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[narilly]

Thanks NS, nope not too far behind. Everyone was out so not too much work got done last week.
Cleaning out your closets is such a great thing to do. When my hubby and I had our brief separation, we sold our house and I packed most of it up. I threw away a ton of stuff. Stuff I should have kept but I was so angry I just got rid of a lot of it, especially hubby's stuff. Needless to say, hubby still wonders where some of his stuff is . I don't feel bad about it though because At least I didn't kill him.

Anyway, time to sleep.
Love you all.

[Pavati]

Good night all.

Pepper - I am going to bed dreaming of "buttered" movie popcorn...

I love those Bubble Hour podcasts. The relapse one was amazing - Ellie drinking vanilla in the pantry was too much for me! Also, the woman being 15 years sober. I think I'll go back and listen again as it is always hard for me when long timers around here drink, and there have been a few of those lately.

Jane!? How's the mold? How are you? We need more of you around here!

LC - are you still reading? Come back! Star? Daisy?

Good night, folks.

Pav

[little beagle]

Learning to forgive yourself is a hard thing to do. That's part of the stuff in my closet that needs to go.
Narilly I laughed about throwing away hubby's stuff. I do that sometimes.

[NoSugar]

When my husband and I got married and we were cleaning out the bedroom he grew up in, I found his horned rim glasses from junior high days and his RETAINER! I knew then that I was in trouble ... He also had his old teddy bear, though, so that was nice.

[abcowboy]

You_Rock_Emoticon.gifCongrats Scottish Lass on 8 months!!You_Rock_Emoticon.gif

[narilly]

SL, 8 months!! yippee!!!
So proud of you girl! Maybe its time for a new duvet for the winter to celebrate! (it goes with our bed theme
SL, I am at 192 days so I am following you, thank you for being my role model.

Hey everyone, just glad to be here and to be sober.

J-Vo, big hugs from me.

[narilly]

Pav, first game is tonight!!! How exciting! I am going to drink some soda water and watch it, I may even put some lime in it for fun

[abcowboy]

Hi GLoamers! Had a long tiring day at work, tired of the young couples building 2500+ sq ft homes with no idea about what it means! But I'm happy to be able to use my knowledge and experience to help them out. Good thing it's my meeting night, Lord knows I could do with one!

Too lazy to retype, but I posted on the newbies thread, some of them are experiencing tough times....if you have a minute, pop in and give them some words of support...
Anyway, I posted over there, then just copied it, hope you all don't mind....

It seems like Oct 18/19 was really hard on some of you.....I don't know why, but it is what it is.... Slips/relapses don't have to be, and I wish I didn't have to go through 2 minor slips to understand that I want to be sober more than I want to drink! I think I said this earlier in a thread, but I'm too lazy to search back, so sorry if it seems like I'm preaching. Us RA's often say "we are just one drink away from becoming a drunk again" you'll hear that said over and over again! Now, you're reading this and saying that you don't abuse AL all the time, just every so often. But then you awaken with the hangover, the guilt, shame, and remorse. I like to think of it as Russian Roulette, put a drink in front of you and a gun with just one shell in the chamber.... which drink or which pull of the trigger will be your downfall? I for one, am not willing to take that chance anymore! In my world, there can be NOTHING on the table!

I'm going to add a couple of quotes to finish off my sermon lol, they help me to get through each day....

A man walked down the street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. He falls in. He is lost... He is helpless. It isn't his fault. It takes forever for him to find a way out.
The next day he walks down the same street. He pretends he doesn’t see it and he falls in again. He can't believe he is in the same place. But, doesn’t think it’s his fault. It still takes him a long time to get out.
Again, he walks down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. He sees that it is still there. He still falls in. It's a habit. His eyes are opened. He knows where he is. It is his fault. He gets out immediately.
The next day, he takes the same street. He sees the hole, but walks around it. He looks back and wonders if it wasn’t so bad after all.
The next day, he takes a different street..

