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[Pavati]

Here's to being on the right side of the grass!

Pav

[NoSugar]

all I wanted when I got home was my old unwinder - if I had had wine in it would have been very close. Made a fire, warmed house, made supper, enjoyed the girls purchases and all settled now.....gosh, it could really be so easy to go down the rabbit hole as Bryd says, all too easy.

Hi, SL. It's great you didn't decide to drink (and that there was none in your house!). I'm not sure it would be all that easy, anyway. All that I've learned would be weighing heavily on me as I went to the store, opened the bottle, poured, and began to drink. I know I would have thought of all of you, confessing what happened or leaving MWO... I'd like to think that all that weight would slow me down enough that I would stop. On the other hand, it would be very easy to keep going after that first glass so I'm glad that drinking the first one sounds very difficult to me.

Have a good Sunday.

[j-vo]

There was a shooting at our mall. There are two people in critical condition, and one who is going to be ok. The kid was a former student, and I have his sister currently. Years ago, I remember his mother, but I didn't have her in class. Just knew her as she was crazy. Wow. They are trying hi as an adult. He's 17. My son was having dinner near the mall last night with his GF, and I texted him right away to go home, as the suspect was still at large.

Life. It's scary. But we're safe, and I'll be praying for the injured people.

Have a great day LB. Glad you didn't have any wine in the house SL. Remember to play that good feeling to the end. It starts off as a good feeling, but then what do we have after that.

[Dottie Belle]

Morning all
Off to church then a train club meeting. So much to do and I just want to sleep in today....but I will march onward and do my part.
I worry about what is going on these days. I have a friend whose daughter is only a teen and is depressed and cutting herself. I can not imagine that at all. So sad that these kids are so messed up and I feel bad for them and their parents...sigh.
Back later.

[narilly]

J-Vo isn't it the best when you can really laugh like that? I love that. Glad you enjoyed your evening.
Dancing sounds fun Dottie, water next time will help you out for sure. Love the farmers market.
Cowboy, life of the party, that was me too. Ugh, so many wasted days and nights. My son is probably going down a similar path as me. He was hungover yesterday and today. I will wait for the right time to talk to him.
I am Un Hung today and love that. Am going to enjoy my Sunday with my hubby, son and dog.

[lifechange]

Hi Friends,
I just read back on most of the posts, but after 5 days of being sick as a dog, my mind is still in a fog. I had a terrible stomach bug, missed work on Friday and was going to go to the clinic today if it wasn't improving.. but it seems to be.
Such great posts and so much I'd like to comment on, but I'll have to wait on that..
Scary, Jvo with the shooting. I'm so relieved that you are all ok. How sad for every one affected..:hug:
SL, :hug:

ok all, more soon.. xxoxo

[NoSugar]

J-vo, That must be so frightening. We had a gun murder in our fairly small town last week. It is really unsettling and makes me so angry about our gun culture.

DB, it is great to see you posting here again. Sounds like you and your husband have a lot of fun AF activities to enjoy together.

Nar, you are always the poster I look for when I want to be reminded to celebrate being AF. Your joy in it is contagious. I hope your son can avoid a full-blown addiction - you might be able to help him when the time is right.


Hi, LC So sorry you've been sick but glad you played no role in all of that!! I know when on the rare occasion that I had a bug, I would think how weird it was that I kept making myself feel similar to that. It all seemed so illogical -- which it was!!

Hope you continue to improve!

Have fun at the doggie parade, LB! I hope you can share some photos!


xx, NS

[scottish lass]

Morning - happy to be happy this Sunday.
It is scary how quickly old habits can rear their head....I feel pretty confident in my ability to avoid drinking, it is just the times when it catches you.
j-vo, it is a scary world.
DB - not sure that it really is the kids that are messed up, more this is what they are exposed to and find that is how they are taught to cope. Found my daughter in that place couple years ago and got help before it got too bad, but she still goes "there" - her younger sister is starting to talk in a similar way. They are able to speak to me about it, but the talk in middle school and high school is constantly about being depressed, cutting, suicide, drugs etc - they see this as the way of life. I live on constant alert and awareness. I only have so much influence anymore - I try to teach life skills, but they learn from their peers. It is all over social media - and social media is starting to talk about how prevalent this way of thinking is.
I would like to wrap the girls in bubble wrap and pop them in the closet until they are older, but instead just have to hope to steer them thru this weird, whacked world...
Well - taxes beckon, need to get them done - bye...

