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[Eloise]

Happy New Year all! It is 9 here, my bedtime but the fireworks are going strong.
No alcohol or cigarettes in this household ANYMORE, what a victory!

Feeling very glad and appreciative of all the kind support I find here everyday, thank you!

[little beagle]

I will see you around Jane. I will definately miss you on GLOAmers if you decide not to hang with us. You are funny and insightful.
I have been thinking further along the resolution line and know I need to work on forgiveness this year. Myself and others. This past year was rough for our household. But I hang onto grievances way too long and that is definately not healthy for a recovering addict like me.
The other day i caught myself mentally becoming ugly and dredging up past memories of injustices. But this time was different. My logical self said STOP. You are tired and need to take a small break and refocus. I was extremely tired and thirsty. So I did stop, looked at a few beagle pics, got a drink and finished the job much happier.
A little more self care and a little less self pity. That is my goal for this new year.

[narilly]

Happy New Year Gloamers!

Glad you are here Jane. Stay the same and keep on staying sober. You are kicking butt.

SL, you have come a long way (we) have come a long way. You sound so good, I am very proud of you.

El, way to go! You are so stong and have done so well. I hope your scars are healing up. Yay to no booze and cigs.

Holy crap Lil B, you have been through the ringer. Keep on pluggin away. I am amazed at your strength.

NS, thank you for all your insight and guidance.

Ava, hope your visit is going well with momma.

Miss you Pav. I don't drink, it's off the table.

Big hugs Cowboy.

Sober here on New Years Eve. Looking forward to waking up UN hung.

[abcowboy]

[narilly]

Good Morning everyone!
So wonderful to wake up without a hangover on January 1st. It is the start of a glorious Sober New Year. I am thankful I got through the holidays sober I find this a difficult time being off my schedule and people drinking everywhere but I came here and read and posted. That helped a ton
Everyone's road to sobriety is different. Some people can quit and after a certain time they are not swayed easily. Other people have to be more vigilant, maybe they have a stronger pull towards it or they don't believe they have a problem with AL.
Anyway, being sober is a journey for all of us and all of our journeys are going to be a little different. We are here for each other now and thank goodness for that.
People relapse all the time after 8 months, 1 year, 2 years, 20 years, it is something we have to stay on top of always. Some people questioned why at 8 months sober I was having drinking thoughts. . 8 months after a 38 year drinking career is not very long at all. I think it is pretty normal. To still have these thoughts..

I am really looking forward to this New Year of sobriety.

Happy New Year Gloamers!!

[NoSugar]

We made it! Worrying about Y2K seems like it happened just the other day and here that was already15 years ago! Time sure is strange.

For everyone who quit sometime in 2014, 2015 can be your first FULL YEAR AF!
(Jane, you're like me - quitting in January makes it so you have to be almost 2 years AF before you get that full calendar year! But at any rate, I'm happy to have nabbed that treasure today :smile.

Narilly, your post really made me think. 8 months is a fraction of 38 years! I was watching how you managed things this holiday (which you probably already know because I "liked" so many of your posts) - you really used this place the way an online forum needs to be used. You were so wise to be honest about how you were feeling and seek the help you needed. I'm so glad you found it. Just look how much better you are feeling this holiday season compared to last!

One thing we lack around here is perspective on time AF. An advantage of a program such as AA would be that there would be 5, 10, and 30+ year veterans who could help us put things into context. 8 months AF probably sounds like Newbie Territory to some of the long-term sober people. On MWO there are a few people still posting with 5+ years but even that might be considered the "teenage years" of sobriety. Anyway, your post just made me think about how none of us should get cocky about this and think we've got it nailed. It's important to stay attuned to how we're feeling and deal with those feelings - not repress them or brush them aside because we think we "should" be feeling a certain way. So, thanks for the reminder!

Pav should be back soon, which I'm really excited about. I've sure missed waking up to the posts she left the night before. I'm hoping some other former Gloamers return, including the original gentleman, Mr. G. I'm also really hoping people who haven't been posting at all on MWO that I know of like J-vo, Lifechange, Patrice, Giraffe, Wagmore, RiverGal, and Humble stop by this new year. It's great to see Daisy and Kailey racking up the days on Roll Call.

Isn't it amazing how we can really grow to care about people (with very funny names!) we've never actually met?

Anyway, Happy New Year to all of you (and thanks for the celebration, ABCowboy)! :heart: NS

[narilly]

Thanks NS, I appreciate your post very much.

It is funny how we start to bond with people who have these goofy names, I agree. Who would have thought this could happen? It's pretty cool.

All the names you mentioned. I miss them too. Come back ladies!

