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[Pavati]

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Hi, Loamers--

I love reading what you all wrote but I am too pooped to reply - I worked another night event. All work and no play makes Pav a dull girl...

xo

[j-vo]

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Morning Ladies,

Registered on Nursie's forum last night. It's set up just like MWO, and NS started our own Laides and Gents on a Mission. Thanks NS! And so I'll be there next week. If you haven't registered it's easy and it's free.

Busy day today. DS baseball game, then homecoming pics. Parents are in for a visit before they leave for Florida. So I'll might be seeing you over in Nursie's Forum on Monday. Have a great and sober weekend all.

[Pavati]

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Hi, Ladies and Gents:

Checking in on a glorious Day 300! Whoot. As I said in another thread, I feel like this is really and truly the start of a sober life. 5/6 of the way through the year of sober firsts (almost), and feeling like I really don't want to drink. I look longingly at alcohol now and then, but it is really nostalgia rather than an urge, at least so far. Thanks to you all for making this possible!

I had two dreams last night that are making me a tad crazy this morning. The first was a drinking dream - I was really hungover and didn't even remember drinking, but I thought about having to come here and post Day 1 again. I even dreamed the emoticon I would use (that embarrassed smiley face thing). Then someone offered me red wine and I decided I may as well have it (even though I rarely drank red wine) since I was going to have to post Day 1 here anyway. Felt guilty all the while. Thankfully it was a dream!

I also dreamed that I had a mad crush on this very sweet and good looking young man. I was young in the dream, also, and we flirted a ton - it felt great. Then things happened and we were doing separate things. I was thinking to myself that he was a good flirt but I wouldn't be hearing from him again. Various things happened, and then I climbed up these steps only to find myself face to face with this guy, my stomach full of butterflies. I thought - this is awkward, that poor guy won't know how to get out of this, and then he smiled and said - "So great to see you again - would you like to go out with me some time?" I about died with flirty attraction! It was one of those dreams - so exciting and fun that it was a disappointment to wake up. I feel all discombobulated this morning - guilty when I look at my husband, sad that I don't have that feeling for someone in this life (long-term marriage love is just different), and nostalgic for those young, flirty days. I could make it all one giant metaphor for drinking, or I could read that I am grumpy with my husband lately (which I am) and just wanted a fling. Either way, it has me all out of sorts. I need to get some exercise to get it out of my system.

I'm not sure I'm going to go to Nursie's site - I'll look into it. If I don't make it over there, I'll see you all back here in a week. I know we'll be here for two more days...

Dreamy - Love to have you stop by.

Pepper - I was just thinking that my oldest will be heading to college in 2.5 years. Wow.

Way to go, Nar. I'm sure you are the BEST.

Jane, have a great trip.

J-Vo - I agree - look forward to those Friday nights at the high school, sober, rather than thinking about all the drinking I'm missing.

All the rest of you - happy sober Saturday! As G would say, it's a bewdy out there. Enjoy!

xo
Pav

[narilly]

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Morning everyone,
Pav, I love that dream! Maybe I could have that tonight too, yum!
Being married for 23 years now I know exactly what you mean. It's a ton of work, I guess a dreamy release is good once in awhile.

Going to the market now. Ttyl.

[roxane]

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you and your mugs. you find one fitting for every occasion, im glad you do it.

[roxane]

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pav had you thought it might be your new self looking forward to a new life (the man)? you flirted (saw the possibility) and when he came to you saw that it was possible. thats messy but do you see what i mean? you put it in a romantic setting maybe because its akin to the thrill hope and risk of a new relationship when you were younger.

or i could be talking bollocks.

[wagmore]

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MAE all,

Pav - interesting dream, and I can see why it discombobulated you. I'm in the flirty beginning stages with someone new right now, which is awesome and wonderful but also a bit of a roller coaster. All in all, I think positive connections with other people are good for us, even when they are just in our dreams - they help us connect with the parts of ourselves that are most alive.

Jane - have a good trip!

