Ladies on a Mission: The Official Site

[narilly]

Awww, you guys are so sweet. Thank you very much. It's with your help I made it here.

Well, I am going to sleep now, very tired. Have a great night everyone.

Pav, maybe wait for your son to bring it up? He might not have seen as much as you think.

J-Vo, I had a heck of a time with cravings over Christmas so I came here and posted and employed some strategies from the tool box. It got me through.

Good night.
Xo

[patrice]

Hiya, hope you are all having a good kip, or is it time to wake up now?

I'm exhausted, forgot how tiring working is!

I'm finishing the end of my day 6.. Sleep is little bit stuffed but that all ok because I've done these first few weeks over and over and now I'm not worried about being tired...expect, accept and even welcome it because it is a sign that my body is adapting sans alcohol
So, it's all ticking along...

I'm having an evening's break from my X trainer ...kinda wish I hadn't put it in the lounge.. I can see it out of the corner of my eye, it looks like it's staring at me.. Admonishing me for not going near it..Haha
But it is NOT going back to being the most expensive bag rack ever !!

Anyway, I'm about ready to hit the hay
Have great day's
Patrice

[NoSugar]

I had left MWO open on my laptop and most likely my son saw it (the 15 y/o). I am not sure, however, because he wasn't using the computer at the time, and if he had used it, I think his window would have been open. But it is also likely that he DID see it as he uses my computer a lot for his homework.
Although he knows I quit drinking, and knows I have used an online site for support (we last talked about is several months ago), I am afraid he may have seen some details that I am not sure how he'll take. OK - Need my Gloamers. What would you do? I am taking all suggestions and will let you know what I decide to do.

Hi, Pav

Boy, I would really be fretting about that one given what a Big Secret the extent of my drinking and recovery have been. So, I'm not sure what I would do but this is what I hope would happen:

Sometime when it's just the two of you say that you realized you'd left your support group site open one time when he'd used your computer and that it occurred to you that it probably looked like a bunch of wackos given all the crazy names. (Assure him that we aren't :wink Then just offer to answer any questions about it if he has them.

If he didn't actually see it, he might just ask what some of the names are. If he did, you've given him the chance to ask questions in case he was disturbed by anything.

Hope you figure out what feels right to you.

[j-vo]

LB, hope you feel better today.:hug:

Pav, I think I agree with Nar. Wait to see if he brings it up. He may not have seen anything, and if he did and he asks you questions, then it'll be good for you to have an open and honest conversation with him about it. Um...buy another computer? I know, cheaper said than done. Do you have an iPad? I love mine and no one uses it but me.

Nar, it obviously worked and I will continue to do that as well.

Did your new semester just start Patrice? Good luck!

I slept so soundly last night. And woke up once and fell back to sleep. Woke up feeling great. Have a bball game tonight, so won't get home until late. I'm glad i have the energy today to deal with a busy night.

Thank you for being here, Gloamers. Have a great Tuesday.

[narilly]

Good morning Gloamers!

SL, ice cream with chocolate sauce, YUM! Actually I had a small liquorice milk shake and That was amazing.

Ava, I hope you are doing well.

J-Vo, you are sounding good. Glad you had a good sleep last night.

NS, Pav, Pat, Life, Lil B, Cowboy, everyone, have an excellent UN hungover day.

[lifechange]

Gloamers!!
I didn't have a moment to post this morning before work. Couldn't even properly have a read.. I'm working more hours now, which is great but takes some getting used to! I sure love to share my coffee with all of you.
Pat, I had to laugh at what you wrote. Of course your Xtrainer is staring at you! Giving you a guilt trip! You're going to have to find some sort of a cover for it--I'm also taking my 2nd day off from exercising.
Pav, I worry often that someone (my boyfriend or kids) might find MWO and for that reason I'm pretty careful about not only signing out, but erasing my history--- I feel like paranoid freak:happy2:..I doubt they would even be able to figure out who I am or navigate the site. On the other hand, if they did figure it all out I think I would be embarrassed and probably vulnerable-- but it is at least the truth. It's who I am and it's obvious that though I've f***** up a lot I'm still trying. I liked the suggestion NS made-- I would be interested to hear what you decide to do.

