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[NoSugar]

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Allan Carr's book (and the heartfelt reviews of it on Amazon) helped me gain several fairly long AF streaks in the months before I joined here. But unlike many of the book reviewers, it wasn't quite enough to get me free. Support by people I quickly came to like and respect, as well as learning to notice and truly appreciate the changes in my life, made all the difference.

One problem I had with the book is that while I agree that more people than we (or even they) know have problems with alcohol, and that it would be fine if the dang substance evaporated from the planet, I don't think that everyone who takes a drink is just at an earlier stage of addiction than those of us here. I don't think demonizing it as a poison for everyone makes sense or is at all helpful. We need to learn to graciously be around people who can drink without negative consequences and that is almost impossible if we're convinced that it is a poison for them, too. This of course does not apply to people who drive drunk or become abusive, but there are several people close to me who can enjoy a couple beers after work on Friday or a toast on New Year's Eve. I'm just not one of them and that is fine.

[Pavati]

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Hi, All:

I agree, NS - it is too hard to be black and white about alcohol. Many (most?) people I know use it sensibly most of the time - I certainly crossed a line that I know a lot of people won't cross.

Giraffe - I think Urbanol is a benzo? I don't think you're weak for taking it - I just get concerned when people take too much of them - I worry about adding another addiction as I have seen it happen.

Have you seen the 3 Tips to Lower Anxiety link that Sunbeam posted in the tool box? There are many ideas about how to lower anxiety without drugs. All of that being said - you know what is best for you, and I don't think you're weak...

A wonderful day here - coffee pot ready and alarm set to get back to work tomorrow. You may be seeing less of me for a while...

Night, Loamers - as I said in the nest, another sober weekend in the rear view mirror...

[narilly]

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Night ladies! Love your posts. The reviews for A. Carr's book are pretty amazing. I think I will buy it. Every little bit helps right?
Had an excellent sober Weekend. Thanks for being here for me. I probably would have drank Friday but I didn't because of you ladies. Thanks El. And Ava, I did not want to get my ass kicked!
Lol
Pav, NS, J-Vo, Dottie, DTD, all.
Hugs,

[HumbleRider]

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Congratulations on 70 days, Giraffe! Woohoo!

[scottish lass]

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Lying in bed hoping for sleep! Alarm will go off way to early in am - even though I have been at work, I have to get up a lot earlier to get two teenage girls out the door to school on time! Sleep is just not coming tonight, and I am so tired!
Thinking lots of thoughts and lots of reflection - my mind is busy, need to find the off switch!
I had a good weekend too Narilly, my alarm set Pav and kettle ready for my tea.
Will see you tomorrow - hope the sandman comes really soon!

[Eloise]

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scottish lass;1608756 wrote: Lying in bed hoping for sleep! Alarm will go off way to early in am - even though I have been at work, I have to get up a lot earlier to get two teenage girls out the door to school on time! Sleep is just not coming tonight, and I am so tired!
Thinking lots of thoughts and lots of reflection - my mind is busy, need to find the off switch!
I had a good weekend too Narilly, my alarm set Pav and kettle ready for my tea.
Will see you tomorrow - hope the sandman comes really soon!

Hi! May go urself some calm forte tablets for the bedside table? The hypno CDs also help to block that inner dialogue. I hate it when I cannot sleep, u need your rest to be strong. Wishing u a peaceful rest.

[scottish lass]

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Thx El - I have calms forte sitting in my bedside table - might help if I took them!
I here not sleeping too - I am a strong believer in the power of sleep. I have not tried the hypno CD's but that might be an idea.
I need to get off my phone too as I read that using electronics is not conducive to sleep - so, from thus I can deduce that I am not helping myself! Thanks for reminding me Eloise, off to try harder! Nite

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Hi Loamers

Well i missed checking on here today, work wanted me to work!

Jvo i was pretty anxious this morning but as you said the positive is being hungover free. Not sure about the cleanest house now i have not been home all day. Bloody lazy boys and the staffyxpitbull decided he would jump into the pool and then meander inside. He hates having a bath but will go for a swim, go figure.

Giraffe what is Urbanol? You are so not pathetic, we will do anything to protect our quit and so we should. I have my xanax on hand always just in case.

NS hello. Now who are these lovely support people? Can you put me onto them? Bit iffy about the support i have lol. Just kidding guys, you know i love you to death and if i did not have your support i would have my head in a bottle, drowning. Good point also on drinking being a poison. It is to us who cant moderate but i would never condemn a person for having a wine and enjoying it, we just cant do that.

Pav i am so paranoid about taking xanax so i try not to but i have them with me just in case. Ive seen shows on xanax and its not a good drug, none of them are really. My script lasts 6 months at least and thats 30 tabs but as you say if we need them then thats fine.

