Ladies on a Mission: The Official Site

[patrice]

JVO- sending you positive vibes and feeling.. Making their way across the ocean right now!!
LC - no that Monday thought thankfully ended when the day did.!

So glad I'm not the only one who attracts mozzies .. TT - I think you are right.
Well would you believe this. Yesterday was the annual school photos, not only did I have mozzie eye, a half botoxed looking forehead... But I was also wearing the SAME dress I was wearing last year for the photos!! Haha I'd forgotten they were on that day!

Off to get ready.. Son is going on a school trip for 2 nights.. So happy for him and ME!! Yay
Have a good MAE
Xx
Pat

[scottish lass]

Congrats on your 30 days j-vo, that is a big milestone.
Down in the dumps too - no reason why, just blah!

[j-vo]

Resentments. How does one move forward? I feel I can't move with these debilitating thoughts of the past. Any suggestions? Looking past my secondary feeling of anger, I have resentments and I know that nothing can be done about them but they creep back and I know they'll continue until I do something. But those resenements were not intentionally malicious.

[little beagle]

J-Vo I know about resentments. I have them in abundance. I am currently working through that issue myself. I've been catching myself when I get caught up in a dark downward spiral of negative, resentful thoughts. I tell myself sternly that this is not helpful. That holding onto these thoughts is toxic. It's harmful to my relationships, and it's just hurting me. Then I purposefully turn my mind to something posative. Or I listen to a favorite song. Or I take a quick break and look at funny beagle pictures. Something to change the direction of my thoughts. I have been working through this for about 6 months. At first it was hard, but it has gotten easier.
Pat I'm not sure why but the mental image of you in your school picture is making me laugh.

[narilly]

30 days J-Vo, way to go!
Sorry your feeling down. I guess we can say 'don't have resentments' or ' you can't change the past' and all those things but you are the one who has to work through it. Just acknowledging it is a big step. Your therapist might give you some strategies to deal with it too.

Hi Lil B, SL, Pat, Life.

Hey I am beat so goodnight.

[Pavati]

Good night, ladies:

What is it that you resent? If it is being sober, then I think I could give you some of the advice you already know. As a matter of fact, you saved a lot of it on your thread when we first started this one. Take care of yourself. Fake it til you make it. Practice gratitude. Mindfulness is the art of letting go of resentments, just like LB describes. I hope your therapist will help, too. CONGRATULATIONS on your last first 30 days. Another group win!

Sorry you're blah, SL. That's how I felt last week. Better now. LC - maybe PMS for me, too??

At least we're sober, even in the slogs. Think how much worse it could be.

xo
Pav

[narilly]

Good morning, Hi Pav! Yes, at least we are sober.

I am just grateful to be sober and Un Hung!

[j-vo]

Thank you for all the suggestions. Faking it until I make it, having faith in all of you and where you are, knowing that you came from a similar place should be all I need. But I guess I need to just keep at it, learing and reaching out daily. I have been reading in the toolbox, something I haven't done in a long time. Reading one of WIP's invaluable posts from '08. How to deal with the distress in our lives...distractions, mindfulness, and shit...I already forgot the third one! But anyhow, I forgot how much the toolbox can be a helpful tool.

[jane27]

Congratulations Jvo! You're building up steam!

[little beagle]

I had a crazy day. It started this morning when my client informed me that one of her daughters has a staph infection and I need to bleach the house. That was fun. There were about 500 bathtub toys. It felt like. After that workout, I go to the grocery store where the self serve checkout computer malfunctions and the end result is I get charged twice. And they cannot refund me until there is an investigation. Yep. Then it's home to discover one of the beagles has had diarrhea all over the living room. As I'm bleaching my own floor I just start laughing. It was insane and I felt a little crazy. But these are just every day "normal" problems. They are easily dealt with. The clients house is now germ free, I will be refunded the redundant charge for my groceries, and my dog had a nice dinner with lots of rice and she already feels better. There was a time when I just wished my problems were this easy to solve. And here I am being grateful that I have everyday "normal" problems.

[peppersnow]

That's great, LB - grateful for the problems you have, despite the crappy day! You made me realize I also need to remember gratitude, so thank you. I hope your dog continues to feel better!

Yes, at least we're sober!:thumbsup:

[Pavati]

Hi,

Jane - great to see you stick your head in. Hope you're well.

LB - That post made me laugh out loud. Those days. I like the spin you put on it. Thanks for that.

I'm having a bit of weirdness with my husband - not enough time to talk just the two of us, so things build up. We'll get through it, but it is a pain in the neck!

Good night, all.

xo
Pav

[little beagle]

Pav that's just it. Getting THROUGH it. Figuring out how to make it work instead of drinking at it and wishing it away.
Have a great day everyone.

[j-vo]

LB, what a way to put things into proper persepective. You are an inspiration to me. Thank you.

I had the slightest hint of hope yesterday. I don't know what it was, but it was something inside me that felt I could do this. I can have a new life, one I always wished for, but didn't know how it would happen. Well, it turns out I do know how to have this life. Just don't drink. I imagine seeing myself happy and peaceful. I did that yesterday. And I'm trying to see myself that way today. I have a cute dress on, too, in my fantasy of being happy and at peace. I see myself smiling. One day at a time. TAke care of myself one day at a time.

[NoSugar]

I am a big believer in visualization, J-vo. Our minds have so much often untapped power. It is wonderful to read a hopeful post from you!

I posted this in the NN but will share it here, too:

A daily prophylactic dose of MWO can do us a world of good, even after we feel "cured". It's been an eventful few days around the NoSugar house and last evening as we were heading home (to no waiting dinner, as I'd been away all day), I thought, We should go out for a celebratory dinner and one glass of wine. Ha Ha Ha. I immediately brushed that crazy thought aside but was amazed it even entered my mind! I have no interest in having one or ten glasses of wine. But it made me think -- without my daily MWO dose, would it have been so easy to turn away from that thought? Or is it because I give myself a little immunization booster each day that it was no problem? For me, getting free from an addiction required HIGH doses of MWO. At the beginning, it was pretty much like I was getting a transfusion!! Later, I was online, reading and posting now and then throughout the day. How much you need and how much you have to give ebbs and and flows but checking in here regularly (for me, daily) is a small price to pay to keep your immunization against AL up to date!