NS - thanks for the link to the thread on the other site - just went over and chimed in

On my end, I'm falling hard for this new love in my life. It's mostly really good and I feel so fortunate that I reached a point of stability (sobriety) before we met. There are some hard things to figure out in the coming months, and it's way too soon to tell for sure, but I think I might have met the person I'll spend the rest of my life with. That is both scary and exhilarating. I'm on a bit of a roller coaster but fortunately I have some solid ground under my feet.

[Byrdlady]

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Pav, I had a dream similar to this only my guy was Robert Redford!!! In my dream, we were at a saloon and I asked him if he minded that I didnt drink and he said, "That stuff'll kill ya". Thought I'd died and gone to heaven! I still look at ole Double R's with Knowing thoughts!

[Eloise]

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love the dreams! Made me smile, thanks.
I am on the sugar challenge theme and using similar methods trying to quit wine, like eating so much there is no room left for cookies!
👀
Gym in the morning. Miss you all, but starting to get the hang of things here finally.

😍😍😍

[available]

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Hi loamers, this site is peeing me off big time, i just cbf'd looking and looking for what i cant find! Sounds like me and men!

Happy 300 Pav, so proud of you girl and we both sound like we are in that "kinda" happy place. 5/6th's i like that and would it not be lovely if we could spend our one year anniversary together, i will treat you better than your husband on that day lol. Flower (yellow of course), dinner (i refuse to cook) and we can have a pedicure and manicure and finish with a massage by Mr Flirty Guy. It does feel good to wake up everyday without that inner turmoil and struggle that al gave us. Contentment is a well earned feeling.

Dreamy thanks for the mug lovely, i appreciate you keeping an eye on me and my journey, i certainly do that with you still. I love purple!

Nar what a lovely compliment, all i get from my boss was how well everything ran when when i was away. Then it takes me 4 weeks to catch up. Good thing the drs always say "thank god you are back". Do you think being sober all this time has helped ha ha! I so cant imagine how i functioned hungover daily, oh i didnt!

Jane have a lovely break, you know where to find us when you return. Its scary to think mwo will not be here when i wake tomorrow. i do hope roberta just doesnt run away and it ceases to exist.

NS I have logged in already, waiting, waiting, waiting! Im not good at waiting.

Jvo when i lose a post and i refresh it comes up with something like "restore or ditch" when i go to post again, the only redeeming feature of this new site. you are sounding great.

Roxy you never talk bollocks!

Wags glad you are sounding so happy. so give us the goss! where did you meet, how old, any kids, what does he do for a living, does he have two hands and a heartbeat? Well no one else will be nosey!

El, mmm sugar, i have cut down dramatically but what can i say, if i want it, i eat it. As long as its not al then its ok in moderation. 6 months for you soon, god where has the time gone.

Well i am one blind up and i was such a help to tye, NOT, so i went for a walk and totally enjoyed it, i am in competition with an app i downloaded so my aim was to get to walking one kilometre in under 9 minutes and i succeeded yesterday but not sure if 8 minutes is doable but i will give it a shot. god, next i will be bloody running.

Windy as anything here today so going to have a wash everything that is not nailed down day. had a headache for two days that feels like a hangover, thinking i need more fluids, not used to the warm weather.

How did the tests go Dot?

Where are you LC?

have a great one loamers xxx

[narilly]

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Ava, you are going into summer and I am going into winter. Today I brought some jackets out of the basement for cooler weather. I wore my big Buffalo Wool sweater to the market and a scarf. But my big Canada Goose Parka and snow boots are not coming up yet. We still have a few warm days left but I can feel it cooling down for sure. It's probably easier to do a quick walk when it's a bit cooler eh? When you visit me we can do some 8 minute kilometres.

Oh gross, I can hear someone puking outside. We live a block away from a pub and sometimes drunk patrons walk by our house and fight or just talk loud. Not very often but it does happen.
Well, At least I can say I am glad it's not me out there puking and waking up in the morning not remembering it. Looking at my shoes in the morning to see if I got puke on them or on my jacket.

So so very grateful to be sober. You know how much we all struggle to stay AL free and really it IS worth it. The struggle is real and worth going through if the end result is staying sober.

Goodnight!

[narilly]

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Look I can comment.
Do you have Chinook winds in Australia? Maybe the wind is causing your headache.
I thought of you in Costco today my liquorice gal!