SL i woke to my alarm and felt so tired but i actually went to sleep at 10pm to 5.30. Im sleeping better which is good and work was ok, i probably need to get out of the house now.

Well glad everyone is well. I went on a coffee date at lunch time and he was yawning guys, yep. I think it was his first coffee date and he was really nervous. He has been widowed for ten years and still wears his ring so not going there. I think there comes a time to move on but i cant judge i have never lost a spouse. I tried to lose him a few times though! So back to the drawing board but atm i really cbf'd as it is all about me as it should be.

Nar good on you for not drinking girl, i really cant afford a flight over atm and i dont want to go to -27 but i would seriously think about getting my balaclava out.

Hugs to you all and i did not drink today.

[j-vo]

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Morning gals,
Glad you made it through your first day back Ava! Pav, good luck, too on your first day. I know being in education that first day thing never goes away.

I'm up a half hour earlier today. 5 a.m.!! I know it scares me, too. I've decided not to rush in the morning, and if I sleep just a half hour more, then I get anxious and crazy. Not that a half hour will ever change my being crazy. WTH was I thinking. But it'll give me time to make my shakeology

OMG OMG! I just got a call saying that I have a two-hour delay!!!! Seriously? I'm sitting here in shock. Oh, girls, I'm so excited I may not be able to get back to sleep! Have to get DS up for school and because we live in a different district, he's going to be so mad that we have a delay and he doesn't and I'll have to hear him complain. Music to my ears!!!

[Starfish1]

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Hi ladies,

Just checking in. I am doing okay - a little better than I was last week at this time.
My daughter still has not returned, but she says she will return tonight. I hope so.
She has been checking in daily, but we don't know whether the information she is giving us is the truth. She sounds okay though.
Thanks for all your thoughts and prayers. Keep up the great work everyone. I love you all very much.

[NoSugar]

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Great to hear from you, Star. I hope your daughter comes home this evening and you can take the next step.

How nice that you have an extra 2-hour vacation, J-vo! This town is essentially SHUT but since the internet is working, so am I.

Ava, we'll miss you bopping in and out now that you're back to work but in some ways, it is good to be leading a normal AF life and getting used to it.

Did you finally get some sleep, SL? I'm still not a good sleeper (despite trying several "natural" sleeping aids) so if any of you find the miracle cure, please let me know!!

xx - NS

[narilly]

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Morning Beauties,

Sl, I looked it up and that was Sugar's picture of the lady lying in bed with her white sheets. I was that lady yesterday! lol
Remember that picture Sugar? Can you post it again? I loved it!

J-Vo, lucky you to have 2 hours off. How nice it that!

Glad you made it through your first day back Ava! Pav, good luck, too on your first day.

That quote scared the crap out of me J-Vo! I thought both Ava and Pav went on a bender last night!!
Star- I am thinking of you, hang in there. Thank goodness at least your daughter is safe.:l

Ava, your coffee date yawning?? WTF? I don't think I would ever yawn if I went for coffee with you! Sounds like a real yawner to me! :H

Well, back to work!
Hugs,

[NoSugar]

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narilly;1608935 wrote:
Sl, I looked it up and that was Sugar's picture of the lady lying in bed with her white sheets. I was that lady yesterday! lol
Remember that picture Sugar? Can you post it again? I loved it!

There you go :



and another:

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Hey Loamers

Well i am running late as being lazy. Oh Nar what a treasure you are! Yes Pav and i met half way from where we lived, sat at a bar, got shattered and then flew home to start work again lol. Gees though we talked a lot! Too funny but a great way to start the morning with a smile on my face. Yes yawned, then he did not message but got a skype message last night calling me "babe". Oh why do i attract them.

Not much happening now i am back at work, i was exhausted last night and its taking a bit of getting used to waking up to the alarm.

Pav i looked at NN before and i seen you put 5 weeks sober. My first thought was gee thats a lot of time, how did she do that? Then i realised that 38 days is like 5 weeks. Duhhhhhhh. Thought you had gotten ahead of me!. Think i am losing my brain.

Oh well off to work i go. Have a great MAE, hugs to all. (Think this is the shortest post i have done in 5 weeks!)
xx

[giraffe1234]

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Available, urbanol is a benzo, same family as valium. Used to treat anxiety. Mine got so bad that i started stuttering and shaking in stressful situations, and job is like a minefield sometimes. I use it on and off as needed. I agree with Sugar that its way better to manage and control these things in a natural way. Hopefully with the wine out of my system i can gradually let go of this other 'crutch' as well.
First day back today wasnt too bad though.
Good night all； im off to bed with a good book.