I'm being constantly interrupted by kids who want to play cards..
so I'll finish this evening if I don't fall asleep!!

xoxxo to you all..

[scottish lass]

Pav - saw your post on my e-mail, so nipping in to give my tuppence worth.
the other day I was messaging with some support friends and my daughter peeked over my shoulder - she asked me what's that - I responded by saying it was a group who I chat with that give me good help & advice and we help each other out.....I know it is not quite the same, but I am pretty sure my girls, especially one is aware that i spend time here. They ask me when they want, they ask brief questions about my drinking - I believe they get the knowledge that they need and I leave it at that.
We talk to families in grief about talking with kids regarding death - and the common thread is that kids ask what they want to know - no more, no less. When I responded that it was my support system, she asked nothing else - I know she will comment again, but it will be just her way of telling me she knows.
I tend to think, that because you are sober and proving so (ie the holiday) he has nothing to fear and will not be bothered. If he asks, just respond to what he asks and he will ask what he wants to know - and I would guess it is just that your quit is safe...let him guide you...

[narilly]

That's good advice SL.

Life, have a great sleep.

Wednesday tomorrow and it's warming up a bit here which is awesome?

Grateful to be sober.
Goodnight.

[little beagle]

J- o I'm grateful to be here with the GLOAMers too.
Pav I think SL had some great advice.

[Pavati]

Night. Late work today.

Thanks for the advice. I think I like the approach of wait until he asks. He asked before, so maybe he will again. Yes, I am usually careful and erase my history as well as open an incognito window. I was in a hurry and thought I'd come right back. Lesson learned.

Pat did you make three minutes today? Your post cracked me up.

For some reason I have been giving in to the candy at work. Making me feel Blech. Have to try the urge surfing...

Thanks again for your help.

Pav

[jane27]

Congratulations on 9 golden months Nar! You are really doing it, and doing it with grace. Love and xoxo Feeling very proud & happy for you.

Pav, you tell it like it is so beautifully. Is sliding in closer to the truth a scenario you can imagine? I imagine it's scary to think of the responsibility that would come with- how it could be easy to slip under the weight of having to be a sober super hero who admitted a wrong, turned it around, and lived happily ever after...But is there something less daunting ....a little more in the middle? By sharing it with him, he'll gain from your experience. I think he'll think you're an even more amazing Mom than he already does. It's so human what you've been through- and your story is a light to see by. Also, is it possible that he wants to ask but doesn't know how to? If so, is there a way to sand down the height of the wall?

You know how it's harder to have a perfect hair style ( think News anchor) than it is to have a slightly messy one? (Tina Fey on 30 Rock)

[little beagle]

I'm going through a time of just hanging in there. Sometimes that's all we can do. As Jane reminds me, there is only one thing that I really need to do right now. Not drink. So please excuse the shortness of my posts and my lack of input. I'm just hanging in there for now. And I know that this too shall pass. Probably a case of winter blah's. It's been so gloomy and rainy here this winter.

[patrice]

Hi all,

Pav thanks to you I DID do 2 and a half minutes on the X trainer ..thought it would be very lame to report I had done nothing.. Even threw in 2 or 3 reps of a couple of arm exercises!!
Whoa ...easy there girl ...
I do a lot of incidental exercise through my job , I completely forgot about that.. And I have to climb a steep hill up and down every day,, 200 meters each way sometimes 2 times a day. That' makes 800 meters .
Hope all is good in your worlds. All Chipper here, keeping busy,back into meditation , the clean food and a bit of Echart Tolle to keep it all real.
But now reality is bed,
Pat

[patrice]

Hi LB,
The winter blues are horrible, I guess just doing what you are doing and.. Hang in there..
I don't know if you know of this website

https://www.marcandangel.net

some wonderful articles that I'm sure will resonate with you
Take care
Pat xx

[narilly]

Morning Gloamers, Just saying a quick Hi!
I will be back when I can post properly.