NS -I absolutely agree that we are imperfect humans or should I say complicated and as an old professor always used to say, full of paradoxes. I work in an area where we do not study absolutes. Much of what we do can't be measured or put into boxes - I am not saying that this doesn't have its place and there needs to be a degree of order to function - at least for most of us. And sometimes we need specific goals or else it would be chaos. Most of us here dealing with our AL abuse/addiction/problems have to establish some personal rules so that change can become part of our new normal.
I once would never have thought that I would have given up AL for so long (I am into my 3rd year AF). But then I was would have never thought (i.e. when I was a spring chicken, I will be 60 this year) that AL could become such a major problem in my life to the point that it became my number one physical health issue before I quit. And I didn't quit overnight - the year I finally did quit - was really really hard with many stops and starts and what seemed like an endless array of methods to do this and frustrating appointments with various people. While holding down a very demanding job and dealing with a young teenager. I really don't want to face anything like that again and so I try to work hard to preserve being sober and enjoying it - although sobriety does not mean an end to life's problems or to stress - as we all know here.
On a much lighter note - I hope SL - that you are bursting full of vim and vigor to embrace another year without booze weighing you down and also that you give yourself a million glorious pats on the back about staying sober. For most of us, the longer you quit, the less those AL thoughts are there, but they do pop up - so its really important to support one another especially when we have those crises NS refers to. Or just the blah moments of boredom or feeling down - times when AL may seem a short-term fix.
I once would never have thought that I would have given up AL for so long (I am into my 3rd year AF). But then I was would have never thought (i.e. when I was a spring chicken, I will be 60 this year) that AL could become such a major problem in my life to the point that it became my number one physical health issue before I quit. And I didn't quit overnight - the year I finally did quit - was really really hard with many stops and starts and what seemed like an endless array of methods to do this and frustrating appointments with various people. While holding down a very demanding job and dealing with a young teenager. I really don't want to face anything like that again and so I try to work hard to preserve being sober and enjoying it - although sobriety does not mean an end to life's problems or to stress - as we all know here.
On a much lighter note - I hope SL - that you are bursting full of vim and vigor to embrace another year without booze weighing you down and also that you give yourself a million glorious pats on the back about staying sober. For most of us, the longer you quit, the less those AL thoughts are there, but they do pop up - so its really important to support one another especially when we have those crises NS refers to. Or just the blah moments of boredom or feeling down - times when AL may seem a short-term fix.
- I told my father that the sun was out and I chose to be happy today - he asked how do you chose to be happy - it really can be a conscious choice, sometimes my feeling run me, but there are days when I can be in charge. Today the sun is out, I have had a good weekend and I chose to be happy today - I am consciously smiling and that act in itself changes my perception - people do smile back and it catches on..
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