOT drinking. She laughed and said she never thought of it that way.
LC I'm sorry you had to hurt the little ones feelings, but you did the best thing. Sometimes we have to do what FEELS selfish. It isn't. Its self preservation.
You go Dottie. 5 K. I'm impressed.
Jane I love that picture of complacency.
J-vo you are awesome.

Glad your man is back and hopefully getting on track. :l

Daisy, good for you on the 5 k!

Hi Nar! I just wrote an email to my department head about some things that he secretly did behind my back. It was professional, but I nicely put him in his farking place.

Ok, this is the first time I've multiple quoted. I'm afraid to press submit reply! Here goes...

[j-vo]

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I did it! Except NS, I didn't go below your 'quote' and typed inside it so it looks like your quote is above and my response is below still in blue.

[NoSugar]

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Good job on the quotey-thing, J! Glad your family weekend was a good one :l.

[narilly]

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Hi Sweet ladies,
Glad you are back Daisy. You sound good. Keep coming back.

Wags, glad things are going well.
Life, your x sounds awful. I watched that movie a long time ago and quite enjoyed it.

Well, off to bed for me. Thanks NS, J-Vo, work will be better this week I think.

Xx

[little beagle]

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Daisy glad you are here. This is IT! You sound ready.
J-vo your weekend sounds fun.
good night. I will catch up in the morning.

[Pavati]

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Hi, Gloamers--

Way to go on the 5K, Dot. I can't wait until November when it is a run!

Welcome back, Daisy. Stay close this time - no wandering off.

J-Vo - My whole family are "normal" drinkers (some more "normal" than others)! Glad you had fun!

Thanks to all of you for all of your support. I am still in a funky mood. I know it will pass eventually, but I'm losing patience. I still had a very nice day, if a little non eventful (lazy?).

Toddling off to bed.

xo
Pav

[Eloise]

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This is such a pleasant thread!
It is early morning here & I am getting ill. Bummer as my art program starts this week.
I have 27 kids signed up over 4 sessions. last year this time I think I had 5?

Sometimes I think it is best not to read outside a few threads here.
Drinking with medication is just a bad idea, how it can seem like a good one says to me there is truelly a serious problem.
I guess I am done experimenting.
I am sticking with 'dont take the first sip.'
Kind of simplifies things.

[Eloise]

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Found an interesting site this morning in pursuit of natural cold remedies... Everyday Roots | Natural Home Remedies for Everyday Life

Advice on lots of our daily complaints like sleep, belly aches, nervosite... etc.

[little beagle]

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Eloise i always thought taking medication so you could drink was a terrible idea. I hope you feel better soon and good luck with the lessons. It feels good when your business grows.
Jane hope your appointment goes ok.
Pav sorry your feeling blah.:l Ican definately relate.
Hi Narilly. Have a good day at work.