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[Pavati]

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Hi, All:

Ava - you're so small...

Glad to see everyone back! I have a VERY grumpy evening, but, as I said in the nest, because I was sober I had a lot more patience, the science project got done, and no one is in tears. All in all a good evening, for the crap mood I was in.

Sleep tight.

Pav

[NoSugar]

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Hi, Pav

It's kind of a drag to have to actually feel things like grumpy, isn't it?

The absence of feeling that drinking brought seemed so much better at the time... But like Brene Brown said in one of her talks, we can't selectively drown our emotions - sure, we can avoid boredom and frustration and anger and resentment and sorrow and the grumps but along with those go joy, anticipation, contentment, enthusiasm, and even love.

Maybe there are some people reading here now who weren't around when many of us were watching her talks:

http://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown...ty?language=en
http://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown...me?language=en

I've read a few of her books, too, and recommend them highly.

[narilly]

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Hello everyone,
Glad to see everyone posting.
I was really cranky the other night after work too and I know I would have had a drink before to 'get over it'. But then eventually after 4 glasses of wine I potentially would be extra pissed off and have a fight with my hubby or something. So glad not to be doing that!
Last night I had a drinking dream. I woke up and had a really bad feeling, then I realized it was a dream. I was SO glad that I was not drinking. You can't imagine....OH I guess you can. That's the beauty of this group, we ALL know exactly how that feels.
Well, I went to the market today and am just enjoying the day. Talk to you beauties later.

Xx

[narilly]

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Jane, that is funny about the dentist! Really, it's about the worst place to talk especially if you are drooling all over the place!

[Ginger999]

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Hi gloamers! I'm still on my trip getting in lots of great hikes and struggling to post using my phone Hope you all are well. I'll keep trying! I'm nothing if not tenacious!

[little beagle]

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Sorry. I didn't mean to go AWOL. I'm struggling with some things right now. Moderation. Even trying one time. I've seen first hand the damage it can do. It opens a door in the brain that is extremely hard to shut. Kindeling is real. It gets harder each time to quit. Turn it off. Just guarding your quit and practicing gratitude that you were able to quit is SOOO much easier. Yes hubby is going through this right now. Its devastating to watch someone struggle so hard. It hurts in so many ways.
and honestly the stress and worry can lead to ddepression. I am a bit depressed. I have gone to Dr. And he gave me something to help with sleep. it made me a little groggy all the time at first so this past week ihave been a bit lackadaisical.
Ginger I'm glad your trip is so great.
I took my daughter to get her motorcycle from the mechanics this evening. It was a bbeautiful evening and we had a good time.

[narilly]

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I just came back from the movies, I saw A Hundred Foot Journey, it was excellent. Jane it might be one you like, google it.

I never used to go to a movie on a Friday night before because then I couldn't drink. Staying home and watching TV with wine was what I would do instead.

Lil B, I am glad you told us about kindling. I never knew that before you posted a link. (I think it was you). I can't imagine what you are going through but I'm sending big hugs.

Xo

[available]

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Sending you hugs lb and hope you and hubs are okay. funny how we have one problem and the it snowballs into a wealth of the damn things. One day at a time is all we can do.

Nar i never did anything except go to work, come home and drink and go out to get some more once the hangover had eased a little, round about 4pm ish it was on weekends. i always used to blame my anxiety and crowds for not wanting to go out. Now i love it. I watched Bridesmaids last night, i so love that movie and the good thing is i remembered every word.

Hey Jane hows it hanging?

Doing a spot of spring cleaning today, how the hell does so much dust get under furniture? A walk is in order also since i have been sick all week. May even get my nails done.

So glad ginger you are having a lovely time. Nothing like an af holiday after the trepidation of doing it af. Enjoy yourself.

Hugs to all and congrats to pepper on her 6 months today.

[Pavati]

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Hi, All:

Look at you fancy subscribers with the in-box replies. No muss, no fuss. Good advertisement to join.

