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[narilly]

Cross Post SL. Glad you were strong at your do. That's a tough one, party at a winery. Thank goodness we don't have any wineries here!

[Eloise]

Hey Gloamers! I have been busy as a little bumble bee over here so sorry to be invisible.
Three more days and it will be holiday time, so I can do the big catch up and see where everyone is at!

Jvo? Nar? How is everyone?

[narilly]

Hi El! I am good. Christmas time is a crazy time isn't it? I am slow at work today so have been posting a bit more. (Just to be clear, I'm not slow, work is slow, lol)

You are doing well right? I hope so, you sound good.
J-Vo has gone on her own journey for now. Hopefully it works for her, I am not sure exactly what her plan of attack is.

Talk later.

[little beagle]

I'm doing a quick check in.
NS please let me know if I can help, I understand stress and family stress is one of the worst.
Narilly I love waking up on weekend mornings, stretching and feeling "right".

[peppersnow]

NS, I'm sorry you're dealing with a stressful household. Just remember that if people aren't behaving the way you want them to toward one another, you can stay up all night long trying to make everything else in your environment perfect - food, decorations, etc., and that won't have any impact whatsoever on how people relate to one another. The only "have to's" are the ones we create for ourselves, and that's something we DO have control over. Controlling our environment won't control the people in it, so take it easy on yourself and only take on what is important to you.

One thing I've done for myself lately, this being my first holiday season without alcohol, is that I've invested in some expensive tea that I normally wouldn't buy, in these decadent flavors like "red velvet cake" (which was to die for...tasted like desert). At $12.00 for a tin ( bought 2 flavors) it still wasn't even a fraction of what I'd spend on a nice bottle of wine if I were drinking. And I felt like I was pampering myself. I've been finding that those small things help. Also, just realizing how much happier I am now versus last season, when I barely made it through each day and had to fake being cheerful. It's hard to be cheerful when you hate yourself.

Narilly, your husband's family could be my husband's family. I'm with you on finding that behavior annoying. Are they passive aggressive, too? That also gets me, and my DH's family wrote the book on that. The glossing over everything and passive aggression seem to go together a lot.

Take care, all - Cowboy, LB, Jane, and Eloise - hang in there, all and have a nice week!

[Eloise]

Hi El! I am good. Christmas time is a crazy time isn't it? I am slow at work today so have been posting a bit more. (Just to be clear, I'm not slow, work is slow, lol)

You are doing well right? I hope so, you sound good.
J-Vo has gone on her own journey for now. Hopefully it works for her, I am not sure exactly what her plan of attack is.

Talk later.

Glad things are slow at work Nar, better! Although can be boring, sometimes that is okay too?
I hope Jvo is finding the support and resources she needs to pull through the holidays. She never seems to give up fighting this battle, awesome.
Its feeling pretty chilly here in the NL. I think perhaps I have not quite recovered from a particularly chilly birthday week-end? My birthday is never a particularly treasured moment, but this has been improving the past few year.

I am doing good Nar. Work is getting busier and I have taken it upon myself to give up sugar. What a great idea that was! The first 2 weeks was hard, but now it just keeps getting better and better. Less puffy & moody... this in combination with eating better and no wine has been a huge improvement for me. Now I just need a dachshund to come dashing into my life and I think I may feel down right perky!

:smiley_simmons:

NS- I haven't had time to read back and see what is going on, but sorry to see you are feeling frustrated.
You seem to me someone that does a fantastic job at coping, so things must really be not good.

Wishing you all an uneventful Tuesday. :llama:

[NoSugar]

Thanks for all the offers of support, Gloamers :hug:.

My plan is to stick with the rules I made for myself when I quit drinking - come here and post before doing anything stupid. I hope people are around during the next couple of busy weeks so each of us can find a pal when we need one!

[available]

Thinking of you NS.
Hi everyone, been a busy week, i didnt realise it was only 8 days till xmas. no tree up, no shopping but i am happy.

[little beagle]

Yes it is the final countdown. Boy am I tired. Doing the things important to me. And those needed for work. But a lot of things I just let slidecthis year and I do not care!
I told hubby I wanted a small romantic get away after Christmas as my present.

[Eloise]

Ah, I went to a holiday art gathering last night guys and guess what?! It felt GREAT to ask for a sparkling water upon arrival! I got a little funny expression in reply from the host, but it was cool from there. No comments. No nothing. And I had a lovely evening. I bought a painting and got some free inspiration.

NS- I woke up in the night and ate a gingerbread man. :shocked:
Now it isn't like I started with his head or anything BUT I did eat it and it did not even taste good.
The cookies are for snack for my art kids, which is why they are in the house. Usually I put the cookies in the freezer so I do not do this, but I do not want to ruin them.
Okay, in the freezer now. I guess I start over counting? Or just don't count yesterday. I haven't eaten sweets in the night since I started this no sugar idea, which has been a fantastic one.

[NoSugar]

I'm betting your husband thinks your Christmas present sounds like a great idea, LB, since he reaps the benefits, too :wink:!

El, I wouldn't flip out about the gingerbread cookie if I were you. I never counted days of cutting out sugar because for me, it is a ~97% thing, unlike gluten and AL, which are 100%. Not consuming these things is just part of my lifestyle but if I make an exception at a wedding or holiday and have a small serving of something sweet, I don't beat myself up about it. For one thing, I don't like that kind of food much anymore so a taste does not lead to a binge. If eating that cookie sets you off on a nightly cookie spree, that might be a problem. But if that is all the added sugar you eat in a month, I personally don't see that as a big problem. On the other hand, if being 100% SF and counting days works better for you, go for it!

I used to do that trick of putting food in the freezer so I wouldn't overeat it and all that came from that was the discovery of how many treats are better frozen :eek-new:!

Glad you enjoyed your party! It sounds weird but I've come to like being the 'different one' at parties - I've always disliked following the crowd and this definitely is a way to stand out from the masses.

xx, NS

[NoSugar]

Congratulations to Scottish Lass on 300 consecutive days AF :smile::smile::smile:!!!

[narilly]

SL, 300 days!!! AWESOME!
So proud of you SL, Glad we are on this journey together babe. Treat yourself to something nice ok?

Hey Pepper, that tea sounds yummy. I may buy some new teas myself. I really like heating up a bit of milk with some cardamom, cinnamon and fennel adding a tea bag and water with a bit of sugar. It is like quickie chai tea. The key is heating up the milk to almost boiling with the spices in it. I LOVE this tea and probably drink it everyday. My parents are from India and we drank Chai tea all the time when I grew up here in Canada.
I love drinking bubbly stuff too. Soda water and Perrier are great for me.

Lil B, going on a trip with Mr. B sounds perfect. You two should get away.

NS, El, putting treats in the freezer. I am going to do that. I made Rice Krispie Squares the other day and almost ate the whole pan!

Anyway, gotta go. Love you Gloamers. Thanks for being here.

[NoSugar]

OK, pretend you heard it from someone else :wink: but Rolos straight out of the freezer are the best candy EVER!

[scottish lass]

NS - we will have to pretend we heard this from someone else - you do remember what your name is?????:eek-new: