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[narilly]

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WFS

Morning ladies!

I went to my counsellor yesterday, it was pretty good.
I told her about the picture that Sugar posted with the beautiful lady getting up in the morning telling her we all love to feel good in the morning and not hungover. My counsellor suggested that one of us Photoshop that picture and put a hungover lady in that bed, feeling sick and puffy to remind us what it looks like to be hungover! I thought that was a really good suggestion! So if anyone knows how to do that can You? We need a picture of what we Want to be AND What we DON't want to be!

Anyway, I told her I was looking at the WFS group and she thought that was interesting. She asked me to read the statements out loud to her and comment on them which I did. Then I told her that I thought the WTF group was good....OMG it was so funny because I meant WFS but I said WTF. She cracked up, we both laughed for a while at that one!

Hey, they have a retreat in June. June 6,7,8. We Should GO!!! We could meet there and hang out. Oh man, it would be so much fun and we could really talk about our drinking. It is something to think about. I know this is a completely anonymous forum so some of you gals might not feel comfortable with that. I would be fine with it though. I would love to meet you gals in Pennsylvania and go to this converence, shop a bit, go to the spa, walks, yoga whatever.... but mainly talk about sobriety and work on that. I also know we are all in different income brackets and this may not be doable for everyone.

Anyway, something to think about. It might be a really good way to help us stay sober just looking forward to June so we have a goal in mind. I think this could be another tool where we can help each other Not Drink AL. It is great on our awesome forum but this would definitely be value added to this relationship we all have online. I think it would make us more accountable to each other. I know it would help me for sure and I need all the help I can get!

Biggest Hugs,

[narilly]

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Ann,
I am not big on labels like 'alcoholic'. You know, there are so many books out there that say that they don't even really know what 'alcoholic' is and that it is an outdated term. Personally I just say I have a problem with alcohol and leave it at that. Why do we have to label it?
I don't know about disease denial...You are at the therapist getting help for your alcohol problem, on this website and obviously know you have a problem. How is that disease denial FFS?

That's my two cents Ann. Keep your chin up and forge forward girl!

[acadiaofmaine]

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Narilly,

I think she was saying that we deny we have a problem until we just can't any more. We make excuses, "it's not so bad, others are worse" etc. She is in recovery with AA and has many years, so is comfortable with this language. I am not and am not sure I will be! Yesterday was not my best day on the AA front.

I know in the past some MWO regulars have gotten together in person and had a blast. I can't remember where, but it really would be fun!

Thanks for the encouragement!

Another super good book, which has nothing to do with drinking, is Tilt, by Eliz. Burns. It's about a woman who struggles through the ultimate diagnosis of autism in her daughter (and manic depression in her husband!) and how she comes through this all. I couldn't put it down, it's beautifully written, in the same style as Lit and Drinking, A Love Story. I am a sucker for memoirs written by women who are fighting the good fight.

Ann

[narilly]

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Ok, I am starting a list:
Acadia
Narilly
Going to the WFS conference June 6,7,8.
WFS Conference 2013 | Women for Sobriety, Inc.

Anyone else?

[j-vo]

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We're coming back from Riviera Maya on the 5th of July. Since this is in my home state (YAY) but all the way across the state which would take about 7 hours to get there, I think I'd love to go! I think this would be so awesome. I think I could make it there by Sunday evening. But how cool! Let's look into this ladies! I may just book a flight instead of driving!!!!!!!

[j-vo]

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As a matter of fact, I'll fly into Pgh airport, then can fly out on the next flight. Gonna check it out.

[narilly]

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J-Vo, I KNEW you would be IN!!

ok, I will keep a running list of us.
3 so far:
Acadia, J-Vo and Moi (Narilly)

[NoSugar]

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This was on the news last evening:

Are you a binge drinker? Your doctor likely doesn't know, report finds - NBC News.com

It is all about how much people actually drink (and how they don't tell their doctors --- well, DUH :H). What struck me was they described these high levels of drinking and said "and most of them aren't even alcoholics". It made me wonder what the real definition is then, and also makes me think that labels aren't that important unless you can deal with a named problem better than just being a person who drinks too much, can't manage alcohol, etc.

Hey, I'll take a look at that conference - thanks for the link.

[NoSugar]

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narilly;1609925 wrote: We need a picture of what we Want to be AND What we DON't want to be!

I don't have photoshop but I can tell you, I don't want to ever feel like this again:







P.S. I just sent Ava instructions on how to post images so we'd all better look out :H!

[narilly]

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Awesome!!

[available]

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Hey Loamers

I just had to have a belly laugh this morning reading your posts and i thank you for that. I hate wallowing in self pity or whatever it was i was wallowing in but as long as it was not al all is good. 40 days for me today, who'd of thought!

Now guys it is not fair that you are going to this conference is all i can say! I wish i could meet you all, that would be awesome.

Pauly thanks for that i think you are right with the PAWS thing. I dont want to drink at all so its a funny feeling. Going to stay with my SIL tonight and have packed my ginger beer already, i am not apprenhensive at all as i just know i wont drink. Nothing will make me drink anymore.

Aca you were my first belly laugh at 6.30am with your "screw you" (mature one). that is so me when people saying anything that hits home. I say i am an alcoholic to close family as i feel that i have to be accountable for that, if i say i drink too much then my mind thinks "well you can control that at some stage". Me realising i am an alcoholic says to me that i have an addiction/disease that means i cant drink al again.

Nar WTF, OMG, 2nd belly laugh. How can i ever feel sorry for myself when all i need to do is come on here, its like the comedy channel some days. I went on the WTF site last night and signed up for the newsletter. I am sending the affirmations to my friend today as she is trying to give up smoking and drinking. Not a big drinker but drinks to get drunk.

NS those people still look better than i ever did/do but my sil posted one on fb (still never forgiven him for that) of me one night shattered (a good thing though as it was another wakeup call) so if i can find it i will post it. i could not even look at it. think i had had a couple of puffs on a joint too and it was the night before my nieces 21st. God a big weekend that one.

Well i better get ready for work. Will check my PM when i get too work as need to get ready.

Thanks guys for making me smile again, love you all.

[j-vo]

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Oops. It's June 6, 7, and 8. My last day of school is June 6, but I def. can do Sat and Sunday for WFS.

[Dottie Belle]

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I have been a WFS member for years and have never been to their conference...would love to meet u all and some of them too....I will need to see if this is in the budget...

[j-vo]

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NS, they are too young and pretty! They could never be an....alcoholic! Oh...Yes, they can!

I don't think there will ever be an agreed upon definition of an alcoholic. But coming here, I am not afraid to say it although it still sounds weird to me, like I have this nasty weakness, so I don't say it too much. It has such a negative connotation in the real world, and labels are really tough to deal with. Any label can be detrimental as I see it daily, especially with my students that have "special needs." They're even treated differently by teachers. Sad! So it's society that has trouble with labeling. It's ok for a celebrity going to rehab, but in our own "little" worlds, if our co-workers knew, that would create something that would be quite uncomfortable, I imagine. But maybe, someday, people will learn how to become their own advocate.

And bottom line...If Alcohol has caused you pain, made you become someone that is not the real you, then it's a good idea to quit.

Pav....:H

Ava, feeling better?

Patrice, HI!!!!!!

All you Loamers....Have a basketball game and have to get ready. Have a great night!

[j-vo]

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:kewlottie!