[j-vo]

Yep, a momma's instinct to protect their babies. I'm glad you're feeling good today SL.

Dot, yes, you do know how to have a great time! I look forward to that when I retire.

I was thinking about why we relapse. I know there's so much written on that topic, but I was thinking of why I always went back. It's familiar, even though it had all those bad consequences, it was something I knew. It was like an abusive relationship. When a person goes back to the one she loves, and in the beginning she gets the love she's familiar with and it comforts her, then all of a sudden, out of nowhere, she gets hit in the face, thrown down the stairs, ends up in the hospital from the physical abuse, and wow, that's only the beginning. The emotional mess. But why does she keep going back to be beat up? It's familiar. That familiar place is only going to hurt us. It's a place we can go no more. We deserve better. When I was watching people drinking last night, it wasn't that hard for me. I thought to myself that the alcohol they're drinking might not hurt them like it hurt me. Maybe it will, but I know it'll beat me up. I don't want to be lose anymore, and thankfully I don't have to.

[patrice]

Hi all,
I had a busy Unhung weekend so didn't have a lot of time to post. All good though
Jvo - horrible about that shooting.
SL - I completely understand about wanting to wrap the kids in cotton wool until they can deal with stuff. I work in exclusive International School in a very safe country and the kids are basically shielded from anything ugly in the world... Unfortunately, it really doesn't stand them in good stead for the future and when they leave this nice environment for the real world they are lost because they haven't developed any strategies to cope with ugliness... It would be tempting for me to stay here but knowing what I do, I don't want my son to have an International education after primary... Academically it might be great but for overall development, it's not.
Take care all
Xx
Pat

[little beagle]

Great day today. LOTS of dogs and people. Both girls had a blast and they are resting now.
I'm so glad that I can count on me. I use to plan things and then drink. Never saw many of those plans to completion. But now when I say I'm going to do something, I do it. That's a wonderful feeling.
J-vo it feels like there are so many public shootings. Where does it stop?
I love being unhung on a Sunday night facing the week with no regrets.

[Dottie Belle]

Evening all,
Train club meeting was good and lots of the fellows signed up to help set up. I have done a really good job on this event and it has made money all but the first year I took it over. Had to switch venues at the last minute the very first year so it was not as good as it could have been so now it is in the same place every year. And I have it down to a science....well I hope I have.
Gym tomorrow and a really busy week ahead. Then things calm down so I can spend more time training the dogs. They need all the help I can give them.

[j-vo]

LC, what NS said. At least you didn't give yourself the illness. Take good care of you.

LB, so glad you had a great day! How fun that must be. And I love that you are grateful for being able to see the plans to completion. These are the things we need to recognize in sobriety.

Dot, Glad to hear your event went well.

Monday morning here. Checking in, unhung. Have our last homegame tonight. Then playoffs! Have a great Monday.

[narilly]

Good Morning everyone.

J-Vo, that is really sad about the shootings. I will never understand that.

SL, my daughter went to Vancouver on the weekend with a bunch of friends and then back to Victoria to University yesterday. She is 20 now and is totally on her own. It is really weird. Before, I would be the one taking her and feeding her and being with her and all of a sudden I just get a text. "mom, I went to Vancouver and just got back, it was fun"
So nice to see my daughter grow up into a strong, independent woman. I love that kid.
Saying all that, I know exactly what you mean about wanting to protect your kids.

Dottie, that is awesome about your event. Making money every year is very impressive.

Another UN HUNG Monday, yes!! love Un hung Monday's, what a perfect way to start the week.

[patrice]

Hi all,
Tuesday morning and I was awake at 4.30.. Un Hung though so may feel a bit tired today but that's all..
I'm listening to a great Webinar at the moment .. Not sure of the link, I had to register to listen for free www.recovery2point0.com
It's run by Tommy Rosen and yesterday he was talking to Bruce Lipton.. Fascinating stuff about the conscious and unconscious mind.. One thing he repeated over and over is that shame and guilt should play no part in recovery !
Anyway it's now 5.53am so I'm going to fry some chicken ( in coconut oil, of course!) to go with my daily lunch time salad
Have a great MAE
X
Pat