Big hug from me NS (some sugar from Nar)

[scottish lass]

Y2K was 15 yrs ago - good grief!!
Happy NY all - yes Nar - we have come along way - and sharing goofy names, and goofy times. The gals on here gave me the impetus to get a new bed, and the resilience to reach a goal and reward myself with a new picture that makes me proud every time I look at it....
We have shared a lot - and so glad to be part of this group.
I do wonder about those who are not here, and glad to see others getting good numbers going.
Here is to 2015...and all the success we know that it will bring...

[Eloise]

Happy happy 2015 all!
Very tired tonight after a night of fireworks and frightened doggies.
It is very normal Nar to have thoughts about drinking! 38 years are not whipped clean after 8 months sober.
I think you should look around in the Health store and get yourself anti craving supplements to take regularly. This might stop the cravings, and is a healthy daily reminder about not drinking. We do have to stay vigilant. Off to bed... x

[Eloise]

What SL's note communicated to me, is that I don't fit in here any longer. I don't sound like everyone else, and that is an intrusion to this group dynamic. I'm ok with that. It hasn't been one sided.

I find it a true bummer to read this Jane.
I am not privy to all that has gone on, but I do not like seeing posts like this. There is room for everyone here as we are all individuals with our own point of view, thank god.
Wishing you an amazing 2015 and to see you here whenever you are so inclined!

[abcowboy]

Howdy gloamers! A nice quiet day for me, reading a paperback, love the feel of a book in my hands instead of the "e" version lol. Bubba, Hank, and I had a quiet eve as well, no parties etc, and in bed by 10. It's so nice not to have the pressure of needing a drink for any kind of celebration!

NS - j-vo was online briefly today, saw she was reading an old thread of hers, something about the thousandth time? I pm'd her quickly, not sure if she saw it before she logged off... Hope things are okay with her and she finds her way back....

Nar - the Chinook still blowing?

Ginger, Jane, SL, Ava, El, LB, and all the rest not mentioned (old man, old memory lol) have a great New Year's Day and carry it into the weekend! Thank God things get back to normal after the holiday season is over, and remember, we don't drink, not now, not ever...

[available]

hi one and all. Happy New Year and lets hope 2015 is gentle to us on here.

I have been enjoying some time with mum and im getting used to being spoilt. The weather here is hot and hot and hot and humid and humid and humid. It is going to be 41 in Melbourne today so i will appreciate the 33 that feels like 38 here.

I met up with Petrel yesterday for lunch and we had a lovely time, he is doing really well now. Lunch on Saturday before i leave to go home. I also have an old next door neighbour i need to catch up with. She was a great drinking buddy when the kids were younger but i have no urge to drink so that wont be a problem.

Home on Monday, i was supposed to start work Monday as i thought i flew home on the 2nd. Note to self:- read the itinerary.

Jane i also think you took SL's comments too seriously, they were not meant to be nasty. We are not a group of people that are clicky or particular in who we talk to. Everyone always has something of interest to say whether it is having a cold to getting laid. If you dont feel you fit in then so be it. We are here with one aim and that is to not drink, we have all become friends as we have the same common goal. We cant all like each other, i dont like everyone i work with but i do keep in mind that everyone is different.

Jvo is okay, she will be back in time.

Well i have no New Years resolutions this year. I could say i am going to give up smoking but i will when i am ready. I do know i wont be drinking.

Love and hugs to all.
xxxx

[narilly]

Cowboy, it was a beautiful day today but it's going to -17 tomorrow, FFS! Oh well, I'm off to Chinook Centre mall, it's warm in there.

SL, I love you girl. The bed, the picture, yes I remember all of that. Today I thought of the picture we posted of us waking up all bright eyed and bushy tailed. I felt so good this morning.

El, I am going to buy L glut tomorrow. Thanks for reminding me. You are the best.

Ava, yes, read th itinerary! That made me smile. So wierd you have such hot weather where you are and I am so COLD!

Jane, be yourself and keep posting. You have the best pictures. How boring would life be if we were all the same.

I've been watching The Killing, it is a really good series on Netflix. It sounds terrible but it is actually very good. Hard to turn off. The FALL Is also excellent. Loved that one. Hubby and I are watching Broad Church, very good too.

Xoxo

[scottish lass]

Nar - forgot that photo - would be great to pop it back for the new year!!!
I have some L glut that i don't use, would be happy to send your way....
Really cold for Ca just now, the houses are not built for it, struggling to keep my little home warm.
One girl starting to recover from her wisdom teeth extraction - she is a picky eater anyway so the feeding of her is wearing me out. The other had a cold that I was ignoring and it turned out to be a sinus infection....I am so glad I was sober to manage all this!
Happy 2015 all....

[narilly]

SL, thanks for the offer ��
It would cost way too much to send it up here...maybe I should come down and get it.

I hear it's cold in Ca, it's getting cold here too, right now it's nice though.

I hope this thread gets busier. I feel most comfortable here and am mostly going to stick to this thread.
Come back, Humble, Life, Daisy, Acadia, and all the rest, I miss you!