LB - I am SO sorry about what you're going through. I honestly can't imagine how strong you must be to not go back to drinking yourself. I listened to a Bubble Hour on quitting while your partner drinks (as mine does) but it seemed that those who spoke with alcoholic partners who were still actively drinking had to separate or divorce. Well, I think there was one who didn't. Anyway - I think I would be very tempted to just say f it and drink myself. I know that now you are so content with your sober self that you probably aren't feeling that way, but you are so very strong to have made it this far. Your husband and family are very lucky to have you.

And don't forget, complacency is the enemy of that alcoholic. Stay close to us and let us help, no matter what the trouble is. One day at a time.

I want to see that movie, too, Ava. I never used to go out to movies either - cut in to my drinking time too much. Did anyone read Matt's post in the nest today? It was an amazing admission of a web of lies he created to lead up to allowing himself to drink. It is amazing what we'll tell ourselves - for me it was always that I never get to see my husband and we always want to TALK. That was partly true, but we could have talked AFTER a movie. Just wanted to drink more.

Jane - I'm with you - we need to stick together (and again you make me laugh). Nar's dream confirms that.

Glad you're reading and having fun, Ginger.

Has anyone heard from Wags? J-Vo?

Very, very tired after a long day - worked another 14 hours. Zonked.

xo

[Pavati]

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And hi, NS, SL, EL, LC, Giraffe and the rest of you!

[Pie]

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How're you feeling this morning, L'il B? Better, I hope.

[ducksinarow]

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Just trying to see if I can navigate this site! If I can, I will post!

[NoSugar]

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Welcome, Ducks You did it!!

[NoSugar]

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narilly;n2512522 wrote: Last night I had a drinking dream. I woke up and had a really bad feeling, then I realized it was a dream. I was SO glad that I was not drinking. You can't imagine....OH I guess you can. That's the beauty of this group, we ALL know exactly how that feels.These dreams must be the rationale part of our brains trying to take care of us! I've almost been in tears a couple times when I woke up and hadn't yet realized it was a dream.

little beagle;n2512613 wrote: Yes hubby is going through this right now. Its devastating to watch someone struggle so hard. It hurts in so many ways.
and honestly the stress and worry can lead to ddepression. I am a bit depressed. You know, LB, there is a difference between being depressed when everything in your life is basically fine and you know it but still feel flat and when you truly have some serious problems to deal with. The way you feel right now is a normal, not pathological, response to the situation. How could you possibly be upbeat and happy when your husband is struggling so badly? I'm glad you're getting some help and I hope you continue to let us help you as much as we can given the limits of an online forum :l.

available;n2512637 wrote: Hugs to all and congrats to pepper on her 6 months today.

I hope you're reading, Pepper - CONGRATULATIONS!!! Half a year surely is long enough that not drinking is a well-formed habit. Your posts are golden - you're clearly on a Mission! We'd love to hear your words of wisdom here anytime .

Pavati;n2512657 wrote: Look at you fancy subscribers with the in-box replies. No muss, no fuss. Good advertisement to join.

Well, even at 10 bucks a month, it is a lot cheaper than rehab . I hope the site can remain with subscriptions voluntary, though, so that it is open to everyone, regardless of income or privacy concerns.

It seems like what subscribers and nonsubscribers see here differs and for some of it, the nonsubscribers are getting the better deal! Hopefully it will all get fixed at some point and everybody will have access to all the cool tools.

I think that comment box is nice and easy but you're not likely to see comments added after you read a post (if like me, you always start where you left off the last time). So, there are reasons not to use them, I guess.

And I don't know about Like buttons - I think there are advantages to posts that agree with someone, kind of reinforcing the message. For me at least, seeing some number of "Likes" doesn't have the same effect. Frankly, I don't even notice them here so I'll trade my Like button for any number of things I'm missing :H !

Has anyone heard from Wags? J-Vo?

J-Vo is exploring Soberistas as her new sobriety home but she said she might visit us here sometime this weekend. I hope so.
I wrote to Wags and hope to hear from her - she is such a valuable member of MWO and this thread!

I think it is really easy for new threads to get lost here. In case any of you missed it, here is one Mr. G. started (Thank you!!) that I think could be fantastic!: https://www.mywayout.org/community/fo...tenance-thread.

Have a great weekend, Gloamers!

[roxane]

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evening.


pepper..........



brass band for you :H

fantastic well done on 6 months, doesnt time fly!