[Pavati]

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MAE, All:

I guess things have come full circle in my life. Last night (another wild Saturday night for Pavati) I gave my mom and her friend a ride to a party and I made my dad dinner. My mom has worked herself ragged taking care of my dad over the last two weeks, and as we got in the car to go to the party she sighed a big sigh and said it feels good to be away for a while. She is not a complainer at all, so that meant something to her. I was glad I could be here and sober to pick she and her friend up at 10:30 (not entirely sober themselves), and that I was here to take care of my dad. My sisters live about an hour away each, (while I live in the same town as parents) and they have come for a visit the last two Saturdays for lunch. OK, except both of them have let my mom make them lunch and then haven't even bothered to stay around to help her clean it up! I am going to have to email them today and tell them if they are coming for a visit, they should BRING lunch, and should certainly help clean up after.

Suddenly on day 300 I had moderating thoughts. They were fleeting, but a bit stronger than I've had for a while. I thought this weird I am my own person, and if I choose to have a drink so what? The Gloamers aren't the boss of me. I am independent and can make this decision for myself. That was disorienting for a minute as I contemplated what that would feel like - to not have this connection and to make that do I drink or not decision on my own. I realized, thankfully, that it is far too late for that as I already AM connected to you all, and even if I would make the decision on my own, you all know the real truth that I CAN'T have a drink and live the life I want. Then I thought - I don't even want to drink in the first place, so why am I even thinking like this. Mind you, this whole thing was about 10 seconds. Another reminder, however, that having you all in my life is a very big reason that I stay sober, or at least stay sane, as I don't contemplate daily whether or not to drink. Off the table, Narilly.

This thread is S-L-O-W. I hope we all come back revitalized, rejuvenated and ready to go in a week.

Much love to you all.

xo
Pav

[narilly]

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Good morning!
No hangover and feeling great. Pav, thanks for the song.
Moderating thoughts? Psht...push them away sista!

Xo

[NoSugar]

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Pavati;n2516192 wrote: MAE, All:

I guess things have come full circle in my life. Last night (another wild Saturday night for Pavati) I gave my mom and her friend a ride to a party and I made my dad dinner. My mom has worked herself ragged taking care of my dad over the last two weeks, and as we got in the car to go to the party she sighed a big sigh and said it feels good to be away for a while. She is not a complainer at all, so that meant something to her. I was glad I could be here and sober to pick she and her friend up at 10:30 (not entirely sober themselves), and that I was here to take care of my dad. My sisters live about an hour away each, (while I live in the same town as parents) and they have come for a visit the last two Saturdays for lunch. OK, except both of them have let my mom make them lunch and then haven't even bothered to stay around to help her clean it up! I am going to have to email them today and tell them if they are coming for a visit, they should BRING lunch, and should certainly help clean up after.

Suddenly on day 300 I had moderating thoughts. They were fleeting, but a bit stronger than I've had for a while. I thought this weird I am my own person, and if I choose to have a drink so what? The Gloamers aren't the boss of me. I am independent and can make this decision for myself. That was disorienting for a minute as I contemplated what that would feel like - to not have this connection and to make that do I drink or not decision on my own. I realized, thankfully, that it is far too late for that as I already AM connected to you all, and even if I would make the decision on my own, you all know the real truth that I CAN'T have a drink and live the life I want. Then I thought - I don't even want to drink in the first place, so why am I even thinking like this. Mind you, this whole thing was about 10 seconds. Another reminder, however, that having you all in my life is a very big reason that I stay sober, or at least stay sane, as I don't contemplate daily whether or not to drink. Off the table, Narilly.

This thread is S-L-O-W. I hope we all come back revitalized, rejuvenated and ready to go in a week.

Much love to you all.

xo
Pav

Funny thing, Pav - last evening after a long but fun day, I was really tired and when I emerged for dinner, my guests had made the fabulous food and opened the wine (which is rarely even in my house). I had the fleeting 'oh, why not, I can handle it" thought but quickly dismissed It. But - I'm pretty sure that my dismiss it muscle needs daily exercise like we get here. Making the other choice would have been very easy. So glad we've both got The Gloamers under our skin!