This guy's walking down the street when he falls in a hole. The walls are so steep he can't get out. A doctor passes by, and the guy shouts up, "Hey, you, can you help me out?" The doctor writes a prescription, throws it down in the hole and moves on. Then a priest comes along, and the guy shouts up, "Father, I'm down in this hole. Can you help me out?" The priest writes a prayer, throws it down in the hole and moves on. Then a friend walks by. "Hey, Joe, it's me. Can you help me out" And the friend jumps in the hole. Our guy says, "Are you nuts? Now we're both down here." The friend says, "Yeah, but I've been down here before - and I know the way out.

[peppersnow]

I heard about a documentary on the Bubble Hour called "The Anonymous People" and just finished watching on Netflix. It was totally worth the watch. I'm just beginning to process what it means for me, exactly, so wont try to write about that now, but can say with certainty that this was a game-changer as far as how I've been compartmentalizing my shame and thinking about the stigma. If anyone else has seen it I'd love to chat about it. I highly recommend it!

[narilly]

Pepper, I still have to watch that. I am glad you liked it. I am sure i will enjoy it too.

Anyway, going to bed now.

Goodnight.

[scottish lass]

Thanks for the congrats! Busy, so zooming by....
The Loamers got me to the start, and now the Gloamers keep me on track!!

[jane27]

Hi Gloamers,
Moving right along over here. Mold remediation is finito, 3 humidifiers arrived from amazon, and tomorrow the ducts get cleaned. After all this hoopla I don't think I want to put the dropped ceiling back up in the basement. It's nice to see what's going on up there. Got the final verdict from the oral surgeon regarding my sinus cat scan. Peri apical surgery it is. I scheduled it for December. Look forward to catching up with you all more tomorrow. Thanks for the shout out Pav. Love to all

[Pavati]

G'night, Gloamers:

I'm going to do a quick check in after my Giants won the first game. Hope you were cheering with me, Nar.

Good you're ok, Jane.

Yes, forgiveness, LB, first of self.

Pepper - I haven't yet seen that movie, but I have heard a lot about it. I am still, after 10.5 months, working on the shame of "letting" myself "get this way." It is a SLOW process, but I do relate. I am very tentative to be public with my sobriety, so I don't know if I could ever go whole hog into "sober and proud," but maybe I'll get there one day. I'll check out the movie soon.

VERY BIG PROPS to my friend, SL. So very excited for you, proud of you, and happy that you have come this far. You deserve a nice duvet, although I think I would go for a massage and a bowl of ice cream. Whoot!

I'm going to swing by the nest - thanks for the heads up, Cowboy.

xo
Pav

[available]

SL 8 months woo hoo to yoo hoo. It just gets better and better doesnt it. i dont seem to have enough hours in the day now, i never thought i would say that when i drank. I think now it gets easier and easier. I am a shocking sleeper also, can go for a couple of weeks and sleep and then back to tossing and turning. even exercising doesnt make me sleep. So proud of you.

I havent watched the anonymous people but Jvo watched it months ago and said it was great, i am waiting to download it at some stage.

Work has been busy and Robert is home for a week before his salvage operation to give him some quality of life so i am making the most of this week as he will be in hospital for 6 weeks if he makes it through the operation.

Got home from work today and for once the boys were not home but my front door key was inside so it was a bit hilarious me climbing through the window in a dress. I did think 10+ months ago i would have been absolutely furious at the boys. that would have cut into my drinking time and i would have felt extremely inconvenienced.

30 degrees here today and i am not looking forward to summer but we get cool days in between so that is a good thing living in Melbourne. I go to mums just after xmas and they have constant heat and 100% plus humidity. What pav will experience in Thailand in December.

Well i am having a bit of a clean and listening to some Ben Howard and enjoying the peace and quiet but just wanted to check in. glad everyone is doing fine and dandy.

xxx

[little beagle]

I never seem to have enough time in the day either Ava. I'm not sure how I managed when drinking.
Congratulations SL. 8 months. Another group win.